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By *asual777 OP   Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

Are you more likely to hook up with someone you find physically attractive but whose personality doesn’t match yours (or is frankly a bit of an eejit), or someone who you find funny or interesting but whose looks aren’t typically what you go for ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well.... I think initially its more of a physical attraction , their personality can then either make them ridiculously handsome or extremely ugly..

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway

Funny and interesting. There might be an initial physical attraction but I get bored very quickly if the person doesn’t make me laugh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you more likely to hook up with someone you find physically attractive but whose personality doesn’t match yours (or is frankly a bit of an eejit), or someone who you find funny or interesting but whose looks aren’t typically what you go for ? "

It's always looks first. Then personality.

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By *eanbelfastMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I need to be mentally and physically attracted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Something in the look makes me stop and want to investigate the personality....something in the personality will make me want to stop for more.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Personality is more important as long as there is some level of physical attraction. Sexual compatibility transcends both physical attraction and personality and is a seperate entity. Sometimes you just know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There obviously needs to be a physical attraction if I'm going to meet someone.

But what usually gets my attention first I'd their attitude and humour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There absolutely must be physical attraction from my perspective however if I'm not also drawn to their personality it won't matter how attractive I find them. The reverse is equally true...we can get on like a house on fire but if there's no physical attraction we won't be riding.

It's not an either/or choice for me...it's both or nothing

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By *igglefunWoman
over a year ago

Cork

Initially physical attraction followed by a good sence of humour...

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Physical attraction first but personality always plays a bigger part especially on here, there are some with amazing pictures and pristine profiles but there really ugly on the inside that shows more by the way they conduct themselves on here....

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By *eralt80Man
over a year ago

cork

Physical attraction draws me in and personality holds my attention

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder if this is very different on fab vs everyday life for people my main physical attraction comes from someone's face so the fab experiance definitely pushes me more towards their personality as a jumping off point

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By *ardyboy54321Man
over a year ago

Fermanagh

Personality 100% ya could be drop dead gorgeous but if ya haven't a personality you've nothing in my humble opinion

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By *lassy lady 216Woman
over a year ago

Craigavon

Will always choose personality first looks fade your true personality never will

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By *ola81Woman
over a year ago

pond

Satisfy my brain and body will follow

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By *ergalMan
over a year ago

East Cork

Ultimately personality will win out. Someone could look perfect on the outside,but septic on the inside

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me sometimes it can be a mixture of both. A good personality can be a very attractive quality on an intellectual level but I do think there has to be some physical attraction there as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we found someone whose personality is ugly as hell it doesn't matter how hot they are we wouldn't touch them with a barge pole.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

On here yes attraction to a profile will draw you in at the start but if they have a personality that I don't like I lose interest fast. I need someone I can have a good laugh with and get on with otherwise what's the point the sex will be just meh at best.

In real life it's actually pretty much the same and I have dated guys in the past where I wasn't attracted to them initially but the more I got to know them the more I liked them.

It's even better if you find someone who has both .

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Im not a fan of the blunt concept of one excluding the other. I like my sausage fresh, hot, nicely spiced, with all sorts of garnishes and presented nicely.

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By *arajeanCouple
over a year ago

mayo

A beautiful body will last for years but a beautiful personality will last a lifetime.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately it's looks that catch our eye intially...Beauty goes way deeper than the exterior looks as we all know. An extremely good looking person can become instantly ugly if their personality stinks...

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By *rankbMan
over a year ago

around

I have often found that I am attracted to personality and if we click, I find them physically attractive (except that one person I met where all was going well till she undressed and the very sweaty smell turned me off!).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unfortunately it's looks that catch our eye intially...Beauty goes way deeper than the exterior looks as we all know. An extremely good looking person can become instantly ugly if their personality stinks..."

That is very true but is it the same i reverse.... if i wasnt physically attracted then i dont think there is any rescuing it

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By *ind PaddyMan
over a year ago

South County Dublin

What is important to me is to be able to chat and have a laugh together, having a good personality helps and if you are good looking that's a bonus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unfortunately it's looks that catch our eye intially...Beauty goes way deeper than the exterior looks as we all know. An extremely good looking person can become instantly ugly if their personality stinks...

That is very true but is it the same i reverse.... if i wasnt physically attracted then i dont think there is any rescuing it"

We have absolutely no control over who we are physically & sexually attracted to...I do believe & think it's inate...We defo can't force something that just isn't there...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, a woman's eyes and smile will initially decide how attractive I find her Of course everyone enjoys a little eye-candy but someone who's authentic, chatty, has a kinky mind and enjoys life is the biggest turn on for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rarely people are good looking enough to ignore a shit personality.

That being said, I've stuck my dick in crazy before, if im gonna do it again they would have to be out of this world drop dead gorgeous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im interested in guys who's looks and personality are attractive to me. Inbetween the physical bits, i need to be able to have a laugh and some decent conversation, so for me both are equally important.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rarely people are good looking enough to ignore a shit personality.

That being said, I've stuck my dick in crazy before, if im gonna do it again they would have to be out of this world drop dead gorgeous."

^^^^^^^ Quote "Rarely people are good looking enough to ignore a shit personality." I disagree. It doesn't matter how good looking a person is, I can never ever ignore an ugly personality. The extremely good looking person becomes instantly ugly if they have a horrible nasty personality. I've dated some extremely good looking men but 2 of these men I dated had zero personalities...& all the physical/sexual attraction I felt for them rapidly disappeared.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There has to be something to draw you to someone initially either out socially or messaging on here. No1 approaches someone they don't think has something about them. After that it's how well do you get on & can you have a laugh and enjoy each other craic.

If you don't have the 2nd bit the first won't be enough.

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By *asual777 OP   Man
over a year ago

i travel all over


"Personality is more important as long as there is some level of physical attraction. Sexual compatibility transcends both physical attraction and personality and is a seperate entity. Sometimes you just know."

Yes I agree with all this .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me there has to be a mental connection , l know it may not be everyone's take ..but lm not everyone .

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By *ogladyWoman
over a year ago

The bog

Id have to say a bit of both for me..

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

for just some no strings sex? physical attraction has to be there. a bubbly personality is a bonus. when I do NS, the last thing u want is to be seeing lots of the person in other facets. you have to remember what the situation is. it's just sex. now a one to one regular partner is different although that can get messy also if feelings become involved by one party but not the other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks for both sorry, attractions is everything yeah personality is one but if he or she looks like elephant Man no sorry.

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

A subtle combination of both, the importance of which ebbs and flows; as all relationships do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality is always key importance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Need both really. Both on there own not going last long

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There surely needs to be some physical attraction!

Always amazed when personality is enough for people (not having a pop at you specifically), but cannot imagine how someones internet personality is enough to stir someones carnal desires.

I do get the need for both, looks without personality is a no no, but equally if someone is completely sound and great craic etc... but there is no physical attraction, i'd be equally turned off.

People are more sensitive about someone not finding them physically attractive however, so there is sometimes a dance around it pretty much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rarely people are good looking enough to ignore a shit personality.

That being said, I've stuck my dick in crazy before, if im gonna do it again they would have to be out of this world drop dead gorgeous.

^^^^^^^ Quote "Rarely people are good looking enough to ignore a shit personality." I disagree. It doesn't matter how good looking a person is, I can never ever ignore an ugly personality. The extremely good looking person becomes instantly ugly if they have a horrible nasty personality. I've dated some extremely good looking men but 2 of these men I dated had zero personalities...& all the physical/sexual attraction I felt for them rapidly disappeared.

"

This is completely understandable tbh and I would agree if I wasnt thinking more along the lines of a ons. I can ignore an ugly personality if I knew I wouldnt be seeing them again. Might sound a bit wrong to some but sure we all have our faults. Mine just happens to be the thicness :P

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

Personality and vibes for me if you are an Adonis and have the personality of a fish I ain’t interested

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

It's a combo thing, really...but your chances of getting into my knickers skyrocket if you can make me laugh AND I am physically attracted to you

Cherry

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By *oncupiscent_dreamMan
over a year ago

City

Personality for me.

Makes it hard when everyone acts like they were raised in a basement and they have never met someone with a different opinion and when they do they treat that different opinion as if it's a hostile attack on them..

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"Personality for me.

Makes it hard when everyone acts like they were raised in a basement and they have never met someone with a different opinion and when they do they treat that different opinion as if it's a hostile attack on them..

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I've often met people with different opinions in basements as well

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"It's a combo thing, really...but your chances of getting into my knickers skyrocket if you can make me laugh AND I am physically attracted to you

Cherry"

Would ya settle for one of them?

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


"It's a combo thing, really...but your chances of getting into my knickers skyrocket if you can make me laugh AND I am physically attracted to you

Cherry

Would ya settle for one of them? "

I'm the cherry, so I got it already

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality is tops for me, someone I can get on with and has a sense of humour

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By *ertical an urban tigerMan
over a year ago

where the streets have no name

I want to get d*unk on their personality. Enough work can make a wheelie bin look good.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"It's a combo thing, really...but your chances of getting into my knickers skyrocket if you can make me laugh AND I am physically attracted to you

Cherry

Would ya settle for one of them?

I'm the cherry, so I got it already "

Jaysus, I'm not even sure which one I have to offer anyway.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

you're not going to stick your willy in her for her personality.

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By *atts n titsCouple
over a year ago

everywhere

I've never seen a good looking personality ya need the fanny flutters

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By *ilverfox74Man
over a year ago

dublin offaly

On here a personality comes first as there are no face pics on show. If the laughs are there with that and it feels right a face pic will only clarify what you already know. It’s what’s in the inside that matters.

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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

Looks might attract me, but it takes a certain mentality/personality to turn me on.

I won't/can't have sex with someone who doesn't turn me on (obvs), so personality/mentality is always the clincher.

The best sex isn't always with the 'best looking' person in the room.

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By *herieWoman
over a year ago

The Burbs

Initially looks, but definitely a personality hands down wins every time if someone was drop dead gorgeous and there was no conservation or wasn't any craic, then it's a no from me

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