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"In fairness in relation to the lack of verifications over the last couple of years, many people may not have been meeting due to Covid." One guy tried that but his last verification was from 2018, that's what we mean, as opposed to just the last 18 months | |||
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"In reference to the "can't accommodate" im single and not a hope in hell would i have random strangers from the internet over to my home it's my private place,im sure it's not just a woman thing but couples and single men feel the same....." I generally wouldn't accommodate a stranger at home either. It's my safe space and that of my children - this may very well be true of single, separated or divorced men too! Plus I'm sure some single men live in shared accommodation or at home and do not wish to host random strangers at their live-in mates or mother's... | |||
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"In fairness in relation to the lack of verifications over the last couple of years, many people may not have been meeting due to Covid. One guy tried that but his last verification was from 2018, that's what we mean, as opposed to just the last 18 months" Not everyone uses verifications or dishes them out or receives them after a social, play meet or party. I have a single's account also (female half here) and can tell you that a large percentage of my social or play meets are not verified - and I don't verify unless I'm asked or receive a veri first. I simply don't see the need for these. Also some people stop meeting for various reasons, be that Covid, health, relationship status change etc... Too many people too quick to judge... | |||
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"If you can't accommodate doesn't mean you are not single.. it simply can be one of below reasons. 1. Living with housemates who are not very open. 2. Dont want my place to be noisy. 3. Dont want to disclose my swinging lifestyle. Thats why make one or two regulars, if anyone want to join the party most welcome if not who cares "+1 I think this is not accurate way of deciding who is single. I live in house share at the moment and rented in Dublin. But I am 100% single. Use other methods of verifying if a guy is single or not married with a family....ask for a social at a time when they should be with the girlfriend or family for example. Like at the weekend. Or evening time after work. It's not perfect but a good indicatior. | |||
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"Not a gripe, or a groan, more of an observation and topic for discussion. The number of single guys on Fab is undoubtedly far greater than that of couples and single females. We constantly see updates from single guys about how difficult it is to get a meet, yet when we recently posted a status, looking a couple of single guys to come to a party, we found the following Guys don't read status updates, or profiles, or just ignore what you are looking for. True? The number of unverified guys, on Fab for over a year, is astounding! The number of guys that have profiles without any pictures makes us wonder, what are you hiding? is your dick really that recognisable to family and friends? Are the guys that cannot accommodate really single?(Rhetorical, we all know the answer to that one!) Are the guys that can't take rejection really all "our loss"? Do the guys who start messages with "I wouldn't call myself hung..." really think we are going to contradict them? Do the guys whose pictures and verifications are from 3 or 4 years ago, not think people will wonder why? We could go on but suffice to say, we are totally disillusioned with the current situation regarding 'single guys' on Fab
Discuss...."I've found a lot of these can describe couples too, to be honest. Not accommodating I can get past, I don't either, I share a house with a friend who's not into the lifestyle. I've met and verified non-verified people, that's obviously just your own preference. | |||
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"In reference to the "can't accommodate" im single and not a hope in hell would i have random strangers from the internet over to my home it's my private place,im sure it's not just a woman thing but couples and single men feel the same....." Exactly this that's what I don't accomadate and when I see it on a profile I presuame they won't for the same reasons. I don't actually understand why people expect men to accommodate when they people jump to conclusions. | |||
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"Not a gripe, or a groan, more of an observation and topic for discussion. The number of single guys on Fab is undoubtedly far greater than that of couples and single females. We constantly see updates from single guys about how difficult it is to get a meet, yet when we recently posted a status, looking a couple of single guys to come to a party, we found the following Guys don't read status updates, or profiles, or just ignore what you are looking for. True? The number of unverified guys, on Fab for over a year, is astounding! The number of guys that have profiles without any pictures makes us wonder, what are you hiding? is your dick really that recognisable to family and friends? Are the guys that cannot accommodate really single?(Rhetorical, we all know the answer to that one!) Are the guys that can't take rejection really all "our loss"? Do the guys who start messages with "I wouldn't call myself hung..." really think we are going to contradict them? Do the guys whose pictures and verifications are from 3 or 4 years ago, not think people will wonder why? We could go on but suffice to say, we are totally disillusioned with the current situation regarding 'single guys' on Fab
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"Popcorn finished for now, nothing groundbreaking above, a few inaccuracies but that's by the by. This was written with the perspective that we've both been on Fab as singles, also, we took a break from things during the worst of Covid, so factored that in when we said about verifications from 3 or 4 years ago? We previously had a cohort of single guys, that would attend our parties but for various reasons have moved on. This is only our second go at finding suitable guys, we know what we're looking for and what to look out for, even with verified people....was just curious about peoples views but so far, have been pretty predictable. Only the one comment made us lol, will let you guess which one "So what you really wanted was people to agree with you? 
Incidentally your OP said "the amount of unverified guys on Fab over a year" | |||
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 ) of guys beating down your door with their massive cocks?
"Pics and *recent* verifications a must"
Recent means recent, not recent before March 2020.
Its your party and your rules, but if you set the bar that high why act shocked when loads of guys can't reach it, you weren't exactly offering a quick and easy verification service for all the guys who can't get a meet. As a couple of the more experienced swingers on here, you had to know what to expect, but you stick up a post (not a gripe or a groan though) that tars us all with the same brush anyway.
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"Popcorn finished for now, nothing groundbreaking above, a few inaccuracies but that's by the by. This was written with the perspective that we've both been on Fab as singles, also, we took a break from things during the worst of Covid, so factored that in when we said about verifications from 3 or 4 years ago? We previously had a cohort of single guys, that would attend our parties but for various reasons have moved on. This is only our second go at finding suitable guys, we know what we're looking for and what to look out for, even with verified people....was just curious about peoples views but so far, have been pretty predictable. Only the one comment made us lol, will let you guess which one "Would blocking single guys and using the filters available to search for the guys you are looking for ease the hassle? | |||
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"Popcorn finished for now, nothing groundbreaking above, a few inaccuracies but that's by the by. This was written with the perspective that we've both been on Fab as singles, also, we took a break from things during the worst of Covid, so factored that in when we said about verifications from 3 or 4 years ago? We previously had a cohort of single guys, that would attend our parties but for various reasons have moved on. This is only our second go at finding suitable guys, we know what we're looking for and what to look out for, even with verified people....was just curious about peoples views but so far, have been pretty predictable. Only the one comment made us lol, will let you guess which one
So what you really wanted was people to agree with you?
Incidentally your OP said "the amount of unverified guys on Fab over a year""No, was actually looking for differing opinions and explanations, which some people have put forward. Fab doesn't state how long, other than 'over a year' on length of membership and a reasonable presumption from reading profiles, is that the ones referred to have been around much longer. But hey, if that made you happy | |||
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"Popcorn finished for now, nothing groundbreaking above, a few inaccuracies but that's by the by. This was written with the perspective that we've both been on Fab as singles, also, we took a break from things during the worst of Covid, so factored that in when we said about verifications from 3 or 4 years ago? We previously had a cohort of single guys, that would attend our parties but for various reasons have moved on. This is only our second go at finding suitable guys, we know what we're looking for and what to look out for, even with verified people....was just curious about peoples views but so far, have been pretty predictable. Only the one comment made us lol, will let you guess which one Would blocking single guys and using the filters available to search for the guys you are looking for ease the hassle? "We usually have single guys blocked and only removed block, to find a couple of genuine guys to invite. Can I point out, I didn't say ALL single guys, we've had some lovely messages and even when turned down, the guys have been mannerly. That speaks volumes for those guys and we haven't blocked them, only the ones that deserve it | |||
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""VWE Bull male needed" Youre targeting a very small subset of men here, why are you surprised that there aren't hordes (or even cohorts ) of guys beating down your door with their massive cocks?
"Pics and *recent* verifications a must"
Recent means recent, not recent before March 2020.
Its your party and your rules, but if you set the bar that high why act shocked when loads of guys can't reach it, you weren't exactly offering a quick and easy verification service for all the guys who can't get a meet. As a couple of the more experienced swingers on here, you had to know what to expect, but you stick up a post (not a gripe or a groan though) that tars us all with the same brush anyway.
"We haven't tarred ALL with the same brush actually and yes, we know the type of guy needed, as you pointed out, we stated explicitly VWE Bull, so why do so many guys,that clearly don't meet that qualification, send messages? That says more about single guys than it does us! I posted to see if perhaps anyone could give constructive commentary, which some have....others have just jumped onto the keyboard, without really thinking what we actually said and meant. | |||
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""VWE Bull male needed" Youre targeting a very small subset of men here, why are you surprised that there aren't hordes (or even cohorts ) of guys beating down your door with their massive cocks?
"Pics and *recent* verifications a must"
Recent means recent, not recent before March 2020.
Its your party and your rules, but if you set the bar that high why act shocked when loads of guys can't reach it, you weren't exactly offering a quick and easy verification service for all the guys who can't get a meet. As a couple of the more experienced swingers on here, you had to know what to expect, but you stick up a post (not a gripe or a groan though) that tars us all with the same brush anyway.
We haven't tarred ALL with the same brush actually and yes, we know the type of guy needed, as you pointed out, we stated explicitly VWE Bull, so why do so many guys,that clearly don't meet that qualification, send messages? That says more about single guys than it does us!
I posted to see if perhaps anyone could give constructive commentary, which some have....others have just jumped onto the keyboard, without really thinking what we actually said and meant. "So what were you saying and what did you really mean? | |||
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"You might need to look at your choice of phrasing. Anyone referring to having someone rather than knowing someone would be more of a red flag than veris or a desire to accommodate. Must be great to be right all the time." Really? So it's wrong to say we have a group of friends? we should really say we know a group of friends. I'm not so sure about that but thanks for the input. | |||
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""VWE Bull male needed" Youre targeting a very small subset of men here, why are you surprised that there aren't hordes (or even cohorts ) of guys beating down your door with their massive cocks?
"Pics and *recent* verifications a must"
Recent means recent, not recent before March 2020.
Its your party and your rules, but if you set the bar that high why act shocked when loads of guys can't reach it, you weren't exactly offering a quick and easy verification service for all the guys who can't get a meet. As a couple of the more experienced swingers on here, you had to know what to expect, but you stick up a post (not a gripe or a groan though) that tars us all with the same brush anyway.
We haven't tarred ALL with the same brush actually and yes, we know the type of guy needed, as you pointed out, we stated explicitly VWE Bull, so why do so many guys,that clearly don't meet that qualification, send messages? That says more about single guys than it does us!
I posted to see if perhaps anyone could give constructive commentary, which some have....others have just jumped onto the keyboard, without really thinking what we actually said and meant.
So what were you saying and what did you really mean? "If you read the post? | |||
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"As a single guy...I can't accommodate because I am a widower with kids and was trying to use this as an outlet of sorts...time between veris is down to the fact that it's harder for a guy on his own here" There will always be genuine cases but I would doubt all of them are. We were both singles, we know how things are for both sinhle males and single females | |||
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""VWE Bull male needed" Youre targeting a very small subset of men here, why are you surprised that there aren't hordes (or even cohorts ) of guys beating down your door with their massive cocks?
"Pics and *recent* verifications a must"
Recent means recent, not recent before March 2020.
Its your party and your rules, but if you set the bar that high why act shocked when loads of guys can't reach it, you weren't exactly offering a quick and easy verification service for all the guys who can't get a meet. As a couple of the more experienced swingers on here, you had to know what to expect, but you stick up a post (not a gripe or a groan though) that tars us all with the same brush anyway.
We haven't tarred ALL with the same brush actually and yes, we know the type of guy needed, as you pointed out, we stated explicitly VWE Bull, so why do so many guys,that clearly don't meet that qualification, send messages? That says more about single guys than it does us!
I posted to see if perhaps anyone could give constructive commentary, which some have....others have just jumped onto the keyboard, without really thinking what we actually said and meant.
So what were you saying and what did you really mean?
If you read the post?"Well I have. And the replies. People have given responses. I'm failing to see the issue. Bar the fact no-one has agreed and said "yeah you're right, single guys just don't cut it these days" | |||
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""VWE Bull male needed" Youre targeting a very small subset of men here, why are you surprised that there aren't hordes (or even cohorts ) of guys beating down your door with their massive cocks?
"Pics and *recent* verifications a must"
Recent means recent, not recent before March 2020.
Its your party and your rules, but if you set the bar that high why act shocked when loads of guys can't reach it, you weren't exactly offering a quick and easy verification service for all the guys who can't get a meet. As a couple of the more experienced swingers on here, you had to know what to expect, but you stick up a post (not a gripe or a groan though) that tars us all with the same brush anyway.
We haven't tarred ALL with the same brush actually and yes, we know the type of guy needed, as you pointed out, we stated explicitly VWE Bull, so why do so many guys,that clearly don't meet that qualification, send messages? That says more about single guys than it does us!
I posted to see if perhaps anyone could give constructive commentary, which some have....others have just jumped onto the keyboard, without really thinking what we actually said and meant.
So what were you saying and what did you really mean?
If you read the post?
Well I have. And the replies. People have given responses. I'm failing to see the issue. Bar the fact no-one has agreed and said "yeah you're right, single guys just don't cut it these days""Then you are totally missing the point....some have taken the time to give explanations for some of the points, others have just tried to score points. Discussion is just that, discussing different viewpoints, we are equally as interested in constructively opposed views, as we are in those that agree with any, or all of our views | |||
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" We haven't tarred ALL with the same brush actually and yes, we know the type of guy needed, as you pointed out, we stated explicitly VWE Bull, so why do so many guys,that clearly don't meet that qualification, send messages? That says more about single guys than it does us! I posted to see if perhaps anyone could give constructive commentary, which some have....others have just jumped onto the keyboard, without really thinking what we actually said and meant. " Actually, yes, your last sentence in the OP absolutely did tar us all with the same brush... "We could go on but suffice to say, we are totally disillusioned with the current situation regarding 'single guys' on Fab" Also.. "Fab doesn't state how long, other than 'over a year' on length of membership and a reasonable presumption from reading profiles, is that the ones referred to have been around much longer. But hey, if that made you happy "If Fab only states "over a year" on their profile then why do you think that ANY presumption on the profiles tenure is reasonable, let alone one that assumes they've been here for an age doing nothing but interfering with your plans to collect a stable of well hung party fodder | |||
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"You might need to look at your choice of phrasing. Anyone referring to having someone rather than knowing someone would be more of a red flag than veris or a desire to accommodate. Must be great to be right all the time. Really? So it's wrong to say we have a group of friends? we should really say we know a group of friends. I'm not so sure about that but thanks for the input." My input was based on your dismissive attitude towards those who posted earlier. You deliberately used the word cohort rather than friends which gave the impression that they were single guys on tap. As for point scoring it is possible that guys do actually have an opinion without an agenda. | |||
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" We haven't tarred ALL with the same brush actually and yes, we know the type of guy needed, as you pointed out, we stated explicitly VWE Bull, so why do so many guys,that clearly don't meet that qualification, send messages? That says more about single guys than it does us! I posted to see if perhaps anyone could give constructive commentary, which some have....others have just jumped onto the keyboard, without really thinking what we actually said and meant. Actually, yes, your last sentence in the OP absolutely did tar us all with the same brush... "We could go on but suffice to say, we are totally disillusioned with the current situation regarding 'single guys' on Fab" Also.. Fab doesn't state how long, other than 'over a year' on length of membership and a reasonable presumption from reading profiles, is that the ones referred to have been around much longer. But hey, if that made you happy
If Fab only states "over a year" on their profile then why do you think that ANY presumption on the profiles tenure is reasonable, let alone one that assumes they've been here for an age doing nothing but interfering with your plans to collect a stable of well hung party fodder"Obviously you have a bee in your bonnet when you see a generalisation as tarring everyone with the same brush, you haven't convinced us to think otherwise? And also, if our presumption AFTER reading someone's profile is that they have been on the site for a number of years, then it is just that, a presumption, which we are totally entitled to have. Shame is, you're actually a nice guy in person....  | |||
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" We haven't tarred ALL with the same brush actually and yes, we know the type of guy needed, as you pointed out, we stated explicitly VWE Bull, so why do so many guys,that clearly don't meet that qualification, send messages? That says more about single guys than it does us! I posted to see if perhaps anyone could give constructive commentary, which some have....others have just jumped onto the keyboard, without really thinking what we actually said and meant. Actually, yes, your last sentence in the OP absolutely did tar us all with the same brush... "We could go on but suffice to say, we are totally disillusioned with the current situation regarding 'single guys' on Fab" Also.. Fab doesn't state how long, other than 'over a year' on length of membership and a reasonable presumption from reading profiles, is that the ones referred to have been around much longer. But hey, if that made you happy
If Fab only states "over a year" on their profile then why do you think that ANY presumption on the profiles tenure is reasonable, let alone one that assumes they've been here for an age doing nothing but interfering with your plans to collect a stable of well hung party fodder
Obviously you have a bee in your bonnet when you see a generalisation as tarring everyone with the same brush, you haven't convinced us to think otherwise? And also, if our presumption AFTER reading someone's profile is that they have been on the site for a number of years, then it is just that, a presumption, which we are totally entitled to have.
Shame is, you're actually a nice guy in person.... "I haven't seen anything on here to suggest otherwise | |||
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"You might need to look at your choice of phrasing. Anyone referring to having someone rather than knowing someone would be more of a red flag than veris or a desire to accommodate. Must be great to be right all the time. Really? So it's wrong to say we have a group of friends? we should really say we know a group of friends. I'm not so sure about that but thanks for the input. My input was based on your dismissive attitude towards those who posted earlier. You deliberately used the word cohort rather than friends which gave the impression that they were single guys on tap. As for point scoring it is possible that guys do actually have an opinion without an agenda. " To be honest, how we described them is pretty irrelevant and also, some guys have indeed expressed their opinion quite eloquently and we have acknowledged their opinion | |||
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" We haven't tarred ALL with the same brush actually and yes, we know the type of guy needed, as you pointed out, we stated explicitly VWE Bull, so why do so many guys,that clearly don't meet that qualification, send messages? That says more about single guys than it does us! I posted to see if perhaps anyone could give constructive commentary, which some have....others have just jumped onto the keyboard, without really thinking what we actually said and meant. Actually, yes, your last sentence in the OP absolutely did tar us all with the same brush... "We could go on but suffice to say, we are totally disillusioned with the current situation regarding 'single guys' on Fab" Also.. Fab doesn't state how long, other than 'over a year' on length of membership and a reasonable presumption from reading profiles, is that the ones referred to have been around much longer. But hey, if that made you happy
If Fab only states "over a year" on their profile then why do you think that ANY presumption on the profiles tenure is reasonable, let alone one that assumes they've been here for an age doing nothing but interfering with your plans to collect a stable of well hung party fodder
Obviously you have a bee in your bonnet when you see a generalisation as tarring everyone with the same brush, you haven't convinced us to think otherwise? And also, if our presumption AFTER reading someone's profile is that they have been on the site for a number of years, then it is just that, a presumption, which we are totally entitled to have.
Shame is, you're actually a nice guy in person.... "You ask for discussion, but when you get it then I have a bee in my bonnet?? A generalisation is actually along the same line as 'tarring with the same brush', that's MY point. Your last line in the OP targeted all single guys (read it back, it does) , but your actual complaint was with single guys who messaged you when they didn't fit your very narrow requirements list, while at the same time complaining that you couldn't find single guys for your party. If you were clearer on which part was annoying you most maybe we could have a better discussion. (bzzzzz bzzzz.....) | |||
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"To be fair, OP, if you read back on your original post, I hope you may be able to see how single men might feel attacked, targeted and berated. There's nothing positive in your original post surrounding single men and though you don't specifically say "all" it kinda feels like you mean all given the negativity... I'll give you a direct quote from your original post in which you had quite a number of responses how YOUR presumption is simply not true: "Are the guys that cannot accommodate really single?(Rhetorical, we all know the answer to that one!)" I know a number of single men who have genuine reasons for not being able to accommodate. I'm sure there are plenty of others here who do too. Unfortunately it is a rather negative post and I can understand how some will argue their points quite harshly and abruptly in this sense... I do hope and wish you the best of luck in finding what you are looking for. "Its a horrible post but its not just OP unfortunately. I cannot accommodate because I still live with my wife and kids. Financially its just impossible, and I know a good few people in or have been in the same predicament. It happens regularly were ill be ghosted or blanked the minute I disclose this(which is no problem) but I can't help but feel that its because I'm thrown in with other lads as a liar and a chancer looking to cheat. Unfortunately this idea seems to be quite common. | |||
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"To be fair, OP, if you read back on your original post, I hope you may be able to see how single men might feel attacked, targeted and berated. There's nothing positive in your original post surrounding single men and though you don't specifically say "all" it kinda feels like you mean all given the negativity... I'll give you a direct quote from your original post in which you had quite a number of responses how YOUR presumption is simply not true: "Are the guys that cannot accommodate really single?(Rhetorical, we all know the answer to that one!)" I know a number of single men who have genuine reasons for not being able to accommodate. I'm sure there are plenty of others here who do too. Unfortunately it is a rather negative post and I can understand how some will argue their points quite harshly and abruptly in this sense... I do hope and wish you the best of luck in finding what you are looking for. ""As a single guy...I can't accommodate because I am a widower with kids and was trying to use this as an outlet of sorts...time between veris is down to the fact that it's harder for a guy on his own here" There will always be genuine cases but I would doubt all of them are. We were both singles, we know how things are for both sinhle males and single females " As per above we do acknowledge reasoned discussion? Some people might have missed that. We expressed our views on things, actually hoping some might prove us wrong but quite a few have actually reinforced our views, of SOME single guys by going out of their way to take exception, in a pretty ridiculous way. The context of our frustration was, in removing filters and seeking contact from suitable guys(someone pointed out how specific we were), we received literally hundreds of nonsense replies and an equally high number of winks. The vast majority had simply not even read the first few lines of our profile...is that too big an ask? The few that did read it and sent honest, genuine messages, were acknowledged and thanked, regardless if suited, or not. So our opinion was of the majority of single guys who contacted us, call that ALL single guys if you wish....but will the majority out there quit complaining how hard it is to get a meet and give our head peace. | |||
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"To be fair, OP, if you read back on your original post, I hope you may be able to see how single men might feel attacked, targeted and berated. There's nothing positive in your original post surrounding single men and though you don't specifically say "all" it kinda feels like you mean all given the negativity... I'll give you a direct quote from your original post in which you had quite a number of responses how YOUR presumption is simply not true: "Are the guys that cannot accommodate really single?(Rhetorical, we all know the answer to that one!)" I know a number of single men who have genuine reasons for not being able to accommodate. I'm sure there are plenty of others here who do too. Unfortunately it is a rather negative post and I can understand how some will argue their points quite harshly and abruptly in this sense... I do hope and wish you the best of luck in finding what you are looking for.
"As a single guy...I can't accommodate because I am a widower with kids and was trying to use this as an outlet of sorts...time between veris is down to the fact that it's harder for a guy on his own here"
There will always be genuine cases but I would doubt all of them are. We were both singles, we know how things are for both sinhle males and single females "
As per above we do acknowledge reasoned discussion? Some people might have missed that.
We expressed our views on things, actually hoping some might prove us wrong but quite a few have actually reinforced our views, of SOME single guys by going out of their way to take exception, in a pretty ridiculous way. The context of our frustration was, in removing filters and seeking contact from suitable guys(someone pointed out how specific we were), we received literally hundreds of nonsense replies and an equally high number of winks. The vast majority had simply not even read the first few lines of our profile...is that too big an ask? The few that did read it and sent honest, genuine messages, were acknowledged and thanked, regardless if suited, or not. So our opinion was of the majority of single guys who contacted us, call that ALL single guys if you wish....but will the majority out there quit complaining how hard it is to get a meet and give our head peace."And going back to my original reply, none of this is solely the preserve of single men | |||
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"To be fair, OP, if you read back on your original post, I hope you may be able to see how single men might feel attacked, targeted and berated. There's nothing positive in your original post surrounding single men and though you don't specifically say "all" it kinda feels like you mean all given the negativity... I'll give you a direct quote from your original post in which you had quite a number of responses how YOUR presumption is simply not true: "Are the guys that cannot accommodate really single?(Rhetorical, we all know the answer to that one!)" I know a number of single men who have genuine reasons for not being able to accommodate. I'm sure there are plenty of others here who do too. Unfortunately it is a rather negative post and I can understand how some will argue their points quite harshly and abruptly in this sense... I do hope and wish you the best of luck in finding what you are looking for.
"As a single guy...I can't accommodate because I am a widower with kids and was trying to use this as an outlet of sorts...time between veris is down to the fact that it's harder for a guy on his own here"
There will always be genuine cases but I would doubt all of them are. We were both singles, we know how things are for both sinhle males and single females "
As per above we do acknowledge reasoned discussion? Some people might have missed that.
We expressed our views on things, actually hoping some might prove us wrong but quite a few have actually reinforced our views, of SOME single guys by going out of their way to take exception, in a pretty ridiculous way. The context of our frustration was, in removing filters and seeking contact from suitable guys(someone pointed out how specific we were), we received literally hundreds of nonsense replies and an equally high number of winks. The vast majority had simply not even read the first few lines of our profile...is that too big an ask? The few that did read it and sent honest, genuine messages, were acknowledged and thanked, regardless if suited, or not. So our opinion was of the majority of single guys who contacted us, call that ALL single guys if you wish....but will the majority out there quit complaining how hard it is to get a meet and give our head peace.
And going back to my original reply, none of this is solely the preserve of single men"We didn't ever say it was? However our post was specific to single guys | |||
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""As a single guy...I can't accommodate because I am a widower with kids and was trying to use this as an outlet of sorts...time between veris is down to the fact that it's harder for a guy on his own here" There will always be genuine cases but I would doubt all of them are. We were both singles, we know how things are for both sinhle males and single females " As per above we do acknowledge reasoned discussion? Some people might have missed that. We expressed our views on things, actually hoping some might prove us wrong but quite a few have actually reinforced our views, of SOME single guys by going out of their way to take exception, in a pretty ridiculous way. The context of our frustration was, in removing filters and seeking contact from suitable guys(someone pointed out how specific we were), we received literally hundreds of nonsense replies and an equally high number of winks. The vast majority had simply not even read the first few lines of our profile...is that too big an ask? The few that did read it and sent honest, genuine messages, were acknowledged and thanked, regardless if suited, or not. So our opinion was of the majority of single guys who contacted us, call that ALL single guys if you wish....but will the majority out there quit complaining how hard it is to get a meet and give our head peace." I'm with you on the amount of men who don't read a profile and contact it without being what that profile is looking for (hey read mine, it's looooooong ) and I do appreciate that it can be even more frustrating when you may have tweaked your profile to suit a certain situation and reiterated what it is you're looking for through a specific status update.
I can confirm that I have had this situation, when I was, with a previous couple's profile, looking specifically for bi tops - tweaked the profile, status update, opened the block on single men - and the amount of straight men quite obviously just looking to get to me (female half) was scary!!!
It's happened on my single's profile too but then we all know the ladies get a lot of messages from men who don't fit their profile description anyway due to the ratios here - and it even happens to single men . Though I'm sure with the ratios there are a lot who'd like the opportunity to be able to sift through all the undesirable, in your face ladies (that is a joke, by the way)
What I'm trying to say is that it's a Fab first world problem. It gets discussed to death on this Forum. And it's not going to change any time soon. There will always be chancers who hope they might catch your eye, time wasters who have nothing better to do than to troll amongst the genuine men of whom you may eventually find what it is you're looking for
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"OP you've made some interesting points. As a single unverified person I don't consider my self at fault in many of those regards .. well maybe pics because my looks are average as is the size of my penis not worth broadcasting. I'm just not given a shot. If I'm rejected I move on because I have better things to do with my day and all though I will never type it , it actually is their loss imho." Keep at it, I was a single, unverified guy for the first 6 months of my Fab journey...learnt from my mistakes(first ever meet stole money from my wallet) and there were many mistakes, believe me but I was respectful, didn't baulk at rejection and got there in the end. Now I look at some guys in total disbelief...but as you've proved, there is the odd decent one out there, with realistic expectations | |||
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"Personally looking for single guys we had exactly same issues apart from them not being able to accommodate. Automatically assuming that they are attached is just stupid. As a person who spent a great number of years living alone I know first hand how financially draining it is to live alone when/if you're renting accommodation, so some people who can't accommodate do have legit reasons like: 1. bad break ups 2. saving for mortgage 3. looking after parents/disabled family members 4. simply having full time custody of kids) Which can put grown ups (35+) into a position where they can't accommodate someone from fab. Organised social side - we take our time to check who's who and what they're like before extending our invitations, so have no problem with single men there. Single men are just people like everyone else. Yes, the bar is extremely low with tidal waves of dick pics and wanna fuck meets and the everest of chicken shit fantasy wank chasers. And single men who do show up are the true unicorns. Can I just please acknowledge how extremely hard it is for a single man to be successful on fab: 1. They have to be attractive. 2. They have to have a great personality. 3. They have to be smart. 4. They have to be artistic (nobody likes 6 shades of blue knob above a toilet bowl). 5. They have to be presentable. 6. They have to be able to suit meet now people. 7. They have to be able to suit long drawn out chats people. 8. They have to have no personal life and be there replying in a timely manner to everyone who messages them. 9. They have to read all these boring profiles all full off stuff that stuck up people's requirements (this one is pure sarcasm. We are all here to suit ourselves). 10. They have to fall into everyone's requirements. All that said I feel that the whole situation would definitely improve a lot if photos and verifications in peoples profiles were less explicit as newbies join when their mates tell them about this magical site swimming in pussy juice, so they gear up with cock shots and come here to tackle the _ungry cat problem full head on without hesitation. Only problem is - They join this having wrong expectations. Couples join this having wrong expectations. Women join this having wrong expectations too. Thing is that nobody and I mean nobody joins this site with the right mind frame nor knowing how it works (I do puke a little in my mouth every time someone says that they do know how it works phrase). Fab is great for finding like minded people, you just have to know where to look for them and it's pretty damn fucking hard to look when every person you try to talk to tells you to bugger off or doesn't even open your message.. If swinging would be normalised- it would not be a taboo to actually talk about it in real life and maybe... maybe then people would join it with right expectations. Maybe people would have more tolerance towards others who might not be looking for the same thing . Rant over. Apologies if it was too long. TLDR: Everyone is looking for different things and one group shouldn't be blamed for all the crap in the mailbox as different people have different experiences on this and it's not fair to blame sinle men on all the wrong doings n" | |||
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"I changed my profile to cannot accommodate years ago as I'd too many emails assuming I'd accommodate anyone. I may well accommodate but that's after I've met someone socially or otherwise. By saying I can't accommodate it would be my decision if I were to offer or not. That's how I look at it at least but nobody has any control about whatever conclusions people leap to around here, don't twist any ankles leapers "We keep getting mail from random couples who want to come to our home to have sex so we can watch. I'm not spending hours cleaning my whole house for some jolly ranchers to have their 20mins of squeeze on Tuesday afternoon while their kids are at school ... | |||
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"I changed my profile to cannot accommodate years ago as I'd too many emails assuming I'd accommodate anyone. I may well accommodate but that's after I've met someone socially or otherwise. By saying I can't accommodate it would be my decision if I were to offer or not. That's how I look at it at least but nobody has any control about whatever conclusions people leap to around here, don't twist any ankles leapers
We keep getting mail from random couples who want to come to our home to have sex so we can watch.
I'm not spending hours cleaning my whole house for some jolly ranchers to have their 20mins of squeeze on Tuesday afternoon while their kids are at school ... "Ah come on now - just the bedroom be fine 
Loved your post, so well written and so true! Especially "And single men who do show up are the true unicorns". | |||
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"I changed my profile to cannot accommodate years ago as I'd too many emails assuming I'd accommodate anyone. I may well accommodate but that's after I've met someone socially or otherwise. By saying I can't accommodate it would be my decision if I were to offer or not. That's how I look at it at least but nobody has any control about whatever conclusions people leap to around here, don't twist any ankles leapers
We keep getting mail from random couples who want to come to our home to have sex so we can watch.
I'm not spending hours cleaning my whole house for some jolly ranchers to have their 20mins of squeeze on Tuesday afternoon while their kids are at school ... "Yeah that's the other thing of course. It's been well over a year since I've had a visitor in my house. Is it OK to spring clean in December? | |||
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"I changed my profile to cannot accommodate years ago as I'd too many emails assuming I'd accommodate anyone. I may well accommodate but that's after I've met someone socially or otherwise. By saying I can't accommodate it would be my decision if I were to offer or not. That's how I look at it at least but nobody has any control about whatever conclusions people leap to around here, don't twist any ankles leapers
We keep getting mail from random couples who want to come to our home to have sex so we can watch.
I'm not spending hours cleaning my whole house for some jolly ranchers to have their 20mins of squeeze on Tuesday afternoon while their kids are at school ...
Ah come on now - just the bedroom be fine
Loved your post, so well written and so true! Especially "And single men who do show up are the true unicorns"."Yeah but I've got the wrong kind of horn... | |||
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"I changed my profile to cannot accommodate years ago as I'd too many emails assuming I'd accommodate anyone. I may well accommodate but that's after I've met someone socially or otherwise. By saying I can't accommodate it would be my decision if I were to offer or not. That's how I look at it at least but nobody has any control about whatever conclusions people leap to around here, don't twist any ankles leapers "Well said and straight to the point Wilder | |||
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"I myself have no veries the reason is simple ther is no clubs new!r me I say near within 200 MLS most women I talk to all say Ur too far away Ur not forme fair enough other profiles talk comes to a meet profile disseapears othe profiles want cocks over 9 ins I don't have that it's just women have the pick they can pick whoever they want " No, women don't really have a pick of "whoever they want". It's as hard for women to find who they genuinely want to meet as it is for men. Missus | |||
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Be careful they could be your neighbours from enniskillen
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) and I’ve met two women off here which unfortunately were like myself and unverified but not here anymore. I loved one of the above comments that said “it was their loss”. I have the same opinion when I get rejected or passed up.
I can only hope that someone at sometime might take a punt on me and meet up for a cuppa and a chat because I’m quite confident that the first meeting will impress as I’m easygoing and great craic to talk to.
My expectations have definitely changed since I started here. Before I was just wanting to get laid etc but now I’m more interested in the social side and some kind of a FWB type situation. Making friends and acquaintances is very important to me at this stage of my life.
Like a lot of guys I can’t accommodate as I don’t live alone(parents house)but I’d be willing to travel or use hotels/b&bs to meet.
Rejection can be hard but as I said it’s their loss and I move on. Onwards and upwards as they say
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"I'm a single male who also would never bring a random Internet person to my home. " I'd love to know how "internet people" are different from people | |||
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"In reference to the "can't accommodate" im single and not a hope in hell would i have random strangers from the internet over to my home it's my private place,im sure it's not just a woman thing but couples and single men feel the same....." True....Some people just want Fab as an escape from the real world | |||
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"In reference to the "can't accommodate" im single and not a hope in hell would i have random strangers from the internet over to my home it's my private place,im sure it's not just a woman thing but couples and single men feel the same..... True....Some people just want Fab as an escape from the real world "That's it exactly i rather keep my fab life and private life separate simples | |||
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"One question, does anyone think that the cock pic sending no-show immersion broken that’s my boss on the phone hundred mail a day wankers EVER read the forum "Of course they do, in great detail, including any and every profile they come across that specifically states "no cock pics" and then they have a laugh at those they left hi and dry after arranging a meet
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"In reference to the "can't accommodate" im single and not a hope in hell would i have random strangers from the internet over to my home it's my private place,im sure it's not just a woman thing but couples and single men feel the same....." This | |||
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"Lots of men are living alone because they enjoy their own space. Which means they don't want randomers invading their space. Single men get very bad press here. Almost impossible with the amount of couples ignoring messages and the clicky behaviour that goes on in fab. " | |||
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"Well I can accommodate and have no problems chatting or meeting women in the outside world but find it difficult to even get meet verified in FAB which in turns restricts me from going to any social meets , tough world out there but life is too short to worry about it ??" What socials are you not able to go to because you're not meet verified? Many people go to socials TO GET meet verified, I've never come across such a rule. | |||
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"Well I can accommodate and have no problems chatting or meeting women in the outside world but find it difficult to even get meet verified in FAB which in turns restricts me from going to any social meets , tough world out there but life is too short to worry about it ?? What socials are you not able to go to because you're not meet verified? Many people go to socials TO GET meet verified, I've never come across such a rule." I'm referring to organised socials, not 1 to 1's by the way | |||
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"Well I can accommodate and have no problems chatting or meeting women in the outside world but find it difficult to even get meet verified in FAB which in turns restricts me from going to any social meets , tough world out there but life is too short to worry about it ?? What socials are you not able to go to because you're not meet verified? Many people go to socials TO GET meet verified, I've never come across such a rule." The vast majority of organised socials that I've seen have specifically stated verified only. | |||
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"Well I can accommodate and have no problems chatting or meeting women in the outside world but find it difficult to even get meet verified in FAB which in turns restricts me from going to any social meets , tough world out there but life is too short to worry about it ?? What socials are you not able to go to because you're not meet verified? Many people go to socials TO GET meet verified, I've never come across such a rule. The vast majority of organised socials that I've seen have specifically stated verified only." Although I'm thinking of the larger MnG | |||
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"Well I can accommodate and have no problems chatting or meeting women in the outside world but find it difficult to even get meet verified in FAB which in turns restricts me from going to any social meets , tough world out there but life is too short to worry about it ?? What socials are you not able to go to because you're not meet verified? Many people go to socials TO GET meet verified, I've never come across such a rule. The vast majority of organised socials that I've seen have specifically stated verified only. Although I'm thinking of the larger MnG" Even those there are still options. The recent South West one by RVC as an example had photo verified as the requirement and thats as big as I've seen | |||
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"Well I can accommodate and have no problems chatting or meeting women in the outside world but find it difficult to even get meet verified in FAB which in turns restricts me from going to any social meets , tough world out there but life is too short to worry about it ?? What socials are you not able to go to because you're not meet verified? Many people go to socials TO GET meet verified, I've never come across such a rule. The vast majority of organised socials that I've seen have specifically stated verified only. Although I'm thinking of the larger MnG Even those there are still options. The recent South West one by RVC as an example had photo verified as the requirement and thats as big as I've seen" Yes. We got our first veris from that social two years ago
The Envy crew had a social for newbies last month.
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"Well I can accommodate and have no problems chatting or meeting women in the outside world but find it difficult to even get meet verified in FAB which in turns restricts me from going to any social meets , tough world out there but life is too short to worry about it ?? What socials are you not able to go to because you're not meet verified? Many people go to socials TO GET meet verified, I've never come across such a rule. The vast majority of organised socials that I've seen have specifically stated verified only. Although I'm thinking of the larger MnG Even those there are still options. The recent South West one by RVC as an example had photo verified as the requirement and thats as big as I've seen Yes. We got our first veris from that social two years ago
The Envy crew had a social for newbies last month.
Some smaller socials advertised on here also don't require meet verification. One very recently advertised had to be cancelled due to restrictions."I can only go by the ones that I looked at up here and they were very specific in regards to single men. They had to be recently meet verified. I wasn't attending and being verified it wouldn't have made any difference to me To be honest I'd no issue because it showed the organisers were taking precautions. | |||
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"Not a gripe, or a groan, more of an observation and topic for discussion. The number of single guys on Fab is undoubtedly far greater than that of couples and single females. We constantly see updates from single guys about how difficult it is to get a meet, yet when we recently posted a status, looking a couple of single guys to come to a party, we found the following Guys don't read status updates, or profiles, or just ignore what you are looking for. True? The number of unverified guys, on Fab for over a year, is astounding! The number of guys that have profiles without any pictures makes us wonder, what are you hiding? is your dick really that recognisable to family and friends? Are the guys that cannot accommodate really single?(Rhetorical, we all know the answer to that one!) Are the guys that can't take rejection really all "our loss"? Do the guys who start messages with "I wouldn't call myself hung..." really think we are going to contradict them? Do the guys whose pictures and verifications are from 3 or 4 years ago, not think people will wonder why? We could go on but suffice to say, we are totally disillusioned with the current situation regarding 'single guys' on Fab
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"None of these things are exclusive to single guys. Furthermore we won't judge people who don't accommodate without knowing their circumstances when we won't accommodate ourselves, and the pandemic is a pretty good reason why someone might not have been verified in the last two years. " Totally agree with this statement ! | |||
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