FabSwingers.com forum: Putted by a WhatsApp group!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Recently a member of a WhatsApp group followed us and disclosed not only our new venue location, but decided to attach Facebook profile pics to it!

That wasn’t enough, so they decided to post fab nudes! Now this guy is a complete stalker ... some of the pics that were posted we had removed from the profile years ago!

A few friends contacted us to let us know but hay we live in a very small world and news travels fast.

So my point is this, why would someone go to so much trouble to out someone they don’t know as well destroy a service that simply brings like minded people together.

And finally, I know many of us share stuff on WhatsApp, but where is the line? We may receive nudes but we believe it should b kept private ... it’s no laughing matter to have ur body paraded to the world without ur permission. In future, if u do receive images, don’t share them and have a word with the sender.

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

Posting images without consent is an offence under the Harassment, Harmful Communications and Related Offences Act 2020.

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By *ueenbeetipp43Woman
over a year ago

my own world

"Posting images without consent is an offence under the Harassment, Harmful Communications and Related Offences Act 2020."

This

I'm not sure what the laws are up north but in the south its illegal as of last year.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First of all, this person is a right saddo.

Secondly, by using whattsapp and similar, we leave ourselves open to outing. Recently happened where a couple meant to send pics to a whattsapp group but sent them to their staff, who shared them with anyone and everyone.

Lastly, I was outed by a female here on fab nearly 2 years ago. So know how it feels.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Title should read “outted by a WhatsApp group”

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

It's why I never give out personal details to anyone on here. I don't share my phone number or any other info. Only a few people on here know my first name and a couple who know my full name.

I'm like a broken record at the moment reminding people to keep their eyes open in regard to who exactly they are chatting to because of issues exactly like this.

There are people on this very forum who openly share other people's personal info, are quick to tell other people's stories at socials and are networking without consent which is another way of saying name dropping and tagging.

I've been accused of being vague in comments at times but when misinformation you've deliberately given to someone is repeated back by someone you've never met or even spoken to it becomes very obvious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God, that's terrible. Hope you're alright!

Whatsapp can be good but it's not the most discreet platform, especially if you're using your everyday number. Snapchat is good to but you have to be extra careful with who you're talking too. If your face is not in the photos you can always deny it's you.

He's probably an incel or soemthing along those lines, pure and utter creep with nothing to lose. Hopefully there's some action you can take? Revenge porn was a new law put into place so maybe explore that a little.

A while back someone hacked into my cloud and threatened to send the Explicit photos and Videos to close friends of mine. Was very stressful, but I didn't entertain them and told them go ahead, to which nothing happened (Thankfully)

Wishing you the best and hope It all gets resolved soon!

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

I'd only share my phone number are meeting with someone in person and if I was interested in meeting them again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's why I never give out personal details to anyone on here. I don't share my phone number or any other info. Only a few people on here know my first name and a couple who know my full name.

I'm like a broken record at the moment reminding people to keep their eyes open in regard to who exactly they are chatting to because of issues exactly like this.

As theres only 4 people above your comment including myself whom you are talking about. We have never met at a social, so that narrows it down to 3.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"It's why I never give out personal details to anyone on here. I don't share my phone number or any other info. Only a few people on here know my first name and a couple who know my full name.

I'm like a broken record at the moment reminding people to keep their eyes open in regard to who exactly they are chatting to because of issues exactly like this.

As theres only 4 people above your comment including myself whom you are talking about. We have never met at a social, so that narrows it down to 3."

I said forum not thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ahh ok the comment " this very forum", had me thinking otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Title should read “outted by a WhatsApp group”

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Happened to me once because I didn't realise Whatsapp can link your facebook account to your phone

I had pics of my parents and kids sent to me

It's not nice....sorry it happened to you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Btw. We aren’t connected to the WhatsApp group in anyway ... they decided to put the story together and release the pics to their group ... once it went to one group it spread to others very quickly!

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

There are some real sad cases here who have such sad little lives that they get a kick out of doing something like this.

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man
over a year ago

City Centre, Dublin

I suppose some people would rather fuck up someone else’s life than sort out their own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is just f**ked up , the sick individuals that get enjoyment from this type of behaviour are just sad sad individuals. Sorry happened to you's

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By *onderingpurposeMan
over a year ago

Belfast

That is my worst nightmare and I am sorry that you are having to go through it. There are some twisted people out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know it is hard XD.. leave it.. Some people are being half minded and they did such things.. It will be alright soon..don't mind about it..the body is just a piece of flush !! Think in that way and try to forget it

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By *osmicGateMan
over a year ago

louth

This sounds like a stalker case.. Straight to police if I were you.. I don't think what he did was illegal.. Following you was yes but uploading a story for a whatsapp group is perfectly legal that's if the photos you uploaded to your fab and Facebook are publican lú accessible.. He just downloaded said images and used them for his own purposes.. Any image uploaded publicly is fair game..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s shocking. I hope you get it sorted out. I don’t mind sharing images but it needs to be with someone I’ve been speaking to regularly and trust. Anyone that knows me knows I’m trustworthy and what goes on between us stays between us. I believe in discretion at all times and would definitely expect the same in return.

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By *lassy lady 216Woman
over a year ago

Craigavon

This is why a club in ni will never work sorry guys i really do wish you all tge best ans would love nothing more to see a club in ni but it simply wont work too many small minded individuals that have nothing better to do with there time or to offer society that is also why i never share pics on whatsapp groups or kik groups you can trust noone but yourself if people want to see what i look like they can come take the time to meet me for a coffee simple as

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway

"This is why a club in ni will never work sorry guys i really do wish you all tge best ans would love nothing more to see a club in ni but it simply wont work too many small minded individuals that have nothing better to do with there time or to offer society that is also why i never share pics on whatsapp groups or kik groups you can trust noone but yourself if people want to see what i look like they can come take the time to meet me for a coffee simple as "

You have public face pics…

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By *lassy lady 216Woman
over a year ago

Craigavon

Think you will find i have a mask on in both pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think you will find i have a mask on in both pics "

Think that only works if you talk like batman. Otherwise its a bit like "jazus isn't that Mary from tesco in a mask?"

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By *ts artMan
over a year ago

Londonderry

I had the pictures doing the rounds on WhatsApp sent to me from some who doesn't know I'm on fab etc

I told them it's all consenting adults and that whoever started sharing the pictures and the others sharing they were touts and spouts and probably hadn't the balls to swing

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By *ullseye100Man
over a year ago

Ireland

Good god that’s a terrible thing to do.

I take it it’s fine to use kik?

I wouldn’t like my pictures to surface in my personal life, work family etc.

I take it you know the person?

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By *ondalingerMan
over a year ago

City center

"Good god that’s a terrible thing to do.

I take it it’s fine to use kik?

I wouldn’t like my pictures to surface in my personal life, work family etc.

I take it you know the person? "
doesn't matter, once you send a pic or post a pic its out of your control where it goes. Just hope that the recievers aren't the sort

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By *arti and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Here, there & everywhere

So sorry to hear you 2 are going through this, thankfully being Northern Ireland it will be yesterday’s news tomorrow and those kind will be onto someone else, I hope it has not put the new venue in jeopardy and the two of ye are ok x .

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By *ullseye100Man
over a year ago

Ireland

"Good god that’s a terrible thing to do.

I take it it’s fine to use kik?

I wouldn’t like my pictures to surface in my personal life, work family etc.

I take it you know the person? doesn't matter, once you send a pic or post a pic its out of your control where it goes. Just hope that the recievers aren't the sort "
I get that pal but can they hack your Facebook account with your WhatsApp number?

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

That's a crap thing to happen and sadly it does on here quite a lot .It's not right and you think people would have a bit more cop on but some don't sadly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think you will find i have a mask on in both pics "

Very kinky

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By *andytownMan
over a year ago

Gods Own Country

"Btw. We aren’t connected to the WhatsApp group in anyway ... they decided to put the story together and release the pics to their group ... once it went to one group it spread to others very quickly! "

That's the really sad part of this, and a very dangerous part.

Sorry to learn about this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a similar experience. A couple local to me

Thought it was funny to refer to my nickname and initials in a forum posting. They were cryptic clues. Still nasty thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's why I never give out personal details to anyone on here. I don't share my phone number or any other info. Only a few people on here know my first name and a couple who know my full name.

I'm like a broken record at the moment reminding people to keep their eyes open in regard to who exactly they are chatting to because of issues exactly like this.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"Good god that’s a terrible thing to do.

I take it it’s fine to use kik?

I wouldn’t like my pictures to surface in my personal life, work family etc.

I take it you know the person? doesn't matter, once you send a pic or post a pic its out of your control where it goes. Just hope that the recievers aren't the sort I get that pal but can they hack your Facebook account with your WhatsApp number?

A well known male account on here that has a hidden profile explained once exactly how someone can find all your social media just knowing your phone number...it was an eye opener ...

Facebook bought WhatsApp and the regulator was meant to stop them from cross referencing each account

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did anyone else laugh at the massive miscommunication about 5 posts in to this thread.?

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Did anyone else laugh at the massive miscommunication about 5 posts in to this thread.?"

No it was just another example of pissing in the wind.

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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago

South Dublin Area

"Think you will find i have a mask on in both pics

Think that only works if you talk like batman. Otherwise its a bit like "jazus isn't that Mary from tesco in a mask?""
Brilliant

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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago

South Dublin Area

"Recently a member of a WhatsApp group followed us and disclosed not only our new venue location, but decided to attach Facebook profile pics to it!

That wasn’t enough, so they decided to post fab nudes! Now this guy is a complete stalker ... some of the pics that were posted we had removed from the profile years ago!

A few friends contacted us to let us know but hay we live in a very small world and news travels fast.

So my point is this, why would someone go to so much trouble to out someone they don’t know as well destroy a service that simply brings like minded people together.

Thoughts and comments appreciated either here or PM us

Its jealousy and begrudgery, its an irish trait. Dont let it effect what you are trying to do, thats what they want.

As someone already said it will be yesterdays news in a few days.

Keep the chin up and best of luck with the club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did anyone else laugh at the massive miscommunication about 5 posts in to this thread.?

No it was just another example of pissing in the wind. "

Hahaha yeap... I get ya. Ahh still great though, complete opposite

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By *ouple 0073Couple
over a year ago

donegal

"Recently a member of a WhatsApp group followed us and disclosed not only our new venue location, but decided to attach Facebook profile pics to it!

That wasn’t enough, so they decided to post fab nudes! Now this guy is a complete stalker ... some of the pics that were posted we had removed from the profile years ago!

A few friends contacted us to let us know but hay we live in a very small world and news travels fast.

So my point is this, why would someone go to so much trouble to out someone they don’t know as well destroy a service that simply brings like minded people together.

Thoughts and comments appreciated either here or PM us

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so sorry to here about this..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm so sorry somebody did this to you both. I hope you still will continue on with whatever plans you have for the place. Also take care of yourselves, if he was able to follow you both to the venue, then he sure as hell can follow you to your house or workplace.

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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago

Kerry and Dublin

"Thoughts and comments appreciated either here or PM us

It must be absolutely sickening to the stomach to have something like that happen. You would feel totally violated.

Someone who does something like that is looking to make themselves feel better by projecting their anger onto someone else and making someone else experience the fear that they themselves live with. I can't imagine it would be easy to have empathy for a person who does something like that but it might be possible to feel pity for them. Imagine living in a world where you feel you need to do something like that? I'm not saying forgive them or condone what they've done but instead of anger towards them, pity might make the whole ordeal less stressful (hopefully!!)

I know in a country like Ireland and in a small community it can be hard not to feel judged or self-conscious but ye have absolutely nothing to be ashamed of! Quite the opposite. Breaking the shackles of sexual repression that we as a country have suffered under is something to be lauded. More and more people are adopting a more sex positive attitude in this country and that can only be healthy for society.

I know it doesn't take away the feelings of violation but know that there's a whole community behind ye and who support ye and those that would be outraged are those most in need to a shift in perspective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good god that’s a terrible thing to do.

I take it it’s fine to use kik?

I wouldn’t like my pictures to surface in my personal life, work family etc.

Not easily as afaik Facebook has Password failure lockout. I cant remember but i think it does. That doesnt stop phishing and social engineering though

Here is another story

You could quite easily brute force/dictionary attack your login if it has a weak password as the login is the same as your username (Fab really shouldnt be allowing that tbh) as from my knowledge here does not have a password failure lockout

You could probably crack a few accounts here with the rockyou wordlist tbh just by marrying it with a username wordlist harvested from the site

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

Never understand why more don't use Kik/Wickr/etc that aren't linked to their phone numbers

WhatsApp is lethal for cross referencing! Use Viber if you must and whatever one you use, only if it allows automatically deleting messages sent, though I still wouldn't.

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