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By *abeW OP   Man
over a year ago

Kilkenny

So I'm new and I'd love to go to meets and meet people and stuff, but everyone's wary of someone without verification (which is fair). But to get verified you need to meet people, and to meet people you need to be verified. Am I missing something or is it like the employment problem. You need experience to be employed, you need to be employed to get experience.

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By *iscuits8Man
over a year ago

Meath / Dublin / Birmingham

You might find this thread useful...

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/ireland/1242541

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a thread called help a fabber out , post there and you may get someone to agree to a veri

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By *ewrideMan
over a year ago

KK

Patience is key here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. People are very wary on here. It’s very hard to meet people without being verified. I’ve done everything I can so far to try and meet for a social coffee etc through messaging and getting involved on the forums but either A. I’m not available because of commitments or B. I’m not suitable for some people. I’d prefer a one to one coffee meet first or web chat before attending any events to get some confidence. At this stage I think I’m going to give up on ever getting an official verification

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...


"So I'm new and I'd love to go to meets and meet people and stuff, but everyone's wary of someone without verification (which is fair). But to get verified you need to meet people, and to meet people you need to be verified. Am I missing something or is it like the employment problem. You need experience to be employed, you need to be employed to get experience. "

If you find yourself near Carlow DM me or im in kilkenny tomorrow for a bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes. People are very wary on here. It’s very hard to meet people without being verified. I’ve done everything I can so far to try and meet for a social coffee etc through messaging and getting involved on the forums but either A. I’m not available because of commitments or B. I’m not suitable for some people. I’d prefer a one to one coffee meet first or web chat before attending any events to get some confidence. At this stage I think I’m going to give up on ever getting an official verification "

Keep the faith brother. As I was man once said. If you erect it, they will cum

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By *amien88Man
over a year ago

wicklow

I'm going wrong too

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By *eralt80Man
over a year ago

cork

It can be easier for some and harder for others to get verifications on fab. I was on here about 18 months before I received my first. I’m not one for rushing into things and this was a whole new world for me so I took my time to get my head around it.

Going to that first social, it was a group coffee morning, was one of the hardest things I’ve done but totally worth it. It’s one of the good things about fab, it pushes you outside your comfort zone.

And looking back I’m glad I took my time.

It’s all about the journey not the destination so enjoy each interaction for what it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes. People are very wary on here. It’s very hard to meet people without being verified. I’ve done everything I can so far to try and meet for a social coffee etc through messaging and getting involved on the forums but either A. I’m not available because of commitments or B. I’m not suitable for some people. I’d prefer a one to one coffee meet first or web chat before attending any events to get some confidence. At this stage I think I’m going to give up on ever getting an official verification

Keep the faith brother. As I was man once said. If you erect it, they will cum "

I hear you but I’ve been on and off here for a few years and it’s not happening yet so I’m definitely doing something wrong. I’ve tried the naughty messages, the polite messages and still no joy. As I said I want a coffee meet maybe first to get the confidence. I do enjoy the craic on the forums though

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Ive no problem meeting someone for a coffee to get verified but it's only a coffee some have the impression it's more which it's not.......

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By *ed just RedWoman
over a year ago

Dublin City


"Ive no problem meeting someone for a coffee to get verified but it's only a coffee some have the impression it's more which it's not......."

Yea this. I don’t midnight meeting for a veri if someone is politie and friendly but my time is precious and I’m sick of it being wasted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive no problem meeting someone for a coffee to get verified but it's only a coffee some have the impression it's more which it's not......."

If I make it to Carlow I will most certainly be demanding you meet for tae Lolly

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By *irdnBorisMan
over a year ago

meath

Seen lots post over the last few years about not been able to get verified but lots kept making excuse after excuse the way it is everyone has to put in the effort if you want to meet someone for a coffee and a chat and distance would not bother me went the far side of belfast for a coffee meet and a good chat . A lot of people offered to meet people to verify them and they didnt bother to go .i think as a newbie it was 3 months before got first verification

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"Yes. People are very wary on here. It’s very hard to meet people without being verified. I’ve done everything I can so far to try and meet for a social coffee etc through messaging and getting involved on the forums but either A. I’m not available because of commitments or B. I’m not suitable for some people. I’d prefer a one to one coffee meet first or web chat before attending any events to get some confidence. At this stage I think I’m going to give up on ever getting an official verification

Keep the faith brother. As I was man once said. If you erect it, they will cum

I hear you but I’ve been on and off here for a few years and it’s not happening yet so I’m definitely doing something wrong. I’ve tried the naughty messages, the polite messages and still no joy. As I said I want a coffee meet maybe first to get the confidence. I do enjoy the craic on the forums though "

Don't put too much stock into the impact verifications will have on your experience and success on Fab. They'll have minimal impact so don't feel you need to go chasing after one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes. People are very wary on here. It’s very hard to meet people without being verified. I’ve done everything I can so far to try and meet for a social coffee etc through messaging and getting involved on the forums but either A. I’m not available because of commitments or B. I’m not suitable for some people. I’d prefer a one to one coffee meet first or web chat before attending any events to get some confidence. At this stage I think I’m going to give up on ever getting an official verification

Keep the faith brother. As I was man once said. If you erect it, they will cum

I hear you but I’ve been on and off here for a few years and it’s not happening yet so I’m definitely doing something wrong. I’ve tried the naughty messages, the polite messages and still no joy. As I said I want a coffee meet maybe first to get the confidence. I do enjoy the craic on the forums though "

Take off your filters for a minute. I'll message you. Or pop me a message there.

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By *eathlad89Man
over a year ago

kells

Having this problem myself.. getting a reply never mind a meet is hard. Ha Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive no problem meeting someone for a coffee to get verified but it's only a coffee some have the impression it's more which it's not.......

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Mcguyver1974, I’ve seen you a lot talking about not getting any coffee offers. Open yourself up to meeting a guy for coffee, then you’ll have you veri and it will make things a lot easier. At the moment, they can’t even write to you to offer.

I met many guys at a Dublin social, and a few other socials I went to, got my veris and it has made a big difference to my interactions on the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive no problem meeting someone for a coffee to get verified but it's only a coffee some have the impression it's more which it's not......."

Would a supermacs with all the trimmings change your mind. I'd even go halves on the taxi with you

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

The more you complain about how difficult it is to get verified the longer you are going to have to wait.

Very few people are willing to meet anyone who's only aim is getting a green tick on their profile.

Verifications don't open doors but constantly whinging about not being able to get one definitely closes a lot of doors.

It's your overall interaction on the site including in the forums that gives people the best impression of who you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The more you complain about how difficult it is to get verified the longer you are going to have to wait.

Very few people are willing to meet anyone who's only aim is getting a green tick on their profile.

Verifications don't open doors but constantly whinging about not being able to get one definitely closes a lot of doors.

It's your overall interaction on the site including in the forums that gives people the best impression of who you are. "

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway

Everyone got their first veri from someone who was willing to take a chance (unless it was from someone they knew outside of fab). People take the chance on unverified people all the time but they generally pick carefully.

Put effort into your profile and your interactions with people. Give them a reason to want to meet you that goes beyond your desperate need to have a green tick.

As an aside, anyone else wondering how the first person got their first veri if you have to be verified to verify someone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone got their first veri from someone who was willing to take a chance (unless it was from someone they knew outside of fab). People take the chance on unverified people all the time but they generally pick carefully.

Put effort into your profile and your interactions with people. Give them a reason to want to meet you that goes beyond your desperate need to have a green tick.

As an aside, anyone else wondering how the first person got their first veri if you have to be verified to verify someone else "

The big bang?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree. Put more effort into who you are chatting to or go join the social coffees that i see on here. Flip i managed to get a verification from chatting in the chatrooms. Try a different approach. The more you complain the less likely anyone will meet you.

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...


"Ive no problem meeting someone for a coffee to get verified but it's only a coffee some have the impression it's more which it's not.......

Would a supermacs with all the trimmings change your mind. I'd even go halves on the taxi with you "

A breast and two meaty thighs if your offering

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive no problem meeting someone for a coffee to get verified but it's only a coffee some have the impression it's more which it's not.......

Mcguyver1974, I’ve seen you a lot talking about not getting any coffee offers. Open yourself up to meeting a guy for coffee, then you’ll have you veri and it will make things a lot easier. At the moment, they can’t even write to you to offer.

I met many guys at a Dublin social, and a few other socials I went to, got my veris and it has made a big difference to my interactions on the site. "

The reason I have the filter is because of the amount of messages from fellas wanting to suck me off etc. I absolutely have no issue meeting another man to get verified. In fact I might just reverse the filter and see how I go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive no problem meeting someone for a coffee to get verified but it's only a coffee some have the impression it's more which it's not.......

Would a supermacs with all the trimmings change your mind. I'd even go halves on the taxi with you

A breast and two meaty thighs if your offering "

Sweet mother of god. I'll never be able to look at a snack box the same way again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love a snack box

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By *oodieMan
over a year ago

Mayo

Yeah, finding the same thing as well. It'll happen sometime, every dog has his day

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By *adhatter and coCouple
over a year ago

Middle of mayo n peaceful tranquility


"Ive no problem meeting someone for a coffee to get verified but it's only a coffee some have the impression it's more which it's not......."

Yes we’ve had that too when we offered coffee meets for verifications only . Put me right off . Mrs here

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By *abeW OP   Man
over a year ago

Kilkenny


"You might find this thread useful...

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/ireland/1242541"

legend. i'll be checking that out. thanks

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By *abeW OP   Man
over a year ago

Kilkenny


"There's a thread called help a fabber out , post there and you may get someone to agree to a veri "

i got wind of that. thanks a million

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By *abeW OP   Man
over a year ago

Kilkenny


"So I'm new and I'd love to go to meets and meet people and stuff, but everyone's wary of someone without verification (which is fair). But to get verified you need to meet people, and to meet people you need to be verified. Am I missing something or is it like the employment problem. You need experience to be employed, you need to be employed to get experience.

If you find yourself near Carlow DM me or im in kilkenny tomorrow for a bit "

awwwww i missed this. but carlow is a quick bit away so if that offer is open and you want a free coffee, i'll let you know when i'm about. thanks a million. also if you're in kk again let me know.

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By *abeW OP   Man
over a year ago

Kilkenny


"It can be easier for some and harder for others to get verifications on fab. I was on here about 18 months before I received my first. I’m not one for rushing into things and this was a whole new world for me so I took my time to get my head around it.

Going to that first social, it was a group coffee morning, was one of the hardest things I’ve done but totally worth it. It’s one of the good things about fab, it pushes you outside your comfort zone.

And looking back I’m glad I took my time.

It’s all about the journey not the destination so enjoy each interaction for what it is "

i'm feeling the same about the journey above the destination. even the craic in the forums is mighty. and i do want to push myself out of my comfort zone, but in baby steps cause i'm not new to the life but i'm new to the scene.

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By *abeW OP   Man
over a year ago

Kilkenny


"The more you complain about how difficult it is to get verified the longer you are going to have to wait.

Very few people are willing to meet anyone who's only aim is getting a green tick on their profile.

Verifications don't open doors but constantly whinging about not being able to get one definitely closes a lot of doors.

It's your overall interaction on the site including in the forums that gives people the best impression of who you are. "

this is a load off of my mind cause a tick doesn't tell anybody about who you are, likes, dislikes, craic or being craictose intolerant and the fact that it's not all about the veri is really comforting.

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By *abeW OP   Man
over a year ago

Kilkenny


"Everyone got their first veri from someone who was willing to take a chance (unless it was from someone they knew outside of fab). People take the chance on unverified people all the time but they generally pick carefully.

Put effort into your profile and your interactions with people. Give them a reason to want to meet you that goes beyond your desperate need to have a green tick.

As an aside, anyone else wondering how the first person got their first veri if you have to be verified to verify someone else "

thanks a million for the advice. i've been starting to do that and i'm really enjoying going through the forums and occasionally saying hello/ dropping my two cents into pots.

i'm trying to think of something funny for the first person to get verified but all i can think of is god. "Joe is nice, a little weird but that's how i made him".

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By *abeW OP   Man
over a year ago

Kilkenny


"Everyone got their first veri from someone who was willing to take a chance (unless it was from someone they knew outside of fab). People take the chance on unverified people all the time but they generally pick carefully.

Put effort into your profile and your interactions with people. Give them a reason to want to meet you that goes beyond your desperate need to have a green tick.

As an aside, anyone else wondering how the first person got their first veri if you have to be verified to verify someone else

The big bang? "

the first bang

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By *abeW OP   Man
over a year ago

Kilkenny


"Totally agree. Put more effort into who you are chatting to or go join the social coffees that i see on here. Flip i managed to get a verification from chatting in the chatrooms. Try a different approach. The more you complain the less likely anyone will meet you."

yeah i'm going to avoid whining about it. I was curious more than anything. I've seen a few posts about "Why doesn't anyone do X for me" or along those lines and i really want to steer clear of that kind of posting.

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By *abeW OP   Man
over a year ago

Kilkenny

Can I just say thanks everyone so much for posting. loads of advice or just words of encouragement. you're all awesome

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