FabSwingers.com forum: Am I out of your league!!!!

By *s Lolly OP Woman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Just seen a few comments and been chatting with people this seems to crop up alot on here,do you think your out of some fabbers league on here? Or in my opinion your just not what there looking for and vice versa?...

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By *t777Woman
over a year ago

close by

Oh absolutely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% feel this way…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No not even a little.

I think I'm good enough for anybody.

There are people I wouldnt go near because I think they are cunty assholes but not because I'm in q different league

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

It's more about self belief and confidence rather than being out of someone's league.

It can also be a combination of not having much in common and/or some people believing that others are beneath them.

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By *ottie00Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

Definately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Connection and chemistry is more important than just attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely particularly the popular ones.

Some filters sort that out for you anyways.

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway

If someone focuses on looks alone then our level of traditional attractiveness might not be the same. However, it doesn’t really matter because they’re not the type of people I want to be around anyway.

Personality wise I’m feckin great so no one is out of my league

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I agree Lolly I don't believe in leagues or anything like that on here. We're all just ordinary people who happen to be on a swingers site.

Some will think they are a league above others also but yet again it's all in their heads .

So no I don't believe in leagues I do think some people have amazing pictures and profiles though .But it wouldn't stop me sending a message if I wanted to make contact with them. I mean what's the worst that can happen they say no or ignore me.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

No fabbers out of my league as we all play in different leagues anyway

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By *on Draper2.0Man
over a year ago

Maynooth

"I agree Lolly I don't believe in leagues or anything like that on here. We're all just ordinary people who happen to be on a swingers site.

Some will think they are a league above others also but yet again it's all in their heads .

100% right

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By *limfitladMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Seeing as I posted the reference last, I'll watching this thread closely

I didn't mean it too seriously...

And certainly the OP is the most genuine lady one could ever meet!

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By *on Draper2.0Man
over a year ago

Maynooth

"Just seen a few comments and been chatting with people this seems to crop up alot on here,do you think your out of some fabbers league on here? Or in my opinion your just not what there looking for and vice versa?...

If someone makes or tries to make you feel they are doing you a favour or lowering themselves to your level as they see it, then you they aren't worth your effort anyway.

Personally, I only talk to ladies I feel are too good for me anyway. You know who you are if you read this.

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By *hilaboutMan
over a year ago

kilkenny

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would ave to say yes its quiet similar to lifestyles people are in different leagues and theres just some I just wouldnt message knowing there wouldnt be a hope of getting a reply.its in everday life also not just fab

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By *oxtrotTangoLoveMan
over a year ago

monkstown/kentstown

Definately 100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% agree with you lolly.

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By *ogladyWoman
over a year ago

The bog

I don't have leagues I like who I like it's that simple..somthimes I'm lucky sometimes I'm not..

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

Meh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think about it as being in a certain league, i think you're just compatible or you're not.

Ive met the odd guy here who made mw think wow how the hell did i pull him, ive also met the odd guy who has made me feel like i wasnt worthy of his time as i wasnt attractive enough. Its all about the chemistry, that's whats important.

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By *imonlebangMan
over a year ago

Casa Lebang Bang

Lolly I don't believe in Leagues . People who make that sort of comment are very narrow minded.

Everyone have different qualities.

You can't quantify kindness , manners , humour, or chemistry in any league table.

It's simple ...it takes all sorts ...

Julia Reberts married Randy Travis...point being

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By *onderingpurposeMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I'm clinging onto Division 3 status by the finger nails. It will definitely go down to the last game of the season.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Connection and chemistry is more important than just attraction. "

Absolutely

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By *ind PaddyMan
over a year ago

South County Dublin

Good conversation is important but really only get to know the person when you met them I think anyways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's about confidence, ability to hold a conversation and some level of physical attraction, not which stratum they assume themselves to be on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading through the comments, it seems everyone is talking about the same thing but just define it in different ways or don't like it defined in a certain way.

To define it as different league or define it as not compatible is much the same....you just can't compete either way.

One may think they're in the same league but if they can't compete then maybe they've just misplaced their thinking that they can.

There are many things that prevent us from 'competing' with/for certain ones, it doesn't mean we can't compete with/for others.

Being incompatable means one is technically in another league, filters can be seen as moving one into another League.

It's not because one is better than anyone, being in a different League doesn't necessarily mean better or less, it's just different.

It's just how one wants to view it, neither way is less or better imo.

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By *aint_or_SinnerWoman
over a year ago

South County Dublin

I think it's something we come across in every walk of life, isn't it? From the time we're toddling about...are our parents teaching us to reach for the stars because we're good enough to accomplish any dreams we have - or are they teaching us we're good for nothing, silly low lives who'll never get anywhere in life? Do our friends, family and partners support us with love and recognition or do they put us down, ridicule us and even abuse us?

Does this actually lead to an overinflated or an underinflated ego? Or is there so much more to it than that?

And so we evolve, with our insecurities, our shame and whatever confidence life gives us along the way!

There is no being in or out of someone's league! There's respecting another person, regardless of who or what they are or look like, and after that - there's compatibility or not!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lolly I don't believe in Leagues . People who make that sort of comment are very narrow minded.

Everyone have different qualities.

You can't quantify kindness , manners , humour, or chemistry in any league table.

It's simple ...it takes all sorts ...

Julia Reberts married Randy Travis...point being

So by calling others narrow minded are you not implying you're better than them?

Maybe we don't all define different 'leagues' by same methods as per the way we see Julia Reberts and Randy Travis...just a thought.

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By *unLovingCriminalMan
over a year ago

Somewhere

I think the only restrictions are peoples tastes and age ranges etc.. After that it's just a matter of chemistry.. We all have the responsibility to respect each others preferences but not at the cost of belittling others and making them feel less than or not good enough, but like everything some people just don't practice that.

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By *lay rock69Man
over a year ago

monaghan

"Connection and chemistry is more important than just attraction. "

100% agree

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By *imonlebangMan
over a year ago

Casa Lebang Bang

Lolly I don't believe in Leagues . People who make that sort of comment are very narrow minded.

Everyone have different qualities.

You can't quantify kindness , manners , humour, or chemistry in any league table.

It's simple ...it takes all sorts ...

Julia Reberts married Randy Travis...point being

So by calling others narrow minded are you not implying you're better than them?

Maybe we don't all define different 'leagues' by same methods as per the way we see Julia Reberts and Randy Travis...just a thought."

I am not better than anyone else ...just more open minded and take people as I find them ....everyone has qualities and characteristics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont feel im out of anyones league. I do know that Im not everyones cup of tea and certain ones wouldnt be my cup of tea. But at the end of the day, we are no better or worse than the next person.

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By *eaAndBenCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

Probably depends on whether you’re naturally an optimist, a realist or a pessimist!

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By *lose_encounterMan
over a year ago

Cork city

personaly i dont think in terms of league. but taste. i'm a confident guy. but i aint delusional lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my opinion there are so many people out of my league on here! But everyone has different tastes so... I don't like the idea of leagues. Sure, someone could look like Chris Hemsworth but they might be absolutely zero craic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s all about confidence in your self. You’re someone’s cup of tea and not others. I don’t take it personally. I did when I first joined here but I’ve learned to not take it personally. There’s a block button there that people use, people judge by a profile let them off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it’s all about confidence in your self. You’re someone’s cup of tea and not others. I don’t take it personally. I did when I first joined here but I’ve learned to not take it personally. There’s a block button there that people use, people judge by a profile let them off

You're a hottie

xxx

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By *13_hercMan
over a year ago

Blackrock

Are we not all in the same league ? Of course there are times when your feelings/likes are not reciprocated - that's true in all walks of life. It's how you deal with the knock-backs that count.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont have to think it been told it a few time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're a hottie

xxx"

Says herself

xxx

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

This is actually quite complicated . I think we can say it’s essentially about incompatibility but

if y is incompatible with x because y prefers confident people who are size blah blah

And x longs for y but won’t get a look in

And x is on a website where there are 20 of x for every Y

Then we’re societally conditioned to think that X is not in Y’s league. X will probably think that too.

All you can do if you’re at risk of being x is work on being a version of yourself you’re happy with . If that means staying the same , then great . If it means working on yourself physically or mentally great . Once you’re happy with who you are , y not being willing to meet you is Frankly his/her loss .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in a league of my own x

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By *aucyladMan
over a year ago

Dublin

I think some are out of my league based on looks alone,but I'd like to think on personality and character I'd compete with the rest and the best. But are there people who I'd feel I'd not have a chance with on looks alone, probably yeah, but it doesn't bother to be honest because looks is only one of the qualities I look for so if you got looks and none of the other qualities then your not playing against me anyhow!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are we not all in the same league ? Of course there are times when your feelings/likes are not reciprocated - that's true in all walks of life. It's how you deal with the knock-backs that count.

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By *lose_encounterMan
over a year ago

Cork city

"I'm in a league of my own x"

that you are Mrs..carry on with ya bad self

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

One thing that I've noticed on here....some people do seem out of your league when you first join ...its just a normal feeling until you get on your feet.

Then you attend a social and you just click with someone and realise it really is in your head

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

The whole idea of it being someone's loss if they don't want to meet you is a load of codswallop.

How can it be anyone's loss if you aren't what they were looking for in the first place?

That's like saying I missed out on a ticket to see Garth Brooks when I wasn't looking one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The whole idea of it being someone's loss if they don't want to meet you is a load of codswallop.

How can it be anyone's loss if you aren't what they were looking for in the first place?

That's like saying I missed out on a ticket to see Garth Brooks when I wasn't looking one. "

Exactly, it sounds more like a fit of pique from a bruised ego than anything else.

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

But an important issue here is how you feel when ‘rejected’. If you’re not in a good place , you ll think it’s because they’re out of your league . If your head (or body) is in the right place then you might feel it’s because they have spotted an incompatibility which makes you not what they’re looking for . Or , that amongst the sea of messages they get , they failed to spot the gem.

The end result is the same . No meeting . But how you feel shapes what you do next

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By *illyouup400Man
over a year ago

City

"But an important issue here is how you feel when ‘rejected’. If you’re not in a good place , you ll think it’s because they’re out of your league . If your head (or body) is in the right place then you might feel it’s because they have spotted an incompatibility which makes you not what they’re looking for . Or , that amongst the sea of messages they get , they failed to spot the gem.

The end result is the same . No meeting . But how you feel shapes what you do next "

Spot on and so well said!!

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

League... Hard to know what anyone's league is, just as hard as it may be for someone to know what mine is... These things are never straightforward.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"League... Hard to know what anyone's league is, just as hard as it may be for someone to know what mine is... These things are never straightforward. "

Thats some pop up display banner you had made

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

"League... Hard to know what anyone's league is, just as hard as it may be for someone to know what mine is... These things are never straightforward.

Thats some pop up display banner you had made

Call it an investment

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

I feel like this a lot of the time, sometimes it depends on my mood or just how I feel about myself at times, and I suspect it’s the same for many others here.

Intimidated is perhaps a word I’d use, that’s no reflection on any other members here, just how I feel, no one else is making me feel that way nor should anyone tolerate anyone who does.

I think as others have said, it’s a lot about confidence, sometimes I have it, sometimes I don’t and a lot of times it will depend on my own personal feelings about myself at the time and personal circumstances beyond the site.

I’m a pretty normal open guy who can engage and hold a conversation with all types of people in many different settings and situations, I’ve been told I’m a people person (I’m not sure that’s always a good thing or compliment) but I generally don’t compromise my views or opinions just to fit in, although in certain situation it’s easier to just nod and agree, but ultimately, despite the fact that many people consider me to quite confident, I still consider myself shy.

I’ve been in many situations where I’ve felt out of my depth, unpleasant situations that given the choice I probably would have avoided, but regardless of the outcome of those situations, before entering, I’ve always told myself that regardless of the outcome the chances of dying was relatively low and I’ll put them down to experience.

Not all experiences are good, I think personally it’s how I react to those situations that will determine my level of confidence and mood.

I know some have a much higher opinion of my profile here than I have myself, I obviously think they’re just daft, it’s none of my business what others think of me….

Personally I’m quite happy to fake it till I make it.

I’m not surprised others have this opinion about people being out of their league, I am however surprised who some of those people are….

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By *onny1969Man
over a year ago

local

To be honest sometimes I don’t think I’m on the same planet never mind the same league. Women run the division and there are too many men vying for promotion

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By *allyWally19Woman
over a year ago

The Road to Nowhere

I have definitely punched! Shoot for the moon & all that jazz

But ultimately, not everyone is going to be everyone's cup of coffee...be it down to attitude/personality or be it down to looks! Nature of the beast

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By *aint_or_SinnerWoman
over a year ago

South County Dublin

I have definitely punched! Shoot for the moon & all that jazz

But ultimately, not everyone is going to be everyone's cup of coffee...be it down to attitude/personality or be it down to looks! Nature of the beast "

Finally someone talking coffee rather than tea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it's a case of being out of someone's league more so that every individual has a type, looks and personality wise, that they go for. I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea and that's ok because I will be someone else's. I always find it daunting when I meet new people, afraid they won't like me in person but confidence is key and mine has grown over the last few months and I have fab to thank for that. Never feel like you are out of someone's league because your not, its only a case of not being what they are looking for and that's ok .

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By *Belfast_FellaMan
over a year ago

belfast

I don't really like to think of relationships or dynamics that way

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"I don't think it's a case of being out of someone's league more so that every individual has a type, looks and personality wise, that they go for. I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea and that's ok because I will be someone else's. I always find it daunting when I meet new people, afraid they won't like me in person but confidence is key and mine has grown over the last few months and I have fab to thank for that. Never feel like you are out of someone's league because your not, its only a case of not being what they are looking for and that's ok ."

You’re right Mo, but the problem for some I think is that they might see a profile they like, think they match the description of what the person is looking for, message the other person but they don’t either read it, reply to it, or even if they do reply it might not be what they had hoped for and although I’m sure they were happy to at least get a reply I’d can be a bit of a knock back for some, particularly if they’re the type that don’t send a lot of messages to begin with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My style inspiration Dita Von Tease says you can be the juiciest peach in the world but not everyone is going to like peaches! If some thinks they are too good for me I'm totally cool with it. I'm not everyone's cup of tea but I'm somebody else's Jameson over ice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's less that I feel out of someone's league (although I do feel that occasionally) more that even if I think I might be a lady or couple's type, there must surely be a hundred other guys who are preferable to me who they would choose first

So the feelings of inadequacy are born out of that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never feel out of anyone's league, but if I don't match what someone wants then I don't message them. Then I definitely don't message a second time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mean if we're going on pure looks sure some people will be an extra level hotter. Someone's always skinnier, taller, more exotic etc etc. Would never debase myself to say someone's out of my league.

If a woman's super hot but I see common ground like music, style, welcoming body language then I know from experience she'll welcome the conversation with me and I've as much chance as the next guy.

If she's physically attractive but listens to opposite music, dresses in a style that doesn't mesh with mine etc then there's no emotional leverage to bridge that gap and we wouldn't enjoy the interaction enough for sparks to fly. Probably have different values and wouldn't vibe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree 100%

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By *ewrideMan
over a year ago

Definitely not. If they think they're a league above, well then, their loss I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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I kinda agree, possibly not what they're looking for. But it can be hard on here to get noticed on here and may seem they're out of your league

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

I think it's almost part of human nature to doubt ourselves at times. It's a part of what drives and motivates us.

I never think it's because I'm out of their league, just as I don't think someone is "below" my league.

Not everyone will like me on a physical level or a personal level either. That's live. They key is to invest my time and energy into the people who do like me.

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By *issme39Woman
over a year ago

kildare

I have had meets where I thought " damn I am absolutely punching here " however I'm always the same here as i am in real life and for the most part people seem to think im ok

if im honest I think my personality gets me further that my looks but im good with that!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have had meets where I thought " damn I am absolutely punching here " however I'm always the same here as i am in real life and for the most part people seem to think im ok

if im honest I think my personality gets me further that my looks but im good with that!! "

Both make a lasting impression

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By *issme39Woman
over a year ago

kildare

"I have had meets where I thought " damn I am absolutely punching here " however I'm always the same here as i am in real life and for the most part people seem to think im ok

if im honest I think my personality gets me further that my looks but im good with that!!

Both make a lasting impression

right back at you.. was an absolute pleasure to finally put the gorgeous face to the name x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there are a lot of assumptions made about 'popularity' here that are often mistaken.

And what Bog said is right, when you meet in person that mystique is gone and you can just get on with being 2 people checking each other out and seeing if you click. Dont believe the hype

Simples.

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By *OCONO5Couple
over a year ago

Sensual Center

"I have had meets where I thought " damn I am absolutely punching here " however I'm always the same here as i am in real life and for the most part people seem to think im ok

if im honest I think my personality gets me further that my looks but im good with that!! "

Personality is so the most important

Part for us ...if you cant have a laugh and the crack if the bedroom it's going to be a crap meet

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

Out of peoples league ffs I am lucky to make the sunday pub league not to mind the premiership

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By *issme39Woman
over a year ago

kildare

"I have had meets where I thought " damn I am absolutely punching here " however I'm always the same here as i am in real life and for the most part people seem to think im ok

if im honest I think my personality gets me further that my looks but im good with that!!

Personality is so the most important

Part for us ...if you cant have a laugh and the crack if the bedroom it's going to be a crap meet

so agree with this guys xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No such thing as out of someone's league on here.we are all normal folk behind ur profile no matter what way the person comes across or portrays.

Now being a back up plan or option until the one they would really want to meet is a totally different thread though

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By *irtypair00Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

It's not so much out of anyone's league . It's more a lack of self confidence and the fear of rejection . It can be so bad at times you can be afraid to even approach someone

. Thats why I love a good kik group before a party/social to break the ice . Helps when I've a great face for radio

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By *ardyboy54321Man
over a year ago

Fermanagh

As said before it's all down to personality and laughter lines in my humble opinion and a good wiggle helps also

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"As said before it's all down to personality and laughter lines in my humble opinion and a good wiggle helps also

Ffs hardy they aren't laughter lines they are crevices

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By *irtypair00Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

"As said before it's all down to personality and laughter lines in my humble opinion and a good wiggle helps also

Haha ffs Hardy nothing humble about you

and lots of road frontage helps too lol

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By *elfastblondMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I'm not out of anyone's league, just a lot of the time we are playing different sports

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By *oody500Man
over a year ago

Bray

Yes definitely

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By *adhatter and coCouple
over a year ago

Middle of mayo n peaceful tranquility

Would definitely dismiss people who I consider out of my league in looks or shape but I also dismiss people who I wouldn’t find attractive . Mid range is good

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By *ollypop9Woman
over a year ago

wouldn't you like to know

Our own thinking and over thinking, can be our worst enemy.

I've done it myself, its been brought to my attention on a few occasions now over the last two months.

I've attended events, I'm very chatty, so I chat away to everyone.

And then because I already think that I'm not someone's cup of tea, I dont go for it, I walk away...

Afterwards being told, they thought I wasn't interested. Missed opportunities, I'm learning from it and promised myself to take more chances.

Sure if they say no they say no....

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By *BW FEMME FATALECouple
over a year ago

Craigavon

100%

I’m an acquired taste!

Hubby wouldn’t be pleased if we met with your Liverpool top on anyway

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By *ouple 0073Couple
over a year ago

donegal

Yes of course.. I think most people feel like this sometimes x

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By *n my radarMan
over a year ago

mayo

Of coarse I be a bit self conscious of trying to.punch above my weight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't necessarily feel like I'm out of their league, but would hold back incase I wouldn't have enough experience for them in certain areas

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By *ullseye100Man
over a year ago

Ireland

We can’t be everyone’s cup of tea

I think it’s quite normal for us all to have doubts and insecurities ever now and then.

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By *unsoundMan
over a year ago

Ennis

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By *unsoundMan
over a year ago

Ennis

Well, when I see "I like them big and thick over 10 inches " I know 100% I'm out of their league!

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By *s Lolly OP Woman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

"Well, when I see "I like them big and thick over 10 inches " I know 100% I'm out of their league!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well when I see their face pic and the look like a model, and I ain't no George Clooney, yes, I feel out of their league!!!

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By *on Draper2.0Man
over a year ago

Maynooth

Are you asking if we feel too good or not good enough for some people?

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By *s Lolly OP Woman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Are you asking if we feel too good or not good enough for some people?"

Yes......

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By *on Draper2.0Man
over a year ago

Maynooth

Are you asking if we feel too good or not good enough for some people?

Yes......"

Which one? lol

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By *s Lolly OP Woman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Are you asking if we feel too good or not good enough for some people?

Yes......

Which one? lol"

Both....

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Are you asking if we feel too good or not good enough for some people?

Yes......

Which one? lol"

The middle one I think

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By *on Draper2.0Man
over a year ago

Maynooth

Well I'm made to feel not good enough, every single day. I know I'm not though so it doesn't really bother me much.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Have to laugh at some of the people on here thinking they're not good enough for others....and me thinking they're absolute rides and some of the best profile pics on the site

Ye must all have heads on ye like a busted cabbage for feck sake

Embrace the fugglies

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By *on Draper2.0Man
over a year ago

Maynooth

"Have to laugh at some of the people on here thinking they're not good enough for others....and me thinking they're absolute rides and some of the best profile pics on the site

Ye must all have heads on ye like a busted cabbage for feck sake

Embrace the fugglies

I had just that conversation recently with one lady who has low self esteem but I couldn't understand why.

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By *unsoundMan
over a year ago

Ennis

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By *unsoundMan
over a year ago

Ennis

I had just that conversation recently with one lady who has low self esteem but I couldn't understand why."

Well same happens at the other end some think they are god gift to the earth and they are genuine swamp donkeys!

A goof friendly down to earth personality goes a long long way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had just that conversation recently with one lady who has low self esteem but I couldn't understand why.

Well same happens at the other end some think they are god gift to the earth and they are genuine swamp donkeys!

A goof friendly down to earth personality goes a long long way "

That's very hurtful to the swamp donkeys!!

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

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By *unsoundMan
over a year ago

Ennis

I had just that conversation recently with one lady who has low self esteem but I couldn't understand why.

Well same happens at the other end some think they are god gift to the earth and they are genuine swamp donkeys!

A goof friendly down to earth personality goes a long long way

That's very hurtful to the swamp donkeys!! "

apologies to any swamp donkey that got their feelings hurt, It was totally intentional!

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I had just that conversation recently with one lady who has low self esteem but I couldn't understand why.

Well same happens at the other end some think they are god gift to the earth and they are genuine swamp donkeys!

A goof friendly down to earth personality goes a long long way

That's very hurtful to the swamp donkeys!! "

But they're genuine

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By *exy naughty couple 2020Couple
over a year ago

Cork

I (Mrs.) personally think that we all have preferences and majority of us have them outlined in the profile description. We do have some as well. With some of them we might be flexible and few are not negotiable.

We might not be someone's choice (or someone might not be our choice) and that is OK, but I do not think that we might be out of someone's league or someone who is not our choice/type is out of our league.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every woman here is outta my league lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Every woman here is outta my league lol"
welcome to the club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Every woman here is outta my league lolwelcome to the club "

Lol

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By *ightower2021Man
over a year ago

donegal

Must be out of everyone's league

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I (Mrs.) personally think that we all have preferences and majority of us have them outlined in the profile description. We do have some as well. With some of them we might be flexible and few are not negotiable.

And yet your profile is a homage to yourselves ,, self indulgent and narcissitic

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By *appyPandaMan
over a year ago

Kilkenny, but Dublin is more fun

And yet your profile is a homage to yourselves ,, self indulgent and narcissitic "

Didn't get any sense of them being self indulgent or narcissistic through their profile at all. It was all very clear and explained exactly what they wanted, and not shallow at all.

Are you sure it's not your own bitterness that's making you think that way about them? People aren't here to fuck you. They're here to have fun with good company.

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By *appyPandaMan
over a year ago

Kilkenny, but Dublin is more fun

And as for me, I don't believe so. I honestly prefer to get to know someone with matching personality and who I can get along with over focusing on appearance. Times are much more fun when you can be relaxed in their company and have the craic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have a league

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway

And yet your profile is a homage to yourselves ,, self indulgent and narcissitic "

Isn’t everyone’s profile an homage to themselves

It’s your attitude that is putting others out of your league

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its like im in league 2 down round the bottom and the women on here are top 4 in the Premier league

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And yet your profile is a homage to yourselves ,, self indulgent and narcissitic

Didn't get any sense of them being self indulgent or narcissistic through their profile at all. It was all very clear and explained exactly what they wanted, and not shallow at all.

Are you sure it's not your own bitterness that's making you think that way about them? People aren't here to fuck you. They're here to have fun with good company."

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And yet your profile is a homage to yourselves ,, self indulgent and narcissitic

Isn’t everyone’s profile an homage to themselves

It’s your attitude that is putting others out of your league

Good reply

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By *man79Man
over a year ago

newry dundalk. warrenpoint

Think of the highest league ever. Look above that league. It’s there u will find me

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By *exy naughty couple 2020Couple
over a year ago

Cork

And yet your profile is a homage to yourselves ,, self indulgent and narcissitic "

Our profile description is so standard, that a lot of genuine profiles would have some aspects of it,except ( most likely) diferent preferences, likes/dislikes and choice of words to present themselvs in order to attract spesific audience. This also saves the time for everyone.

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion.

P/S:Thank you for taking the time to read our profile.

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By *exy naughty couple 2020Couple
over a year ago

Cork

And yet your profile is a homage to yourselves ,, self indulgent and narcissitic

Didn't get any sense of them being self indulgent or narcissistic through their profile at all. It was all very clear and explained exactly what they wanted, and not shallow at all.

Are you sure it's not your own bitterness that's making you think that way about them? People aren't here to fuck you. They're here to have fun with good company."

Well said, HappyPanda. Thank you, you are a gentleman

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By *oserMan
over a year ago

where the wild roses grow

And yet your profile is a homage to yourselves ,, self indulgent and narcissitic

Didn't get any sense of them being self indulgent or narcissistic through their profile at all. It was all very clear and explained exactly what they wanted, and not shallow at all.

Are you sure it's not your own bitterness that's making you think that way about them? People aren't here to fuck you. They're here to have fun with good company.

Well said, HappyPanda. Thank you, you are a gentleman

HP is good sauce

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope I never think that way

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By *1n_eaterMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Not at all. Although plenty on here think they're out of everyone's league

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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I feel like that all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m the mayo GAA football team of Fab …

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

I prefer someone who makes me laugh rather then just looks nice

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By *obshortMan
over a year ago

Cork

would ave to say yes its quiet similar to lifestyles people are in different leagues and theres just some I just wouldnt message knowing there wouldnt be a hope of getting a reply.its in everday life also not just fab"

Won't get a reply, because you think that they wouldn't bother with the likes of you.. Because they look down on people like us, mortals.

At the end of the day we all breath the same air. Have to wipe our own ass. And yes their shit also smells.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I prefer someone who makes me laugh rather then just looks nice"

Brilliant comment.

Same as me.

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