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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So had a conversation with a guy during the week and we chatted about the do's and don'ts of Fab.

no blurry pics

no over the toilet pics

use your private notes

Any other helpful tips ladies and gents

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you

In an opening message please don't ask personal questions like our real names and name of town where we live.

Creepy

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

Be yourself

Be honest

Be kind, understanding and compassionate

But if you're none of the above - just be whoever it is you want to be von Fab

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Don't delete winks or friend requests cause they can't send them again....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First messages should be at least more then hey or hi etc. Make somewhat interesting for a reply.

If mailing a couple refer to both of them.

Random friend invites are usually frowned upon.

Don't be a dick.

Do understand what people are after on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you can’t say something nice to someone, why go to the trouble of saying something nasty ?

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By *onnrodMan
over a year ago

moira

Don't get on like you're doing someone a huge favour just by acknowledging them. Down to earth profiles are more attractive than any gallery of porno quality pictures and bodies.

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By *eralt80Man
over a year ago

cork

If you send a first message delete it from your sent box

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Listen to what people tell you about someone. They're not always the person they let on to be.

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By *hilaboutMan
over a year ago

kilkenny


"Don't delete winks or friend requests cause they can't send them again...."
impossible to friend you with yer confined age bracket..lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Respect filters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont assume your way of using fab is the only way.

If at any point you find fab is more draining than enjoyable then take a break its far from life or death and shouldn't have a negative impact on your headspace

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Listen to what people tell you about someone. They're not always the person they let on to be."

Thats a statement that can be read two ways and both are right

Gossips cant be trusted. Be careful who you listen to.

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By *on Draper2.0Man
over a year ago

Maynooth


"So had a conversation with a guy during the week and we chatted about the do's and don'ts of Fab.

no blurry pics

no over the toilet pics

use your private notes

Any other helpful tips ladies and gents

"

Private notes????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Listen to what people tell you about someone. They're not always the person they let on to be.

Thats a statement that can be read two ways and both are right

Gossips cant be trusted. Be careful who you listen to.

"

Exactly the way it was meant.

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By *on Draper2.0Man
over a year ago

Maynooth


"Don't delete winks or friend requests cause they can't send them again...."

Delete them???

I frame the fuckers!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So had a conversation with a guy during the week and we chatted about the do's and don'ts of Fab.

no blurry pics

no over the toilet pics

use your private notes

Any other helpful tips ladies and gents

Private notes???? "

If your a site subscriber can put a private note on a profile

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By *orny guy !Man
over a year ago

waterford / tipperary

Is asking for a face pic with first message of contact or no reply a bit much , or just park it where you found it and move on

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is asking for a face pic with first message of contact or no reply a bit much , or just park it where you found it and move on "

Guess that's up to you. I would never ask in a first message and tbh if I got a first message asking for a face pic, I wouldn't reply.

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By *orny guy !Man
over a year ago

waterford / tipperary


"Is asking for a face pic with first message of contact or no reply a bit much , or just park it where you found it and move on

Guess that's up to you. I would never ask in a first message and tbh if I got a first message asking for a face pic, I wouldn't reply. "

Leave it there and move on be my motto so

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is asking for a face pic with first message of contact or no reply a bit much , or just park it where you found it and move on

Guess that's up to you. I would never ask in a first message and tbh if I got a first message asking for a face pic, I wouldn't reply.

Leave it there and move on be my motto so "

100% they tell me there is plenty more fish in the sea

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

If you have a single male profile have a plan . Having a user name which suggests neediness or not knowing how to connect with others , rubbish first messages , poor availability , excuses , unreliability , not standing out in any way ..etc etc with ratios like the ones on this site means very predictable outcomes ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I forget a massive one personally. Don't have or develop a fucking ego. It's a swingers site, you aren't a celeb as much as you think or are told you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you need a break, hide profile don't delete. We all come back no matter what we promise ourselves

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...


"Oh I forget a massive one personally. Don't have or develop a fucking ego. It's a swingers site, you aren't a celeb as much as you think or are told you are."

Ah yes the good aul "Do you know who I am or Do you not see who ive met " ego......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do read the profile of the person your mesaging to make sure you are what they are looking for, it will save both time.

Dont be an ass and think youre terence big balls, we are all here for fun and a poitive experience

Do have some kind of detail on your profile, not just a pic

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By *onnrodMan
over a year ago

moira


"Oh I forget a massive one personally. Don't have or develop a fucking ego. It's a swingers site, you aren't a celeb as much as you think or are told you are."

100% this. The worst thing is, I've met a couple of people who's profile and (closed circle) of verifiers make them out to be fab superstars and the actual experience of meeting them was VERY different.

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...


"Oh I forget a massive one personally. Don't have or develop a fucking ego. It's a swingers site, you aren't a celeb as much as you think or are told you are.

100% this. The worst thing is, I've met a couple of people who's profile and (closed circle) of verifiers make them out to be fab superstars and the actual experience of meeting them was VERY different. "

Sorry

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oh I forget a massive one personally. Don't have or develop a fucking ego. It's a swingers site, you aren't a celeb as much as you think or are told you are.

100% this. The worst thing is, I've met a couple of people who's profile and (closed circle) of verifiers make them out to be fab superstars and the actual experience of meeting them was VERY different. "

So true, that's why I take veris with a pinch of salt, plus different strokes for different folks. No one ever writes a bad veri either.

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By *ottie00Woman
over a year ago

Dublin


"If you can’t say something nice to someone, why go to the trouble of saying something nasty ? "

Very true

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Be yourself don't change to suit others look for what you want and don't be pushed into doing things you don't want to.

Ignore a lot of the back stabbing bullshite on here make up your own mind about people.

Don't share others info or pics without their permission it just makes you an asshole if you do.There is no excuse justifies sharing peoples real names or face pics on groups on here.

And like others said lose the ego if you start to get one. Your just an ordinary person on a swingers site just because people blow smoke up your ass does not mean you are a fab celeb cos there is no such a thing.

Post whatever pics you want or write a bio that you think represents you best some won't like it but others will .

None of this is aimed at any person in particular it's just what I have seen since I joined here.

Lastly enjoy your fab journey and take control of it use filters and the other things that can improve your journey.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

If you're going to be straight on here,don't use the same username and pictures on fabguys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In an opening message please don't ask personal questions like our real names and name of town where we live.

Creepy "

Definitely. Where about in X town are you is a conversation killer for sure

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By *onnrodMan
over a year ago

moira


"Oh I forget a massive one personally. Don't have or develop a fucking ego. It's a swingers site, you aren't a celeb as much as you think or are told you are.

100% this. The worst thing is, I've met a couple of people who's profile and (closed circle) of verifiers make them out to be fab superstars and the actual experience of meeting them was VERY different.

Sorry "

Haha, you definitely don't need to worry about that. You're exactly what it says on the tin.

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By *entleman PoliteMan
over a year ago

Mars

Don't worry.. Don't wonder what to do or what not to do..

Some ask for things others don't want to see.

Be genuine, be yourselves, well 99.5 % of profiles are fakes. So make sure you don't contact them.

Don't write one liners.. well don't spend to much time writing a lot either, nobody reads the messages.

Send face pictures... well if you have cash to spare...

So basically if you are a single lad.. just wait to be contacted, it works better, well make sure they are genuine swingers and not someone asking for money or presents.

Good luck. Ahah

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By *ardyboy54321Man
over a year ago

Fermanagh

Do have the craic and don't give a fook the gospel according to hardy

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you

Another golden rule.

If your a married "single man" don't use a face pic as your profile pic.

A married friend of my parents mailed us, without giving to much away to him I explained that I knew his wife!

UNLOS

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By *oxminxCouple
over a year ago

NaughtyVille *×* Laois

Read the profile!

Check out what people are looking for and what their interests are.

That should give you the answer to the silly mail you are about send

Best not to respond at all OR too soon when someone/something rubs you up in the forums or status updates.

Finally keep a box of chill pills handy for those moments of rage lol

As Frankie would say "Relax"

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Stop with the sweeping generalisations. It's a lazy approach.

Treat people as equals rather than numbers.

Don't waste your energy building pedestals for yourself or others. You just look silly when your actions cause you to faceplant off them.

Stop whinging and you'll find people will start to take you seriously and you'll eventually have less to whinge about.

Don't confuse productivity with popularity.

Be unique and original. Living off the coattails of others just highlights the cracks in your persona.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Loving all the answers

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By *orny guy !Man
over a year ago

waterford / tipperary

Another pet hate of mine is when profile states looking for fit and good looking. Maybe I’m wrong but that comes across as someone having very high notions of themselves. But if that what they looking for it has to be there. Best of luck to them.

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

Do not copy and paste messages it may be easier on you sending but receiving a message that has nothing to do with your profile shows you don't care who your messaging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be kind and polite. Answer all messages if possible even if it’s to say no thanks.

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway

Never expect a reply to an unsolicited mail and don’t be a whingebag about not getting replies.

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Do use the block button

Don't think about not using the block button

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By *oodieMan
over a year ago

Mayo


"Read the profile!

Check out what people are looking for and what their interests are.

That should give you the answer to the silly mail you are about send

Best not to respond at all OR too soon when someone/something rubs you up in the forums or status updates.

Finally keep a box of chill pills handy for those moments of rage lol

As Frankie would say "Relax""

that's hard enough when as Frankie would say "when you want to cum", sorry, couldn't resist

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By *oxminxCouple
over a year ago

NaughtyVille *×* Laois


"Read the profile!

Check out what people are looking for and what their interests are.

That should give you the answer to the silly mail you are about send

Best not to respond at all OR too soon when someone/something rubs you up in the forums or status updates.

Finally keep a box of chill pills handy for those moments of rage lol

As Frankie would say "Relax"that's hard enough when as Frankie would say "when you want to cum", sorry, couldn't resist "

No apologies needed...

It cums with the territory

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

Fab is an esoteric community, where info' about any form of adverse behaviour spreads rapidly through the grapevine; conversely with care and patience, it should be possible to build a favourable reputation with a discreet group of friends, all of whom know exactly what we're here for, but who are discerning, mature and careful about whom they share their intimate time with. An unsullied reputation is one's most valuable asset.

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne


"Never expect a reply to an unsolicited mail and don’t be a whingebag about not getting replies. "

Ah here!

I've a busy life dealing with my inbox.

I'll get back to you once I delete all the hairy vag pics I've been sent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most mentioned.

But for myself is when couples and singles forget they are messaging a couples profile and not just the female half. And when you call them out they flip. Our block list is forever growing

Miss_tattoo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be patient!

And remember - self pity is not sexy

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By *entleman PoliteMan
over a year ago

Mars

Don't use WhatsApp or phone number....lol

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By *OCONO5Couple
over a year ago

Sensual Center

Do what you came here for

Don't do the things you didn't come here for

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By *organ DeanWoman
over a year ago

Belfast


"Don't delete winks or friend requests cause they can't send them again...."

Oh no, didn't know this.

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By *ajobMan
over a year ago

Newtownabbey


"Don't delete winks or friend requests cause they can't send them again....

Oh no, didn't know this. "

Really....not a 30 day or so thing then....never knew or thought of this

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By *organ DeanWoman
over a year ago

Belfast


"Don't delete winks or friend requests cause they can't send them again....

Oh no, didn't know this.

Really....not a 30 day or so thing then....never knew or thought of this"

I assumed deleting allowed it to be resent bc otherwise its just out in the ether

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By *ajobMan
over a year ago

Newtownabbey


"Don't delete winks or friend requests cause they can't send them again....

Oh no, didn't know this.

Really....not a 30 day or so thing then....never knew or thought of this

I assumed deleting allowed it to be resent bc otherwise its just out in the ether "

God knows...i just thought there was a month or so delay in being able to do so like send winks n all...learn something new eh lol

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By *organ DeanWoman
over a year ago

Belfast


"Don't delete winks or friend requests cause they can't send them again....

Oh no, didn't know this.

Really....not a 30 day or so thing then....never knew or thought of this

I assumed deleting allowed it to be resent bc otherwise its just out in the ether

God knows...i just thought there was a month or so delay in being able to do so like send winks n all...learn something new eh lol"

Do you know is it still a thing that if I have message filters on & I wink at someone, that then gives them the ability to send a message?

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By *ajobMan
over a year ago

Newtownabbey


"Don't delete winks or friend requests cause they can't send them again....

Oh no, didn't know this.

Really....not a 30 day or so thing then....never knew or thought of this

I assumed deleting allowed it to be resent bc otherwise its just out in the ether

God knows...i just thought there was a month or so delay in being able to do so like send winks n all...learn something new eh lol

Do you know is it still a thing that if I have message filters on & I wink at someone, that then gives them the ability to send a message?"

Didnt know that lol u try that before then

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By *organ DeanWoman
over a year ago

Belfast


"Don't delete winks or friend requests cause they can't send them again....

Oh no, didn't know this.

Really....not a 30 day or so thing then....never knew or thought of this

I assumed deleting allowed it to be resent bc otherwise its just out in the ether

God knows...i just thought there was a month or so delay in being able to do so like send winks n all...learn something new eh lol

Do you know is it still a thing that if I have message filters on & I wink at someone, that then gives them the ability to send a message?

Didnt know that lol u try that before then"

I think so but its been a few years since I've been active. Do you mind being my guinea pig?

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By *ajobMan
over a year ago

Newtownabbey


"Don't delete winks or friend requests cause they can't send them again....

Oh no, didn't know this.

Really....not a 30 day or so thing then....never knew or thought of this

I assumed deleting allowed it to be resent bc otherwise its just out in the ether

God knows...i just thought there was a month or so delay in being able to do so like send winks n all...learn something new eh lol

Do you know is it still a thing that if I have message filters on & I wink at someone, that then gives them the ability to send a message?

Didnt know that lol u try that before then

I think so but its been a few years since I've been active. Do you mind being my guinea pig?"

Lol no harm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Don't confuse productivity with popularity.

Be unique and original. Living off the coattails of others just highlights the cracks in your persona. "

These two things right here. So goddamn true but some are oblivious to it or lack self awareness that they do it

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Say what you really think

Don't be a kissass

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

There is an amazingly diverse spectrum of people on this site; treat them respectfully as unique individuals who are looking for a variety of experiences outwith conventional societal norms, and expect the same in return.

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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago

Kerry and Dublin


"Don't delete winks or friend requests cause they can't send them again....

Delete them???

I frame the fuckers!!

"

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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago

Kerry and Dublin


"If you need a break, hide profile don't delete. We all come back no matter what we promise ourselves "

Unless you want to lie about your age

"Not new to Fab, I've been here before [but I put my real age so had to create a new profile and shave a few years off]"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you need a break, hide profile don't delete. We all come back no matter what we promise ourselves

Unless you want to lie about your age

"Not new to Fab, I've been here before [but I put my real age so had to create a new profile and shave a few years off]"

"

Apparently you're allowed to change your age once, because who doesn't have that moment when you totally get the year wrong by about a decade??

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

Do not take fab too serious.

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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago

Kerry and Dublin

If you figure out something that works on here, keep it to yourself. You don't want everyone else doing it and decreasing it's effectiveness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm no authority on Fab, god knows I'm still trying to find my first meet. Part of the problem and in actually finding that first meet is down to a lack of clarity on a lot of profiles about what people are looking for. Example being " looking for women, men, couples" but when you chat, the other party tells you they aren't interested in meeting couples. I know it's hardly the biggest problem on Fab, but it certainly adds to the frustration.

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By *ezoMan
over a year ago

The Kingdom


"I'm no authority on Fab, god knows I'm still trying to find my first meet. Part of the problem and in actually finding that first meet is down to a lack of clarity on a lot of profiles about what people are looking for. Example being " looking for women, men, couples" but when you chat, the other party tells you they aren't interested in meeting couples. I know it's hardly the biggest problem on Fab, but it certainly adds to the frustration. "

I agree. Epically profiles that contradict what they are looing for. I have seen a few profiles that say 'not looking for singles' but then later down have both single M & F in Looking For.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm no authority on Fab, god knows I'm still trying to find my first meet. Part of the problem and in actually finding that first meet is down to a lack of clarity on a lot of profiles about what people are looking for. Example being " looking for women, men, couples" but when you chat, the other party tells you they aren't interested in meeting couples. I know it's hardly the biggest problem on Fab, but it certainly adds to the frustration. "

Sorry might I edit that to say first meet in some time. Too quick with the post button and neglected to proof read.

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By *ir SnakebitesMan
over a year ago

Llandeilo


"Don't delete winks or friend requests cause they can't send them again....

Delete them???

I frame the fuckers!!

"

Same here those things are rare

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