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By *lose_encounter OP   Man
over a year ago

Cork city

recently this site has started to give me back problems. the amount of conversations you gotta carry on this site.

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick


"recently this site has started to give me back problems. the amount of conversations you gotta carry on this site."

On the forums or private messaging?

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By *lose_encounter OP   Man
over a year ago

Cork city


"recently this site has started to give me back problems. the amount of conversations you gotta carry on this site.

On the forums or private messaging?"

PMs...don't mean friendly chats or just plain disinterest. you can tell the diff

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By *on Draper2.0Man
over a year ago

Maynooth

I'm not seeing the issue here. Conversation is part of the process of getting to know someone.

What would you prefer to happen?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes this as above

Sometimes you gotta do the groundwork...but it pays off ten fold

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By *on Draper2.0Man
over a year ago

Maynooth


"Yes this as above

Sometimes you gotta do the groundwork...but it pays off ten fold "

Not even about groundwork. It's just being a normal person right?

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By *lose_encounter OP   Man
over a year ago

Cork city

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By *on Draper2.0Man
over a year ago

Maynooth


"I'm not seeing the issue here. Conversation is part of the process of getting to know someone.

What would you prefer to happen?

so..you're fine with line after line three word sentences with little input responses? ok...not be though. "

No, I just tend to write a bit more. Some people are shy, others are guarded. You have to put a little effort in to get effort back a lot of the time.

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By *lose_encounter OP   Man
over a year ago

Cork city


"Yes this as above

Sometimes you gotta do the groundwork...but it pays off ten fold

Not even about groundwork. It's just being a normal person right?"

so..you're fine with line after line three word sentences with little input responses? ok...not me though. however..i do find when someone is surprised when interest is lost humorous

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By *lose_encounter OP   Man
over a year ago

Cork city


"I'm not seeing the issue here. Conversation is part of the process of getting to know someone.

What would you prefer to happen?

so..you're fine with line after line three word sentences with little input responses? ok...not be though.

No, I just tend to write a bit more. Some people are shy, others are guarded. You have to put a little effort in to get effort back a lot of the time. "

oh i agree totally. but you can only do so much. before its just like talking to an 8 ball

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1st world problems

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

I get bored easily so after a few messages if i feel it's going nowhere im gone and lost interest....

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By *lose_encounter OP   Man
over a year ago

Cork city


"I get bored easily so after a few messages if i feel it's going nowhere im gone and lost interest...."

oh that i get and understand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just means you aren't very compatible.

I dont expect to have fantastic conversations with everyone. If its dragging I move along fairly quickly

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"Just means you aren't very compatible.

I dont expect to have fantastic conversations with everyone. If its dragging I move along fairly quickly "

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just means you aren't very compatible.

I dont expect to have fantastic conversations with everyone. If its dragging I move along fairly quickly "

This.

I find it's either there or it isn't. That elusive "it". And I'd say the conversations where there is a real spark are in the minority. Sure it's the same in the real world too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just means you aren't very compatible.

I dont expect to have fantastic conversations with everyone. If its dragging I move along fairly quickly

This.

I find it's either there or it isn't. That elusive "it". And I'd say the conversations where there is a real spark are in the minority. Sure it's the same in the real world too"

This again, very few people interest me offline so why would online be any different

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

This isn't just a fab issue. I learned years ago that many people are happy to let others carry conversations and do the heavy lifting. One of the main reasons I don't have any old school friends.

On here, once I realise I'm talking to my own echo I just let it go.

Hence why I make it clear in my profile that all conversations have to be two way or don't bother.

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man
over a year ago

City Centre, Dublin


"Yes this as above

Sometimes you gotta do the groundwork...but it pays off ten fold

Not even about groundwork. It's just being a normal person right?

so..you're fine with line after line three word sentences with little input responses? ok...not me though. however..i do find when someone is surprised when interest is lost humorous"

Why don’t you just drop the conversations then?

You’re obviously carrying on as you want the spoils but don’t want to do anything to get it

“Jeez I’m sick of talking to these bores who can’t carry a conversation but I’ll keep going as I want to ride them“

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes this as above

Sometimes you gotta do the groundwork...but it pays off ten fold

Not even about groundwork. It's just being a normal person right?

so..you're fine with line after line three word sentences with little input responses? ok...not me though. however..i do find when someone is surprised when interest is lost humorous

Why don’t you just drop the conversations then?

You’re obviously carrying on as you want the spoils but don’t want to do anything to get it

“Jeez I’m sick of talking to these bores who can’t carry a conversation but I’ll keep going as I want to ride them“"

When you put it like that, who could resist?

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By *lose_encounter OP   Man
over a year ago

Cork city


"Yes this as above

Sometimes you gotta do the groundwork...but it pays off ten fold

Not even about groundwork. It's just being a normal person right?

so..you're fine with line after line three word sentences with little input responses? ok...not me though. however..i do find when someone is surprised when interest is lost humorous

Why don’t you just drop the conversations then?

You’re obviously carrying on as you want the spoils but don’t want to do anything to get it

“Jeez I’m sick of talking to these bores who can’t carry a conversation but I’ll keep going as I want to ride them“"

not sure if you're comprehending what i'm saying. or you're not actually reading what i'm saying. but you keep polishing your shiny armor.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes this as above

Sometimes you gotta do the groundwork...but it pays off ten fold

Not even about groundwork. It's just being a normal person right?

so..you're fine with line after line three word sentences with little input responses? ok...not me though. however..i do find when someone is surprised when interest is lost humorous

Why don’t you just drop the conversations then?

You’re obviously carrying on as you want the spoils but don’t want to do anything to get it

“Jeez I’m sick of talking to these bores who can’t carry a conversation but I’ll keep going as I want to ride them“

not sure if you're comprehending what i'm saying. or you're not actually reading what i'm saying. but you keep polishing your shiny armor. "

I think that's actually his body lad...

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By *lose_encounter OP   Man
over a year ago

Cork city


"Yes this as above

Sometimes you gotta do the groundwork...but it pays off ten fold

Not even about groundwork. It's just being a normal person right?

so..you're fine with line after line three word sentences with little input responses? ok...not me though. however..i do find when someone is surprised when interest is lost humorous

Why don’t you just drop the conversations then?

You’re obviously carrying on as you want the spoils but don’t want to do anything to get it

“Jeez I’m sick of talking to these bores who can’t carry a conversation but I’ll keep going as I want to ride them“

not sure if you're comprehending what i'm saying. or you're not actually reading what i'm saying. but you keep polishing your shiny armor.

I think that's actually his body lad...

"

lol...touché.

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By *aint_or_SinnerWoman
over a year ago

South County Dublin


"I'm not seeing the issue here. Conversation is part of the process of getting to know someone.

What would you prefer to happen?

so..you're fine with line after line three word sentences with little input responses? ok...not be though.

No, I just tend to write a bit more. Some people are shy, others are guarded. You have to put a little effort in to get effort back a lot of the time.

oh i agree totally. but you can only do so much. before its just like talking to an 8 ball"

I think that some people really don't have the ability to converse through writing. Some people find it much more difficult than others to express themselves in that format.

And maybe sometimes, or even a lot of the time, they're exactly the people who will converse much more proficiently in person!

I know some of the conversations I've had are tedious, like pulling teeth and then there are those that flow

Doesn't mean it works out that way when you happen to meet them unfortunately

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