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By *reshstart00 OP   Man
over a year ago

north dublin

Its easy to forget there are real people living ordinary lives behind every profile here.

Ive had my struggles recently with mental health, we all go through difficult times and its important to know there is light at the end of the tunnel.

I just want all fabbers to know my inbox is open to anyone who is struggling and needs to get things off their chest. Sometimes its easier to talk to someone you dont know especially us men find it difficult to talk to loved ones.

Happy swinging folks, be safe and be kind to one and other.

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By *ineapple_PrincessWoman
over a year ago

in the waves


"Its easy to forget there are real people living ordinary lives behind every profile here.

Ive had my struggles recently with mental health, we all go through difficult times and its important to know there is light at the end of the tunnel.

I just want all fabbers to know my inbox is open to anyone who is struggling and needs to get things off their chest. Sometimes its easier to talk to someone you dont know especially us men find it difficult to talk to loved ones.

Happy swinging folks, be safe and be kind to one and other. "

So true, and good on you for speaking out. The more we normalise that it is OK not to be OK all the time the better. Talk. Share. Reach out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its easy to forget there are real people living ordinary lives behind every profile here.

Ive had my struggles recently with mental health, we all go through difficult times and its important to know there is light at the end of the tunnel.

I just want all fabbers to know my inbox is open to anyone who is struggling and needs to get things off their chest. Sometimes its easier to talk to someone you dont know especially us men find it difficult to talk to loved ones.

Happy swinging folks, be safe and be kind to one and other.

So true, and good on you for speaking out. The more we normalise that it is OK not to be OK all the time the better. Talk. Share. Reach out. "
100% agree with you. We all should be here for eachother in tough times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for this!!

There is no worse feeling than having to suffer on a mental issue where you feel you are the only one going through an issue and no one would understand the situation you are in or going through. The feeling of loss, the feeling your less than, the feeling that you are not enough.

We all are going through something at some point in our lifes and it great to see that there are people out there like you who is offering a listening ear.

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By *reshstart00 OP   Man
over a year ago

north dublin

Absouletley, the more we talk the easier it becomes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its easy to forget there are real people living ordinary lives behind every profile here.

Ive had my struggles recently with mental health, we all go through difficult times and its important to know there is light at the end of the tunnel.

I just want all fabbers to know my inbox is open to anyone who is struggling and needs to get things off their chest. Sometimes its easier to talk to someone you dont know especially us men find it difficult to talk to loved ones.

Happy swinging folks, be safe and be kind to one and other. "

A great post and well said. It’s important to be kind to people as you don’t know what troubles they are carrying. Don’t keep things bottled up, it’s good to talk!

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By *erticalMan
over a year ago

dark side of the moon

FairPlay to you freshstar, for anyone to openly and honestly say they-have or had weakness in this area is a brave thing . as men we still are programmed with hunter/gatherer mentality of the caveman and macho i will provide mentality of the modern day and maybe thats our main problem? I once spent 8 months in a Japanese hospital and they 12 months learning to walk again in a Chinese rehab clinic after a bad slide while pushing my ego to its limits on a racetrack In japan fueled by my blatant disregard for myself and family nowadays i take nothing for granted including what could be going on inside someone else’s house never mind their head. Self harm and the taking of your own life gets way to much airtime I reckon and almost shows it as a fashion. As others have said talking is the way and as is also a form of self cleansing. My back then i had many dark days. And i was very lucky to one pull through and two have the proper people around me to talk too. I hope you keep growing stronger every day

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By *ardyboy54321Man
over a year ago

Fermanagh

Fair play op it's good ta talk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *eepixieWoman
over a year ago

Belfast


"Its easy to forget there are real people living ordinary lives behind every profile here.

Ive had my struggles recently with mental health, we all go through difficult times and its important to know there is light at the end of the tunnel.

I just want all fabbers to know my inbox is open to anyone who is struggling and needs to get things off their chest. Sometimes its easier to talk to someone you dont know especially us men find it difficult to talk to loved ones.

Happy swinging folks, be safe and be kind to one and other. "

Good on you for speaking out, not many would. I’m always here for those who feel they need a chat. I too have ill mental health, so I understand the struggle x

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By *ollypop9Woman
over a year ago

wouldn't you like to know

Great post OP. Its absolutely true, we all have our crosses to bare as they say. And we can be all here for each other. I too suffer with poor mental health and also care for others who do.

It helps to talk and sometimes it's just so much easier to talk to a stranger, rather than a family member or friend. Sometimes it's easier to talk to the person the other end of the country, rather than someone close by.

But the main thing is that you talk and don't let things bottle up.

My inbox is always open too for anyone who would like to chat about their problems.

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By *reshstart00 OP   Man
over a year ago

north dublin


"Great post OP. Its absolutely true, we all have our crosses to bare as they say. And we can be all here for each other. I too suffer with poor mental health and also care for others who do.

It helps to talk and sometimes it's just so much easier to talk to a stranger, rather than a family member or friend. Sometimes it's easier to talk to the person the other end of the country, rather than someone close by.

But the main thing is that you talk and don't let things bottle up.

My inbox is always open too for anyone who would like to chat about their problems. "

I also find it helpful to know your not the only one suffering and getting better is possible.

I dont know about others but fab is a great release and escape too so its even more comforting knowing other fabbers are in the same position

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By *eepixieWoman
over a year ago

Belfast


"Great post OP. Its absolutely true, we all have our crosses to bare as they say. And we can be all here for each other. I too suffer with poor mental health and also care for others who do.

It helps to talk and sometimes it's just so much easier to talk to a stranger, rather than a family member or friend. Sometimes it's easier to talk to the person the other end of the country, rather than someone close by.

But the main thing is that you talk and don't let things bottle up.

My inbox is always open too for anyone who would like to chat about their problems.

I also find it helpful to know your not the only one suffering and getting better is possible.

I dont know about others but fab is a great release and escape too so its even more comforting knowing other fabbers are in the same position"

I agree with you on fab being a release & escape. This is my secret life where I can let go & be a bold & sex craved woman lol for that short time I’m a different person, which gives me such an adrenaline rush! I don’t know if others feel the same, but since joining here my mood has lifted immensely.

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By *Belfast_FellaMan
over a year ago

belfast

It's interesting that I should see this post. I just got a completely nasty and unprovoked message out of the blue, from a couple with whom I've had no previous contact and who could just have scrolled by my profile. You really have to wonder what people feel that they gain from doing that. I wonder how someone perhaps already struggling with their mental health would have received it.

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By *ollypop9Woman
over a year ago

wouldn't you like to know


"Great post OP. Its absolutely true, we all have our crosses to bare as they say. And we can be all here for each other. I too suffer with poor mental health and also care for others who do.

It helps to talk and sometimes it's just so much easier to talk to a stranger, rather than a family member or friend. Sometimes it's easier to talk to the person the other end of the country, rather than someone close by.

But the main thing is that you talk and don't let things bottle up.

My inbox is always open too for anyone who would like to chat about their problems.

I also find it helpful to know your not the only one suffering and getting better is possible.

I dont know about others but fab is a great release and escape too so its even more comforting knowing other fabbers are in the same position

I agree with you on fab being a release & escape. This is my secret life where I can let go & be a bold & sex craved woman lol for that short time I’m a different person, which gives me such an adrenaline rush! I don’t know if others feel the same, but since joining here my mood has lifted immensely. "

I haven't been as happy in over 15 years. I'm here 6 months now and finally feel free.

And whilst the shit storm in the real world of mine is still continuing to brew, I get to escape every so often and be the real me. And yes it's a rush which helps me get through the darker days now.

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By *eepixieWoman
over a year ago

Belfast


"Great post OP. Its absolutely true, we all have our crosses to bare as they say. And we can be all here for each other. I too suffer with poor mental health and also care for others who do.

It helps to talk and sometimes it's just so much easier to talk to a stranger, rather than a family member or friend. Sometimes it's easier to talk to the person the other end of the country, rather than someone close by.

But the main thing is that you talk and don't let things bottle up.

My inbox is always open too for anyone who would like to chat about their problems.

I also find it helpful to know your not the only one suffering and getting better is possible.

I dont know about others but fab is a great release and escape too so its even more comforting knowing other fabbers are in the same position

I agree with you on fab being a release & escape. This is my secret life where I can let go & be a bold & sex craved woman lol for that short time I’m a different person, which gives me such an adrenaline rush! I don’t know if others feel the same, but since joining here my mood has lifted immensely.

I haven't been as happy in over 15 years. I'm here 6 months now and finally feel free.

And whilst the shit storm in the real world of mine is still continuing to brew, I get to escape every so often and be the real me. And yes it's a rush which helps me get through the darker days now."

Isn’t it amazing to know you’re not alone in that feeling. 31 yrs of one controlling self centred ignorant man was driving me to do something I’d never get back from. Then I found fab & fab friends.

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By *uscious LollyWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

I feel like I'm on a downward spiral

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By *lay rock69Man
over a year ago

monaghan

Great post a short ago i did need help some great people on here to help any one,my days are getting better my pm open if any one need to talk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mental health with men is a hidden subject and talking about it is just a no go ,its all a myth,If it wasn't for counselling and some fantastic friends I dont know where I would be today.Dont be afraid to talk, there is light at the end of the tunnel

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By *eepixieWoman
over a year ago

Belfast


"I feel like I'm on a downward spiral "

Pm me if you want. I’ll try to help you as much as I can

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

I do find fab an escape and it’s where good things happen , mostly . Sometimes though :

1. You can have a disagreement on the forum or with a fabber friend or

2. You think a nice connection is building then it stops or

3. You get a negative message you weren’t expecting

And if you’re having a crap day anyway then the escape becomes the difficult place . I like to think of fab as an icing on cake . I have to have somethings outside of fab which pleases me , and if the foundation of the cake. Family or friends or work or hobbies or travel or a talent or volunteering , something . For me chatting online and swinging whilst at times truly uplifting are not sufficiently meaningful long long term on their own to sustain me. I can’t enjoy the icing on its own , as a meal , if that makes any sense .

Hopefully within and outside fab people can find supportive people they turn to when things are rough. If things really spiral then professionals are a more appropriate support .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel like I'm on a downward spiral "
talk about it to a friend, family member or someone on here dont go it alone, take it from someone who went through a bad place a few years ago talking with friends really helps

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By *ooking4my joeyMan
over a year ago

Magherafelt

I can empathise with this conversation so much.

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By *ooking4my joeyMan
over a year ago

Magherafelt

Too be understood means to understand

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By *uscious LollyWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

Thanks everyone, I'm sure it will pass x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its easy to forget there are real people living ordinary lives behind every profile here.

Ive had my struggles recently with mental health, we all go through difficult times and its important to know there is light at the end of the tunnel.

I just want all fabbers to know my inbox is open to anyone who is struggling and needs to get things off their chest. Sometimes its easier to talk to someone you dont know especially us men find it difficult to talk to loved ones.

Happy swinging folks, be safe and be kind to one and other.

So true, and good on you for speaking out. The more we normalise that it is OK not to be OK all the time the better. Talk. Share. Reach out. "

Mental health , anxiety, panic attacks , depression !! More widespread than we think , horrible and life changing, but there is light at end of tunnel , if you get the right formula, its not easy , but worth it, if anyone has any of the above issues i would only be to glad to guide you in what was the right direction for me,, please feel free to contact me ,, stay safe

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"Its easy to forget there are real people living ordinary lives behind every profile here.

Ive had my struggles recently with mental health, we all go through difficult times and its important to know there is light at the end of the tunnel.

I just want all fabbers to know my inbox is open to anyone who is struggling and needs to get things off their chest. Sometimes its easier to talk to someone you dont know especially us men find it difficult to talk to loved ones.

Happy swinging folks, be safe and be kind to one and other.

So true, and good on you for speaking out. The more we normalise that it is OK not to be OK all the time the better. Talk. Share. Reach out.

Mental health , anxiety, panic attacks , depression !! More widespread than we think , horrible and life changing, but there is light at end of tunnel , if you get the right formula, its not easy , but worth it, if anyone has any of the above issues i would only be to glad to guide you in what was the right direction for me,, please feel free to contact me ,, stay safe "

Genuine question....why do you post stuff on here to stir shite with others....and then write the above paragraph

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By *hy NewbysCouple
over a year ago

Maynooth

Great post, mental health is so important to us. Hope everyone suffering gets the help they need. Remember it’s okay not to be okay. There’s always someone you can talk to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always happy to be the listening ear for someone that needs it. We have all been through stuff i am sure and its good to talk to someone. Not necessarily a person you know bit a person willing to listen and help you start to feel better and recover.

I have been places and seen things many wouldn’t and thought its ok im tough i can cope. Some years later i found I couldn’t. But there was a person i was able to talk to it about. I am great full for them as the helped me on the path to get better just by being there to listen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have posted before about my inbox been open for anyone struggling , just talking to someone will help, don't ever be afraid to ask fir help, don't ever be afraid to say you are having a crap whether it's on here or to a friend, you will be surprised who is there when you least expect it.

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