FabSwingers.com forum: Has This Happened to Anyone?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So the last 4/5 years my brain has been obsessed with thoughts of sex with others, being naked with others, etc. I have had a number of experiences, massages, etc in order to give me some sexual excitement. Anyway, few months ago I let it all out to my partner about my urges, she is super, and has not been cross, but has been very understanding.

Now, the urge is gone. It’s even gone in my personal life. It’s almost as if I’ve become asexual. I’m more content with life, way less bouts of utter discontentment. Don’t get me wrong, I miss being horny but it’s like I have talked my brain out of it.

Has anyone experienced this? Please keep the jokey comments to other chats!

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man
over a year ago

City Centre, Dublin

Well if the thoughts are gone and you’re no longer interested why are ye on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its quiet normal that obsessive thoughts grow less powerful and all consuming once confessed, and with that comes a feeling of relief

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By *ewrideMan
over a year ago

You're just getting older

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Human nature is to want what you can't have

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've never experienced periods of obsession or horniness that lasted days never mind years so I can't point you in any particular direction.

Your current feelings or lack of are basically how I've felt for 25+ years without the contentment.

I take each day as it comes and if that involves some form of sexual exploration I see that as a bonus.

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By *ustinCiderMan
over a year ago

Allover

So Guys are more interested in 'the chase' than the reality. Could you be experiencing a version of that ? Getting it all out in the open has released a valve !

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

"So the last 4/5 years my brain has been obsessed with thoughts of sex with others, being naked with others, etc. I have had a number of experiences, massages, etc in order to give me some sexual excitement. Anyway, few months ago I let it all out to my partner about my urges, she is super, and has not been cross, but has been very understanding.

Has anyone experienced this? Please keep the jokey comments to other chats! "

What motivates us to have sex ? Sure the urge can be biological but a large part for some is to do with needing to feel desired and wanted .

If you’re worried that you’re not desired or wanted you can obsess about having sex to prove you are once you have it . Being overly horny might be a negative , dysfunctional and distressed state for some .

Maybe your partner desires you but her body isn’t able to have it as frequently as her mind does . Maybe that’s reassuring for you . Maybe you’ve weighed up the cons of meeting people here and thought it ain’t worth it .

As long as the lack of urge isn’t a loss of libido as a general descent towards melancholy then it’s ok isn’t it ? You sound happier . Don’t overthink it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Has anyone experienced this? Please keep the jokey comments to other chats!

What motivates us to have sex ? Sure the urge can be biological but a large part for some is to do with needing to feel desired and wanted .

As long as the lack of urge isn’t a loss of libido as a general descent towards melancholy then it’s ok isn’t it ? You sound happier . Don’t overthink it

Fair play, not sure if happier but definitely more content. As previous poster said it could be just age. Went through a serious mid life crisis, think it’s over now.

Anyway I was just wondering if anyone, guys in particular, had gone through this before.

Cheers for comments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went through about 8 years of no sex/ intimacy from my late 20s to mid 30s and I don't remember missing it, I think I just accepted that I was destined to be single and unwanted.

Since joining here and learning a few things about myself, learning that it's OK to enjoy sex etc I miss sex but I also miss the intimacy but I don't miss it enough for casual meaningless sex which is what I had in my 20s. Now I want to enjoy the experience, explore sex with someone or someone's lol

I'm learning to be content about been on my own and satisfying my needs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think I’ve figured it out.

I’m long term married and she is super but up to lately I was craving new sexual experiences, like crazy. There is no way I’d leave the relationship as it would hurt her, family, me.

She is very conservative sexually and that’s fine. I think by being on here, having a few private experiences, it has worked it out in my head.

I’ve basically brought myself to her level of interest and that is the right thing to do. I’ve been very lucky so for the sex of some exciting sexual experiences it’s time to move on.

I’ll stay here until my sub runs out but that’s it.

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

In your pursuit of the exotic, the different, the unusual, you're not much different from most men. We often confuse sexual experiences with intimate experiences. But sex doesn't always give us the intimacy we crave. In sharing your intimate thoughts and desires with your partner,who is a good listener you may have found an intimacy that you hadn't experienced before. That intimate connection is what we all seek. You have found it, and it seems to be giving you a deeper satisfaction than anonymous encounters with fabbers. Fab can be great therapy that way.!! Your urges have simply subsided,.. Now, go off and buy a Harley.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In your pursuit of the exotic, the different, the unusual, you're not much different from most men. We often confuse sexual experiences with intimate experiences. But sex doesn't always give us the intimacy we crave. In sharing your intimate thoughts and desires with your partner,who is a good listener you may have found an intimacy that you hadn't experienced before. That intimate connection is what we all seek. You have found it, and it seems to be giving you a deeper satisfaction than anonymous encounters with fabbers. Fab can be great therapy that way.!! Your urges have simply subsided,.. Now, go off and buy a Harley. "

Lol, brilliant.

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By *oadrunner2000Man
over a year ago

city centre

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By *oadrunner2000Man
over a year ago

city centre

"Well if the thoughts are gone and you’re no longer interested why are ye on here?"

Idiot response

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