FabSwingers.com forum: What do you come to the forum for?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Following on from a few chats yesterday its clear we all come for different things.

I keep coming back for the debates/arguments I really do enjoy them I like to hear other people's views on topics even if I disagree and will try to counter them (probably too often).

I also like the comedy moments that can happen on here, there have always been some very funny posters, although there are less that make me laugh atm but these things come in cycles.

It's also a great way to find new people to chat to in my expiriance.

So what brings you to the forum?

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By *oserMan
over a year ago

where the wild roses grow

Bit of everything tbh

The debate threads are good

The funny random threads can be brilliant, at times I've had to check myself when in a public setting because of them

But its also a great networking facility, the amount of fabbers I have had the pleasure to meet as a result of an interaction on a thread is surprising.

AND it helps out some of the fruit loops

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit of everything. I try to avoid the debates . But gotta love the gunny threads or the ones that just get totally derailed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A profile give you 1 view of a person, their forum posts or replies give a view of their mind & personality

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The funny random threads can be brilliant, at times I've had to check myself when in a public setting because of them

This has happened less for me since I've come back I'm not sure if it's just me or are there just less moments like that at present?

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"Bit of everything tbh

The debate threads are good

The funny random threads can be brilliant, at times I've had to check myself when in a public setting because of them

But its also a great networking facility, the amount of fabbers I have had the pleasure to meet as a result of an interaction on a thread is surprising.

AND it helps out some of the fruit loops

Yep have to agree with you on most of that.That's more or less why I come on here too.

It interesting to see what others have to say and how they act on here. It can be a handy way to see people's personalities as well .

I've had a few well more than a few debates on here and that can be just as interesting to see others view points on things even if I may not always agree it's never taken personal as long as people don't start throwing jibes.Then they can just feck off

But I do find it a good way to see people I'd like to meet at some stage and just as handy to see those I would avoid as well.

It can also be a place to have a bit of craic and pass the time when sitting at home alone.

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By *oxo4319Man
over a year ago

North Dublin

Mostly to pass the time but also it gives a great view of a personality

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

To find the middle ground.

I've no interest in heavy debates regardless of the subject so I avoid those like the plague. I've no interest either in the list threads or kiss/fuck ones because it's usually just lip service.

Light hearted fun conversations are good and it gives me a better idea of people and personas and separates those I'm interested in chatting to from those that make me reach for the sanitiser every time they post.

It's a distraction more than an investment.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To find the middle ground.

What % of the posts here do you find appeals to that?

Has it gone a little bit to either extreme more so than previously?

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

I enjoy must of the thread's on the forum page just not the one's that ye know are going to trun argumentative or nasty, they just don't appeal to me or the people that partisapate in them..

I interact more with people on here than through messages alone which has lead to meeting some amazing people where's through messages they could have slipped by..

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"To find the middle ground.

What % of the posts here do you find appeals to that?

Has it gone a little bit to either extreme more so than previously?"

A large percentage has become inane and completely lacking in originality.

The other extreme I've no idea as I've always avoided the debates.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The people who can debate on here and keep on topic without getting personal is definitely a quality that stands out to me. Because its not as common as you would imagine I guess.

It's a line I probably cross too often when I'm in the flow of reading and replying.

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By *amien9010Man
over a year ago

ashbourne

"I enjoy must of the thread's on the forum page just not the one's that ye know are going to trun argumentative or nasty, they just don't appeal to me or the people that partisapate in them..

I interact more with people on here than through messages alone which has lead to meeting some amazing people where's through messages they could have slipped by..

I have started to come here more for chats with women who have blocked people of my age from messaging , hoping that they might appreciate the lighter brighter sexier side of a slightly hic older man !!

How am I doing so far lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just dip in and out for a bit of light-hearted fun

I'm always up with the birds in the morning so I'll usually say good morning

It's a bit of distraction from the norm and I wouldn't take anything too seriously

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By *amien9010Man
over a year ago

ashbourne

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By *amien9010Man
over a year ago

ashbourne

"I just dip in and out for a bit of light-hearted fun

I'm always up with the birds in the morning so I'll usually say good morning

It's a bit of distraction from the norm and I wouldn't take anything too seriously

A lot to be said for dipping in and out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mostly for the craic. But the forum's give a better idea of what a person is like. Quite a few have been kicked off my hotlist because of the way they are in the forum's and one or 2 added coz they brighten up my day

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway

Rage by the look of a lot of my posts

I’m trying to keep away from the posts that get my blood boiling, however I find it very hard to not reply to certain things, like people contradicting themselves just because they’re replying to a woman, or pure misinformation.

I enjoy some of the games (kiss/fuck/ride backwards/give your last rolo ones aside due to the lick arsing that goes on). It’s quite a creative community with regards to amusing threads and fair play to the people who put the effort in to create threads that are engaging and fun.

I’ve met some of my favourite fabbers through the forum so I think it’s great for finding people you may not otherwise have engaged with.

I do think that the forum has become a very strange place (and kind of boring) the last while. I’m not sure if some of the posts are for shock value or what but I do know that it comes in waves so I’m just waiting for it to pass.

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By *oserMan
over a year ago

where the wild roses grow

The people who can debate on here and keep on topic without getting personal is definitely a quality that stands out to me. Because its not as common as you would imagine I guess.

It's a line I probably cross too often when I'm in the flow of reading and replying."

Its mainly when someone misreads or twists a post to create a drama that doesn't exist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably similar enough to yourself Corklad!

Don't get into some of the more serious threads too much but they can be good reading.

Spread a bit of light advice around and try to see what others take on things are as understanding other people perspectives is always helpful imo, good or bad!

Mostly just on for bit of light hearted banter while trying to not be too sarcastic at times

And chats with some nice people on here

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By *amien9010Man
over a year ago

ashbourne

"Rage by the look of a lot of my posts

I’ve met some of my favourite fabbers through the forum so I think it’s great for finding people you may not otherwise have engaged with.

Ah now I’d love to see you in a rage

as long as I am not the target lol

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By *issme39Woman
over a year ago

kildare

"Probably similar enough to yourself Corklad!

Don't get into some of the more serious threads too much but they can be good reading.

Spread a bit of light advice around and try to see what others take on things are as understanding other people perspectives is always helpful imo, good or bad!

Mostly just on for bit of light hearted banter while trying to not be too sarcastic at times

And chats with some nice people on here

same for me...

I just try ( doesn't always work

) stay away from the ones that boil my old blood..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes definitely a mix of everything and just to try get to know people a little bit and see what events are going on.

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By *oserMan
over a year ago

where the wild roses grow

The funny random threads can be brilliant, at times I've had to check myself when in a public setting because of them

This has happened less for me since I've come back I'm not sure if it's just me or are there just less moments like that at present?"

True, like everything it has its peaks and troughs.

I've even noticed a seasonal relationship on the forums, come spring and summer everyone perks up and shows their happier side

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The people who can debate on here and keep on topic without getting personal is definitely a quality that stands out to me. Because its not as common as you would imagine I guess.

It's a line I probably cross too often when I'm in the flow of reading and replying.

Its mainly when someone misreads or twists a post to create a drama that doesn't exist"

Ahem ahem.... I've never twisted someone words

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

To have a bit of craic first and foremost

The threads that make me laugh out loud when reading them are my favourite especially when the subject goes off on a tangent to what the first post starts with

To get my personalty out there....I'm not great at writing dms so I've probably only sent a handful in my 2 years on here.

If I flip flop on certain subjects then I'm just talking out my arse which can be me in real life anyway

To get invites to meets and socials

To have sex

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By *eralt80Man
over a year ago

cork

I’m here for the company and the distraction. I usually spend my days working alone so it feels like there’s a gang of people around.

I mainly stick to the more lighthearted threads and don’t really get involved debating/ arguing threads.

Also I’ve found that I can be a great way of getting to know people and their personalities.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I forgot to add a desperate attempt to get my dick wet also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Probably similar enough to yourself Corklad!

Don't get into some of the more serious threads too much but they can be good reading.

Spread a bit of light advice around and try to see what others take on things are as understanding other people perspectives is always helpful imo, good or bad!

Mostly just on for bit of light hearted banter while trying to not be too sarcastic at times

And chats with some nice people on here

same for me...

I just try ( doesn't always work

) stay away from the ones that boil my old blood..

You are always on the right side of the law MM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I forgot to add a desperate attempt to get my dick wet also"

You still haven't given up on that yet

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By *issme39Woman
over a year ago

kildare

"Probably similar enough to yourself Corklad!

Don't get into some of the more serious threads too much but they can be good reading.

Spread a bit of light advice around and try to see what others take on things are as understanding other people perspectives is always helpful imo, good or bad!

Mostly just on for bit of light hearted banter while trying to not be too sarcastic at times

And chats with some nice people on here

same for me...

I just try ( doesn't always work

) stay away from the ones that boil my old blood..

You are always on the right side of the law MM

I do try

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I forgot to add a desperate attempt to get my dick wet also

You still haven't given up on that yet

It's gotta rain at some stage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I forgot to add a desperate attempt to get my dick wet also

You still haven't given up on that yet

It's gotta rain at some stage

Get the turf in for the winter is my advice

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

Normally just a bit of craic and banter. I have enough seriousness and the like in my everyday life so all i want is some lighthearted relief which i have found has been less of late but hey ho such is life. I dont have much time any more owing to real life stuff so ive very much taken a step back and since its looking more and more likely that we will not be resuming meets for a very long time im less inclined to get involved and get to know new people. I have made some lovely friends because of the forums and they put up with my madness and quirks so its all good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just recently got involved in the forums and some of the fun threads have some great banter and witty characters on.Hopefully get to know people better than just looking and reading a profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Craic, banter, flirts

, getting to know people, a bit of philosophising at times, a bit of debating other times, support, advice & learning about sex and the swing community. So many reasons!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the witty comments, pure genius some of them

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By *eepixieWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

A bit of light hearted craic & conversations. It can be a lonely long day for me, fab friends help to get me through those shit days!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same reason we've always come to the forums. A laugh and it's a great way to make connections with people as well

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By *ollybirdWoman
over a year ago

east Cork

"I forgot to add a desperate attempt to get my dick wet also

You still haven't given up on that yet

It's gotta rain at some stage

How about a shower? Definitely get your dick wet there.

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By *angero3aMan
over a year ago

swords

to find a nice sexy married couple who looking for a nice discreet single guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The forums seem to be the meeting grounds of the whole fab community, and I love the engagement.

I've engaged with so many great profiles here, and had plenty of fun.

Whether it be someone's views, interests or way of life, it's definitely worth a visit to the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Come for the boobs. Stay for the humanity

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By *ussyhoundMan
over a year ago

Dungannon

I enjoy the forums for various reasons, the debates the banter between peeps personality and having a nosey on peeps thoughts.

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

Following on from a few chats yesterday its clear we all come for different things.

I keep coming back for the debates/arguments I really do enjoy them I like to hear other people's views on topics even if I disagree and will try to counter them (probably too often).

Yes mostly agree. Important to be careful with the debate threads as the syntax differences between written and spoken words mean some posts can come across as much more angry than if the same debate was had in a pub.

I also like the comedy moments that can happen on here, there have always been some very funny posters, although there are less that make me laugh atm but these things come in cycles.

I have a top 3 favourite posts in my head absolutely . Ones that have made me laugh hours later and ones I have shared . Can be a funny place alright .

It's also a great way to find new people to chat to in my experience

Absolutely . I have met people I would never have met without it.

Overall it’s a positive experience, although some days less so. Do like the quizzes and some threads have been very educational . Hopefully there is room for everyone unless the posts are really out of order . It’s a really useful way of knowing who is on your wavelength and who isn’t . I d like to think that once it’s clear that people aren’t that there is a civil way of co-existing .

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

The forum and its disparate threads is an excellent means of gauging the Zeitgeist of the lifestyle in Ireland; personalities, attitudes, preferences, trends, etc.

It facilitates cross-referencing to swinging on the continent and in the US, which are different; not wholly different, but subtly.

It enables one to build up a composite picture.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I came cos I heard there was free stuff

And then went away bitterly disappointed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a very good question , as you get older you become less relevant here so it's a good way to see what others opinions are on some subjects that really do matter , I avoid the obviously crude and numpty self serving ones and occasionally drop a wee comment in myself sometimes slightly controversial to see if someone might bite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mostly, to amuse myself at the expense of others

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"Mostly, to amuse myself at the expense of others

I come purely for that arse

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Mostly, to amuse myself at the expense of others

I come purely for that arse

It's for the vaccine chats isn't it?

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"Mostly, to amuse myself at the expense of others

I come purely for that arse

It's for the vaccine chats isn't it?"

Ah sure look..

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

"Mostly, to amuse myself at the expense of others

I come purely for that arse

It's for the vaccine chats isn't it?

Ah sure look..

I love how tempting it is to think ‘ I am one really factual post from convincing others to change their mind’

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Mostly, to amuse myself at the expense of others

I come purely for that arse

It's for the vaccine chats isn't it?

Ah sure look..

I love how tempting it is to think ‘ I am one really factual post from convincing others to change their mind’"

Chasing the factual dragon there.....

We have all been on that ride

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest

"Mostly, to amuse myself at the expense of others

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"Mostly, to amuse myself at the expense of others

I come purely for that arse

It's for the vaccine chats isn't it?

Ah sure look..

I love how tempting it is to think ‘ I am one really factual post from convincing others to change their mind’"

Does anyone actually believe that though? I think it's more about expressing one's own opinion. If that changes someone's mind then do be it. It's not the objective though. Debate is an end in itself.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"Mostly, to amuse myself at the expense of others

I come purely for that arse

It's for the vaccine chats isn't it?

Ah sure look..

I love how tempting it is to think ‘ I am one really factual post from convincing others to change their mind’

*so be it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mostly, to amuse myself at the expense of others

I come purely for that arse

It's for the vaccine chats isn't it?

Ah sure look..

I love how tempting it is to think ‘ I am one really factual post from convincing others to change their mind’

*so be it"

I sometimes change my mind if presented with a convincing argument, damned if I'll ever admit it to the person though

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By *OCONO5Couple
over a year ago

Sensual Center

Ohh....I come here to look at the profile pictures

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"Mostly, to amuse myself at the expense of others

I come purely for that arse

It's for the vaccine chats isn't it?

Ah sure look..

I love how tempting it is to think ‘ I am one really factual post from convincing others to change their mind’

*so be it

I sometimes change my mind if presented with a convincing argument, damned if I'll ever admit it to the person though

Jaysus, would me telling you that your arse is in the top 100 of all the arses I've looked at today change your mind about that offer I made you earlier?

Pm me before I change my mind!

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By *ocktailsdreamsMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Ohh....I come here to look at the profile pictures

Funnily enough me too and I'm getting an eyeful today ! Maybe even 5 eyefuls

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By *oxyvixen99Woman
over a year ago

Newtownabbey

A wee nosey

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

Lots of different reasons, to get others opinions on things, to see who’s a loon, for a laugh, but mostly for a perv……

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest

To know who to avoid

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By *ocktailsdreamsMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"To know who to avoid

Yes I would avoid people who slut shame other people, thus trying to Shane them for what sex they are having and how much thar is their choice.

I'm pro choice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To know who to avoid

Yes I would avoid people who slut shame other people, thus trying to Shane them for what sex they are having and how much thar is their choice.

I'm pro choice. "

You missed the calling all gents thread if you wanna copy and paste the message under her post there

Wanna fill the rest of us in sounds dramarific

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

For a look see... for the flirt, chat and laugh... the entertainment factor, which comes and goes in waves...

But really, I'm just a nosy ol' cow

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By *aughty9ieMan
over a year ago

Dublin

I come here for the chat the banter and occasionally to catch someone's eye

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By *ocktailsdreamsMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

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By *ocktailsdreamsMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"To know who to avoid

Yes I would avoid people who slut shame other people, thus trying to Shane them for what sex they are having and how much thar is their choice.

I'm pro choice.

What do you mean copy and paste ?

You missed the calling all gents thread if you wanna copy and paste the message under her post there

Wanna fill the rest of us in sounds dramarific"

What do you mean copy and paste?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To know who to avoid

Yes I would avoid people who slut shame other people, thus trying to Shane them for what sex they are having and how much thar is their choice.

I'm pro choice.

What do you mean copy and paste ?

You missed the calling all gents thread if you wanna copy and paste the message under her post there

Wanna fill the rest of us in sounds dramarific

What do you mean copy and paste? "

To save you time writing the same thing put again. A very helpful tool

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By *t777Woman
over a year ago

close by

They are good fun, and also very helpful as full of information

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By *he SophisticatsCouple
over a year ago

Casa Del Fun

We just pop in for a snack every now and again

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

"I come here for the chat the banter and occasionally to catch someone's eye

Just be careful not to drop it

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By *he SophisticatsCouple
over a year ago

Casa Del Fun

"I come here for the chat the banter and occasionally to catch someone's eye

Just be careful not to drop it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The Craic

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

What percentage or proportion of the Irish membership of fab actually regularly use the forum; and is it more or less useful than the chatrooms for making contact, or building one's profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't look at the forums that often. Sometimes some of the topics leave me asking myself are grown adults asking these questions & you tend to see the same people continually commenting. So for those reasons I only look occasionally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We just pop in for a snack every now and again

Ye must be hungry so num nums lol.

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By *he SophisticatsCouple
over a year ago

Casa Del Fun

"We just pop in for a snack every now and again

Ye must be hungry so num nums lol.

Fancy sharing some nom noms?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the forums myself. Love having the craic and love to read exciting stuff too.

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