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By *m_impact_play OP   Man
over a year ago

Dublin

What was or is your secret kink or fetish that you've been ashamed to share with a sex partner?

Did you find the courage to open up about it?

How did it work out for you?

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

If you don't ask you don't get. Thats not the same thing as a public broadcast on the forums though.

I can nearly always sniff out the ones who meet my needs anyway.

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By *he MickMan
over a year ago

southside

15 years of marriage and i never told my ex wife what I liked , now I tell any potential partner or fwb straight off what I like and ask what they like .

I think it's very important to express yourself clearly , something I learnt way too late but better late than never .

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"15 years of marriage and i never told my ex wife what I liked , now I tell any potential partner or fwb straight off what I like and ask what they like .

I think it's very important to express yourself clearly , something I learnt way too late but better late than never .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So how do I tell my conservative wife this:

Mary, (not real name), my fantasy is to get three comphy chairs, like those part of a sofa set, two guys, one gal, in a triangle shape so we can all see each other. Nice music in background, Erik Satie for some, this is not a normal situation music, all naked, glass of red wine, maybe a joint (optional). Just look at each other, see what happens.

Don’t think it would go down well. I have already asked for a guy to join us but, nope!

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By *m_impact_play OP   Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"So how do I tell my conservative wife this:

Mary, (not real name), my fantasy is to get three comphy chairs, like those part of a sofa set, two guys, one gal, in a triangle shape so we can all see each other. Nice music in background, Erik Satie for some, this is not a normal situation music, all naked, glass of red wine, maybe a joint (optional). Just look at each other, see what happens.

Don’t think it would go down well. I have already asked for a guy to join us but, nope!"

Not sure to be honest, but you can deffo start with buying the three chairs ...as for explaining to her the purpose of them chairs, good luck with it !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So how do I tell my conservative wife this:

Mary, (not real name), my fantasy is to get three comphy chairs, like those part of a sofa set, two guys, one gal, in a triangle shape so we can all see each other. Nice music in background, Erik Satie for some, this is not a normal situation music, all naked, glass of red wine, maybe a joint (optional). Just look at each other, see what happens.

Don’t think it would go down well. I have already asked for a guy to join us but, nope!

Not sure to be honest, but you can deffo start with buying the three chairs ...as for explaining to her the purpose of them chairs, good luck with it !"

I have the chairs, lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So how do I tell my conservative wife this:

Mary, (not real name), my fantasy is to get three comphy chairs, like those part of a sofa set, two guys, one gal, in a triangle shape so we can all see each other. Nice music in background, Erik Satie for some, this is not a normal situation music, all naked, glass of red wine, maybe a joint (optional). Just look at each other, see what happens.

Don’t think it would go down well. I have already asked for a guy to join us but, nope!

Not sure to be honest, but you can deffo start with buying the three chairs ...as for explaining to her the purpose of them chairs, good luck with it !

I have the chairs, lol"

And the wine.

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By *m_impact_play OP   Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"So how do I tell my conservative wife this:

Mary, (not real name), my fantasy is to get three comphy chairs, like those part of a sofa set, two guys, one gal, in a triangle shape so we can all see each other. Nice music in background, Erik Satie for some, this is not a normal situation music, all naked, glass of red wine, maybe a joint (optional). Just look at each other, see what happens.

Don’t think it would go down well. I have already asked for a guy to join us but, nope!

Not sure to be honest, but you can deffo start with buying the three chairs ...as for explaining to her the purpose of them chairs, good luck with it !

I have the chairs, lol"

So you've made some progress already then?

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"So how do I tell my conservative wife this:

Mary, (not real name), my fantasy is to get three comphy chairs, like those part of a sofa set, two guys, one gal, in a triangle shape so we can all see each other. Nice music in background, Erik Satie for some, this is not a normal situation music, all naked, glass of red wine, maybe a joint (optional). Just look at each other, see what happens.

Don’t think it would go down well. I have already asked for a guy to join us but, nope!"

Just tell her! Don't pressurise. Just explain your fantasies and ask her about hers. Even if they never happen it's good to understand each other.

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By *he MickMan
over a year ago

southside


"So how do I tell my conservative wife this:

Mary, (not real name), my fantasy is to get three comphy chairs, like those part of a sofa set, two guys, one gal, in a triangle shape so we can all see each other. Nice music in background, Erik Satie for some, this is not a normal situation music, all naked, glass of red wine, maybe a joint (optional). Just look at each other, see what happens.

Don’t think it would go down well. I have already asked for a guy to join us but, nope!

Just tell her! Don't pressurise. Just explain your fantasies and ask her about hers. Even if they never happen it's good to understand each other. "

I couldn't agree more , just sit down with her and tell her your fantasies . Ask could we start us somewhere small and build up to it , she will most likely have her own fantasies and then maybe middleground that will make both of you a little happier .

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By *aint_or_SinnerWoman
over a year ago

South County Dublin


"What was or is your secret kink or fetish that you've been ashamed to share with a sex partner?

Did you find the courage to open up about it?

How did it work out for you?

"

After a failed 20 odd year marriage, and learning a lot about myself through therapy, reading and engaging with people who I trust to talk to about certain things (knowing there is no judgement), I don't have any problems whatsoever to talk to anyone I'd like to have sex with, about what sexual practices I like and don't like.

In saying that, every sexual "relationship" is different, so likes/dislikes and boundaries may change from one partner to another and evolve over time. Something I'm not interested in is for a partner to do something he isn't into because he wants to please me, unless it's something he hasn't tried and might be curious about. If he does it although it doesn't do anything for him, it wouldn't do anything for me - if that makes sense.

It's about mutual interests and exploring those, watching them grow, change and adapt, and grow, change, adapt as a couple/FBs/FWBs...

I think anyone who's been reading my posts knows my kink, it's no secret I'm fucking anal about it

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin


"What was or is your secret kink or fetish that you've been ashamed to share with a sex partner?

Did you find the courage to open up about it?

How did it work out for you?

After a failed 20 odd year marriage, and learning a lot about myself through therapy, reading and engaging with people who I trust to talk to about certain things (knowing there is no judgement), I don't have any problems whatsoever to talk to anyone I'd like to have sex with, about what sexual practices I like and don't like.

In saying that, every sexual "relationship" is different, so likes/dislikes and boundaries may change from one partner to another and evolve over time. Something I'm not interested in is for a partner to do something he isn't into because he wants to please me, unless it's something he hasn't tried and might be curious about. If he does it although it doesn't do anything for him, it wouldn't do anything for me - if that makes sense.

It's about mutual interests and exploring those, watching them grow, change and adapt, and grow, change, adapt as a couple/FBs/FWBs...

I think anyone who's been reading my posts knows my kink, it's no secret I'm fucking anal about it "

Mmm Anal...

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By *aughty9ieMan
over a year ago

Dublin

At the start of my last relationship I shared everything kink wise but after 3 years slowly but surely I was asked asked to stop certain things bit by bit till eventually it was sex with the lights out 99% of the time.

Now if i meet any one i have to know were sexually compatible and there not just saying there ok with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a very vanilla relationship when I was married and I have learned alot about how exciting sex can be the more I have experienced the more I want to try ,although a woman in stockings/tights and heels is a fetish that will never cease to be my biggest turn on

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

city

During lockdown, I did an online course in Shadow Tantra. It's basically an exploration of all the stuff we hide, out of shame, guilt, fear. There are three things I finally got the courage to admit, even to myself. And I was able to discuss them with my online group. Now, they're in the open, There's a great sense of liberation. And I'm not going to reveal them here. Not yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So how do I tell my conservative wife this:

Mary, (not real name), my fantasy is to get three comphy chairs, like those part of a sofa set, two guys, one gal, in a triangle shape so we can all see each other. Nice music in background, Erik Satie for some, this is not a normal situation music, all naked, glass of red wine, maybe a joint (optional). Just look at each other, see what happens.

Don’t think it would go down well. I have already asked for a guy to join us but, nope!

Just tell her! Don't pressurise. Just explain your fantasies and ask her about hers. Even if they never happen it's good to understand each other. "

Cheers, but she knows about it. Just not comfortable with any kind of kink.

In fairness though I don’t know if it’s possible. When she is the mother of our kids, would I be comfortable with another lad flaking her! I can say here I would, but in reality would I? I know years ago we tried the titty feck thing, sure we just started laughing.

Anyway and either way it’s great to have forums like this to sort my thoughts out and maybe accept that it’s this way for a reason.

Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm pretty open minded so I don't have any secret kinks. I generally let whoever I'm with know.

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick


"So how do I tell my conservative wife this:

Mary, (not real name), my fantasy is to get three comphy chairs, like those part of a sofa set, two guys, one gal, in a triangle shape so we can all see each other. Nice music in background, Erik Satie for some, this is not a normal situation music, all naked, glass of red wine, maybe a joint (optional). Just look at each other, see what happens.

Don’t think it would go down well. I have already asked for a guy to join us but, nope!

Just tell her! Don't pressurise. Just explain your fantasies and ask her about hers. Even if they never happen it's good to understand each other.

Cheers, but she knows about it. Just not comfortable with any kind of kink.

In fairness though I don’t know if it’s possible. When she is the mother of our kids, would I be comfortable with another lad flaking her! I can say here I would, but in reality would I? I know years ago we tried the titty feck thing, sure we just started laughing.

Anyway and either way it’s great to have forums like this to sort my thoughts out and maybe accept that it’s this way for a reason.

Thank you."

Rather than asking for what you want, why not ask her what she wants, what are her fantasies? There must be SOMETHING. If you can make that a reality for her then maybe she'll become more open to yours? Just a thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"15 years of marriage and i never told my ex wife what I liked , now I tell any potential partner or fwb straight off what I like and ask what they like .

I think it's very important to express yourself clearly , something I learnt way too late but better late than never .

"

Me too. Was married for 15 years. 6 of those without sex of any sort. I also now don’t hesitate to say what I like.

My fetish is women in lingerie and a bit of spanking and role playing. Not much to ask really.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"So how do I tell my conservative wife this:

Mary, (not real name), my fantasy is to get three comphy chairs, like those part of a sofa set, two guys, one gal, in a triangle shape so we can all see each other. Nice music in background, Erik Satie for some, this is not a normal situation music, all naked, glass of red wine, maybe a joint (optional). Just look at each other, see what happens.

Don’t think it would go down well. I have already asked for a guy to join us but, nope!

Just tell her! Don't pressurise. Just explain your fantasies and ask her about hers. Even if they never happen it's good to understand each other.

Cheers, but she knows about it. Just not comfortable with any kind of kink.

In fairness though I don’t know if it’s possible. When she is the mother of our kids, would I be comfortable with another lad flaking her! I can say here I would, but in reality would I? I know years ago we tried the titty feck thing, sure we just started laughing.

Anyway and either way it’s great to have forums like this to sort my thoughts out and maybe accept that it’s this way for a reason.

Thank you."

Im confused as the start of this thread you said..

"So how do I tell my conservative wife this"

But now you say she already knows?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So how do I tell my conservative wife this:

Mary, (not real name), my fantasy is to get three comphy chairs, like those part of a sofa set, two guys, one gal, in a triangle shape so we can all see each other. Nice music in background, Erik Satie for some, this is not a normal situation music, all naked, glass of red wine, maybe a joint (optional). Just look at each other, see what happens.

Don’t think it would go down well. I have already asked for a guy to join us but, nope!

Just tell her! Don't pressurise. Just explain your fantasies and ask her about hers. Even if they never happen it's good to understand each other.

Cheers, but she knows about it. Just not comfortable with any kind of kink.

In fairness though I don’t know if it’s possible. When she is the mother of our kids, would I be comfortable with another lad flaking her! I can say here I would, but in reality would I? I know years ago we tried the titty feck thing, sure we just started laughing.

Anyway and either way it’s great to have forums like this to sort my thoughts out and maybe accept that it’s this way for a reason.

Thank you.

Im confused as the start of this thread you said..

"So how do I tell my conservative wife this"

But now you say she already knows?"

Apologies, she knows I have kinks and open to threesomes etc, but not to the particular one regarding the suite of furniture! Hope that’s clarified.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest, I don't think I ever had that problem with any person I've had a relationship with. I'm pretty about my kinks especially with dee.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love to tell you but......

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