FabSwingers.com forum: So a question for the ladies

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Agree to a coffee meet today , agreed 12 noon, texted the person at 11.30 to check still OK for coffee. Half hr roadtrip to get a message at 12.20 can't make it , can we take a raincheck?

Is it just me that gets messed about cause it really feels like it today?

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By *ightower2021Man
over a year ago

donegal

Thats really not good that delete an move on easy seen why it's so tough here to even get a coffee meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Agree to a coffee meet today , agreed 12 noon, texted the person at 11.30 to check still OK for coffee. Half hr roadtrip to get a message at 12.20 can't make it , can we take a raincheck?

Is it just me that gets messed about cause it really feels like it today? "

Not one the ladies but that's just inconsiderate and rude by any measure. Would take the hit and cut contact personally. Some people get anxiety and that but if they don't cancel at least an hour in advance I wouldn't be making exceptions for them.

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By *ind PaddyMan
over a year ago

South County Dublin

Should have told you at 11.30 he wanted raincheck before you left your house to met

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They messaged you 20 mins after they were meant to arrive? That's bullshit,instant block. And yes we all get messed around at some point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's people like him that make it hard for decent guys to get along on this site

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By *t777Woman
over a year ago

close by

No that's out of order.

I've had that a few times too it's not nice xx

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By *ed just RedWoman
over a year ago

Dublin City

"Agree to a coffee meet today , agreed 12 noon, texted the person at 11.30 to check still OK for coffee. Half hr roadtrip to get a message at 12.20 can't make it , can we take a raincheck?

Is it just me that gets messed about cause it really feels like it today? "

Nope not you.

That’s actually standing you up tho… 20mins late is a no show.

That’s a blocking offence.

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By *issme39Woman
over a year ago

kildare

what the ladies said..

that is a no show so instant block x

take no notice of that absolute bell end xx

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By *issme39Woman
over a year ago

kildare

"Agree to a coffee meet today , agreed 12 noon, texted the person at 11.30 to check still OK for coffee. Half hr roadtrip to get a message at 12.20 can't make it , can we take a raincheck?

Is it just me that gets messed about cause it really feels like it today?

Nope not you.

That’s actually standing you up tho… 20mins late is a no show.

That’s a blocking offence. "

this

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Sorry this happened to you DD thats really crap I wouldn't be giving them a raincheck tho when they messaged 20 minutes after you were due to meet that's just rude if they knew they couldn't make it they should have messaged you earlier so that you didn't waste your time traveling for a no show.

I've been lucky that it hasn't happened to me yet but I have cancelled meets when I think the person isn't going to show.If they go quiet and don't reply to a message the night before asking if it's still going ahead then I will cancel it. And so far the two times it has happened it has taken them a day or two to even reply to that usually in fairness to ask can we meet as they had forgotten.

There is no excuse that will ever sit right for ghosting someone. Yes people get nervous and everyone has the right to cancel a meet but manners say you do it before the other person has wasted their time travelling to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had this happen for actual meets and socials with few minutes notice or when I'm on the way. Amazing the amount of single guys with Granny's passing away suddenly. I don't give second chances not unless there's legitimate reason. Our time is precious and should be respected.

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By *lose_encounterMan
over a year ago

Cork city

ah...the plight of single males. because of the amount of us on here. we are viewed as disposable and immediately replaceable. not to be considered to get consideration.but hey. personally i don't give a shit. but OP. people like that usually end up being bitter and asking why there are no genuine guys on here, down the road....you can read it in their profiles. i just laugh n move along

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They messaged you 20 mins after they were meant to arrive? That's bullshit,instant block. And yes we all get messed around at some point

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Agree. Block and move on

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By *hett and scarlettCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

"Agree to a coffee meet today , agreed 12 noon, texted the person at 11.30 to check still OK for coffee. Half hr roadtrip to get a message at 12.20 can't make it , can we take a raincheck?

Is it just me that gets messed about cause it really feels like it today? "

Couples get it too and it sucks (and not in the preferred way!)

Probably got the wobbles or couldn’t think of an excuse to tell the Mrs. Either way, block that dude!

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By *at3232Woman
over a year ago

the moon

So bloody annoying steph x

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By *issme39Woman
over a year ago

kildare

"Agree to a coffee meet today , agreed 12 noon, texted the person at 11.30 to check still OK for coffee. Half hr roadtrip to get a message at 12.20 can't make it , can we take a raincheck?

Is it just me that gets messed about cause it really feels like it today?

Couples get it too and it sucks (and not in the preferred way!)

Probably got the wobbles or couldn’t think of an excuse to tell the Mrs. Either way, block that dude!

really Mrs?? never even thought about this x

block block block x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had this happen for actual meets and socials with few minutes notice or when I'm on the way. Amazing the amount of single guys with Granny's passing away suddenly. I don't give second chances not unless there's legitimate reason. Our time is precious and should be respected. "

Every tradesman I talk to atm trying to help fix up a house says yes to a job then a few days later their granny or aunt is sick. My mechanic is the same, he's always at a wake! Some lads must have no imagination at all and can't just tell the truth

DD - the ladies have already given their advice & from a lads point of view I agree. If you say you are gonna meet up then you have to follow through.

Cancelling beforehand is different and you could take what they say on board but after is not cool

Some fine lads going for sale on casuals thread, go get a wee swap at cheer up your Sunday

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Disrespectful on so many levels. The fact they felt a raincheck was on the cards would be the most galling part.

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By *ewrideMan
over a year ago

This is the stuff you want to tease out through verifications. I just want to know that someone is reliable

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest

Ah sure what else would you be at … not like your time or effort means anything … not to them anyway …

Happens all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens far too often, then like someone said above complain cause they are one of the "genuine ones"

Brush your fabulous wee self down and don't let it dampen your Sunday, his loss not yours!!

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By *twistedtoys100Man
over a year ago

LIMERICK

That's not just a blocking offense, that's bullit in the head offense.

If they bottled it, you could have been informed much sooner!

Totally out of order!!

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By *rs Robinson no 1Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Agree to a coffee meet today , agreed 12 noon, texted the person at 11.30 to check still OK for coffee. Half hr roadtrip to get a message at 12.20 can't make it , can we take a raincheck?

Is it just me that gets messed about cause it really feels like it today? "

Maybe he was already there, waiting, then got cold feet when he saw you..

His loss.

Block and delete

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Agree to a coffee meet today , agreed 12 noon, texted the person at 11.30 to check still OK for coffee. Half hr roadtrip to get a message at 12.20 can't make it , can we take a raincheck?

Is it just me that gets messed about cause it really feels like it today?

Maybe he was already there, waiting, then got cold feet when he saw you..

His loss.

Block and delete

Rx"

Thanks for the vote of confidence lol

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway

Tell him to go fuck himself and block.

I don’t leave the house if I haven’t got confirmation first that they’re coming. If they don’t show up then, there’s not much else you can do but no one gets a second chance in that situation.

If they cancel in advance and ask for a raincheck, I leave it up to them to make the arrangements.

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By *lay rock69Man
over a year ago

monaghan

I get you a drink next saturday and a big hug

it his loss not yours xx

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By *t777Woman
over a year ago

close by

"I get you a drink next saturday and a big hug

it his loss not yours xx "

I'm blown out again then? Lol

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By *lay rock69Man
over a year ago

monaghan

"I get you a drink next saturday and a big hug

it his loss not yours xx

I'm blown out again then? Lol"
i give you a hug first then a drink

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By *DSGCouple
over a year ago

That place in

"Agree to a coffee meet today , agreed 12 noon, texted the person at 11.30 to check still OK for coffee. Half hr roadtrip to get a message at 12.20 can't make it , can we take a raincheck?

Is it just me that gets messed about cause it really feels like it today?

Maybe he was already there, waiting, then got cold feet when he saw you..

His loss.

Block and delete

Thanks for the vote of confidence lol"

Remember DD, you are 'what Fab is all about':hot, playful, engaging, up for fun, and sexy as Hell.

Personally, I don't think he (or anyone else who treats anybody like that) deserves a 2nd chance and hopefully you can block & forget about him...

md (marked)

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By *unHungDubMan
over a year ago

South Dublin

I know its a question for the ladies but that's clearly out of order. There are lots of genuine decent guys out there who would jump at the opportunity though

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By *issme39Woman
over a year ago

kildare

"Agree to a coffee meet today , agreed 12 noon, texted the person at 11.30 to check still OK for coffee. Half hr roadtrip to get a message at 12.20 can't make it , can we take a raincheck?

Is it just me that gets messed about cause it really feels like it today?

Maybe he was already there, waiting, then got cold feet when he saw you..

His loss.

Block and delete

Rx"

why would you say this?? you may have meant nothing by it but come on???

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"Agree to a coffee meet today , agreed 12 noon, texted the person at 11.30 to check still OK for coffee. Half hr roadtrip to get a message at 12.20 can't make it , can we take a raincheck?

Is it just me that gets messed about cause it really feels like it today?

Maybe he was already there, waiting, then got cold feet when he saw you..

His loss.

Block and delete

why would you say this?? you may have meant nothing by it but come on??? "

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By *DSGCouple
over a year ago

That place in

"I know its a question for the ladies but that's clearly out of order. There are lots of genuine decent guys out there who would jump at the opportunity though

100% this. Yes, yes & yes indeedy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Agree to a coffee meet today , agreed 12 noon, texted the person at 11.30 to check still OK for coffee. Half hr roadtrip to get a message at 12.20 can't make it , can we take a raincheck?

Is it just me that gets messed about cause it really feels like it today?

Maybe he was already there, waiting, then got cold feet when he saw you..

His loss.

Block and delete

Thanks for the vote of confidence lol

Remember DD, you are 'what Fab is all about':hot, playful, engaging, up for fun, and sexy as Hell.

Personally, I don't think he (or anyone else who treats anybody like that) deserves a 2nd chance and hopefully you can block & forget about him...

md (marked)"

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By *ysticalWoman
over a year ago

north wexford

Same thing happen to me today but I didn't get a text till I was home over a hour

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Same thing happen to me today but I didn't get a text till I was home over a hour "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Agree to a coffee meet today , agreed 12 noon, texted the person at 11.30 to check still OK for coffee. Half hr roadtrip to get a message at 12.20 can't make it , can we take a raincheck?

Is it just me that gets messed about cause it really feels like it today? "

Block him as thats beyond rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Agree to a coffee meet today , agreed 12 noon, texted the person at 11.30 to check still OK for coffee. Half hr roadtrip to get a message at 12.20 can't make it , can we take a raincheck?

Is it just me that gets messed about cause it really feels like it today?

Maybe he was already there, waiting, then got cold feet when he saw you..

His loss.

Block and delete

why would you say this?? you may have meant nothing by it but come on??? "

Yes actually quite unkind.

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By *issme39Woman
over a year ago

kildare

"Agree to a coffee meet today , agreed 12 noon, texted the person at 11.30 to check still OK for coffee. Half hr roadtrip to get a message at 12.20 can't make it , can we take a raincheck?

Is it just me that gets messed about cause it really feels like it today?

Maybe he was already there, waiting, then got cold feet when he saw you..

His loss.

Block and delete

why would you say this?? you may have meant nothing by it but come on???

Yes actually quite unkind. "

totally agree xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Agree to a coffee meet today , agreed 12 noon, texted the person at 11.30 to check still OK for coffee. Half hr roadtrip to get a message at 12.20 can't make it , can we take a raincheck?

Is it just me that gets messed about cause it really feels like it today? "
Happens more often than people think..Its a completer waste of someone's free time and travelling to meet aswell.He could have messaged this morning like others have said.. Wouldn't be getting another chance..Genuine reason s and cancel beforehand then yes maybe xx

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By *dwh79Couple
over a year ago

ireland

"Agree to a coffee meet today , agreed 12 noon, texted the person at 11.30 to check still OK for coffee. Half hr roadtrip to get a message at 12.20 can't make it , can we take a raincheck?

Is it just me that gets messed about cause it really feels like it today? "

No it is not just you DD.. we have had a few meets with a few ladies only to be cancelled at the last minute..maybe they are not ladies .. just single males too posing as ladies

looks like we are going to be Fab virgins lol

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By *avan5Man
over a year ago

cavan

It happens to us guys too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block him, that's a knobhead.

Deserves the John Wayne Bobbitt treatment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Agree to a coffee meet today , agreed 12 noon, texted the person at 11.30 to check still OK for coffee. Half hr roadtrip to get a message at 12.20 can't make it , can we take a raincheck?

Is it just me that gets messed about cause it really feels like it today? "

I'm sorry that this has happened you today and maybe on other occasions. It has happened me a couple of times and it fairly brought the nervous excitement to an all time low and downer. It really is irritating and really ruins it for the rest of us. As offputting as its been I'm sure you probably got a lucky escape in the end. A person like that doesn't deserve the time to be spent over a coffee chatting.

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

Not turning up is Alive and kicking . Being or pretending to be a close contact now a regular last minute reason

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By *on Draper2.0Man
over a year ago

Maynooth

"Agree to a coffee meet today , agreed 12 noon, texted the person at 11.30 to check still OK for coffee. Half hr roadtrip to get a message at 12.20 can't make it , can we take a raincheck?

Is it just me that gets messed about cause it really feels like it today? "

Not just you.

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By *uskysoundsCouple
over a year ago

Mazarrón, Spain

Happened to us a few weeks ago, not nice but block and forget, his loss. Letting you know 20 minutes after he was due shows what he is, you dodged a bullet with that one

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By *acd03Man
over a year ago

Naughtyville

"Agree to a coffee meet today , agreed 12 noon, texted the person at 11.30 to check still OK for coffee. Half hr roadtrip to get a message at 12.20 can't make it , can we take a raincheck?

Is it just me that gets messed about cause it really feels like it today? "

Half-hour roadtrip Devine?.......try 120 kilometres each way for a no-show

You are not alone my friend, not alone at all

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

"Agree to a coffee meet today , agreed 12 noon, texted the person at 11.30 to check still OK for coffee. Half hr roadtrip to get a message at 12.20 can't make it , can we take a raincheck?

Is it just me that gets messed about cause it really feels like it today?

Half-hour roadtrip Devine?.......try 120 kilometres each way for a no-show

You are not alone my friend, not alone at all

Oooooh nooooo that's rough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not acceptable at all

Deserves the block button

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By *acd03Man
over a year ago

Naughtyville

"Agree to a coffee meet today , agreed 12 noon, texted the person at 11.30 to check still OK for coffee. Half hr roadtrip to get a message at 12.20 can't make it , can we take a raincheck?

Is it just me that gets messed about cause it really feels like it today?

Half-hour roadtrip Devine?.......try 120 kilometres each way for a no-show

You are not alone my friend, not alone at all

Oooooh nooooo that's rough

Rough indeed Lolly,

Rough and bloody costly in time, patience and diesel.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"Agree to a coffee meet today , agreed 12 noon, texted the person at 11.30 to check still OK for coffee. Half hr roadtrip to get a message at 12.20 can't make it , can we take a raincheck?

Is it just me that gets messed about cause it really feels like it today?

Half-hour roadtrip Devine?.......try 120 kilometres each way for a no-show

You are not alone my friend, not alone at all

Oooooh nooooo that's rough

Rough indeed Lolly,

Rough and bloody costly in time, patience and diesel."

That's a really crap thing to do to anyone.

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By *acd03Man
over a year ago

Naughtyville

"Agree to a coffee meet today , agreed 12 noon, texted the person at 11.30 to check still OK for coffee. Half hr roadtrip to get a message at 12.20 can't make it , can we take a raincheck?

Is it just me that gets messed about cause it really feels like it today?

Half-hour roadtrip Devine?.......try 120 kilometres each way for a no-show

You are not alone my friend, not alone at all

Oooooh nooooo that's rough

Rough indeed Lolly,

Rough and bloody costly in time, patience and diesel.

That's a really crap thing to do to anyone. "

Rather makes a mockery of verifications, even when the composers of the veris themselves were also checked out beforehand to see they were halfways genuine profiles.

Hard to maintain patience for fems/cpls who carry on like that.

Hard, and bloody expensive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stupid gobshite. To even get someone to meet is an achievement but to not show up is feckin ridiculous. Definitely block him and move on.

Can I take his place instead?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That happens on here bigtime,all concerned need grow pair of balls if u say u meet,meet,more than like ur guy turned up had a look chickened out& watched u leave,a chickenshit

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That happens on here bigtime,all concerned need grow pair of balls if u say u meet,meet,more than like ur guy turned up had a look chickened out& watched u leave,a chickenshit"

He definitely didn't watch me leave as after driving a half hour to meet him, I stayed and had coffee and cake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That happens on here bigtime,all concerned need grow pair of balls if u say u meet,meet,more than like ur guy turned up had a look chickened out& watched u leave,a chickenshit

He definitely didn't watch me leave as after driving a half hour to meet him, I stayed and had coffee and cake. "

He chickened out well beforehand DD! He would have replied to your message before the meet if he was gonna come.

Shite craic that he didn't even have the balls to let you know he couldn't make it. Would try not to think too much about it as you got out easy & scot free in the end!

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By *ogladyWoman
over a year ago

The bog

"Agree to a coffee meet today , agreed 12 noon, texted the person at 11.30 to check still OK for coffee. Half hr roadtrip to get a message at 12.20 can't make it , can we take a raincheck?

Is it just me that gets messed about cause it really feels like it today? "

Has happened to me loads of time's

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By *ussyhoundMan
over a year ago

Dungannon

I can only speak for myself

If I arrange something I'll be there, and for a coffee meet there's nothing to be afraid of, d×××heads like that spoil fab for us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Agree to a coffee meet today , agreed 12 noon, texted the person at 11.30 to check still OK for coffee. Half hr roadtrip to get a message at 12.20 can't make it , can we take a raincheck?

Is it just me that gets messed about cause it really feels like it today?

Has happened to me loads of time's"

Its shite

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By *ombikerMan
over a year ago

the right side of the river

"Agree to a coffee meet today , agreed 12 noon, texted the person at 11.30 to check still OK for coffee. Half hr roadtrip to get a message at 12.20 can't make it , can we take a raincheck?

Is it just me that gets messed about cause it really feels like it today? "

Happened to me loads of times.

I can appreciate sometimes things crop up and you can’t make it. But let the other person know before, not after.

It’s the not letting the other person know that is the real pisser

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By *on Draper2.0Man
over a year ago

Maynooth

I've read a lot of responses to this saying block and move on. Yea, I would tend to agree with that but be sure you're doing it for the right reason. To me, if he (or she) cancels but give to some advance warning and seems genuinely sorry then the benefit of the doubt comes into play. I like to not be too judgemental in these situations because shit happens and it could be me one day. If they simply say nothing and don't show up or ignore messages and say nothing until after the appointed time, well, as in this case, the block is well deserved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've read a lot of responses to this saying block and move on. Yea, I would tend to agree with that but be sure you're doing it for the right reason. To me, if he (or she) cancels but give to some advance warning and seems genuinely sorry then the benefit of the doubt comes into play. I like to not be too judgemental in these situations because shit happens and it could be me one day. If they simply say nothing and don't show up or ignore messages and say nothing until after the appointed time, well, as in this case, the block is well deserved."

Ya thats literally the scenario people are commenting on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Didn't text before the time. I had to travel a half hour , we were to meet at 12. I texted at 11.30 before I headed off and he messaged at 12.20 with a reason , he had been online early sun morning, had plenty of opportunity on the Saturday, you have spoken to me and you know I will give people the benefit of the doubt and i don't use the block button often. It just would have been nice to have cancelled before I travelled.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sucks.

But we all know it happens it's a of the site experience for alot of people unfortunately.

It's best not to give it too much headrace or let it affect you your mood

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It sucks.

But we all know it happens it's a of the site experience for alot of people unfortunately.

It's best not to give it too much headrace or let it affect you your mood "

I know and I should be well used to it, think yesterday's one just hit extra hard, thank god I didn't get stopped on the way home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It sucks.

But we all know it happens it's a of the site experience for alot of people unfortunately.

It's best not to give it too much headrace or let it affect you your mood

I know and I should be well used to it, think yesterday's one just hit extra hard, thank god I didn't get stopped on the way home "

Risky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It sucks.

But we all know it happens it's a of the site experience for alot of people unfortunately.

It's best not to give it too much headrace or let it affect you your mood

I know and I should be well used to it, think yesterday's one just hit extra hard, thank god I didn't get stopped on the way home "

I find the more time I dwell on smaller things the more they can affect my mood.

My advice would be forget the thread, delete the profile pic and move in to something happier.

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By *iscuits8Man
over a year ago

Meath / Dublin / Birmingham

Sorry that happened you DD. It's an absolutely shite situation to be in and I've been in it several times. I'd feel guilty as hell if I'd cancelled late on without a genuine reason. There's a hell of a lot of timewasters on here unfortunately.

Hope the cake and cuppa were daycent at least...

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Agree to a coffee meet today , agreed 12 noon, texted the person at 11.30 to check still OK for coffee. Half hr roadtrip to get a message at 12.20 can't make it , can we take a raincheck?

Is it just me that gets messed about cause it really feels like it today? "
im afraid I wouldn't have left the house until I had a definite yes from the other party even if it ment change times for the delay in replying.

If no firm plans are confirmed then assume its not happening until told otherwise

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By *ittlekinks38Woman
over a year ago

outside belfast x

Definitely not just you hun don't take it personal it's their loss cause your a diamond of a women as I've always said! But dhame on him for not letting you know sooner that's not gonna look good on him!

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By *illyouup400Man
over a year ago

City

His loss for sure.

Not a nice thing to do, so you are better off knowing know what he's like!

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By *alwayguy2020Man
over a year ago

near trien

Had this happen to me this morning arranged for the meet last thurday. For 12ish i turned up around 11.45 i like to be fairly punctual i believe it shows the character of a person. Waited till 12.30 and noting no show up no sorry not even a terrible excuse. I could have worked with a terrible excuse but just to be ignored is the height of ignorance i think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is just terrible manners in general....never mind on Fabs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awful manners, as newbies on here we understand that someone might get overwhelmed or want to back out, but knowingly letting someone get dressed up and leave their house, only to cancel on them 20 minutes before the meet let alone AFTER the agreed meet up time is really horrible.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Had this happen to me this morning arranged for the meet last thurday. For 12ish i turned up around 11.45 i like to be fairly punctual i believe it shows the character of a person. Waited till 12.30 and noting no show up no sorry not even a terrible excuse. I could have worked with a terrible excuse but just to be ignored is the height of ignorance i think

Sorry to hear that

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By *acd03Man
over a year ago

Naughtyville

"Awful manners, as newbies on here we understand that someone might get overwhelmed or want to back out, but knowingly letting someone get dressed up and leave their house, only to cancel on them 20 minutes before the meet let alone AFTER the agreed meet up time is really horrible."

+1 on that

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By *issme39Woman
over a year ago

kildare

you told us you block People for not replying to you!! so this response doesn't make sense

she should of course ever meet this fella again! he did a shitty shitty thing..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah shit usually happens 20 minutes after you were supposed to meet someone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What an ass!! Who would be so crazy to pass up such a lovely offer!!!!
"Agree to a coffee meet today , agreed 12 noon, texted the person at 11.30 to check still OK for coffee. Half hr roadtrip to get a message at 12.20 can't make it , can we take a raincheck?

Is it just me that gets messed about cause it really feels like it today? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh crap!! That happened to me on POF a couple of times.... It's so disappointing and frustrating
"Had this happen to me this morning arranged for the meet last thurday. For 12ish i turned up around 11.45 i like to be fairly punctual i believe it shows the character of a person. Waited till 12.30 and noting no show up no sorry not even a terrible excuse. I could have worked with a terrible excuse but just to be ignored is the height of ignorance i think

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By *ONDYWoman
over a year ago

00heaven

"Agree to a coffee meet today , agreed 12 noon, texted the person at 11.30 to check still OK for coffee. Half hr roadtrip to get a message at 12.20 can't make it , can we take a raincheck?

Is it just me that gets messed about cause it really feels like it today? "

Been there a few times & its always the ones you least expect!!! Don't let it put you off just move on to the next lucky guy. Hope you can make Belfast soon xx

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By *eijaWoman
over a year ago

City Centre

OP sorry that happened to you but unfortunately it happens a lot and it's just plain rude.At least give some advance notice if you are going to cancel and stop waisting people's precious time.

I really don't think the people that do this realise how small the community is and that people talk.

B x

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

"OP sorry that happened to you but unfortunately it happens a lot and it's just plain rude.At least give some advance notice if you are going to cancel and stop waisting people's precious time.

I really don't think the people that do this realise how small the community is and that people talk.

B x"

Beija's last comment is so so true and those inclined to let people down should take note.

Sorry it happened to you DD but next weekend is guaranteed to make up for it, bring it on

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By *ilverfox74Man
over a year ago

dublin offaly

"Agree to a coffee meet today , agreed 12 noon, texted the person at 11.30 to check still OK for coffee. Half hr roadtrip to get a message at 12.20 can't make it , can we take a raincheck?

Is it just me that gets messed about cause it really feels like it today? "

Sorry to hear that. Not right at all. This is why men get a bad name on here.

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By *oserMan
over a year ago

where the wild roses grow

"Agree to a coffee meet today , agreed 12 noon, texted the person at 11.30 to check still OK for coffee. Half hr roadtrip to get a message at 12.20 can't make it , can we take a raincheck?

Is it just me that gets messed about cause it really feels like it today?

Sorry to hear that. Not right at all. This is why men get a bad name on here. "

Is it?

My good / bad name is down to me nobody else.

His name is likely in the shithouse now but it has fook all affect on mine

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Agree to a coffee meet today , agreed 12 noon, texted the person at 11.30 to check still OK for coffee. Half hr roadtrip to get a message at 12.20 can't make it , can we take a raincheck?

Is it just me that gets messed about cause it really feels like it today?

Sorry to hear that. Not right at all. This is why men get a bad name on here. "

It doesn't give all men a bad name here it just makes it harder to agree to meet someone , we'll in my opinion it does

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By *ONDYWoman
over a year ago

00heaven

"Agree to a coffee meet today , agreed 12 noon, texted the person at 11.30 to check still OK for coffee. Half hr roadtrip to get a message at 12.20 can't make it , can we take a raincheck?

Is it just me that gets messed about cause it really feels like it today?

Sorry to hear that. Not right at all. This is why men get a bad name on here.

It doesn't give all men a bad name here it just makes it harder to agree to meet someone , we'll in my opinion it does"

OP can you mail me please? I tried to message you but unable too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Agree to a coffee meet today , agreed 12 noon, texted the person at 11.30 to check still OK for coffee. Half hr roadtrip to get a message at 12.20 can't make it , can we take a raincheck?

Is it just me that gets messed about cause it really feels like it today? "

Sorry to hear this happened today DD and no it's nothing new, some guys are doing it all the time cancelling again and again at the last minute and then expecting you to be there when they click their fingers.

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By *irdnBorisMan
over a year ago

meath

Only way is block if the arsehole cancelled once he surely do it again.a few years back i went up north for a coffee meet i wasnt feeling well on the morning but still went i dont like letting people down or wasting others time .

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

That's dispicsble . You don't do that ever to anyone . If you agree to a meet you turn up .

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

I went to meet a lady 3 times she was a big messer . Kept saying I was not there

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By *hilaboutMan
over a year ago

kilkenny

Hard to believe it's happening as much as this thread portrays..should they be named n shamed to stop em treating others like this ..just me speaking my mind ..lousy treatment tbh

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