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"Taken from the lounge On a scale of 1 to 10. How confident are you at leading when it comes to telling people that you fancy them and want to meet them on fab? Online , at socials and coffee meets, do you lead with the question or do you wait to be asked? Is it easy for you or do you find it awkward to ask? I rate my confidence at the moment at around 7 maybe . There are a few situations I am not creative around . So if the profile says very specifically not looking for single guys , not meeting , only looking for guys with x or without y I take that as face value and don’t think I would be an exception . Yet you know from veris and chats that there are exceptions . Also occasionally I let really good connections drift into a friend zone territory from where there is unlikely to be a come back . But otherwise on the other hand I am mostly ok making the first move and moving on if not reciprocated without a bruised ego . " I would say I am a high 8 I think the best plan is to ask people to tell me about themselves...which is alway interesting...and I find it leads to a very engaging conversation when you find some common ground | |||
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"i'm confident...so much so i know where the line between confident and delusional is" Tiz a fine line | |||
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"i'm confident...so much so i know where the line between confident and delusional is Tiz a fine line " tiz indeed, but nice to know it's not a static line | |||
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"Taken from the lounge On a scale of 1 to 10. How confident are you at leading when it comes to telling people that you fancy them and want to meet them on fab? Online , at socials and coffee meets, do you lead with the question or do you wait to be asked? Is it easy for you or do you find it awkward to ask? I rate my confidence at the moment at around 7 maybe . There are a few situations I am not creative around . So if the profile says very specifically not looking for single guys , not meeting , only looking for guys with x or without y I take that as face value and don’t think I would be an exception . Yet you know from veris and chats that there are exceptions . Also occasionally I let really good connections drift into a friend zone territory from where there is unlikely to be a come back . But otherwise on the other hand I am mostly ok making the first move and moving on if not reciprocated without a bruised ego . " I can be confident enough one to one, maybe a 7/10? but extremely nervous and shy at parties and socials. Probably about a 2/10 | |||
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"Taken from the lounge On a scale of 1 to 10. How confident are you at leading when it comes to telling people that you fancy them and want to meet them on fab? Online , at socials and coffee meets, do you lead with the question or do you wait to be asked? Is it easy for you or do you find it awkward to ask? " I have no problem sending introductory messages or asking to meet socially. If there's that spark at a social, I also wouldn't have a problem making my interest known, depending on the situation, that may be clear and direct, or not so clear . I wouldn't be surprised if many have more issues in "rejecting" someone than "pursuing" someone. I find it harder anyway, and believe that's where confidence and communicating skills really come into it - letting someone know in a respectful manner, without the intention to insult or hurt that you have no interest in them. I have been ghosted after socials rather than being told "sorry, not interested". I can take rejection without becoming abusive or suicidal... Like some here, I would consider myself quietly confident. I have good and bad days. But I'm not a social butterfly, I'm a loner. I feel most confident in settings with fewer people rather than at large parties, events and gatherings... and when taken out of my comfort zone, it would have a knock-on effect on my confidence...so I have no idea how I would react/behave/approach someone I fancy at a group gathering for swingers, for example... | |||
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"I'd say I'm a 2/3. I'm a shy aul corn fed country fella behind the check shirt and 501s " Go way Hardy, you weren't shy from where I was lying last Saturday night | |||
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"I'd say I'm a 2/3. I'm a shy aul corn fed country fella behind the check shirt and 501s Go way Hardy, you weren't shy from where I was lying last Saturday night " shhhhhhh you | |||
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"Taken from the lounge On a scale of 1 to 10. How confident are you at leading when it comes to telling people that you fancy them and want to meet them on fab? Online , at socials and coffee meets, do you lead with the question or do you wait to be asked? Is it easy for you or do you find it awkward to ask? I have no problem sending introductory messages or asking to meet socially. If there's that spark at a social, I also wouldn't have a problem making my interest known, depending on the situation, that may be clear and direct, or not so clear . I wouldn't be surprised if many have more issues in "rejecting" someone than "pursuing" someone. I find it harder anyway, and believe that's where confidence and communicating skills really come into it - letting someone know in a respectful manner, without the intention to insult or hurt that you have no interest in them. I have been ghosted after socials rather than being told "sorry, not interested". I can take rejection without becoming abusive or suicidal... Like some here, I would consider myself quietly confident. I have good and bad days. But I'm not a social butterfly, I'm a loner. I feel most confident in settings with fewer people rather than at large parties, events and gatherings... and when taken out of my comfort zone, it would have a knock-on effect on my confidence...so I have no idea how I would react/behave/approach someone I fancy at a group gathering for swingers, for example..." I think that any people on Fab have the potential to be more confident than your average person. It's a big step to be here in the first place and you need confidence to do that | |||
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"I'm pretty confident when it comes to chatting to new people and having good banter with them but I'm absolutely rubbish at moving things to the next level. I always assume that people are just being friendly and don't actually fancy me. So I end up waiting for them to make the move like a bloody teenager. Lol" This for me too…. | |||
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