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By *ed just Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Dublin City

As in really TRULY NSA.

Can anyone do it?

As in - not have any connection to the person they are shagging. None at all. Have no feelings towards them whatsoever.

I find it utterly anathema to me.

Chatting to a guy here recently and I explained how I have to care for the person I’m shagging, i have to like them and their personality and feel that its mutual and that they are a good and fun person. And that that, in itself, is enough to say that its not NSA for me.

What does NSA mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree. You don't have to be in love but there has to be an attraction to their body and personality. It makes sex alot more exciting!

Nsa to me means great sex with someone you like but just not in a relationship with

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By *ed just Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Dublin City


"Totally agree. You don't have to be in love but there has to be an attraction to their body and personality. It makes sex alot more exciting!

Nsa to me means great sex with someone you like but just not in a relationship with"

Yeah same. I posted a while back about being ghosted and there were a few nasty comments that if i was upset about it, it was my own fault as it clearly wasn’t NSA. But, OF COURSE IT WASNT AFTER A YEAR!!

I don’t think I actually could shag someone I didnt really like… that doesn’t mean you’re in love or expecting anything other than the ride.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me, strings mean expectations, you can have sex repeatedly with someone you like perfectly well, the minute you think you have the right to question who and what they're doing when not with you, or feel they owe you an explanation for not having sex with you again, you've attached "strings"

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway

I mean, I’m sure there’s people who have sex with people they have no connection with…d*unken hook ups for example.

For me, nsa means no relationship, fucking others with having to discuss anything. I like to have the chats about random shite with people I’m sleeping with so I guess that’s a connection in itself. If I can’t have the chats, there’s not going to be repeat meets.

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By *onderingpurposeMan
over a year ago

Belfast

In order to meet someone I agree there needs to be some attraction and exchange of thoughts and ideas. I would not call those "strings". Is NSA just another way of saying casual sex?

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By *r_Insatiable666Man
over a year ago

Cork

From what I've experienced, I think NSA can involve feelings, but the main key to it is that it is entirely a sexual relationship with no real social contract. Once the sex is over, you go back to being two people, nothing more.

It's not really for everyone, myself included

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I'm definitely have to like the in person and be attracted to them. I wouldn't shag anyone that I don't like that would be pointless and just make me feel like crap after if I did. But you can still like someone and have NSA with them. Especially of you have been clear from the start about what you both want.

To me NSA is more a FB thing than anything else and in the past I have had it on here and it worked well as it suited what we wanted.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

It's not a term I've ever used.

There has to be a connection or its just cold and functional. I say on my profile that if you can't laugh during sex you're doing it wrong so anyone taking it too seriously won't be compatible.

My definition of no strings is mutual enjoyment with someone with no need for a puppetmaster. Both parties fully in control of their own actions and neither manipulating the other or pulling strings.

That involves mutual appreciation and respect.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"To me, strings mean expectations, you can have sex repeatedly with someone you like perfectly well, the minute you think you have the right to question who and what they're doing when not with you, or feel they owe you an explanation for not having sex with you again, you've attached "strings" "

This is kinda how I feel too. Nostrings means after they have gone then there are no expectations of anything further. They have no say or responsibility for anything you do or say and you have none for them either. It doesn't mean you can't like them or fancy them.

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By *mazballs69Man
over a year ago

Countryside


"As in really TRULY NSA.

Can anyone do it?

As in - not have any connection to the person they are shagging. None at all. Have no feelings towards them whatsoever.

I find it utterly anathema to me.

Chatting to a guy here recently and I explained how I have to care for the person I’m shagging, i have to like them and their personality and feel that its mutual and that they are a good and fun person. And that that, in itself, is enough to say that its not NSA for me.

What does NSA mean?"

I would agree completely. There has to be a connection, you have to be attracted both physically and mentally.

To me NSA means that you both have your own separate lives that don't need to be intertwined but when together there needs to be sensual seductive interaction in the moment. NSA also means to me that you don't live in each others pockets but once together you are totally connected with each other.

I personally could not hook up with someone who I had not connection with both physically, mentally and emotionally but that might just be me....!

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By *ondalingerMan
over a year ago

City center


"I mean, I’m sure there’s people who have sex with people they have no connection with…d*unken hook ups for example.

For me, nsa means no relationship, fucking others with having to discuss anything. I like to have the chats about random shite with people I’m sleeping with so I guess that’s a connection in itself. If I can’t have the chats, there’s not going to be repeat meets. "
This

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By *on Draper2.0Man
over a year ago

Maynooth


"As in really TRULY NSA.

Can anyone do it?

As in - not have any connection to the person they are shagging. None at all. Have no feelings towards them whatsoever.

I find it utterly anathema to me.

Chatting to a guy here recently and I explained how I have to care for the person I’m shagging, i have to like them and their personality and feel that its mutual and that they are a good and fun person. And that that, in itself, is enough to say that its not NSA for me.

What does NSA mean?"

Can't be done.....unless you see the other person as no more that a toy or (pardon the pun) tool just there to service your needs. NSA is just masterbation by proxy

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By *on Draper2.0Man
over a year ago

Maynooth

Also, are NSA and Casual Sex considered to be the same? I would see them as different but there are probably many interpretations

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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago

Kerry and Dublin

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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago

Kerry and Dublin

wouldn't get turned on by someone I don't get on with but NSA, for me, means we'll contact each other whenever we contact each other. If either of us doesn't get in contact then it's not an issue*.

*Unless we've previously discussed getting in contact, then it's just common courtesy. If they don't, it'll still be annoying bcos it's a lack of common courtesy but not a major deal bcos it's NSA.

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By *acd03Man
over a year ago

Naughtyville


"Totally agree. You don't have to be in love but there has to be an attraction to their body and personality. It makes sex alot more exciting!

Nsa to me means great sex with someone you like but just not in a relationship with"

100% spot on Dee

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By *hoknows82Man
over a year ago

Nenagh / South Dublin

I need some kind of connection alright. A nice coffee meet or maybe talking a bit on KiK or WhatsApp before a meet is essential... And even then I'd want to get to know them. Just being an unfeeling, orgasm hunting fuck-robot is in appealing to say the least.

I wanna know someone before I'm inside them

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

As in really TRULY NSA.

Can anyone do it?

Yes

I have sort of stopped doing total NSA meets because meeting just for sex had become a bit shit . But I recall one I did a couple of hours after flunking a big big interview and it was great . Literally 10 minutes of texting prior to it . Risky , but better than wallowing in misery at the lost opportunity .

As in - not have any connection to the person they are shagging. None at all. Have no feelings towards them whatsoever.

I find it utterly anathema to me.

Chatting to a guy here recently and I explained how I have to care for the person I’m shagging, i have to like them and their personality and feel that its mutual and that they are a good and fun person. And that that, in itself, is enough to say that its not NSA for me.

Yes agree , although the physical act itself is fun . And if your non fab life is , emotionally complicated, you might not want any more ‘caring’. You might just want to cum .

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What does NSA mean?

If you meet someone enough times it’s difficult to leave emotions at the door by both of you Eventually . Sooner or later one of you will assume things the other doesn’t , or you both will feel something other than physicality.

How you work through that or manage that is important. If you both decide that in another universe it might have been something more but no chance in this one , then maybe you ll carry on meeting . if you both want a relationship, great .

If you both have others or enough other highlights in your life then it’s less likely to go pear shaped . But there is always the possibility that one of you will want more , and might get hurt . Both of you Dancing the dance of being sufficiently caring because you’ve known someone so long and they mean more , but having persistently clear zero interest in anything more long term no matter what is probably a black belt fab skill IMO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me NSA would be both people meeting for sex without the expectation of a relationship developing.

I think physical and mental attraction are necessary for good sex to happen

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By *ullseye100Man
over a year ago

Ireland

Feelings no attraction yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had several messages today about how fab isn't a dating site because I am looking for something more substantial than just a one night fuck.

To each their own and all but its10000% ok to look for connection and even more ok to want and maybe find more x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not just dating site and I love it ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality for me is more important than physical attraction,there has to be a connection

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"I've had several messages today about how fab isn't a dating site because I am looking for something more substantial than just a one night fuck.

To each their own and all but its10000% ok to look for connection and even more ok to want and maybe find more x "

Its up to you to use the site in whatever way works for yourself...good luck with finding what your looking for

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By *ollypop9Woman
over a year ago

wouldn't you like to know


"I've had several messages today about how fab isn't a dating site because I am looking for something more substantial than just a one night fuck.

To each their own and all but its10000% ok to look for connection and even more ok to want and maybe find more x

Its up to you to use the site in whatever way works for yourself...good luck with finding what your looking for "

I agree. Use it how you see fit. It may not officially be a dating site, but a lot of people have said it's nearly more honest and safer than a dating site.

And there is going to be a singles social, there are singles kik groups of fab, so the proof is in the pudding, there are lots of people here looking for relationships in all different shapes and forms, and good on them.

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By *on Draper2.0Man
over a year ago

Maynooth


"I've had several messages today about how fab isn't a dating site because I am looking for something more substantial than just a one night fuck.

To each their own and all but its10000% ok to look for connection and even more ok to want and maybe find more x

Its up to you to use the site in whatever way works for yourself...good luck with finding what your looking for

I agree. Use it how you see fit. It may not officially be a dating site, but a lot of people have said it's nearly more honest and safer than a dating site.

And there is going to be a singles social, there are singles kik groups of fab, so the proof is in the pudding, there are lots of people here looking for relationships in all different shapes and forms, and good on them."

That's quite true. Even so called nearly is a relationship of sorts. Every interaction between two people is a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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That's quite true. Even so called nearly is a relationship of sorts. Every interaction between two people is a relationship."

"the way in which two or more people, groups, countries, etc., talk to, behave toward, and deal with each other" - yep even a brief ride after a brief message establishes a relationship.

NSA just means that if you have a sexual relationship you accept thats all it is and dont expect anything else, emotionally, socially, financially etc.

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

There's a big difference between a One Night Stand and NSA.

I imagine most of us have had the meet a randomer in a pub/club and it led to a great night of bumping uglies and left shortly after, or the following morning, with no details or discussion about meeting again.

NSA involves a little more tact.

Chatting, getting to know each other a little, clearly stating that it's not about a relationship, just fun and sex, and the NSA discussion can even be he held within 5mins if on phone/WhatsApp/Kik/whatever.

NSA often allows both parties explore sex they wouldn't be comfortable discovering vanilla and can awaken unrealised desires and kinks, in a safe environment.

Sticking to the NSA can be an issue, especially after repeated meets, though I'd hope the majority respect the principles established.

If not, tell the other party your feelings have changed, regardless of good/bad.

As always, communication is key

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