FabSwingers.com forum: Admiring from afar

By *asual777 OP Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

Borrowed from the lounge but have chatted to people about it this week.

Do you notice people on here that you don’t converse with but you just appreciate their existence, their being and their contribution?

Are you ever tempted to drop them a message and just say you liked a particular post, or noticed their general contribution and wanted to say hi/thanks?

Alternatively , are there people whom you genuinely think that there is likely to be a connection With but due to filters you have not interacted with directly ? You might have spotted them at a social or had a forum interaction or a thread which suggests compatibility .

Be respectful please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are quite a few on here that I admire the way they conduct themselves in the forum's (both male and female). The come across as intelligent, witty and someone I'd like to know a bit better.

Unfortunately I seldom message them because there is also the occasional idiot that spill there whole life or are just here to be keyboard warriors that make you very wary of who you chat to.

So I err on the side of caution for the most part.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to contact the people who interest me, quite simply because there are so few.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I think the forums can be very informative in sussing out someone's character. I like to interact daily, even if it's just for the banter

I've definitely formed my opinions of some people based on the forums alone, but each to their own....

Mrs

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By *humper22Woman
over a year ago

waterford

There have been one or two that have peaked my interest through the forums. Would I make the 1st move no rejection would always be at the fore front of my mind so tend not to

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Filters are there for a reason. It's bad form to use for forum to contact peoole who are otherwise filtered out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Filters are there for a reason. It's bad form to use for forum to contact peoole who are otherwise filtered out"

I would agree, however there are many who view filters as a challenge rather than a boundary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's definitely a few I admire from afar would never message as had enough rejection on here.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Really surprised by people here not messaging because of fear of rejection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i am interested i give a wink and if i see they are not utilising them i message near or far. I message just to express an interest or simply just to give a compliment, no expectations at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find the forums can show some interesting people that I find I'd like to meet. Already had the pleasure of meeting and chatting with one.

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By *oserMan
over a year ago

where the wild roses grow

I've noticed in the last year or so some fabbers that have brought a different vibe with them, its hard to define but I'll go with warm and welcoming. Rather than a sexual attraction I want to be their pal

I think that is extraordinary, weird and nice all in one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah id message people and have done for all the reasons you mentioned! and like Yoser said sometimes its someone Id like to just chat to.

One particular woman, shes not been on in a while, I always enjoyed her contributions and wouldve loved to tell her but blocked by filters...

I reckon people using the forums are here for the chat and the community as well as the riding...

if im wrong sure they'll tell me Im wrong

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By *oserMan
over a year ago

where the wild roses grow

"Yeah id message people and have done for all the reasons you mentioned! and like Yoser said sometimes its someone Id like to just chat to.

One particular woman, shes not been on in a while, I always enjoyed her contributions and wouldve loved to tell her but blocked by filters...

I reckon people using the forums are here for the chat and the community as well as the riding...

if im wrong sure they'll tell me Im wrong"

There are some id like to bump uglies with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. There are some I admire for their often concise and decisive posts,and some for their witty and clever contributions.

There are some who annoy me but can still be intriguing by coming out with posts that just amaze me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah id message people and have done for all the reasons you mentioned! and like Yoser said sometimes its someone Id like to just chat to.

One particular woman, shes not been on in a while, I always enjoyed her contributions and wouldve loved to tell her but blocked by filters...

I reckon people using the forums are here for the chat and the community as well as the riding...

if im wrong sure they'll tell me Im wrong

There are some id like to bump uglies with

Well yes that too - but Ive never messaged that to anyone lol...

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I've made first contact numerous times due to the forum's. It's a great way to get to see someone's personality rather than messaging someone you know nothing about.

When I message it's usually just about come comment they made,I don't just message because I would like to meet someone so if they don't answer it doesn't bother me and I don't take it personally.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

There's a fair few profile's that I've sent messages just to say I like their post or a particular picture

No agenda ...just to say thanks for sharing

They dont have to reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simple answer is yes but I feel that they will just think that it is being used as a way in rather than me genuinely just being friendly so never bother

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By *asual777 OP Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

There are a number of subsets of forumites I contemplate writing to:

1. Blokes who through confidence and chat (rather than super model looks) seem to make good connections on here . They d be interesting to chat to , perhaps have a pint with , and perhaps even to invite to a group meet .

2. People , often females , often female half of couples , whom I am not necessarily interested in but who just brighten up the place . It d be to say that I really enjoy their presence but with no agenda at all .

3. Individuals who intrigue me but whom I am not attracted to whom I am curious about in some way . A bit of mystery and enigma.

People I fancy I write to generally

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By *rankbMan
over a year ago

around

Wow - you’ve put a lot of thought into it!

There are a few people that I have become quite fond of and enjoy chatting with - and sometimes more that chatting!

There are others that I like but haven’t managed to connect with (yet!) - people who bring a positive, fun, respectful and very sexy vibe! I really enjoy posts by people like Jaffa and DD.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone really stands out to me with their posts I'll make contact alright.

I dont think I've ever hit filters when I've tried to message someone that I really thought I'd connect with.

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By *ogladyWoman
over a year ago

The bog

I've often see some that I'd love to contact but then I think I wouldn't be there type and don't bother..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've often see some that I'd love to contact but then I think I wouldn't be there type and don't bother.."

Don't be shy. Pop me a message and I promise I'll answer you

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Ive noticed people on here both male and female that i found interesting and funny especially they way they conduct themselves on here, ive always sent them a message (filters permitted) of course to tell them that....It's lead to some very interesting and funny chats

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive noticed people on here both male and female that i found interesting and funny especially they way they conduct themselves on here, ive always sent them a message (filters permitted) of course to tell them that....It's lead to some very interesting and funny chats

Same as this

Some flirting and some just banter

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Part of the fab forum entertainment is to read the characters behind the profile and their forum contributions.

And yes there's the odd ones you start exchanging pms now and then or even have a more comprehensive convo.

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway

I wouldn’t be great at approaching people first. If I am interested in someone, I’ll usually stick them on my hotlist and maybe drop them a wink.

If it’s someone whose posts I admire, I’ll usually engage on the forum but it’s unlikely that I’ll mail them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can kinda tell if someone is approachable by the way they talk in the forum's but still it would be very view I'd message.

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

Theres a few I admire from afar and others I have due to court orders

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

There are those who I admire from afar...

And then there are those who I...

Oh shoot, I'll let you fill in the rest

If I fancy someone, I'll get in touch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are those who I admire from afar...

And then there are those who I...

Oh shoot, I'll let you fill in the rest

If I fancy someone, I'll get in touch

Waits patiently with M +Ms in hand

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

"There are those who I admire from afar...

And then there are those who I...

Oh shoot, I'll let you fill in the rest

If I fancy someone, I'll get in touch

Waits patiently with M +Ms in hand

My cupboard is full - Galway is a looooong drive

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By *onnrodMan
over a year ago

moira

There's definitely some here who I find interesting due to their banter on the forums and I'd often check out their profile, but often filters prevent anything further. I wouldn't use the forum to get round that as it's an open advert that I'd be a bit snide.

But there's definitely a couple of regular chats for me that originated on the forum.

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By *asual777 OP Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

"There are those who I admire from afar...

And then there are those who I...

Oh shoot, I'll let you fill in the rest

If I fancy someone, I'll get in touch

Waits patiently with M +Ms in hand

My cupboard is full - Galway is a looooong drive

You can get two for the price of 1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Theres a few I admire from afar and others I have due to court orders

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

"There are those who I admire from afar...

And then there are those who I...

Oh shoot, I'll let you fill in the rest

If I fancy someone, I'll get in touch

Waits patiently with M +Ms in hand

My cupboard is full - Galway is a looooong drive

You can get two for the price of 1 "

Petrol prices these days though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sur someone will collect ya

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

"Sur someone will collect ya

It'll be an M&M orgie

I'd want to make sure we have all flavours covered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Borrowed from the lounge but have chatted to people about it this week.

Do you notice people on here that you don’t converse with but you just appreciate their existence, their being and their contribution?

Are you ever tempted to drop them a message and just say you liked a particular post, or noticed their general contribution and wanted to say hi/thanks?

Be respectful please

I've done that! People I think are funny, or people with cool pictures, or people that I think have made an interesting point etc. It's nice to reach out I feel, I'm always delighted when I get messages like that too

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By *orny guy !Man
over a year ago

waterford / tipperary

If see a video or pic in hot pics or pics most recently added that caught my eye would definitely fab it. The more natural looking the better

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By *asual777 OP Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

"Sur someone will collect ya

It'll be an M&M orgie

I'd want to make sure we have all flavours covered

I know you like pegging and I hope if this happens in 2022 that one of the other 2 galwegians volunteers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Borrowed from the lounge but have chatted to people about it this week.

Do you notice people on here that you don’t converse with but you just appreciate their existence, their being and their contribution?

Are you ever tempted to drop them a message and just say you liked a particular post, or noticed their general contribution and wanted to say hi/thanks?

Be respectful please

I agree - it’s nice to give and receive a compliment or fab the pic.

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By *asual777 OP Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

There are specific fab forum skills that some members seem very skilled at which is good overall for the millieu , like :

1. Not digging the knife in when someone is in the middle of a stormy thread

2. Not getting caught up or wound up by a negative thread like most of the covid ones

3. Being able to skilfully hold someone to account or have a tricky debate without things getting out of hand

4. Not being overly black or white and appreciating that certain things are just too complex for that approach

5. Recognising that some shitty behaviours might be because the people carrying them out are just too anxious or lacking confidence rather than just genuine badness ,

And so on

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By *atts n titsCouple
over a year ago

everywhere

We have recently contacted a cpl that have always intrigued me but have never been brave enough to go up to in a social and you know what there pretty cool which restored my faith in fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have recently contacted a cpl that have always intrigued me but have never been brave enough to go up to in a social and you know what there pretty cool which restored my faith in fab"

A love this

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By *onderingpurposeMan
over a year ago

Belfast

There is definitely apprehension before contacting. I hold back often. I try to build some kind of rapport beforehand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, plenty of amazing people I've come across here in the forums.

I wouldn't message a few of them as I tend to often be outside of their age range, but that's not to say the craic isn't had here

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By *umon337Man
over a year ago

Offaly

I've been on fab a little while now and this is my first comment in a forum. Very interesting topic and a diverse range of experiences. It's good to hear other people saying some things that I've thought, done or observed on Fab.

Generally, I find most people on here are descent and I'll fab pictures that I like even if the member is not looking for a single male or I'm not in their age range or whatever just to show appreciation, do other people do that too? (I know this comment is slightly off topic)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been on fab a little while now and this is my first comment in a forum. Very interesting topic and a diverse range of experiences. It's good to hear other people saying some things that I've thought, done or observed on Fab.

I do , will have a wee look at hit pics and fab any pics I like, male/female/couples

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By *organ DeanWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

I would more likely comment on the thread if I appreciated someone's comment. I wouldn't generally send a message but I will fab pics.

Everyone is generally lovely and I wouldn't want my intentions to be misconstrued by sending a message and for anyone to feel uncomfortable if they thought I wanted anything from them

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

Yep OP, loads in all classification you mentioned. Many I seem to get on with almost instantly on forums, others I can't wink/message but all appears to be good people from chats.

I'd say that goes for 90% of people who you banter with on Ireland forums actually. Some you may differ in opinion with occasionally but respectfully and that's the point of conversation and debate, so no harm done and adults understand that everyone doesn't have the same perspective. Doesn't mean that you don't stop thinking they're sexy folks though and would love to play with them

That's why I like the adults on Fab

The childish ones, yeah, what can you do

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