FabSwingers.com forum: How do you react when rejected?

By *ofusplus OP Couple
over a year ago

Limerick

We'd always respond to a message where effort was clearly made, whether it's to chat or to give a polite 'no'.

How the 'no' profiles react to rejection however is the key. Profiles mostly don't respond, some reply with put-downs but the ones who take it gracefully, thank us and wish us luck are often then hotlisted because it suggests that they are:

1. Respectful

2. Smart

3. People we may like to connect with down the line

Do you agree?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We'd always respond to a message where effort was clearly made, whether it's to chat or to give a polite 'no'.

1. Respectful

2. Smart

3. People we may like to connect with down the line

Do you agree?"

Absolutely.

Alot is down to timing. Why would anyone turn nasty is beyond me.

The key is always be respectful. We all have different wants and needs.

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By *nFlynnMan
over a year ago

Dublin

I would always be polite in a first email and if I receive a polite decline I would always wish the person well and leave them in peace.

I can understand why people don’t reply at all to emails as this can open a door to a flood of messages

Wishing you both the best!

Flynn

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Or they are cunning and devious know that coming across as polite in those scenarios has longer term benefits?

But I'm just the cynical type.

Although, I don't necessarily think there's anything wrong with doing that either.

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By *aint_or_SinnerWoman
over a year ago

South County Dublin

"We'd always respond to a message where effort was clearly made, whether it's to chat or to give a polite 'no'.

1. Respectful

2. Smart

3. People we may like to connect with down the line

Do you agree?"

Agree wholeheartedly! Notes are a profile's best friend too...if not hot listed, then certainly a note left on profile with the kind of interaction had...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never responded rudely to a no. In fact I've always thanked them for at least replying.

I don't know why it should be any different. Ridiculous to take it personally and its these people that bring down the whole lifestyle as an experience.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

It doesn't just happen here. I had to cut ties with a company years ago that I was working in conjunction with because of the way they reacted to customer feedback.

If a customer chose a different supplier I thanked them for their business to that point and hoped we may be able to do business again in the future.

The other company we were in partnership with basically told them they were idiots and burned every bridge so we dissolved the partnership arrangement.

In 5 years here I can honestly say I've only ever had one message saying I wasn't someone's type so I've never really had to react to being told no. Usually conversations just fizzle out.

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By *on Draper2.0Man
over a year ago

Maynooth

I'd like to think that going away and leaving her alone to realise her mistake is respectful

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By *ig Marko83Man
over a year ago

Co Dublin

"We'd always respond to a message where effort was clearly made, whether it's to chat or to give a polite 'no'.

1. Respectful

2. Smart

3. People we may like to connect with down the line

Do you agree?"
agreed manners cost nothing and its always nice to be nice !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree timing has a lot to do with it. Ive politely declined guys but then met them at a later stage so its good not to burn bridges. One in particular i should have left declined...but that's another story

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree timing has a lot to do with it. Ive politely declined guys but then met them at a later stage so its good not to burn bridges. One in particular i should have left declined...but that's another story

Sounds like a interesting story. Lol. But so true.

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

I never react badly . I tend to oscillate between neurotic mess and overconfidence but sometimes think ‘it’s her/their loss’. There are so many more fish in the sea I guess . Occasionally I block just to avoid a repeat if a request for a coffee meet is turned down . There is nothing more awkward than a second no and if I have spent a bit of time chatting , there is no other place this could go other than coffee or bust , then best we just don’t interact . I don’t see blocking as reacting badly , and would prefer a similar action from others if they felt similarly . One can always chat on the forum if there was a topic which lent itself to further chat

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By *OCONO5Couple
over a year ago

Sensual Center

It's no problem..wasn't meant to be ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A man will likely be rejected 95% of the time in his life. If he still reacts by sulking or lashing out well into his 20s or 30s, he seriously needs therapy. As for women, I've found they're not used to and can't handle rejection very well either. On the rare occasion I did reject a woman, it just spurred her on after me. Unintentionally mind you, reverse psychology and all that juvenile shite.

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By *ightower2021Man
over a year ago

donegal

Appreciate a polite no much more than being ignored an always polite back thank them wish them well its only manners all round

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

I disappear to a dark room and put my Adele CDs on repeat for a little cry (yes I did say CD)...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would agree. Obviously I’m disappointed at the refusal but at the end of the day it’s easier to be polite. Being rude doesn’t do anyone any favours

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By *obshortMan
over a year ago

Cork

People show their true self. By the way they take being refused. When I worked security and if people got angry and annoyed by being told no at the door. All they are doing is, telling me that I was correct in stopping them. If can stay civil and good humoured. I very often let them in.

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By *shoreMan
over a year ago

cork

Been rejected.... Shit happens... Sex is a 2 way street...

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Whats this rejected thing you speak of...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whats this rejected thing you speak of...

When ya ask for eggs and they say sorry not for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say, thank you, you have my respect and I hope you have a great day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't be everyone's cup of tea so it's a simple, No probs and Happy Fabbing

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"Whats this rejected thing you speak of...

When ya ask for eggs and they say sorry not for me

Still hurts Jock....too soon

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By *ineapple_PrincessWoman
over a year ago

in the waves

I get all stroppy and ask them if they know who they're saying no to! Usually throw in a few insults for good measure. Followed by 'Your Loss'

Then I block them.. Obviously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People show their true self. By the way they take being refused. When I worked security and if people got angry and annoyed by being told no at the door. All they are doing is, telling me that I was correct in stopping them. If can stay civil and good humoured. I very often let them in. "

Bit of respect goes a long way

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By *ofusplus OP Couple
over a year ago

Limerick

Excellent points by yourself and RealityBites. People who react badly here will also react badly to rejection in other scenarios

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By *angtasticallyMan
over a year ago

Drogheda

Never be nasty the door mite open in the future

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I find most are polite if I say no thanks to them .It can be like others say just bad timing. The odd person gets stroppy and they usually get blocked or a note saying they got stroppy and to avoid if they message again.The polite people sometimes get a nicer note on theirs.

When I rejected I stay polite as well I don't see the point in getting abusive or stroppy. All that ever does is proves the person's initial no was the right move.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never responded rudely to a no. In fact I've always thanked them for at least replying.

I don't know why it should be any different. Ridiculous to take it personally and its these people that bring down the whole lifestyle as an experience."

Then I cry into my pillow.

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By *ohnsmenameMan
over a year ago

Greystones

Thank them for their reply and wish them happy fabbing.

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By *limfitladMan
over a year ago

Dublin

I really appreciate a polite no...

as has been stated.. @ 99% rejects - i'm very appreciative of any reply.

(i have had several no - "not with the state of your head"

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"I find most are polite if I say no thanks to them .It can be like others say just bad timing. The odd person gets stroppy and they usually get blocked or a note saying they got stroppy and to avoid if they message again.The polite people sometimes get a nicer note on theirs.

When I rejected I stay polite as well I don't see the point in getting abusive or stroppy. All that ever does is proves the person's initial no was the right move. "

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

I hex them into oblivion, screech and wail whyyyyyyy and then go on a rant about what theyre obviously missing and its their loss. Then cry d*unkenly in corner.

No i dont do any of that. To be fair the vast majority either dont reply or say thanks for reply happy fabbing. Have only had a small amount of abuse which has been on an extreme scale but everyones brave behind a screen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally agree with OP I go through periods of not meeting because of college family etc. So the respectful polite responses to my not meeting replies stand out. I've even suggested to friends to check out their profiles.

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By *heFoxersCouple
over a year ago

FoxTown

Totally agree costs nothing to be polite and we respond to messages even if it's a thanks for the message but no but happy Fabbing all the best.

Yes some get nasty & blocked no need for that

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By *Belfast_FellaMan
over a year ago

belfast

I take it perfectly well. After all, practice makes perfect!

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By *illyouup400Man
over a year ago

City

Dsepite the disappointment, it costs nothing to be nice.

I really appreciate a message, even if its a 'no thanks', and would always acknowledge it back.

Manners, make'd the man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we're rejecting we usually get a polite mail back. Think we only got a shitty once and that was a couple who thought we would drop everything for them. As for taking rejection its a standard no problem happy fabbing reply. No point being rude about it.

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

When we get rejected we just send a thank you for the reply message and move on, we have been on the receiving end of nasty messages in return of rejecting in the past

Mrs Gs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Totally agree costs nothing to be polite and we respond to messages even if it's a thanks for the message but no but happy Fabbing all the best.

Yes some get nasty & blocked no need for that"

Totally agree with you foxers

A simple No not for us or whatever speaks a thousand words and 99.9% of the time gets a pleasant reply

Nothing as bad as sending a nice pleasant text , the recipient reads it and that’s it … it’s a kind of an insult or bad manners on their behalf

You Reap what you Sow and they wonder why they get abuse

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

"When we get rejected we just send a thank you for the reply message and move on, we have been on the receiving end of nasty messages in return of rejecting in the past

Mrs Gs"

You get rejected ?!

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

"When we get rejected we just send a thank you for the reply message and move on, we have been on the receiving end of nasty messages in return of rejecting in the past

Mrs Gs

You get rejected ?!

We certainly do

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man
over a year ago

City Centre, Dublin

When I get rejected (which is often) I usually reenact the pretty woman shopping scene

“You made a big mistake!

Big!

HUGE!”

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

"Or they are cunning and devious know that coming across as polite in those scenarios has longer term benefits?

But I'm just the cynical type.

Although, I don't necessarily think there's anything wrong with doing that either. "

Yes I think the manipulation narrative is overplayed at times tbh . People are here largely for sex plus miscellaneous . They ll present their best side . Best pic, bio , aspects of personality . If one is looking for a relationship or a deep friendship then great look for great compatibility and honesty. But someone who you connect with to an extent who might be overselling aspects of themselves (not fabricating or outright lying) is probably expected event to an extent. They’re trying to get sex . They’re not gonna tell you they’re terrible when held to account or given negative feedback . It’s just sex , mostly

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By *ogladyWoman
over a year ago

The bog

I just go out and ride the next person..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always reply respectfully when I get a not interested or not for us/me. Whats the point of getting nasty. People talk to each other on here privately. We are all supposed to be adults , not strung out teenagers.

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By *ofusplus OP Couple
over a year ago

Limerick

"Or they are cunning and devious know that coming across as polite in those scenarios has longer term benefits?

But I'm just the cynical type.

Although, I don't necessarily think there's anything wrong with doing that either.

Aaahhh but when they are rejected, the mask can slip and that's where they get caught out. People who take the time to respond gracefully are generally ok I think. That was what I was getting at

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had lots of thanks but no thanks messages from people. I always respond with a message saying “thanks for responding back and best of luck in the future”. I really don’t get why anybody gets abusive or nasty. Yes it’s annoying if you get a “no”message and particularly if you are fairly sure you match their criteria but feck it. Move on.

Me personally I’m just looking for that elusive veri to take off here. Was unlucky to meet unverified on here twice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kicking and screaming on the floor in isle 4 of Tesco

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Curl up in the corner and try and deal with that awful pang.

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

Shout NEXT

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

I take rejection very well,but I know people who know people ill leave it there

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

"Or they are cunning and devious know that coming across as polite in those scenarios has longer term benefits?

But I'm just the cynical type.

Although, I don't necessarily think there's anything wrong with doing that either.

People are just here from sex mostly, I do agree with that. Problem is for most people sex is the hardest thing to get on fab! Coffee meets, social events etc are all quite probably easier for most guys to get. It's getting sex that is the trickiest and most elusive.

That's why you have to play the game of fab though and market yourself accordingly.

I don't know if the manipulation part is that overplayed. It depends on what you definite it as. How many people are here behind their partners back, Claiming to be an age they aren't, claiming to be a height they aren't, claiming to be well endowed. We all have our own lines and what is/isn't acceptable to blur the lines on.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even Tom Hardy would be rejected on FAB ("Sorry girls, he just wasn't my type"

) ...so you can't take things personally

A simple "Best of luck" or "Happy Fabbing" to someone who chooses not to take things further shows...

1. You carry yourself with a bit of class

2. You have an abundance mentality

and

3. You don't burn bridges as the community is relatively small and a lot of people know each other here and talk...

So, if you get "rejected" just remember your profile is merely a few typed lines and a cheeky pic about you and not the real, authentic you that all your friends and family care about and love!

So stay safe and be nice to each other Fab f*ckers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a profile takes the time to reply with a no, then I would send a last message to say thanks letting me know and have fun in the future or something along those lines.

If a profile reads the message and does not reply then I just delete all sent and received messages and forget about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And use it as an excuse to break out the hard stuff......chocolate!

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By *on Draper2.0Man
over a year ago

Maynooth

I think that if a man genuinely likes a woman, if she rejects him in a compassionate and nice way, then he won't have a negative reaction because he still likes her regardless. I know this place is mostly about physical intimacy but.......there are friendships made on here that go beyond that. If a guy reacts badly to a rejection of that type, then she was right to reject him because he only saw her as a place to park his chicken nugget for a while.

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

"Or they are cunning and devious know that coming across as polite in those scenarios has longer term benefits?

But I'm just the cynical type.

Although, I don't necessarily think there's anything wrong with doing that either.

That's why you have to play the game of fab though and market yourself accordingly.

Very easy to cut through that

If they’re claiming to be single why can’t they accommodate at home in the evenings or why aren’t they available at weekends ?

If they’re claiming to be wrong age or height then a coffee meet will sort

Well endowed ? Well subjective I guess anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think that if a man genuinely likes a woman, if she rejects him in a compassionate and nice way, then he won't have a negative reaction because he still likes her regardless. I know this place is mostly about physical intimacy but.......there are friendships made on here that go beyond that. If a guy reacts badly to a rejection of that type, then she was right to reject him because he only saw her as a place to park his chicken nugget for a while."

Id prefer at least a drumstick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When we get rejected we just send a thank you for the reply message and move on, we have been on the receiving end of nasty messages in return of rejecting in the past

Mrs Gs

You get rejected ?!

We certainly do"

Think was cause ya started supporting Czech Republic, lesson learnt

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By *eralt80Man
over a year ago

cork

Just curl up in a ball and cry. Also ice cream and chocolate help a lot.

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By *issme39Woman
over a year ago

kildare

"Or they are cunning and devious know that coming across as polite in those scenarios has longer term benefits?

But I'm just the cynical type.

Although, I don't necessarily think there's anything wrong with doing that either.

That's why you have to play the game of fab though and market yourself accordingly.

Very easy to cut through that

If they’re claiming to be single why can’t they accommodate at home in the evenings or why aren’t they available at weekends ?

If they’re claiming to be wrong age or height then a coffee meet will sort

Well endowed ? Well subjective I guess anyway "

Im single but don't accommodate at my home as its my daughters home..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just go out and ride the next person.."

- that will learn em

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we message someone and they look at it and don't reply we give it time as they might be getting a load of messages and if sometime goes by and still nothing we just deleted it and move on but it is a bit annoying if that same person keeps going on and viewing your profile. Like why do that

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Very easy to cut through that

If they’re claiming to be single why can’t they accommodate at home in the evenings or why aren’t they available at weekends ?

If they’re claiming to be wrong age or height then a coffee meet will sort

Well endowed ? Well subjective I guess anyway

Im single but don't accommodate at my home as its my daughters home.. "

I don't accomadate because I don't want to it's that simple.If I meet someone for a while then ye but no way would I bring people I barely know to my home or let them know my address. And when I see men can't accommodate I usually thinks it's probably for the same reasons .

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By *ogladyWoman
over a year ago

The bog

"Kicking and screaming on the floor in isle 4 of Tesco

I'll put wet floor sign's around ya so ya dont get ran over with trollys cause I give great customer service like that..

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By *illyouup400Man
over a year ago

City

Eat the chocolate and ice cream from the fridge, no point in wasting it

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By *ORDERMANMan
over a year ago

wrexham

"We'd always respond to a message where effort was clearly made, whether it's to chat or to give a polite 'no'.

1. Respectful

2. Smart

3. People we may like to connect with down the line

Do you agree?agreed manners cost nothing and its always nice to be nice !!!!"

Manners maketh the man

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

"When we get rejected we just send a thank you for the reply message and move on, we have been on the receiving end of nasty messages in return of rejecting in the past

Mrs Gs

You get rejected ?!

We certainly do

Think was cause ya started supporting Czech Republic, lesson learnt

Will see who we cheer for after the play off draw Friday

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

"Or they are cunning and devious know that coming across as polite in those scenarios has longer term benefits?

But I'm just the cynical type.

Although, I don't necessarily think there's anything wrong with doing that either.

That's why you have to play the game of fab though and market yourself accordingly.

Very easy to cut through that

If they’re claiming to be single why can’t they accommodate at home in the evenings or why aren’t they available at weekends ?

If they’re claiming to be wrong age or height then a coffee meet will sort

Well endowed ? Well subjective I guess anyway

Im single but don't accommodate at my home as its my daughters home.. "

It was just an example . There d be other tell tale signs if they’re lying about their relationship status like not wanting to be seen in public etc . If it’s a deal breaker and one has suspicions then a couple of coffee meets should reveal all

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

If I'm told to feck off....I feck off

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By *aint_or_SinnerWoman
over a year ago

South County Dublin

Do you agree?

Agree wholeheartedly! Notes are a profile's best friend too...if not hot listed, then certainly a note left on profile with the kind of interaction had..."

Nobody has ever dared reject me - except that one time, at band camp

I didn't come out of my room for twenty odd years

- better dust myself off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aahh...band camp loved it

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By *r_mrs_studmuffinCouple
over a year ago

narnia

Your not going to be everyone’s cup of tea and that’s ok! I always thank them for their honesty and reply and wish them a happy fabbing journey

manners cost nothing

Mrs xxx

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south

"Your not going to be everyone’s cup of tea and that’s ok! I always thank them for their honesty and reply and wish them a happy fabbing journey

manners cost nothing

Mrs xxx"
Timing , Not even single guys can do the drop of a hat and I have many hats

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your not going to be everyone’s cup of tea and that’s ok! I always thank them for their honesty and reply and wish them a happy fabbing journey

manners cost nothing

Mrs xxxTiming , Not even single guys can do the drop of a hat and I have many hats

Everyone has a life off fab. Even single lads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take it like a man and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even Tom Hardy would be rejected on FAB ("Sorry girls, he just wasn't my type"

) ...so you can't take things personally

A simple "Best of luck" or "Happy Fabbing" to someone who chooses not to take things further shows...

1. You carry yourself with a bit of class

2. You have an abundance mentality

and

3. You don't burn bridges as the community is relatively small and a lot of people know each other here and talk...

So, if you get "rejected" just remember your profile is merely a few typed lines and a cheeky pic about you and not the real, authentic you that all your friends and family care about and love!

So stay safe and be nice to each other Fab f*ckers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or they are cunning and devious know that coming across as polite in those scenarios has longer term benefits?

But I'm just the cynical type.

Although, I don't necessarily think there's anything wrong with doing that either.

That's why you have to play the game of fab though and market yourself accordingly.

Very easy to cut through that

If they’re claiming to be single why can’t they accommodate at home in the evenings or why aren’t they available at weekends ?

If they’re claiming to be wrong age or height then a coffee meet will sort

Well endowed ? Well subjective I guess anyway

Im single but don't accommodate at my home as its my daughters home.. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or they are cunning and devious know that coming across as polite in those scenarios has longer term benefits?

But I'm just the cynical type.

Although, I don't necessarily think there's anything wrong with doing that either.

That's why you have to play the game of fab though and market yourself accordingly.

Very easy to cut through that

If they’re claiming to be single why can’t they accommodate at home in the evenings or why aren’t they available at weekends ?

If they’re claiming to be wrong age or height then a coffee meet will sort

Well endowed ? Well subjective I guess anyway

Im single but don't accommodate at my home as its my daughters home..

I’m single but unfortunately I don’t live on my own and live with family until I can get my own place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually get no response.. which is a response!! Then end up rocking in a corner in the dark? Lol

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By *ofusplus OP Couple
over a year ago

Limerick

Thanks for the replies

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south

"Thanks for the replies

"
Thanks for the great videos homage to the great benny hill

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"We'd always respond to a message where effort was clearly made, whether it's to chat or to give a polite 'no'.

1. Respectful

2. Smart

3. People we may like to connect with down the line

Do you agree?"

I’m shy so it’s easier not to ask questions I may not like the answer to…..

, but I cannot understand anything beyond “thanks for the reply and hope you have fun”, I just don’t understand what’s to be gained from anything else, but I hope the above might show what can be lost with a reply that’s abusive, rude or nasty as opposed to just being polite.

But I’d imagine it’s a pretty good way to gage what the original sender is really like….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah but in fairness Tubridy is a pain ..

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

Rejection is too strong a term; declined at this particular time is possibly more apt.

The swinging community in Ireland is relatively small and a bad attitude, boorishness, disrespect or nastiness will win no new friends.

Graciousness in defeat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No reply ,then its block so I never contact the person again and delete the sent message.

Simples

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

I don't know yet

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By *he MickMan
over a year ago

southside

"We'd always respond to a message where effort was clearly made, whether it's to chat or to give a polite 'no'.

1. Respectful

2. Smart

3. People we may like to connect with down the line

Do you agree?"

More often than not I block so as not to message them again as I think some girls get irritated by the same guys messaging them. Not that I'm upset in any way , just saves me from pestering .

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By *entlegiant64Man
over a year ago

craigavon

If im rejected gracefully or rudely , i never fail to reply with a gentleman answer and i will never be swayed from that .and wish them all the very best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I throw myself on the ground and wail

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By *issme39Woman
over a year ago

kildare

call them a load of horrible names.. oh wait sorry that's what get done to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"call them a load of horrible names.. oh wait sorry that's what get done to me

I didn't!!

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

The key to dealing with any form of rejection, throughout life, is to have so many other options, so many strings to one's bows, that rejection by one individual or organisation becomes an irrelevance.

I learned this lesson decades ago; other options helps to make you more resilient and capable of continuing, in whatever it is you want to do.

Sometimes those who reject would like to see you stumped, unable to continue; when they realise how irrelevant they are, by the way you continue on, unfussed and unphased, they are embarrassed and humiliated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I always appreciate a no for whatever reason. Obviously some

Are getting hundreds of messages so I don’t hold it against them if not. I sometimes block a solid no if I’m not for them but more for the reason I don’t mail them again by accident.

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By *lose_encounterMan
over a year ago

Cork city

I don't react. nature of the beast that is Fab. it's a candy store. not a soup kitchen

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By *ind PaddyMan
over a year ago

South County Dublin

No need to get upset or annoyed if you do not get a reply, just move

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By *arajeanCouple
over a year ago

mayo

Move on

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By *unsigntwoCouple
over a year ago

athlone

"Can't be everyone's cup of tea so it's a simple, No probs and Happy Fabbing

We feel the same

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By *hilaboutMan
over a year ago

kilkenny

Your not the only ones feeling that way

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By *en CahillMan
over a year ago

Ratoath

Keep going, my mom taught me if a woman rejects you always be nice and curtious to her but never ask her out again or for that dance she said "no thanks" to.

Just my honest opinion

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

I just say thanks for at least replying and wish them Happy Fabbing.

Unless they've been dismissive or rude in response. Then I respond accordingly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *razy-88Man
over a year ago

belfast

Usually just wish wish them luck in their search.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surly manners costs nothing, if you chat to someone and if there not interested, move on, build a bridge and get over it. What's the world coming to at all

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By *aiseanagusspraoiMan
over a year ago

city

I simply say that's fair enough we all have our preferenes so happy fabbing

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By *1n_eaterMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Get the voodoo doll and pins out (joke).

Hold the head up high and walk away occasionally block so I never make the mistake on sending a message to them again

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By *aint_or_SinnerWoman
over a year ago

South County Dublin

"Get the voodoo doll and pins out (joke).

Hold the head up high and walk away occasionally block so I never make the mistake on sending a message to them again

I like the idea of the voodoo doll

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you buy a pair of shoes that you knew were gonna cut the heels off you ? ..course you wouldn't..but you want someone else to ....same with rejection..be mature and grown up about it and wait till you find the comfortable pair of shoes ...and they find theirs .

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest

I move on … and reject respectfully

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By *adhatter and coCouple
over a year ago

Middle of mayo n peaceful tranquility

I tend to have a meltdown , bombard them with messages and photos of my body parts asking for reasons why ? If they block me I set up a new account and start the harassment again

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"I tend to have a meltdown , bombard them with messages and photos of my body parts asking for reasons why ? If they block me I set up a new account and start the harassment again

Depending on which one of ye wrote this you can feck right off....checks mailbox to check for sexy body part pics

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By *adhatter and coCouple
over a year ago

Middle of mayo n peaceful tranquility

"I tend to have a meltdown , bombard them with messages and photos of my body parts asking for reasons why ? If they block me I set up a new account and start the harassment again

Depending on which one of ye wrote this you can feck right off....checks mailbox to check for sexy body part pics

Let’s put it this way , I don’t have a cock

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"I tend to have a meltdown , bombard them with messages and photos of my body parts asking for reasons why ? If they block me I set up a new account and start the harassment again

Depending on which one of ye wrote this you can feck right off....checks mailbox to check for sexy body part pics

Let’s put it this way , I don’t have a cock

I reject thee.....waits for sexy pics which might even include some housework pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't.

If I message someone and they don't reply, then there not interested and that's that, no hard feelings. Nobody owes us anything here (and vice versa)

Respect goes a long way

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By *obshortMan
over a year ago

Cork

"Thank them for their reply and wish them happy fabbing."

Definitely nice to be nice.

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

With decorum; I take it on the chin!

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By *irtypair00Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

"We'd always respond to a message where effort was clearly made, whether it's to chat or to give a polite 'no'.

1. Respectful

2. Smart

3. People we may like to connect with down the line

Do you agree?"

At the end of the day we are not all to everyone's likes or taste .

For us it's that simple and if someone says no .

Just respect it wish the best and move on , no need to get bothered bi it

We have even had one or two change their minds and had a wonderful time together

Si & Gil xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Build a bridge, and get over it, so of speak

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By *omtom1969Man
over a year ago

ashbourne

Just move on , it's that simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be polite and would hope get same in return, doesn't always happen that way. At end if day we are all adults and you can't be everyone's cup of tea. It's the ones that string you along and then boom they disappear that annoy or hurt more.

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By *organ DeanWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

I would wish them well & leave a private note for when I forget & go for a ninja perv.

I have had to remind people that they're not into me, thats always fun for me

Mostly I get a polite reply if I am saying no thank you to someone. Private notes are a blessing for my bad memory.

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By *onnrodMan
over a year ago

moira

I reply with a thanks for the reply and put a private note that they're not interested so I don't waste my time messaging them later on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always been polite when rejected as I'm the one asking, I've no idea why people respond to rejection with insults, it just makes you wonder where there head is at.

Sadly and I've come to find, there is a certain type of people who seem to be in the majority of this site who are entitled and rude.

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By *organ DeanWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

"I've always been polite when rejected as I'm the one asking, I've no idea why people respond to rejection with insults, it just makes you wonder where there head is at.

Sadly and I've come to find, there is a certain type of people who seem to be in the majority of this site who are entitled and rude."

Your chest hair (I assume) is very pretty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've always been polite when rejected as I'm the one asking, I've no idea why people respond to rejection with insults, it just makes you wonder where there head is at.

Sadly and I've come to find, there is a certain type of people who seem to be in the majority of this site who are entitled and rude.

Your chest hair (I assume) is very pretty

Ha ha, yes, it is my chest hair and thank you very much

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By *organ DeanWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

"I've always been polite when rejected as I'm the one asking, I've no idea why people respond to rejection with insults, it just makes you wonder where there head is at.

Sadly and I've come to find, there is a certain type of people who seem to be in the majority of this site who are entitled and rude.

Your chest hair (I assume) is very pretty

Ha ha, yes, it is my chest hair and thank you very much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've always been polite when rejected as I'm the one asking, I've no idea why people respond to rejection with insults, it just makes you wonder where there head is at.

Sadly and I've come to find, there is a certain type of people who seem to be in the majority of this site who are entitled and rude.

Your chest hair (I assume) is very pretty

Ha ha, yes, it is my chest hair and thank you very much

I would compliment your tattoo but your profile scares me a little

Only joking

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By *organ DeanWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

"I've always been polite when rejected as I'm the one asking, I've no idea why people respond to rejection with insults, it just makes you wonder where there head is at.

Sadly and I've come to find, there is a certain type of people who seem to be in the majority of this site who are entitled and rude.

Your chest hair (I assume) is very pretty

Ha ha, yes, it is my chest hair and thank you very much

I would compliment your tattoo but your profile scares me a little

Only joking

That makes me happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've always been polite when rejected as I'm the one asking, I've no idea why people respond to rejection with insults, it just makes you wonder where there head is at.

Sadly and I've come to find, there is a certain type of people who seem to be in the majority of this site who are entitled and rude.

Your chest hair (I assume) is very pretty

Ha ha, yes, it is my chest hair and thank you very much

I would compliment your tattoo but your profile scares me a little

Only joking

That makes me happy

Happiness is key...

Wait????

That you made me scared or that I complimented your tattoo????

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By *organ DeanWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

"I've always been polite when rejected as I'm the one asking, I've no idea why people respond to rejection with insults, it just makes you wonder where there head is at.

Sadly and I've come to find, there is a certain type of people who seem to be in the majority of this site who are entitled and rude.

Your chest hair (I assume) is very pretty

Ha ha, yes, it is my chest hair and thank you very much

I would compliment your tattoo but your profile scares me a little

Only joking

That makes me happy

Happiness is key...

Wait????

That you made me scared or that I complimented your tattoo????

My tattoo is awesome, but I'm happy I scared ya

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've always been polite when rejected as I'm the one asking, I've no idea why people respond to rejection with insults, it just makes you wonder where there head is at.

Sadly and I've come to find, there is a certain type of people who seem to be in the majority of this site who are entitled and rude.

Your chest hair (I assume) is very pretty

Ha ha, yes, it is my chest hair and thank you very much

I would compliment your tattoo but your profile scares me a little

Only joking

That makes me happy

Happiness is key...

Wait????

That you made me scared or that I complimented your tattoo????

My tattoo is awesome, but I'm happy I scared ya

Well I'm happy I doubly made you happy then

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By *xperimental CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Fab

Use my tears as lube

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always respectfully I don't understand why some people get abuse on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Move on. I'm not everyone's cup of tea just like there are people here that aren't mine. People have a right to like and dislike whoever they want for whatever reason

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By *cottybear74Man
over a year ago

kilkenny

Respectful and move on

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By *amaiCouple
over a year ago

Kilkenny

"no problem, good luck!"

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

you can't react any other way then move on. question is are u rejected alot more on here then in real life?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a simple 3 step process.

Step 1. Remove pants

Step 2. Throw myself to floor

Step 3. Impersonate a seal having a seizure while sobbing WHY WHY WHY repeatedly

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