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By *affa31 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Galway

What surprised you most when you first joined fab (or other similar sites)?

I think for me it was how normal everything was, just regular people who enjoy sex. Not what the media would have you believe about swingers.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

The amount of people of a certain age who like me aren't overly experienced.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

The gender inbalance surprised me. It kinda still does

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By *errardNo8Man
over a year ago

Galway/Mayo

That this was actually a thing in Ireland. Where have i been all these years

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By *errardNo8Man
over a year ago

Galway/Mayo


"The gender inbalance surprised me. It kinda still does"

I think about 1 in 20 of my views are women, and that's if im lucky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly the fact there were actual women on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The amount of couples in their 40s and 50s who said their only sexual experience prior to fab was with each other

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By *heauldadventurerMan
over a year ago

City Centre


"The amount of couples in their 40s and 50s who said their only sexual experience prior to fab was with each other"

Thats probably what prompts them to try!!

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By *affa31 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Galway

The other thing that still continues to surprise me is how close minded some people on here are. Logically it makes sense but you would think it would be a more open minded community.

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By *hatCoupleNextDoorCouple
over a year ago

nearby

I was just surprised by the amount of people into it, dunno why i thought that now, of course, but at the time I was as naive

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By *eterdunneMan
over a year ago

leixlip


"What surprised you most when you first joined fab (or other similar sites)?

I think for me it was how normal everything was, just regular people who enjoy sex. Not what the media would have you believe about swingers. "

I think for me its the amount of snowflakes and people who love to be offended by other people's words. To the point where they just moan and complain. Instead of constructively confronting their own lack of confidence, they shout, complain and try to make others look like they are the ones with problems. Other sites have less of these insecure types.

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By *urfdudeMan
over a year ago

WEXFORD

The amount of people local to me and who understand it is just about having nsa fun

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I guess mostly how many people are on here I don't think I expected to see so many on a swingers site I had never even thought of joining until a friend told me about fab.And how people react to being on here especially after a while.

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By *atherjackhackettMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

Probably how big the swinging scene is. Makes me curious to know has it been always the case. Has it been going on for decades. If it has become more popular then why? Maybe with the advent of technology and apps like this..

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

The number of people operating a JCB without a licence.

They just keep digging regardless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The amount of people calling others snowflakes

Initially what surprised us most I think was the amount of people locally on the site. Especially the number of people on the same road as where I (K) live

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The number of people operating a JCB without a licence.

They just keep digging regardless. "

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

Not so much when I joined fab as I went ages just skimming the surface

But the last few months what has surprised me is how unambitious I had been with my mid weeks when there was a possibility of spending them having a mind blowing time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably how much of a community it is but also the clicks and how they exclude certain members on the site. Personal history maybe, I don’t know.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

The number of participants in the Godwins Law study group making daily presentations.

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

How quickly people jump to abuse when they dont get what they want. The first hour we joined i think we had 4 or 5 messages threatening us with all sorts because we didnt answer them back.

Then its how quick a seemingly innocent forum post can descend into complete and utter chaos

The level of misogyny is kinda off the charts with some dudes

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By *ligolad321Man
over a year ago

Donegal

Although I joined with very low expectations, very surprised at how hard it actually is to get meets. Its a million times harder meeting someone on here as apposed to pulling in a bar/club...

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over


"Probably how much of a community it is but also the clicks and how they exclude certain members on the site. Personal history maybe, I don’t know. "

Possibly true , and some circles hard to break into , but do you want to that badly ? It’s no longer school time. Better creating your own networks

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"How quickly people jump to abuse when they dont get what they want. The first hour we joined i think we had 4 or 5 messages threatening us with all sorts because we didnt answer them back.

Then its how quick a seemingly innocent forum post can descend into complete and utter chaos

The level of misogyny is kinda off the charts with some dudes"

And the misandry on here as well surprised when especially after I was on here a a while .It makes me wonder why some people are on here when they seem to despise the opposite sex but yet are looking to meet them.

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford


"How quickly people jump to abuse when they dont get what they want. The first hour we joined i think we had 4 or 5 messages threatening us with all sorts because we didnt answer them back.

Then its how quick a seemingly innocent forum post can descend into complete and utter chaos

The level of misogyny is kinda off the charts with some dudes

And the misandry on here as well surprised when especially after I was on here a a while .It makes me wonder why some people are on here when they seem to despise the opposite sex but yet are looking to meet them."

This too.

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By *ilverfox74Man
over a year ago

dublin offaly

How much of a sheltered life I lived. I always had thoughts of things just didn’t realise how many more people though the same. Onwards and upwards. The list is getting longer

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By *eralt80Man
over a year ago

cork

The sense of community and the friendships built along the way. There is a lot more to fab than just the sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The sense of community and the friendships built along the way. There is a lot more to fab than just the sex "

This also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was surprised by how much of what I was looking for changed. I'm not sure if that comes across right lol.

I joined thinking I was gonna be or wanted to be experiencing random one off meets with strangers but actually what I found is that wasn't the case nor was it actually what I wanted.

I found I made Alot of Fab friends and can spend hours chatting to them each evening. I literally sit laughing my face off some nights with the craic. I was surprised how much I enjoyed going to my first social and of course getting the Ride is always the icing on the cake too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How quickly people jump to abuse when they dont get what they want. The first hour we joined i think we had 4 or 5 messages threatening us with all sorts because we didnt answer them back.

Then its how quick a seemingly innocent forum post can descend into complete and utter chaos

The level of misogyny is kinda off the charts with some dudes

And the misandry on here as well surprised when especially after I was on here a a while .It makes me wonder why some people are on here when they seem to despise the opposite sex but yet are looking to meet them."

This for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The sense of community and the friendships built along the way. There is a lot more to fab than just the sex "

And this

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over


"I was surprised by how much of what I was looking for changed. D"

I read that as ‘I am now looking for men’

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"The sense of community and the friendships built along the way. There is a lot more to fab than just the sex "

Yes this as well. It's a lot more than just sex which is why I like it on here.

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

I have been pleasantly surprised by how open people are about what draws them to this life

Grief , Ill health and loneliness for example seem as likely to bring people here as unfulfilled sexual lives outside fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apparently my cock is not unique

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over


"Apparently my cock is not unique "

apropos of nothing!

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Without filters the amount of messages you can get, learned to use them rather rapidly...

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By *ensualnFunCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"The sense of community and the friendships built along the way. There is a lot more to fab than just the sex

Yes this as well. It's a lot more than just sex which is why I like it on here. "

This definitely.

And the fact swinging was so big in Ireland, who would have thought! Not us. We started looking abroad until a friend told us about Room4more podcast… they mentioned Fab and the rest is history!

There’s even a party place down the road from us! The world is full of surprises

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

That others found me attractive

That I could last longer than two strokes

The amount of people joining in the scene that first social was an eye opener

The amount of wankers that openly admit it

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

For me it was the amount of research tha Sydney University seems to do. Why were a uni on the other side of the world so interested in Irish sexual happenings?

Then I began exploring Fab and went to a M&G and met some absolutely delightful people, with an attitude to sex I hadn't experienced since I left London, many years previously.

I still can't figure out how it interests a university so far away but,as we say on Fab,each to their own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The amount of single guys in here who out-and-out sociopaths

It wasn't immediately apparent when I signed up first, being a single man myself, but after getting to know a few ladies and couples I was shocked to discover the kind of messages they were getting

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

Only because I have not heard the term in a while, the amount of White Knights!

I'm only saying it for the craic.

Don't fucking bitch slap me!

I am one, on some occasions, though only when absolutely necessary and I have been missing the Naughty Step.

When I do it,I don't pull punches

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By *r NovemberMan
over a year ago

Closer than you think


"What surprised you most when you first joined fab (or other similar sites)?

I think for me it was how normal everything was, just regular people who enjoy sex. Not what the media would have you believe about swingers. "

I think what surprised me most initially was the number of fake profiles here that were very much interactive,I mean why bother your hole if meeting is really not gonna happen.

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By *ummer_XOWoman
over a year ago

Tyrone


"I have been pleasantly surprised by how open people are about what draws them to this life

Grief , Ill health and loneliness for example seem as likely to bring people here as unfulfilled sexual lives outside fab "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The amount of "straight guys" messaging me for sex, Im flattered but sorry lads Im straight!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The number of views and messages I get from men has surprised me. Very few from women !

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By *izaandstuCouple
over a year ago

Wigan


"What surprised you most when you first joined fab (or other similar sites)?

I think for me it was how normal everything was, just regular people who enjoy sex. Not what the media would have you believe about swingers. "
same with us nothing like we imagined it being before we joined and how little we knew about sex when we thought we knew alot sexually before we started swinging

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

The amount of people who like feet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Facinating replies. Please keep posting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And the fact there seem to be be so few guys, or ladies,my age still interested in sex!

What are they interested in instead I wonder? Should I really try to get into gardening? Or Bridge? Or?

No. Prefer sex.

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By *reentrevorMan
over a year ago

wexford


"How quickly people jump to abuse when they dont get what they want. The first hour we joined i think we had 4 or 5 messages threatening us with all sorts because we didnt answer them back.

Then its how quick a seemingly innocent forum post can descend into complete and utter chaos

The level of misogyny is kinda off the charts with some dudes

And the misandry on here as well surprised when especially after I was on here a a while .It makes me wonder why some people are on here when they seem to despise the opposite sex but yet are looking to meet them."

I would take misandry at this stage, at least it would acknowledge the message you sent. There are one or two very nice people too though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would second everything everyone has said...its interesting, awe inspiring, constantly teaching, helps us discover ourselves, makes us realise that an interest in sex is not a batching & we are notvalone on our feelings...& most of all its a community

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

..."batching" ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The depth and layers of Fab surprised me.

I thought it was a hook up site when I joined but its a whole other world of communities and a language that I didnt know.

Theres parts of it Ive heard of but never been, parts Ive explored and didnt like, new activities Id like to try and people Id like to meet.

Ive learnt a huge ammount more than I ever expected to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I learned how vanilla I was

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