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By *asual777 OP   Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

I saw this thread in the lounge and liked it a lot

I'm wondering if maybe those that want to would be open about theirs on the thread and help others with their knowledge and experiences.

And how does it affect your fab life?

Do you tell people you're chatting to so they know that you could potentially need to cancel a social or meet if the illness gets the better of you that day? Do you worry they'll think you're making excuses?

Do you feel like you're not letting it dictate your life as you're still able to get out there and misbehave or socialise?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m autistic although I don’t class it as an illness. It makes it difficult to approach people in life and on fab because I feel socially awkward and never know what to say. This is what is making it difficult to make good connections and when I don’t or can’t I get very down because it’s a reminder that I’m not normal and never will be.

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By *asual777 OP   Man
over a year ago

i travel all over


"I’m autistic although I don’t class it as an illness. It makes it difficult to approach people in life and on fab because I feel socially awkward and never know what to say. This is what is making it difficult to make good connections and when I don’t or can’t I get very down because it’s a reminder that I’m not normal and never will be."

Do you get any support from anyone ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m autistic although I don’t class it as an illness. It makes it difficult to approach people in life and on fab because I feel socially awkward and never know what to say. This is what is making it difficult to make good connections and when I don’t or can’t I get very down because it’s a reminder that I’m not normal and never will be."

Awk sure what's "normal" man. Everyone has their own quirks and idiosyncrasies. Confidence is key. Own it. Be your best self.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m autistic although I don’t class it as an illness. It makes it difficult to approach people in life and on fab because I feel socially awkward and never know what to say. This is what is making it difficult to make good connections and when I don’t or can’t I get very down because it’s a reminder that I’m not normal and never will be."

What is normal? You are you and that's all you need to be.

I guarantee your friends and family wouldn't want you to change one thing about yourself and you shouldn't change for anyone else

Interactions on this place can be very slow for lads just have a bit of craic on the forum, dont expect much and enjoy your life offline as thats were we all should be living as fully as we can!

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford


"I’m autistic although I don’t class it as an illness. It makes it difficult to approach people in life and on fab because I feel socially awkward and never know what to say. This is what is making it difficult to make good connections and when I don’t or can’t I get very down because it’s a reminder that I’m not normal and never will be."

Our youngest is autistic and she is normal just as you are. Just because you dont conform to neurotypical expectations doesnt make you any less normal than me. Embrace your uniqueness as i will teach her and eff societies expectations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m autistic although I don’t class it as an illness. It makes it difficult to approach people in life and on fab because I feel socially awkward and never know what to say. This is what is making it difficult to make good connections and when I don’t or can’t I get very down because it’s a reminder that I’m not normal and never will be."

I hate the word normal - I genuinely believe there is no such thing as normal!!

Believe in yourself and be proud of yourself, and don’t let anyone tell u or make u feel any different x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

+1 to all the above comments

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"I’m autistic although I don’t class it as an illness. It makes it difficult to approach people in life and on fab because I feel socially awkward and never know what to say. This is what is making it difficult to make good connections and when I don’t or can’t I get very down because it’s a reminder that I’m not normal and never will be."

Normal is over rated,and very few people are truly just normal. Try to embrace what makes you unique .Being autistic is part of you and enhances who you are and how you see the world.Not everyone is a social butterfly but that doesn't mean people won't like you or interact with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m autistic although I don’t class it as an illness. It makes it difficult to approach people in life and on fab because I feel socially awkward and never know what to say. This is what is making it difficult to make good connections and when I don’t or can’t I get very down because it’s a reminder that I’m not normal and never will be.

Our youngest is autistic and she is normal just as you are. Just because you dont conform to neurotypical expectations doesnt make you any less normal than me. Embrace your uniqueness as i will teach her and eff societies expectations "

It’s society making them feel that they have to conform to neurotypical expectations that drives me mad!! Society needs to adapt and change - not those with Autism. 100% agree and love the fact u tell her to embrace and love her uniqueness xxx

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By *issme39Woman
over a year ago

kildare


"I’m autistic although I don’t class it as an illness. It makes it difficult to approach people in life and on fab because I feel socially awkward and never know what to say. This is what is making it difficult to make good connections and when I don’t or can’t I get very down because it’s a reminder that I’m not normal and never will be.

Our youngest is autistic and she is normal just as you are. Just because you dont conform to neurotypical expectations doesnt make you any less normal than me. Embrace your uniqueness as i will teach her and eff societies expectations "

she is of course normal and if she has half the values as you she will grow up to be a beautiful young lady xx

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

Now at last, I can come out of the closet; I suffer from chronic valetudinarianism!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Normal is boring! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for all the positive comments folks! My son is also autistic like me so that gives us an extra connection lol

If I make a connection on here I do tend to grab it and maybe go overkill on by messaging a lot which can probably come across as overbearing and a bit crazy. But it isn’t, it’s just me. I’m just excited at having made a connection with someone that I go whole hog at it.

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By *asual777 OP   Man
over a year ago

i travel all over


"Now at last, I can come out of the closet; I suffer from chronic valetudinarianism! "

Is this a sight variation on hypochondriacal thinking ?

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford


"I’m autistic although I don’t class it as an illness. It makes it difficult to approach people in life and on fab because I feel socially awkward and never know what to say. This is what is making it difficult to make good connections and when I don’t or can’t I get very down because it’s a reminder that I’m not normal and never will be.

Our youngest is autistic and she is normal just as you are. Just because you dont conform to neurotypical expectations doesnt make you any less normal than me. Embrace your uniqueness as i will teach her and eff societies expectations

It’s society making them feel that they have to conform to neurotypical expectations that drives me mad!! Society needs to adapt and change - not those with Autism. 100% agree and love the fact u tell her to embrace and love her uniqueness xxx"

I know. Were even looking at homeschooling her when shes done with preschool. I wont allow her to be shoved into a box and given a label and her being changed into someone shes not. She builds skyscrapers from jenga blocks and eats wallpaper ans shes feckin brilliant

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford


"I’m autistic although I don’t class it as an illness. It makes it difficult to approach people in life and on fab because I feel socially awkward and never know what to say. This is what is making it difficult to make good connections and when I don’t or can’t I get very down because it’s a reminder that I’m not normal and never will be.

Our youngest is autistic and she is normal just as you are. Just because you dont conform to neurotypical expectations doesnt make you any less normal than me. Embrace your uniqueness as i will teach her and eff societies expectations

she is of course normal and if she has half the values as you she will grow up to be a beautiful young lady xx "

Thank you xxxxx

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"I’m autistic although I don’t class it as an illness. It makes it difficult to approach people in life and on fab because I feel socially awkward and never know what to say. This is what is making it difficult to make good connections and when I don’t or can’t I get very down because it’s a reminder that I’m not normal and never will be.

Our youngest is autistic and she is normal just as you are. Just because you dont conform to neurotypical expectations doesnt make you any less normal than me. Embrace your uniqueness as i will teach her and eff societies expectations

It’s society making them feel that they have to conform to neurotypical expectations that drives me mad!! Society needs to adapt and change - not those with Autism. 100% agree and love the fact u tell her to embrace and love her uniqueness xxx

I know. Were even looking at homeschooling her when shes done with preschool. I wont allow her to be shoved into a box and given a label and her being changed into someone shes not. She builds skyscrapers from jenga blocks and eats wallpaper ans shes feckin brilliant"

She's brilliant just like her mum.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m autistic although I don’t class it as an illness. It makes it difficult to approach people in life and on fab because I feel socially awkward and never know what to say. This is what is making it difficult to make good connections and when I don’t or can’t I get very down because it’s a reminder that I’m not normal and never will be.

Our youngest is autistic and she is normal just as you are. Just because you dont conform to neurotypical expectations doesnt make you any less normal than me. Embrace your uniqueness as i will teach her and eff societies expectations

It’s society making them feel that they have to conform to neurotypical expectations that drives me mad!! Society needs to adapt and change - not those with Autism. 100% agree and love the fact u tell her to embrace and love her uniqueness xxx

I know. Were even looking at homeschooling her when shes done with preschool. I wont allow her to be shoved into a box and given a label and her being changed into someone shes not. She builds skyscrapers from jenga blocks and eats wallpaper ans shes feckin brilliant

She's brilliant just like her mum.x"

Good for her! My son is in mainstream school and is thriving. Maybe because it is a smaller school but it has been the making of him. He’s super smart but needed to work on his socialisation. Not he has a circle of very good friends who seem to get him, and he loves it.

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down


"Now at last, I can come out of the closet; I suffer from chronic valetudinarianism!

Is this a sight variation on hypochondriacal thinking ? "

No. They are distinctly different, depending on which dictionary you choose to use.

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By *urious g300Man
over a year ago

Galway

Define normal

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down


"Define normal

"

Normal health is usually defined in medical tomes, such as Gray's Anatomy, as being in a state homeostatic equilibrium.

The renowned American- Hungarian psychiatrist Thomas Szasz, had some interesting views on normal mental functioning.

Regrettably, he is now deceased, but his lectures can be watched online.He was iconoclastic.

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By *ornybarMan
over a year ago

clonmel

I have m.s.

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By *asual777 OP   Man
over a year ago

i travel all over


"I have m.s."

Does it affect you significantly ?

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By *ornybarMan
over a year ago

clonmel


"I have m.s.

Does it affect you significantly ? "

It can do yes. My balance can be very poor at times. Tiredness is a killer. And I’m weak down 1 side of my body

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin


"I’m autistic although I don’t class it as an illness. It makes it difficult to approach people in life and on fab because I feel socially awkward and never know what to say. This is what is making it difficult to make good connections and when I don’t or can’t I get very down because it’s a reminder that I’m not normal and never will be.

I hate the word normal - I genuinely believe there is no such thing as normal!!

Believe in yourself and be proud of yourself, and don’t let anyone tell u or make u feel any different x "

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By *asual777 OP   Man
over a year ago

i travel all over


"I have m.s.

Does it affect you significantly ?

It can do yes. My balance can be very poor at times. Tiredness is a killer. And I’m weak down 1 side of my body"

And does it come and go ? As in periods of things going well then a deterioration ? And anything you have found helpful in case anyone else is reading ?

Thank you and the other posters for sharing . Hard to know what to say sometimes . I have read a bit about empathy vs sympathy but I think it’s difficult to actually put yourself in other people’s shoes . Hope you are comfortable as much of the time as possible

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town


"I’m autistic although I don’t class it as an illness. It makes it difficult to approach people in life and on fab because I feel socially awkward and never know what to say. This is what is making it difficult to make good connections and when I don’t or can’t I get very down because it’s a reminder that I’m not normal and never will be.

Our youngest is autistic and she is normal just as you are. Just because you dont conform to neurotypical expectations doesnt make you any less normal than me. Embrace your uniqueness as i will teach her and eff societies expectations

It’s society making them feel that they have to conform to neurotypical expectations that drives me mad!! Society needs to adapt and change - not those with Autism. 100% agree and love the fact u tell her to embrace and love her uniqueness xxx

I know. Were even looking at homeschooling her when shes done with preschool. I wont allow her to be shoved into a box and given a label and her being changed into someone shes not. She builds skyscrapers from jenga blocks and eats wallpaper ans shes feckin brilliant

She's brilliant just like her mum.x

Good for her! My son is in mainstream school and is thriving. Maybe because it is a smaller school but it has been the making of him. He’s super smart but needed to work on his socialisation. Not he has a circle of very good friends who seem to get him, and he loves it."
have a 23 yr old autistic girl, still believes in Santa loves the colour pink, all things Disney and sings all day, and you know what her world is lovely she hasn’t a worry in her head, if she likes you ( and she will tell you straight up ) you have a friend for life….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m autistic although I don’t class it as an illness. It makes it difficult to approach people in life and on fab because I feel socially awkward and never know what to say. This is what is making it difficult to make good connections and when I don’t or can’t I get very down because it’s a reminder that I’m not normal and never will be."

My lil lad is on the spectrum. He is happy with his life and that is all I can do for him. When we were getting the diagnosis the psychologist was asking all these questions about his behaviour and how he interacts with people and my answers were the same as his lol. Normal is different to everyone.

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By *ind PaddyMan
over a year ago

South County Dublin


"I have m.s."
sorry to hear that, is it the relapse one or primary progressive. My wife has primary progressive one. Hope your well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This has been a very useful thread....possibly not getting the initial expected answers, but showing that we never really know what is going on in people's lives, what they maybe dealing with on a daily basis.

I applaud all who shared, but Fab has often shown itself to be a caring group, we have an initial shared interest & yet we can empathise with others, there can be more to Fab than sex.

Judge not least vou be judged

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By *lwenWoman
over a year ago

De12 area

I'm currently going through breast cancer treatment, currently recovering from having the lump and lymph node removed.. And due to start chemo next week.

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By *aucyladMan
over a year ago

Dublin

So proud of you fabbers, no stigma showing anywhere and a sign our society is moving towards accepting and understanding that people are different, there is no normal. If we are as patient and understanding of people in society then the world is a better place.

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By *ind PaddyMan
over a year ago

South County Dublin


"I'm currently going through breast cancer treatment, currently recovering from having the lump and lymph node removed.. And due to start chemo next week.

"
best of luck with treatment, my wife's sister is recovering from cancer and she is doing well.

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By *ind PaddyMan
over a year ago

South County Dublin

I've been suffering from depression and anxiety since June, I try to keep going as best I can

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"I'm currently going through breast cancer treatment, currently recovering from having the lump and lymph node removed.. And due to start chemo next week.

"

Very best of luck with thank and hope it goes well with a positive outcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been suffering from depression and anxiety since June, I try to keep going as best I can"

Keep going

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a lovely thread. Anytime a thread like this is posted its amazing to read as noone knows what others are going through, been through etc

I had my son at 19 and o ly 14 yrs later was diagnosed with post natal depression I hid it that well. In Feb 2020 I fell apart in a hotel room in belfast and only that I had a few drinks on me and wouldn't drive there could have been a very different outcome.

Thankfully in the last year I have realised people do care and I loved. I still have days when I just think what's the point but keeping a gratitude journal and working on myself has kept me going.

My motto in life now is just be kind

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By *ind PaddyMan
over a year ago

South County Dublin


"I've been suffering from depression and anxiety since June, I try to keep going as best I can

Keep going "
I been trying my best, I use to run and it was great help, made me relaxed and calm. Since my wife was diagnosed with MS I have been suffering from respiratory problem and cannot go out for runs in winter month when it is raining. It is great the way you keep going Devine. Your health is your wealth

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By *ombikerMan
over a year ago

the right side of the river

Does getting stabbed count ??

Wasn’t the most pleasant experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does getting stabbed count ??

Wasn’t the most pleasant experience "

Is getting stabbed an illness !!!!!

Clown

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By *asual777 OP   Man
over a year ago

i travel all over


"Does getting stabbed count ??

Wasn’t the most pleasant experience "

Has it left you with long term complications ?

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By *asual777 OP   Man
over a year ago

i travel all over


"I'm currently going through breast cancer treatment, currently recovering from having the lump and lymph node removed.. And due to start chemo next week.

"

Everything crossed . Amazing how much outcomes are better than 10-20 years ago

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare


"Does getting stabbed count ??

Wasn’t the most pleasant experience

Is getting stabbed an illness !!!!!

Clown "

Is that your pic?

Do you get paid a royalty every time its used online?

And getting stabbed,or attacked in any way can leave people will physical and and mental issues.as in the thread topic.

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By *ombikerMan
over a year ago

the right side of the river


"Does getting stabbed count ??

Wasn’t the most pleasant experience

Has it left you with long term complications ? "

Was left with lung scarring and some heart muscle scarring/ hardening.

I am in reasonable shape and no problem keeping up with the young guys in work. Used to get some blood and a nice gurgling noise every now and then coming from my lung but that had settled down.

By the way I see we are full of understanding and tolerance. I don’t know if you call it an illness but definitely injury with long term effects. I do have to keep an eye on myself. Be aware of blood pressure as if it became high it has the possibility to cause very serious problems. But thankfully I live a healthy lifestyle so generally physically and mentally in a good place.

I do know a few people who had a similar experience and have become hermit like and withdrawn, won’t go outside after dark, won’t socialise etc.

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By *asual777 OP   Man
over a year ago

i travel all over


"Does getting stabbed count ??

Wasn’t the most pleasant experience

Has it left you with long term complications ?

Was left with lung scarring and some heart muscle scarring/ hardening.

I am in reasonable shape and no problem keeping up with the young guys in work. Used to get some blood and a nice gurgling noise every now and then coming from my lung but that had settled down.

By the way I see we are full of understanding and tolerance. I don’t know if you call it an illness but definitely injury with long term effects. I do have to keep an eye on myself. Be aware of blood pressure as if it became high it has the possibility to cause very serious problems. But thankfully I live a healthy lifestyle so generally physically and mentally in a good place.

I do know a few people who had a similar experience and have become hermit like and withdrawn, won’t go outside after dark, won’t socialise etc. "

Blood gurgling noise doesn’t sound pleasant

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By *ind PaddyMan
over a year ago

South County Dublin

I would like to be true to myself. I had a wonderful childhood. My father died in tragic circumstances, he took a heart attack one evening and fell in the canal and was missing for 4 weeks over Christmas period 1986. My younger brother identity the body, but I never got to see it. I went to Australia for a year and had a great time. When I came back I got myself into a mess and had break down. I made an amazing recovery, I got a degree and a accountancy qualification. But the last 4 years with my wife's illness and my respiratory problems have been real stressful. Since June I've been under a lot of stress. I try to get out for a walk and keeping going. Hope I'm not upsetting anyone. Your health is your wealth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a benign tumour ( prolactinoma). Thankfully it doesnt affect me much. Its great to see other fabbers opening up in this thread and also the support been given by other fabbers ( apart from 1 clown. Well done OP, another great thread.

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By *asual777 OP   Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

Thank you . 20 quid in the post

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By *asual777 OP   Man
over a year ago

i travel all over


"I would like to be true to myself. I had a wonderful childhood. My father died in tragic circumstances, he took a heart attack one evening and fell in the canal and was missing for 4 weeks over Christmas period 1986. My younger brother identity the body, but I never got to see it. I went to Australia for a year and had a great time. When I came back I got myself into a mess and had break down. I made an amazing recovery, I got a degree and a accountancy qualification. But the last 4 years with my wife's illness and my respiratory problems have been real stressful. Since June I've been under a lot of stress. I try to get out for a walk and keeping going. Hope I'm not upsetting anyone. Your health is your wealth. "

You’re not upsetting anyone . Takes a lot of courage to talk about these things

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By *ombikerMan
over a year ago

the right side of the river


"I would like to be true to myself. I had a wonderful childhood. My father died in tragic circumstances, he took a heart attack one evening and fell in the canal and was missing for 4 weeks over Christmas period 1986. My younger brother identity the body, but I never got to see it. I went to Australia for a year and had a great time. When I came back I got myself into a mess and had break down. I made an amazing recovery, I got a degree and a accountancy qualification. But the last 4 years with my wife's illness and my respiratory problems have been real stressful. Since June I've been under a lot of stress. I try to get out for a walk and keeping going. Hope I'm not upsetting anyone. Your health is your wealth.

You’re not upsetting anyone . Takes a lot of courage to talk about these things "

It can take a while for things like that to hit you and when it does it can be hard.

I know one person very well who lost both parents and partner within a few months. But had young children so I suppose it kept them busy and no time to think. Was a few years later and they had a complete breakdown as everything came back. Luckily some close friends were there to help and support and just be there with the Irish solution to everything, a mug of tea and a chat about nothing.

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway

My oesophagus looks like a cats…it should be smooth but it’s ribbed (definitely not for my pleasure). It means I have chronic acid reflux and sometimes have difficulty swallowing.

So many opportunities for slagging with that one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My oesophagus looks like a cats…it should be smooth but it’s ribbed (definitely not for my pleasure). It means I have chronic acid reflux and sometimes have difficulty swallowing.

So many opportunities for slagging with that one "

My mate has that and has become a veggy hoping for some relief. Heartbreaking for him because he was a big eater back in the day but struggles with even small portions now.

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway


"My oesophagus looks like a cats…it should be smooth but it’s ribbed (definitely not for my pleasure). It means I have chronic acid reflux and sometimes have difficulty swallowing.

So many opportunities for slagging with that one

My mate has that and has become a veggy hoping for some relief. Heartbreaking for him because he was a big eater back in the day but struggles with even small portions now."

Is he on meds for it? Since I started meds I’ve had no problems…major game changer for me. I mean, a few grains of risotto rice got stuck in my throat once so it has nothing to do with the size of the food for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My oesophagus looks like a cats…it should be smooth but it’s ribbed (definitely not for my pleasure). It means I have chronic acid reflux and sometimes have difficulty swallowing.

So many opportunities for slagging with that one

My mate has that and has become a veggy hoping for some relief. Heartbreaking for him because he was a big eater back in the day but struggles with even small portions now.

Is he on meds for it? Since I started meds I’ve had no problems…major game changer for me. I mean, a few grains of risotto rice got stuck in my throat once so it has nothing to do with the size of the food for me. "

He goes in every couple of years and gets a balloon down and it stretches it out for a while.

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway


"My oesophagus looks like a cats…it should be smooth but it’s ribbed (definitely not for my pleasure). It means I have chronic acid reflux and sometimes have difficulty swallowing.

So many opportunities for slagging with that one

My mate has that and has become a veggy hoping for some relief. Heartbreaking for him because he was a big eater back in the day but struggles with even small portions now.

Is he on meds for it? Since I started meds I’ve had no problems…major game changer for me. I mean, a few grains of risotto rice got stuck in my throat once so it has nothing to do with the size of the food for me.

He goes in every couple of years and gets a balloon down and it stretches it out for a while. "

Will pm you if that’s ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My oesophagus looks like a cats…it should be smooth but it’s ribbed (definitely not for my pleasure). It means I have chronic acid reflux and sometimes have difficulty swallowing.

So many opportunities for slagging with that one

My mate has that and has become a veggy hoping for some relief. Heartbreaking for him because he was a big eater back in the day but struggles with even small portions now.

Is he on meds for it? Since I started meds I’ve had no problems…major game changer for me. I mean, a few grains of risotto rice got stuck in my throat once so it has nothing to do with the size of the food for me.

He goes in every couple of years and gets a balloon down and it stretches it out for a while.

Will pm you if that’s ok "

Of course

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By *ornybarMan
over a year ago

clonmel


"I have m.s.

Does it affect you significantly ?

It can do yes. My balance can be very poor at times. Tiredness is a killer. And I’m weak down 1 side of my body

And does it come and go ? As in periods of things going well then a deterioration ? And anything you have found helpful in case anyone else is reading ?

Thank you and the other posters for sharing . Hard to know what to say sometimes . I have read a bit about empathy vs sympathy but I think it’s difficult to actually put yourself in other people’s shoes . Hope you are comfortable as much of the time as possible "

Ya I have periods of feeling like I can do anything. But the majority of the time I feel like the whole world is against me

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By *ornybarMan
over a year ago

clonmel


"I have m.s. sorry to hear that, is it the relapse one or primary progressive. My wife has primary progressive one. Hope your well"

I’m secondary progressive. I hope your wife is doing well. It’s a huge eye opener

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By *ind PaddyMan
over a year ago

South County Dublin

It is, very stressful for my wife and I have found it hard too cope with. We had some prayers, about 2 to 3 weeks ago I had to go to hospital for a test, my wife saw me to the door. When I got to the gate I realised I forgot my phone, when I got back to the house she had fallen to the floor. She tried to move but could not lift her right leg and lost her balance. Took me ages to lift her up, she hurt her ribs. I made her a cuppa, she was ok. Do not know how I did test later on. She has good and bad days. She is great the way she keeps going. She gets tired. I do my best to look after her she is my best friend ever. That was the real reason I did not attend social on 10th in Dublin. Hope I'm not upsetting you and that you are well

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By *ind PaddyMan
over a year ago

South County Dublin


"I would like to be true to myself. I had a wonderful childhood. My father died in tragic circumstances, he took a heart attack one evening and fell in the canal and was missing for 4 weeks over Christmas period 1986. My younger brother identity the body, but I never got to see it. I went to Australia for a year and had a great time. When I came back I got myself into a mess and had break down. I made an amazing recovery, I got a degree and a accountancy qualification. But the last 4 years with my wife's illness and my respiratory problems have been real stressful. Since June I've been under a lot of stress. I try to get out for a walk and keeping going. Hope I'm not upsetting anyone. Your health is your wealth.

You’re not upsetting anyone . Takes a lot of courage to talk about these things

It can take a while for things like that to hit you and when it does it can be hard.

I know one person very well who lost both parents and partner within a few months. But had young children so I suppose it kept them busy and no time to think. Was a few years later and they had a complete breakdown as everything came back. Luckily some close friends were there to help and support and just be there with the Irish solution to everything, a mug of tea and a chat about nothing."
Thanks for your post

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By *ed just RedWoman
over a year ago

Dublin City

I’ve a number of conditions that could be debilitating if I let them be. They have altered my life in a way that no one can ever understand but it’s my choice not to let it define or limit me. Hospital stays are the norm and my friends off here have been absolutely phenomenal to me.

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By *ind PaddyMan
over a year ago

South County Dublin


"I’ve a number of conditions that could be debilitating if I let them be. They have altered my life in a way that no one can ever understand but it’s my choice not to let it define or limit me. Hospital stays are the norm and my friends off here have been absolutely phenomenal to me. "
it is good your friends care for you

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By *r_mrs_studmuffinCouple
over a year ago

narnia

I have a few conditions one particularly affects my blood pressure.One particular night during a fantastic night of play my blood pressure started to drop and I started to become very unwell. Out of embarrassment I stopped all play rather abruptly and the other ended up leaving. I felt so bad that I didn’t come clean and admit why I stopped play so abruptly and to this day still have regrets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suffer from.one which is not talked about often and very taboo and embarrassing and it's IBS and it can be horrible. I also suffer with anxiety and depression which makes the IBS worse

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By *asual777 OP   Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

Must say one could never tell from the profiles . Hidden illnesses indeed . I hope that sharing makes it a bit better somehow

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By *tmostakiss1Man
over a year ago

DC

I’m on medication for life, can foresee a lot of pain or mobility issues the older I get

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

I have grade 2 breast cancer.

Waiting on my surgery date.

Can't wait to start my new life and be over the 3 big C's

Covid (had a nasty mild fever end of August)

Cancer (gonna take a few more months to be rid of it)

Cock, Dirk's Big cock (I'm over how big and beautiful it is, just enjoying it on a regular basis )

Missus

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By *onguentasticMan
over a year ago

Ballymoney


"I have grade 2 breast cancer.

Waiting on my surgery date.

Can't wait to start my new life and be over the 3 big C's

Covid (had a nasty mild fever end of August)

Cancer (gonna take a few more months to be rid of it)

Cock, Dirk's Big cock (I'm over how big and beautiful it is, just enjoying it on a regular basis )

Missus "

Sorry to hear you have cancer but equally so proud of you for being able to say on here your truly a amazing lady and I wish you a speedy recovery and lots of hugs

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By *onguentasticMan
over a year ago

Ballymoney

Also everyone that has posted on here you are so amazing takes guts to speak out about your conditions hugs and love to you all as a fellow condition suffer myself makes my heart full that soany are so open and amazing

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By *ecelt82Man
over a year ago

dundalk

What a brilliant thread I've had stage 2 testicular cancer had a testicle removed at 22 got radiotherapy definitely left a mental scar too and some very unwelcome side effects that I still struggle with today

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