FabSwingers.com forum: Too many verifications

By *adylace OP Woman
over a year ago

Waterford City

This topic popped up yet again to me today. I was called every name under the sun because of the amount of verifications I have on show. Which makes me think 2 things.

1. I've been on this site on and off for almost ten years and I love the social side so I have a large amount of social only veris (I know these guys only look at the number and not the content. Lol) Should fab show exactly how long a profile is set up and not just say over a year?

2. Even if every one of my verifications was from a play meet. Are we really still living in a time that people (mostly women) are judged by their body count?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was it just said straight to you or did you reject the person who said it if you don't mind us asking?

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Is there meant to be the right amount per year or something ....

Its just another form of shaming someone isn't it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This topic popped up yet again to me today. I was called every name under the sun because of the amount of verifications I have on show. Which makes me think 2 things.

2. Even if every one of my verifications was from a play meet. Are we really still living in a time that people (mostly women) are judged by their body count? "

It shouldn't matter if it says 1 year or 1 month so don't see why they should change it.

And yes we are.

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By *rishguy3217Man
over a year ago

Kilkenny / Dublin

I've had the two many verifications thing thrown at me before as if I'm some sort of dirty creature! Many of mine are social and the play ones are fully protected safe sex. Regular test always been negative. But people forget that and judge on the spot

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man
over a year ago

Ballsbridge, City Centre

To be fair a swingers site is not where you go to find a puritanical virgin.

That being said the same fellas having a pop at you for having too many veri’s are probably PM’ing twice as many people each day to try and get their hole

I’d take no notice of it, if you’re happy and you’ve enjoyed yourself then there’s nothing wrong with it

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By *adylace OP Woman
over a year ago

Waterford City

"Was it just said straight to you or did you reject the person who said it if you don't mind us asking? "

Opening message. I had never spoken to them before and didn't even bother replying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One thing I have noticed on threads like this though is sometimes people who post with alot of veris saying it shouldn't matter are also quick enough to point to most of there veris being social ones.

So I think there is still a subconscious judgement from some who consider themselves open minded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was it just said straight to you or did you reject the person who said it if you don't mind us asking?

Opening message. I had never spoken to them before and didn't even bother replying. "

Wow that was a dickhead move. To answer your question I think the vast majority couldn't care about how many veris a person has. I would say there is a small amount of people who honestly just dickhead and use it as a way to stroke their egos but you find that all over the Internet (people dming adult models etc calling them sluts etc)

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By *ittle-unicornWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"Was it just said straight to you or did you reject the person who said it if you don't mind us asking?

Opening message. I had never spoken to them before and didn't even bother replying. "

Sometimes I think certain people will say inflammatory things just to get a rise out of you… it’s the only way they can get a response.

I’d say you did the right thing not replying… delete and block!

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By *ed just RedWoman
over a year ago

Dublin City

That being said the same fellas having a pop at you for having too many veri’s are probably PM’ing twice as many people each day to try and get their hole

LOL - very well put!!

Yeah I’ve seen that - I’ve had comments that I’ve wracked up a lot of meets since i joined, or that my veris are a mix of friends and f*cks and i should only show the f*cks - HUH?!?!?!?

You do you - stuff the rest of them…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This topic popped up yet again to me today. I was called every name under the sun because of the amount of verifications I have on show. Which makes me think 2 things.

2. Even if every one of my verifications was from a play meet. Are we really still living in a time that people (mostly women) are judged by their body count? "

Some people /men are total arseholes

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By *adylace OP Woman
over a year ago

Waterford City

"One thing I have noticed on threads like this though is sometimes people who post with alot of veris saying it shouldn't matter are also quick enough to point to most of there veris being social ones.

So I think there is still a subconscious judgement from some who consider themselves open minded "

You could be right. I generally have no issue with showing my most recent veris but it did make me question it for a second.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Pure and simple jealousy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This topic popped up yet again to me today. I was called every name under the sun because of the amount of verifications I have on show. Which makes me think 2 things.

2. Even if every one of my verifications was from a play meet. Are we really still living in a time that people (mostly women) are judged by their body count? "

Maybe have an option to show how long they have been here. Some people might want to let people know how long they have been here, others might not. And as for point No.2 unfortunately we do still live in that day and age. It shouldn't matter a jot what yiur count is but some people still have very small minds...... to go with other small things lol

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

"This topic popped up yet again to me today. I was called every name under the sun because of the amount of verifications I have on show. Which makes me think 2 things.

2. Even if every one of my verifications was from a play meet. Are we really still living in a time that people (mostly women) are judged by their body count? "

I think of them more as your 5 a day not alcohol units per week . More like a target than a limit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had one the other day...messaged out of the blue to say with however many veries we have I must be just a slut.

I don't give a flying fuck anymore about sad bitter randoms with nothing better to do but insult people

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By *eijaWoman
over a year ago

City Centre

"This topic popped up yet again to me today. I was called every name under the sun because of the amount of verifications I have on show. Which makes me think 2 things.

2. Even if every one of my verifications was from a play meet. Are we really still living in a time that people (mostly women) are judged by their body count? "

Good post OP

The way I see it is (after many years like you on and off the site) people will always complain no matter what. At the end of the day do what makes you feel happy

I've hundreds of veris from hosting socials over the years I can just imagine the reaction if I displayed them all

People will always have a moan no matter what at this stage of my life I don't give a damn

I do laugh however when unverified profiles try to give me advice

B x

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Too few veris, too many veris, veris from cohorts people don't like. I've seen it all.

Don't concern yourself with other people's preferences OP. You keep doing you. Delete and move on. With messages like that they are only doing it to get a reaction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm back with a new profile but I've lots of verifys from my friends welcoming me back. I did get a few well you've being busy messages because of it. So I just tell them well riding a dick a day with a dick in each hand you don't be long racking them up

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By *he MickMan
over a year ago

southside

"I'm back with a new profile but I've lots of verifys from my friends welcoming me back. I did get a few well you've being busy messages because of it. So I just tell them well riding a dick a day with a dick in each hand you don't be long racking them up

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

Told someone to actually read them , they replied that they don't wish to read all about how we fuck

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By *lose_encounterMan
over a year ago

Cork city

people are complaining about their profile being judged on a site that all about judging profiles?. huh. did not see that coming lol. oh the hypocrisy almost tasted in posts like this sometimes

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By *ittle-unicornWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"people are complaining about their profile being judged on a site that all about judging profiles?. huh. did not see that coming lol. oh the hypocrisy almost tasted in posts like this sometimes"

Judging a profile is one thing… but then messaging said profile to call them “every name under the sun” isn’t really cool (in my opinion).

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By *lose_encounterMan
over a year ago

Cork city

"people are complaining about their profile being judged on a site that all about judging profiles?. huh. did not see that coming lol. oh the hypocrisy almost tasted in posts like this sometimes

Judging a profile is one thing… but then messaging said profile to call them “every name under the sun” isn’t really cool (in my opinion)."

oh i agree with your opinion. can do without the insults. but to complain about your profile being judged is funny in fairness

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Never even noticed the new photos until you said it....fabulous photos in fairness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None of anyone s business how many verification s anyone else has. Alot can be from social nights out.Block and move on..Not worth ur time or energy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ve had the "oh you been busy" , " have you actually had sex with anyone" , " a prick tease" cause I have too many veris and all my veris are socials veris. I just block anymore attitude like that is why been a swinging in Ireland is done behind closed doors.

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By *araxDaveCouple
over a year ago

South

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By *exy Saucy SocialsCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

Jealous key bored warriors hun block and laugh

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By *twistedtoys100Man
over a year ago

LIMERICK

It seems that the old "Mdona/whore" syndrome is still alive and well with some people.

These prats are simply jealous and wish the could meet you!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well if anyone is getting rid of a verification I’ll gladly take it off their hands

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By *ohnFKMan
over a year ago

Where the Streets Have No Name

That 'over a year' thing does seem a little vague.

I actually put my "start date"

into the content of my profile. (Not that anyone reads it

)

I see others describe how they have been on and off the site (or in the scene) for years etc. which understandably would equate to a high number of veris

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By *winger212Woman
over a year ago

Live in spain

I've currently 378 veris and it's been commented as an insult against me a few times.

Even by a guy while at my hosted party told another guy not to talk to me that I'm a slut. PMSL the funniest is that I have barely played. I just laugh, needless to say he never got another party invite off of me

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

Relax folks!

Only the unwashed won't understand the verification system on here.

The rest of us understand

You've only had 300 cocks fucking you out of those 600 verifications!

And only 200 of them have been bareback

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