FabSwingers.com forum: Am I the only one?

By *aint_or_Sinner OP Woman
over a year ago

South County Dublin

I remember in my younger years reading somewhere that clothes shopping for a man raises stress levels to those of a fighter pilot in combat. Be that true or not...

I hate clothes shopping, with a vengeance, be that going out to the shops in person or online shopping...the above statement for me, as a woman, is pretty accurate! And something I don't hear from other women - quite the opposite, most seem to love browsing and shopping.

Today, for the first time in a long time, I had a positive shopping experience. Not that this means I'll be rushing out again any time soon

How does clothes shopping make you feel? Is it a hobby, a chore, a necessity? Do you have certain stores you love and go back to again and again? Unfortunately a few stores I knew I'd be able to find something in, closed down...

adding to my stress levels when in need or want of something in particular...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never tried it

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By *aint_or_Sinner OP Woman
over a year ago

South County Dublin

"Never tried it

You walk around in your towel or birthday suit permanently

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

I hate shopping for clothes. Especially now. Even online. It honestly does my nut. I get agitated very quickly

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By *uriousVoyeurMan
over a year ago

Northside

Hate clothes shopping... especially if I'm with the boss! How many times does she need to go back to an item before deciding she doesn't want it??? I can shop for myself,top to toe,in under half an hour! That's everything including socks and jocks! Take away coffee on the way out of the centre then into the car and home! That's me then until the following Xmas!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never tried it

You walk around in your towel or birthday suit permanently

I like to brighten the place up

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By *Belfast_FellaMan
over a year ago

belfast

I quite like it. Nice to treat myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly I don't mind shopping for myself because I'm not fussy at all. If it fits I'll wear it hahaha.

However, I'd rather pull out all my teeth and replace them with thumb tacks that shop for other people. It genuinely stresses me out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hate clothes shopping as a plusses shops here don't cater for us. But let me into a place like The Range and I'm a kid in a candy shop

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

Twice a year with a clear list . In and out . Bish bash bosh. Feels great but also because it’s over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clothes shopping I don't find too bad its the food shop that kills me and its my own fault coz I never make a list. Then I hit the aisles like a lost child, wandering aimlessly until I think I've hunted and gathered enough and finally when I get home all I have is donuts and cakes and shit

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By *eaAndBenCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

Hate shopping. Groceries, clothes, gifts, house stuff. All of it. I’d rather poke myself in the eye.

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Hate shopping especially when your built like a buddha stressful times

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By *aint_or_Sinner OP Woman
over a year ago

South County Dublin

"Clothes shopping I don't find too bad its the food shop that kills me and its my own fault coz I never make a list. Then I hit the aisles like a lost child, wandering aimlessly until I think I've hunted and gathered enough and finally when I get home all I have is donuts and cakes and shit

I love grocery shopping

. I'm the queen of lists

. So the list is ticked off as I go along but you can rest assured that certain culinary delights are indulged in

...bring on the sweets and treats...I actually "hide" my treats from myself so I don't feel guilty at the amount of sh*te I do buy - all for the children, of course

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man
over a year ago

City Centre, Dublin

Not a massive fan of clothes shopping.

I think the mannequins are too lifelike. I’d happily be browsing the clothes and see a person out of the corner of my eye, turn round, discover it’s a mannequin and get a fright for a microsecond

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Used to like clothes shopping since I could just go into a Debenhams and buy everything in one go

Haven't a clue about online stuff now apart from buying all my shirts on George.com

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love grocery shopping

. I'm the queen of lists

. So the list is ticked off as I go along but you can rest assured that certain culinary delights are indulged in

...bring on the sweets and treats...I actually "hide" my treats from myself so I don't feel guilty at the amount of sh*te I do buy - all for the children, of course

Haha my poor kids id be dishing out the goodies responsible like " don't want you guys to be getting the diabetes " and then they watch me annihilate the lot like a 1 man locust swarm

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By *aint_or_Sinner OP Woman
over a year ago

South County Dublin

I love grocery shopping

. I'm the queen of lists

. So the list is ticked off as I go along but you can rest assured that certain culinary delights are indulged in

...bring on the sweets and treats...I actually "hide" my treats from myself so I don't feel guilty at the amount of sh*te I do buy - all for the children, of course

Haha my poor kids id be dishing out the goodies responsible like " don't want you guys to be getting the diabetes " and then they watch me annihilate the lot like a 1 man locust swarm

Oh Lord - annihilated at night, when the children are in bed

and when the question arises where something went, "sure, you finished that ages ago" or " the cookie monster obviously ran out of biscuits and finished the chocolate"

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By *outh Dub 29Man
over a year ago

Clapham

Clothes shopping is the worst I find. Especially online! My eye for fashion is lacking at best so generally end up back in the same spots cause I know the sizing. Also try to keep shopping expeditions to once or twice a year haha

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

I don't mind clothes shopping at all. It's the trying them on bit that I hate

. Especially with the massive variety in sizing.

I went to a big shopping centre a couple of months ago. Went to a few mens shops, changing rooms closed due to covid

... Not dealing with returning stuff so they lost business they day. I've yet to clothes shop again, I need to try other shops now...

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By *imonlebangMan
over a year ago

Casa Lebang Bang

Simply solution ...get naked as often as possible

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By *aint_or_Sinner OP Woman
over a year ago

South County Dublin

"I don't mind clothes shopping at all. It's the trying them on bit that I hate

. Especially with the massive variety in sizing.

I went to a big shopping centre a couple of months ago. Went to a few mens shops, changing rooms closed due to covid

... Not dealing with returning stuff so they lost business they day. I've yet to clothes shop again, I need to try other shops now... "

Yep, I left the last time I went when I found out the changing rooms were closed. What's the point in going clothes shopping in person when you can't try on the gear?! Or worse still, today I would have gone and tried stuff in the public toilets and returned them to save on the journey in and out

. I'm sure I'm not the only one with that idea either, as disgusting as it sounds - but I'll be damned if I'm paying the delivery charge and the return postage for something that might just not fit, especially with my luck in the past!!! Lucky one store had reopened the changing rooms, so I brought everything there to try on...

I reckon some stores certainly got to feel the loss of business with changing rooms closed... especially if you have to make a trip of it and don't just live next door for returns...I couldn't be bothered, I'll make do in that case...

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By *aint_or_Sinner OP Woman
over a year ago

South County Dublin

"Used to like clothes shopping since I could just go into a Debenhams and buy everything in one go

Haven't a clue about online stuff now apart from buying all my shirts on George.com "

That particular store is such a loss for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clothes are not made with large busted short women in mind - the very opposite, in fact. I do a lot of clothes shopping for the simple reason that it's very difficult to get clothes that fit in styles that flatter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Clothes are not made with large busted short women in mind - "
I was though

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By *ardyboy54321Man
over a year ago

Fermanagh

I'm not a fan of clothes shopping once a year is enough thank you very much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Clothes are not made with large busted short women in mind - I was though

And of what use to me is that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not a fan of clothes shopping once a year is enough thank you very much "

Sounds like Lee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont mind clothes shopping but as CaseyLee said above I find most mens clothes are made with 6'+ people in mind.

What I cant do is judge clothes online Christ I made so terrible buys during lockdowns. I'll always shop in person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Clothes are not made with large busted short women in mind - I was though

And of what use to me is that?

Ummmm we are talking about me now shushhh

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

About two months after I desperately need new clothes I'll drop into M&S in Liffey Valley at about 8 45 pm. That gives me time to do my shopping and 10 minutes to stroll down to Gino's for a nice ice cream before I go home. Its the thought of the little treat that helps me enjoy the shopping experience so much.

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By *aint_or_Sinner OP Woman
over a year ago

South County Dublin

"Hate shopping especially when your built like a buddha stressful times

I see a few comments in that regard...I may not be "built like a buddha" as you state...but rest assured, that as an average sized woman, I curse my long arms not being able to get jackets and coats, I curse my narrow calves, never being able to find nice boots that don't look like wellies...at least it's a little easier now for longer leg jeans and trousers as I have a 34 inch inseam which used to be a bitch to buy for...never mind trying to buy bra/bikini sets where I need a different size in top compared to bottom...it's frustrating, even for my body size...but I hear ya, loud and clear...

I'm actually surprised at the amount of people who don't like shopping here...I don't feel so alone anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hate shopping especially when your built like a buddha stressful times

I'm actually surprised at the amount of people who don't like shopping here...I don't feel so alone anymore

Unisa and Gabor are brands where I've found knee boots to fit my slim calves. I definitely feel your pain on that one

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By *aint_or_Sinner OP Woman
over a year ago

South County Dublin

"Hate shopping especially when your built like a buddha stressful times

I'm actually surprised at the amount of people who don't like shopping here...I don't feel so alone anymore

Unisa and Gabor are brands where I've found knee boots to fit my slim calves. I definitely feel your pain on that one"

Oh thanks for the tip

. I have a couple of Gabor heels all right, never found boots yet...much appreciated

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Who says there's no nice threads on here....especially one about clothes...boom boom

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

"I don't mind clothes shopping at all. It's the trying them on bit that I hate

. Especially with the massive variety in sizing.

I went to a big shopping centre a couple of months ago. Went to a few mens shops, changing rooms closed due to covid

... Not dealing with returning stuff so they lost business they day. I've yet to clothes shop again, I need to try other shops now...

Bizarrely I was told by a couple of shops that their city centre units still had the changing rooms open so I've to go there next. I went to the burbs as I wanted to avoid city centre shopping

. I'll have to take that trip eventually as I'm running out of jeans.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Has anyone tried kikdare village....changing rooms were open the last time I looked

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By *ind PaddyMan
over a year ago

South County Dublin

I do not mind shopping for clothes, if they feel comfortable on I'll buy them but hate doing the grocery shopping some people spend ages examining the products once it is in date I'll buy it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No point inviting the op for a day out clothes shopping so .

To answer your question, once a year I go clothes shopping ,and I fill the basket with what I need for the year.so I don't mind it at all.

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By *imonlebangMan
over a year ago

Casa Lebang Bang

"Clothes are not made with large busted short women in mind - the very opposite, in fact. I do a lot of clothes shopping for the simple reason that it's very difficult to get clothes that fit in styles that flatter."

ZARA AND M and S seem to be good on fits for Irish men ...Next also

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By *aint_or_Sinner OP Woman
over a year ago

South County Dublin

"No point inviting the op for a day out clothes shopping so .

To answer your question, once a year I go clothes shopping ,and I fill the basket with what I need for the year.so I don't mind it at all."

That's my worst nightmare

. Only someone who wants to torture me will bring me clothes shopping

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By *ukeM8519Man
over a year ago

Sandymount

Hate when your in a changing room and they have those mirrors where you can see yourself in all angles and I’m like fook, it’s that I look like from behind. Then proceed to fook new clothes back on the rail on the way out.

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By *amson4DelilahCouple
over a year ago

ballina

I hate any kind of shopping..except... actually no, o was right first time...I hate any kind of shopping..

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By *aint_or_Sinner OP Woman
over a year ago

South County Dublin

"I hate any kind of shopping..except... actually no, o was right first time...I hate any kind of shopping..

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

Depends on what I'm shopping for. If it's for something specific, I get stressed easily. If I'm just browsing and have time, it can be enjoyable.

Love online shopping, especially when returns are free. I tend to buy too much and then return what doesn't fit. It's still far more efficient than offline shopping. Mrs

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

There is no standardisation in sizes between different retailers.

I bought 2 hiking jackets last week in a factory outlet and they fitted perfectly despite being a small and a medium was hanging on me.

In another shop I couldn't get the zip to close on a medium and only a large would fit.

If I go clothes shopping twice a year that's about the height of it and I usually know what I want before I go and it never takes more than a few minutes.

I refuse to pay silly money for clothes though and as long as the fit is good I'll buy in Primark as quickly as anywhere.

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By *aint_or_Sinner OP Woman
over a year ago

South County Dublin

"There is no standardisation in sizes between different retailers.

I bought 2 hiking jackets last week in a factory outlet and they fitted perfectly despite being a small and a medium was hanging on me.

In another shop I couldn't get the zip to close on a medium and only a large would fit.

If I go clothes shopping twice a year that's about the height of it and I usually know what I want before I go and it never takes more than a few minutes.

I refuse to pay silly money for clothes though and as long as the fit is good I'll buy in Primark as quickly as anywhere. "

Yes, I think that sizing is always an issue across the board. Even when buying online using the measurement charts, they're way off!!! That's why I need to try on clothes and dislike online shopping. Too hit and miss.

Ditto on paying stupid money - plus, I wouldn't be able to tell a Gucci from a Penney's item of clothing

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By *eralt80Man
over a year ago

cork

I’m not a fan of shopping. I’m in, get what I want and out only leaving little time for browsing.

In the not too distant past few if I had to go into a shop I wasn’t familiar with I’d had to go in, walk around and get the lay of the land. Then I’d leave, walk around town and only once my anxiety subsided could I go back in. If often happened where I ended up not getting want I wanted purely because I could t go into the shop. Much better now though.

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway

I like shopping as long as I’m not looking fo something very specific. Being plus size, I’ve learned to buy things when I see them rather than trying to find something under pressure. I’m set for at least 4 weddings ?? I think the biggest thing about online shopping is to know what shapes suit your body and check the materials for stretch.

Just to note, a lot of online shopping returns go straight to landfill as they won’t bother with repackaging it etc

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By *eijaWoman
over a year ago

City Centre

We both love shopping for clothes...I think S may love it even more than me!

As for his shoe collection I will say no more (in fairness he has great taste

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B x

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By *arajeanCouple
over a year ago

mayo

I love clothes shopping

Jean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate clothes shopping for myself but i love buying things for other people.

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

I shop twice a year. I know what I want, ive been the same size for years, so, 30 mins, penny's or dunnes, tops, slacks, jock, socks, and shoes. When I needed a suit, I went to a proper gents outfitters, where I was expertly dressed from head to toe, and looked great. I couldn't do that myself, as to me all colours look great no matter how others might see them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like shopping as long as I’m not looking fo something very specific. Being plus size, I’ve learned to buy things when I see them rather than trying to find something under pressure. I’m set for at least 4 weddings ?? I think the biggest thing about online shopping is to know what shapes suit your body and check the materials for stretch.

Just to note, a lot of online shopping returns go straight to landfill as they won’t bother with repackaging it etc

That's actually something I do myself. If I see something that i like that fits I pick it up. I'm not fussy anyway but it does take alot of stress off at times

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By *aint_or_Sinner OP Woman
over a year ago

South County Dublin

"I’m not a fan of shopping. I’m in, get what I want and out only leaving little time for browsing.

I feel for you! I can identify with the anxiety. Familiarity can play a crucial role in many aspects of life. Finding coping strategies goes a long way but that doesn't make it easier...but I'm pretty similar. I prefer to go to shops I know and have a higher chance of finding what I need (often with a list at hand, possibly having had a look online before too) rather than scoping out a new store. I'm in and out as quickly as I can, you won't find me browsing, taking items off hangers or unfolding or whatever. I look, if I see something I try it, then I'm out like a bullet...

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By *aint_or_Sinner OP Woman
over a year ago

South County Dublin

"I hate clothes shopping for myself but i love buying things for other people. "

The perfect personal shopper so

. I have once treated myself to one actually. It was an interesting experience, expensive...I got a migraine after a couple of hours with the stress it induced

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By *obshortMan
over a year ago

Cork

Definitely a pain in the neck big time. But thankfully my kids or wife buy most of my clothes now. But back in the day. I just tell the guy in the shop what I want and let him go off and get everything 8 times out of 10. Its a done deal.

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By *aint_or_Sinner OP Woman
over a year ago

South County Dublin

Just to note, a lot of online shopping returns go straight to landfill as they won’t bother with repackaging it etc

That's very organized!

Pressure buying is the worst!!!

I have to admit I have no problem wearing the same outfit to several weddings/events though I do now have a little bit of choice as I tend to buy classics rather than fashionable. They stay in the wardrobe for years on end.

Oh no, I didn't realize this about returns!!! That's awfully wasteful and will make me think even harder about online shopping now

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By *eralt80Man
over a year ago

cork

"I’m not a fan of shopping. I’m in, get what I want and out only leaving little time for browsing.

I find internet shopping both a blessing and a curse, if I can at all I’ll buy something in a shop. It might make me uncomfortable at times but it’s good to face our fears too

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

"Has anyone tried kikdare village....changing rooms were open the last time I looked "

I love it there but so bankrupting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cloths are so over rated

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By *aint_or_Sinner OP Woman
over a year ago

South County Dublin

"Cloths are so over rated"

Cloths definitely are...clothes on the other hand

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By *oireloveCouple
over a year ago

Galway

Not a huge fan of clothes shopping, i always tend to buy the same kind of stuff. An idea I tried once was to go shopping with a friend and let them choose what I tried on and vice versa.. I think us ladies get really stuck in a style for years and sometimes it takes someone else to push you a bit into something else, which can work out well!

Bit like fab that way actually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Honestly I don't mind shopping for myself because I'm not fussy at all. If it fits I'll wear it hahaha.

However, I'd rather pull out all my teeth and replace them with thumb tacks that shop for other people. It genuinely stresses me out"

Shopping WITH other people is usually even worse

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I despise clothes shopping in fact I despise shopping and will try and do as much as I can online rather than go into shops to do it.

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By *ewrideMan
over a year ago

Quite like online shopping. Hate it irl. Was a convert long before lockdown

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually enjoy a browse in TK Max when it’s not busy. Once there is a sale, or a crowd, I’m allergic to shops. Covid was pretty good for that reason.

There is a Dunnes near me, loathe, despise and despair when I’m going in there… but always plenty of attractive women… and my fab brain starts going into hyperdrive wondering about this and that….

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By *imonlebangMan
over a year ago

Casa Lebang Bang

"Cloths are so over rated

Cloths definitely are...clothes on the other hand

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By *imonlebangMan
over a year ago

Casa Lebang Bang

"I despise clothes shopping in fact I despise shopping and will try and do as much as I can online rather than go into shops to do it.

Where have you been all my life...a woman who despises shopping

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By *ORETHANUSCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"We both love shopping for clothes...I think S may love it even more than me!

As for his shoe collection I will say no more (in fairness he has great taste

)

B x"

Nothing wrong with a chap liking shoes. Very important, as is the matching belts!!!

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By *unsigntwoCouple
over a year ago

athlone

Mrssun hates shopping for clothes its trying them on for sure those mirrors make you look 10times worse than you are!! And as for shopping online not a hope

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By *aint_or_Sinner OP Woman
over a year ago

South County Dublin

"I’m not a fan of shopping. I’m in, get what I want and out only leaving little time for browsing.

I find internet shopping both a blessing and a curse, if I can at all I’ll buy something in a shop. It might make me uncomfortable at times but it’s good to face our fears too"

Yes, it is both!

I still prefer to shop local and in person. I actually find consumerism and the anonymity the way it has evolved over the last years grotesque, to be honest...what happened to the little corner shops and boutiques, where you'd know the shop staff to have the banter with...

I used to fly back "home" on a yearly basis for a few years in a row and shop in a particular high street store, get my bits and pieces for the winter. The staff actually got to know me and set aside time for a personal shopping experience. I'd bring a few Irish goodies for them...and then they closed too

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