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By *asual777 OP   Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

Taken from the lounge but timely as many socials coming up in November

how do you make sure you don't get lost in a crowd? How do you "work the room" in a social gathering of any kind? Do you stick to your little group? Do you make sure you talk to everyone? Do you aim at certain people who look like your kindred spirit? Are you approachable or a bit of a shy wallflower?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Approachable but shy until the liquor starts calling the shots ha ha x

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By *aughty9ieMan
over a year ago

Dublin

if there's music i dance i can move pretty well i did two years of dance in college normally separates me from the crowd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm ridiculously shy, especially in situations where I don't know anyone, but I think I'm still approachable. I'm OK-ish once I get going usually but my mind will be constantly racing, continually assessing my "performance". Am I talking enough? Talking too much? Am I boring them? Shit, I can't remember their name. All that stuff and nonsense. But I can only be myself and people just have to take me as they find me

K

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By *asual777 OP   Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

I tend to focus on those I know , have things in common with the profile of , or I am interested in. I like to do a bit of research on whom I am co attending a social with ideally so there are some ice breakers

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By *ogladyWoman
over a year ago

The bog

I just chat to everyone...and when I'm full of drink I shift everyone..ha ha .

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By *aughty9ieMan
over a year ago

Dublin

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By *aughty9ieMan
over a year ago

Dublin

in that case i hope your at the next meet im at

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have been to a good few socials and will admit I was dreadful would literally sit with the people I know and not move around. But somewhere in the last year not sure what happened but I do try and mix more and chat to people to the surprise of quite a few people who have actually commented on how I've come out of my shell. The last social I had a snowglobe (had a wee willy in it) between my boobs going around telling the guys that's what their willy would like between my boobs. Noone offered the real thing though

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By *asual777 OP   Man
over a year ago

i travel all over


"Have been to a good few socials and will admit I was dreadful would literally sit with the people I know and not move around. But somewhere in the last year not sure what happened but I do try and mix more and chat to people to the surprise of quite a few people who have actually commented on how I've come out of my shell. The last social I had a snowglobe (had a wee willy in it) between my boobs going around telling the guys that's what their willy would like between my boobs. Noone offered the real thing though "

Presumably a more suitable venue for tit wank paraphernalia than the Galway city centre pub where I last saw you at a social ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have been to a good few socials and will admit I was dreadful would literally sit with the people I know and not move around. But somewhere in the last year not sure what happened but I do try and mix more and chat to people to the surprise of quite a few people who have actually commented on how I've come out of my shell. The last social I had a snowglobe (had a wee willy in it) between my boobs going around telling the guys that's what their willy would like between my boobs. Noone offered the real thing though

Presumably a more suitable venue for tit wank paraphernalia than the Galway city centre pub where I last saw you at a social ? "
yes definitely lol

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By *oserMan
over a year ago

where the wild roses grow

I'm a chatty git and love to move from table to table talking shite, but then all of a sudden its 5 in the morning and I'm like wtf

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

I have a drink or two, kinda saying hello, then head to the smoking area when you know who is part of the M&G. Then the real chats and banter start and that usually continues when you go back in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im painfully shy at first but once I get over my nerves and get chatting . I tend to be fine. Thats with or without drink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always difficult walking into a room as "Billy no mates" but typically everyone there is in the same boat & are like minded souls, so introducing yourself & asking how they are is usually a good start...sometimes there is a kik group in advance of the Social, that also helps..but I find pulling up the big boy pants, going easy on the drink, embracing your inner superhero all help...oh and be yourself...enjoy...strangers are just friends you haven't met

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i go alone i tend to mix with people i know first then wonder around and like lindy i definitely share kisses and hugs. I am flirty for sure chatty and friendly, i'm direct and can be abit shy sometimes i think but some don't seem to think so. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Taken from the lounge but timely as many socials coming up in November

how do you make sure you don't get lost in a crowd? How do you "work the room" in a social gathering of any kind? Do you stick to your little group? Do you make sure you talk to everyone? Do you aim at certain people who look like your kindred spirit? Are you approachable or a bit of a shy wallflower?

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Heard this advice years ago for work conferences. You go in and look at groups. A group of two is dodgy if they're facing each other, side by side means they're scanning the room as well so may be worth an approach. An open group of 3 can be joined as you assume it may be two linked and one random so what's another.

4 or more you're getting dodgy as you'll join as a passenger and a hijacker if you knock someone else out. Finally it can often be easiest to seek out that other person just sitting alone and if the conversation doesn't click, you can invite them to approach another group over there. If the groups not really engaging you, you can park that person there without being rude and at least people have seen you socialising rather than giving killer vibes in the corner.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Play it by ear ...usually sit with people I know but then mingle

So many people I'd like to say hello to in 2 weeks at the next one

Found having dinner in the hotel in groups first a great way of chatting

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By *vpamelaTV/TS
over a year ago

kinkville

I find dressing like a slut always helps. Smile and be friendly. Been recently advised not be afraid of telling those that can't take a hint to fuck off.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

Crotchless jeans, no boxers.

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By *lassy lady 216Woman
over a year ago

Craigavon

Im painfully shy and a bit of a wallflower but i like to think that i am frirndly and approachable im not very good at keeping a conversation going but as some previously said all you can do is be yourself

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By *asual777 OP   Man
over a year ago

i travel all over


"Crotchless jeans, no boxers. "

I won’t lie to you . That’s put me right off my breakfast

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Crotchless jeans, no boxers.

I won’t lie to you . That’s put me right off my breakfast "

Just push the sausage to one side and get stuck into your boiled eggs

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By *aucyladMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Evaluate the situation and work accordingly towards what your goal is....same in that setting,I don't need to work everyone in the crowd, I just need to work those I want to work. Hopefully they reciprocate the advance and take it from there and re Evaluate again! Sounds clinic but in reality it's just being normal nice and approachable. Im not gonna stand up on a chair chair announce myself to the room!

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"Crotchless jeans, no boxers.

I won’t lie to you . That’s put me right off my breakfast

Just push the sausage to one side and get stuck into your boiled eggs "

It must be an enormous sausage.

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By *ogladyWoman
over a year ago

The bog


"If i go alone i tend to mix with people i know first then wonder around and like lindy i definitely share kisses and hugs. I am flirty for sure chatty and friendly, i'm direct and can be abit shy sometimes i think but some don't seem to think so. Xxx "

The first time we met ya chatted to me straight away and helped me sort out me boobs..ha ha ha .

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By *asual777 OP   Man
over a year ago

i travel all over


"Crotchless jeans, no boxers.

I won’t lie to you . That’s put me right off my breakfast

Just push the sausage to one side and get stuck into your boiled eggs "

Bloody lunch ignored now as well

If I starve to death I know who to blame

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By *asual777 OP   Man
over a year ago

i travel all over


"If i go alone i tend to mix with people i know first then wonder around and like lindy i definitely share kisses and hugs. I am flirty for sure chatty and friendly, i'm direct and can be abit shy sometimes i think but some don't seem to think so. Xxx

The first time we met ya chatted to me straight away and helped me sort out me boobs..ha ha ha ."

Really hope there is no male equivalent of this expected at socials

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"If i go alone i tend to mix with people i know first then wonder around and like lindy i definitely share kisses and hugs. I am flirty for sure chatty and friendly, i'm direct and can be abit shy sometimes i think but some don't seem to think so. Xxx

The first time we met ya chatted to me straight away and helped me sort out me boobs..ha ha ha ."

The first time we met you changed your knickers to be more comfortable while chatting to me

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By *lay rock69Man
over a year ago

monaghan

I do be shy at the start i just need a bit of time and a few drinks

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By *ardyboy54321Man
over a year ago

Fermanagh

I'm quite shy I wouldn't chat that much and look like a rabbit caught in the headlights ya can't miss me

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By *hivers2020Woman
over a year ago

lolli land


"I'm quite shy I wouldn't chat that much and look like a rabbit caught in the headlights ya can't miss me "

Would ya go on outta that can’t shut you and your checked shirts up at socials

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By *ightower2021Man
over a year ago

donegal

I'd be very shy now not sure how I'd act at a social probably sit in corner quietly lol

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By *mmmm300Woman
over a year ago

cork

It's 18 months since I was out, I'll have to get myself to a social event and see how I go. Fairly chatty and friendly back in the day.

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford


"Taken from the lounge but timely as many socials coming up in November

how do you make sure you don't get lost in a crowd? How do you "work the room" in a social gathering of any kind? Do you stick to your little group? Do you make sure you talk to everyone? Do you aim at certain people who look like your kindred spirit? Are you approachable or a bit of a shy wallflower?

"

I float round the room and chat to anyone who will listen to me. Sure I love the banter.

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By *ka ..Agent k ..Man
over a year ago

..

I'd only get lost in a croud ,you'de never find me

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By *ogladyWoman
over a year ago

The bog


"If i go alone i tend to mix with people i know first then wonder around and like lindy i definitely share kisses and hugs. I am flirty for sure chatty and friendly, i'm direct and can be abit shy sometimes i think but some don't seem to think so. Xxx

The first time we met ya chatted to me straight away and helped me sort out me boobs..ha ha ha .

The first time we met you changed your knickers to be more comfortable while chatting to me "

It was giving me a wedgie what can I say..ha ha .

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By *asual777 OP   Man
over a year ago

i travel all over


"It's 18 months since I was out, I'll have to get myself to a social event and see how I go. Fairly chatty and friendly back in the day. "

That’s a big factor . We’re out of practice when it comes to large gatherings like weddings

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