FabSwingers.com forum: Attached = Drama ?? Why

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

There are plenty of profiles on Fab that are great, and a lid for every pot as my other half says, but I have to wonder about why some profiles put “Attached, no thanks don’t need the drama”??

I’ve met ladies here who are in relationships of various standings, and there has never been any drama either way. One such friend said she was tired of having her sex life dictated because of married men’s schedules for when they could be “unfaithful”. I totally got that, and would try to be accommodating when she was contacting me with a lady horn, but feck, truth is,there are other things in life that occupy my time too…

Another friend who is married too… we have absolutely no drama about scheduling meets into our mutually busy lives.

So…. Couples, ladies, fellas…. Are potential fab friends who are in attached status just too much Drama or Hassle??

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By *asterandhissparklesCouple
over a year ago

tipperary

It's not just the scheduling issues as u said above. It's the sneaking. Attached people don't wanna meet for coffee. Don't wanna be seen in public even. I once met a lad in a hotel. He was a little delayed so I ordered a cocktail and waiting happily. He arrived and sat uncomfortable and then met someone he knew so gave me room key and left me to go upstairs. Wasn't impressed. Also the messages, attached people delete Kik or can't talk the same. So even chats are all around when they free to talk. It just often requires more effort than the meet is worth. Plus let's say a spouse gets a hold of saucy pictures or anything...what's to stop them sharing out of hurt feelings. Just not worth the bother. Imo xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

O don't meet married people because I just don't agree with it. Not gonna jump on threads and call people all sorts of names but just my personal choice and preference its not necessarily about drama.

I have heard the working around an attached persons commitments as an issue before and I have head if certain situations where the other half has contacted people through the person's phone or followed them to meets so I guess the drams does happen/is possible.

As you said there is suitable people for everyone on here

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By *issme39Woman
over a year ago

kildare

"It's not just the scheduling issues as u said above. It's the sneaking. Attached people don't wanna meet for coffee. Don't wanna be seen in public even. I once met a lad in a hotel. He was a little delayed so I ordered a cocktail and waiting happily. He arrived and sat uncomfortable and then met someone he knew so gave me room key and left me to go upstairs. Wasn't impressed. Also the messages, attached people delete Kik or can't talk the same. So even chats are all around when they free to talk. It just often requires more effort than the meet is worth. Plus let's say a spouse gets a hold of saucy pictures or anything...what's to stop them sharing out of hurt feelings. Just not worth the bother. Imo xx"

this

and then there is the day time only meets when I work in the day , my free time is evenings and weekends and for obvious reasons they can't..

I will keep saying it tho that I judge no one as we all have our reasons for being here.. x

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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

Simply put attached people are judt not available enough for my needs. Also don't want to be a part of someone elses relationship. I want one of my own. Lol

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By *issme39Woman
over a year ago

kildare

"Simply put attached people are judt not available enough for my needs. Also don't want to be a part of someone elses relationship. I want one of my own. Lol"

as always I love your honesty x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with a lot of what the above people have said! And yes it's a pity that married people have to resort to going on sites to find fun away from their own relationship. But unfortunately if it doesn't suit you to meet a married person, then don't!! By the way, I'm attached!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Simply put attached people are judt not available enough for my needs. Also don't want to be a part of someone elses relationship. I want one of my own. Lol"

That I get, and your profile states clearly, no attached/married… and if you are seeking a deeper relationship here, all the best and enjoy the journey along the way.

I was directed to a similar post, and this isn’t for me to stir up the reasons why I’m attached and a male (without couple) on Fab… plenty of time for that over coffee…

And yes daytime is good, but again, not exclusively the option for me… the French have a term about a cinq a sept … a 5-7 affair…. But I can’t drink caffeine after 3, would be awake all night…. But then if I’ve a hotel… maybe not such a bad idea…

Guess just trying to gauge is there just too much drama in the attached profiles here that are seeking new friends?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't care either way, every holes a goal

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By *j TruckerMan
over a year ago

monaghan

Everybody circumstances are different yes I am attached and yes I am on here but my better half has a a debilitating condition which means there is no physical contact or no sex. So like I say everybody has their reasons some maybe better than others.... X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everybody circumstances are different yes I am attached and yes I am on here but my better half has a a debilitating condition which means there is no physical contact or no sex. So like I say everybody has their reasons some maybe better than others.... X"

I guess from my own perspective I don't ever fully trust what someone who is attached tells me in relation to their reasons for being on here.

If you are going to lie to your partner/kids/family about where you are and what you are doing how can I trust your telling me the full or accurate story and not just spinning either a more favorable version or complete fiction.

Not you specifically but in general its why I dont change my mind even when people are for their own reasons

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By *j TruckerMan
over a year ago

monaghan

That's totally understandable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this

and then there is the day time only meets when I work in the day , my free time is evenings and weekends and for obvious reasons they can't..

I will keep saying it tho that I judge no one as we all have our reasons for being here.. x"

This for me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own really. Is certainly a bigger chance of drama and/or a greater risk with attached people but wouldn't judge as you don't no people's reasons or situations.

Answer may have been different a few years ago but after a friend had his wife cheat on him, hearing him talk about why it happened, accepting his responsibility and wanting to remain friends with her kinda reshaped my perspective on it. In an ideal world if people weren't happy they would leave but we don't live in an ideal world unfortunately and sometimes people have alot to lose or are trying to escape/balance a bad relationship via hooking up with others. Such is life eh!!

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

Not so much drama but the way some people talk their respective partners is pretty disgusting and myself if my other half was speaking about me in the way they do to other people i would be absolutely devestated. Its totally off putting and says a lot about them really

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By *eterdunneMan
over a year ago

leixlip

A couple of things about responses to this that make me think thoughts.....

1, I don't want to be part of someone else's relationship, I want my own. Surely the very fabric of this site is non monogamy. Is anyone on here looking for love and marriage?

2, I don't need the drama. Does absolutely every married guy come with drama? I mean are they looking for a new wife or someone to fall in live with and break up their family?

3, scheduling and availability. If you like the look of him or her, why not at least have a chat and find out if they can fit into your schedule? They very well might be free some nights or weekends and could be the perfect FWB.

4, nobody has mentioned morals as a reason not to go there. Are the other reasons an excuse not to say morals or do morals really not come into it?

Maybe I'm right, maybe I'm wrong but, it's just food for thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A couple of things about responses to this that make me think thoughts.....

1, I don't want to be part of someone else's relationship, I want my own. Surely the very fabric of this site is non monogamy. Is anyone on here looking for love and marriage?

2, I don't need the drama. Does absolutely every married guy come with drama? I mean are they looking for a new wife or someone to fall in live with and break up their family?

4, nobody has mentioned morals as a reason not to go there. Are the other reasons an excuse not to say morals or do morals really not come into it?

Maybe I'm right, maybe I'm wrong but, it's just food for thought "
could not have worded it better myself.

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By *parklySassWoman
over a year ago

Sassville

This

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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"A couple of things about responses to this that make me think thoughts.....

1, I don't want to be part of someone else's relationship, I want my own. Surely the very fabric of this site is non monogamy. Is anyone on here looking for love and marriage?

2, I don't need the drama. Does absolutely every married guy come with drama? I mean are they looking for a new wife or someone to fall in live with and break up their family?

4, nobody has mentioned morals as a reason not to go there. Are the other reasons an excuse not to say morals or do morals really not come into it?

Maybe I'm right, maybe I'm wrong but, it's just food for thought "

Well actually lots of people are interested in swinging and with a partner of their own to explore this with. So why would they not join a swinging site to find that potential partner. And people can meet and fall in love absolutely anywhere. Why not here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A couple of things about responses to this that make me think thoughts.....

1, I don't want to be part of someone else's relationship, I want my own. Surely the very fabric of this site is non monogamy. Is anyone on here looking for love and marriage?

2, I don't need the drama. Does absolutely every married guy come with drama? I mean are they looking for a new wife or someone to fall in live with and break up their family?

4, nobody has mentioned morals as a reason not to go there. Are the other reasons an excuse not to say morals or do morals really not come into it?

Maybe I'm right, maybe I'm wrong but, it's just food for thought

The above list is great…. And there are married women here too without drama and looking to meet for the thrill of something that is their own.

And number 2 is spot on.

Scheduling reason hurts my head, I’m on the road mid week, hotels, late meetings, and if after an initial meeting something on the weekend needed to happen… perhaps it would be worth while to make it happen.

I would agree with the one poster about being in public, I can meet for coffee, hangout in any hotel, it’s all part of my job…. But wouldn’t be meeting a fab friend in a local for pints and a flirt… so there is some consideration of “discreet” in that context.

If love is your search, then as above, enjoy the journey and good luck. I’m not looking for Love, Drama or anything nuclear in life…. And I’d never degrade or put down my wife in a conversation with another friend.

Appreciate all the opinions on this one though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2, I don't need the drama. Does absolutely every married guy come with drama? I mean are they looking for a new wife or someone to fall in live with and break up their family?

I think drama is more to do with partners finding out, than someone falling deeply in love with you, which isn't an issue with single people

4, nobody has mentioned morals as a reason not to go there. Are the other reasons an excuse not to say morals or do morals really not come into it?

I think 1 or 2 including myself have said they don't feel elements of it are right, that doesn't necessarily mean other reasons given are just excuses surely?

Maybe I'm right, maybe I'm wrong but, it's just food for thought "

It's all a matter of opinions and preferences I'd never try to convince others they shouldn't meet attached people I do see the other argument being made and I don't see why people would try to convince other they should change their preferences

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

"Simply put attached people are judt not available enough for my needs. Also don't want to be a part of someone elses relationship. I want one of my own. Lol"

Two married men might work with different sets of availability

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By *eijaWoman
over a year ago

City Centre

Hmmm morals....I think a lot of people who have 'they do not meet attached people' on their profile have it there for that exact reason. They do not want to meet someone who is playing without their partner's consent/lying to their partner/families.

I have it on our profile and I strongly stand by it.

I was cheated on by an ex partner on Fab and believe me it was not a good feeling. In fact I was pretty broken for a long time after it. What I always say to myself is put yourself in the person's shoes that doesn't know you are on here. Imagine the heartbreak if they found out and the repurcussions....

Saying that each to their own I just wouldn't get involved.

I would like to say though if you are open and honest with everyone here and let people know you are married then the person meeting you has a choice. That is SO important.

I definitely agree too with the difficulty to meet. Most people work daytime and can only meet weekends or some week nights. You really are cutting down your potential meets with time constraints.

There is some one on here for everyone so I also don't understand why the 'attached' people on the site make such a song and dance about people not meeting them. Plenty of people meet them.

Hate me if you will but that's my opinion and preference.

Obviously if you partner is fully aware it's all good!

B x

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

"Don't care either way, every holes a goal

How can we bring more romance to fab ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't care either way, every holes a goal

How can we bring more romance to fab ? "

Put a lit candle in one of said holes?

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

"Don't care either way, every holes a goal

How can we bring more romance to fab ?

Put a lit candle in one of said holes?"

This escalated quickly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't care either way, every holes a goal

How can we bring more romance to fab ? "

Romance on a fuck site....not for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't care either way, every holes a goal

How can we bring more romance to fab ?

Romance on a fuck site....not for me"

Totally agree!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

4, nobody has mentioned morals as a reason not to go there. Are the other reasons an excuse not to say morals or do morals really not come into it?

Morals are a personal matter and cant be imposed on others. All of us have our own.

Practicalities and personal preferences are valid enough reasons in themselves, and cause less conflict.

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway

"Don't care either way, every holes a goal

How can we bring more romance to fab ?

Romance on a fuck site....not for me

Totally agree!

Can I ask why you don’t state that you’re attached on your profile when you’re so open about it on the forum? Just curious as your profile reads like a dating site profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't care either way, every holes a goal

How can we bring more romance to fab ?

Romance on a fuck site....not for me

Totally agree!

Can I ask why you don’t state that you’re attached on your profile when you’re so open about it on the forum? Just curious as your profile reads like a dating site profile. "

Its great to see such openness though, my blocking finger is getting so much exercise

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway

"Each to their own?"

Oh completely, I’m not saying anything about you being here, I just find the differences between your profile and your forum posts a little odd.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are plenty of profiles on Fab that are great, and a lid for every pot as my other half says, but I have to wonder about why some profiles put “Attached, no thanks don’t need the drama”??

Another friend who is married too… we have absolutely no drama about scheduling meets into our mutually busy lives.

So…. Couples, ladies, fellas…. Are potential fab friends who are in attached status just too much Drama or Hassle?? "

It's for some...and not for others..l personally think those that don't care about anything else only getting laid don't care about any potential fallout, those that do care or worry about the potential fall out especially if kids are in the equation prefer not to get involved with married or attached , maybe ya gotta just ask yourself is the ride worth the fall ???

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By *issme39Woman
over a year ago

kildare

"A couple of things about responses to this that make me think thoughts.....

1, I don't want to be part of someone else's relationship, I want my own. Surely the very fabric of this site is non monogamy. Is anyone on here looking for love and marriage?

2, I don't need the drama. Does absolutely every married guy come with drama? I mean are they looking for a new wife or someone to fall in live with and break up their family?

4, nobody has mentioned morals as a reason not to go there. Are the other reasons an excuse not to say morals or do morals really not come into it?

Maybe I'm right, maybe I'm wrong but, it's just food for thought

The above list is great…. And there are married women here too without drama and looking to meet for the thrill of something that is their own.

And number 2 is spot on.

Appreciate all the opinions on this one though. "

the bit where you say you can't meet someone out in a bar/cafe etc actually made me cringe, as a woman do you know how that would make me feel?? you couldn't be seen in public with me?? my gosh I'm well aware this is a swing site but damn that made me shake my head..

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By *issme39Woman
over a year ago

kildare

"Don't care either way, every holes a goal

How can we bring more romance to fab ?

Romance on a fuck site....not for me

Totally agree!

Can I ask why you don’t state that you’re attached on your profile when you’re so open about it on the forum? Just curious as your profile reads like a dating site profile.

Its great to see such openness though, my blocking finger is getting so much exercise

you never fail to make me smile rub

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

"A couple of things about responses to this that make me think thoughts.....

1, I don't want to be part of someone else's relationship, I want my own. Surely the very fabric of this site is non monogamy. Is anyone on here looking for love and marriage?

2, I don't need the drama. Does absolutely every married guy come with drama? I mean are they looking for a new wife or someone to fall in live with and break up their family?

4, nobody has mentioned morals as a reason not to go there. Are the other reasons an excuse not to say morals or do morals really not come into it?

Maybe I'm right, maybe I'm wrong but, it's just food for thought

The above list is great…. And there are married women here too without drama and looking to meet for the thrill of something that is their own.

And number 2 is spot on.

Appreciate all the opinions on this one though.

IMO If you have a single male profile , you have to treat this site as an Olympic sport. If you don’t put in the effort and be flexible and prioritise it , you reduce your chances of getting something out of it . If you rule out stuff like being seen with other fabbers socially then it will impact on your experience . The ratios are terrible . The other 19 men (per woman) will step up

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By *issme39Woman
over a year ago

kildare

"A couple of things about responses to this that make me think thoughts.....

1, I don't want to be part of someone else's relationship, I want my own. Surely the very fabric of this site is non monogamy. Is anyone on here looking for love and marriage?

2, I don't need the drama. Does absolutely every married guy come with drama? I mean are they looking for a new wife or someone to fall in live with and break up their family?

4, nobody has mentioned morals as a reason not to go there. Are the other reasons an excuse not to say morals or do morals really not come into it?

Maybe I'm right, maybe I'm wrong but, it's just food for thought

The above list is great…. And there are married women here too without drama and looking to meet for the thrill of something that is their own.

And number 2 is spot on.

Appreciate all the opinions on this one though.

absolutely

my mind is absolutely blown with some of these comments , I hope the ones offended by my comments block me and keep me blocked as the way ye think about us ladies on fab is not good...

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By *eterdunneMan
over a year ago

leixlip

"Don't care either way, every holes a goal

How can we bring more romance to fab ?

Romance on a fuck site....not for me

Totally agree!

Can I ask why you don’t state that you’re attached on your profile when you’re so open about it on the forum? Just curious as your profile reads like a dating site profile. "

I'd just like to say that I'm not against romance on here. In fact I'm a soft, romantic fool at heart. Romance makes it all much more personal which to me is better.

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By *eterdunneMan
over a year ago

leixlip

"A couple of things about responses to this that make me think thoughts.....

1, I don't want to be part of someone else's relationship, I want my own. Surely the very fabric of this site is non monogamy. Is anyone on here looking for love and marriage?

2, I don't need the drama. Does absolutely every married guy come with drama? I mean are they looking for a new wife or someone to fall in live with and break up their family?

4, nobody has mentioned morals as a reason not to go there. Are the other reasons an excuse not to say morals or do morals really not come into it?

Maybe I'm right, maybe I'm wrong but, it's just food for thought

You're absolutely right. I don't pretend to know it all. I just think that things like this can tend to be generalised and as you've just pointed our.....people are all different, as are their situations.

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By *eterdunneMan
over a year ago

leixlip

"Hmmm morals....I think a lot of people who have 'they do not meet attached people' on their profile have it there for that exact reason. They do not want to meet someone who is playing without their partner's consent/lying to their partner/families.

I have it on our profile and I strongly stand by it.

Saying that each to their own I just wouldn't get involved.

I would like to say though if you are open and honest with everyone here and let people know you are married then the person meeting you has a choice. That is SO important.

I definitely agree too with the difficulty to meet. Most people work daytime and can only meet weekends or some week nights. You really are cutting down your potential meets with time constraints.

There is some one on here for everyone so I also don't understand why the 'attached' people on the site make such a song and dance about people not meeting them. Plenty of people meet them.

Hate me if you will but that's my opinion and preference.

Obviously if you partner is fully aware it's all good!

B x "

When I mentioned morals, I was more talking about posters on this thread. It was the one reason that nobody gave. Read the posts prior to mine and you'll see where I was coming from

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By *eterdunneMan
over a year ago

leixlip

"A couple of things about responses to this that make me think thoughts.....

1, I don't want to be part of someone else's relationship, I want my own. Surely the very fabric of this site is non monogamy. Is anyone on here looking for love and marriage?

2, I don't need the drama. Does absolutely every married guy come with drama? I mean are they looking for a new wife or someone to fall in live with and break up their family?

4, nobody has mentioned morals as a reason not to go there. Are the other reasons an excuse not to say morals or do morals really not come into it?

Maybe I'm right, maybe I'm wrong but, it's just food for thought

The above list is great…. And there are married women here too without drama and looking to meet for the thrill of something that is their own.

And number 2 is spot on.

Appreciate all the opinions on this one though.

absolutely

my mind is absolutely blown with some of these comments , I hope the ones offended by my comments block me and keep me blocked as the way ye think about us ladies on fab is not good... "

I don't see anything offensive in your comments. It's all just healthy debate. I certainly wouldn't ever block anyone for having an opinion. Truth be told, I wouldn't need to. Not like they would talk to me anyway

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you

Personally don't won't to be involved in someone who cheating on their partner.

Not interested in why they feel the need to cheat etc it's none of my business.

As for drama the last week any one wants is an irate wife or partner ringing up asking who the fu_k you are.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

For me it's more about karma than drama. As much as everyone ßays that we wouldn't be caught and there is zero chance of the husband/wife finding out.. it CAN happen. A mutual friend could see you. A family member. Some old acquaintance or someone they work with. I don't want a breakup on my conscience. I don't want to be the cause of such hurt and distress. Its not worth it.

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By *issme39Woman
over a year ago

kildare

"A couple of things about responses to this that make me think thoughts.....

1, I don't want to be part of someone else's relationship, I want my own. Surely the very fabric of this site is non monogamy. Is anyone on here looking for love and marriage?

2, I don't need the drama. Does absolutely every married guy come with drama? I mean are they looking for a new wife or someone to fall in live with and break up their family?

4, nobody has mentioned morals as a reason not to go there. Are the other reasons an excuse not to say morals or do morals really not come into it?

Maybe I'm right, maybe I'm wrong but, it's just food for thought

The above list is great…. And there are married women here too without drama and looking to meet for the thrill of something that is their own.

And number 2 is spot on.

Appreciate all the opinions on this one though.

absolutely

my mind is absolutely blown with some of these comments , I hope the ones offended by my comments block me and keep me blocked as the way ye think about us ladies on fab is not good...

thank you..as mad as I get I try never be rude ( sometimes I fail tho )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm here for purely my own pleasure so I don't care if they are attached I just choose not to meet them. As a single parent I get a night off once in a blue moon so I want to make the most of it. When I first joined Fab I organised two hotel meets in the space of a month. Both times the guys didn't turn up turns out they forgot to mention they were attached. So that totally put me off meeting attached people. No shade to attached people here we are all on different journeys on Fab it's just my personal choice. I'm suiting me and my needs!

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By *eterdunneMan
over a year ago

leixlip

"I'm here for purely my own pleasure so I don't care if they are attached I just choose not to meet them. As a single parent I get a night off once in a blue moon so I want to make the most of it. When I first joined Fab I organised two hotel meets in the space of a month. Both times the guys didn't turn up turns out they forgot to mention they were attached. So that totally put me off meeting attached people. No shade to attached people here we are all on different journeys on Fab it's just my personal choice. I'm suiting me and my needs!"

What if the guy did show up and then told you he was married. Would you still use the room? With him?

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By *aint_or_SinnerWoman
over a year ago

South County Dublin

"A couple of things about responses to this that make me think thoughts.....

1, I don't want to be part of someone else's relationship, I want my own. Surely the very fabric of this site is non monogamy. Is anyone on here looking for love and marriage?

2, I don't need the drama. Does absolutely every married guy come with drama? I mean are they looking for a new wife or someone to fall in live with and break up their family?

4, nobody has mentioned morals as a reason not to go there. Are the other reasons an excuse not to say morals or do morals really not come into it?

Maybe I'm right, maybe I'm wrong but, it's just food for thought

The above list is great…. And there are married women here too without drama and looking to meet for the thrill of something that is their own.

And number 2 is spot on.

Appreciate all the opinions on this one though.

Not sure if wires got crossed here, but the previous poster stated he CAN meet for coffee or in hotel - but he wouldn't meet a fellow fabber in his local...it's not about who he's seen with (he can probably make excuses for client meetings or some such) but rather where he's seen with someone, the way I interpret it.

Though I agree with a previous poster, Ireland is small, people know each other, they talk...

Christ, I was recognised at the airport by a bunch of strangers holidaying in Ireland who had never met me - but knew some of my family through business transactions, merely by family resemblance, they knew who I was!!! So imagine bumping into a scenario like this...

As for opinion, well, I'll leave that unsaid here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What if the guy did show up and then told you he was married. Would you still use the room? With him?"

Nope I'd call the beautiful Missme and I'd say heah girl fancy coming over and hanging out here in the Honeymoon suite to drink Processco in fluffy dressing gowns!

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By *issme39Woman
over a year ago

kildare

What if the guy did show up and then told you he was married. Would you still use the room? With him?

Nope I'd call the beautiful Missme and I'd say heah girl fancy coming over and hanging out here in the Honeymoon suite to drink Processco in fluffy dressing gowns! "

and id be all over that gorgeous

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over a year ago

What if the guy did show up and then told you he was married. Would you still use the room? With him?

Nope I'd call the beautiful Missme and I'd say heah girl fancy coming over and hanging out here in the Honeymoon suite to drink Processco in fluffy dressing gowns!

and id be all over that gorgeous

Scenes

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By *issme39Woman
over a year ago

kildare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't care either way, every holes a goal

How can we bring more romance to fab ?

Romance on a fuck site....not for me

Totally agree!

Can I ask why you don’t state that you’re attached on your profile when you’re so open about it on the forum? Just curious as your profile reads like a dating site profile.

I'd just like to say that I'm not against romance on here. In fact I'm a soft, romantic fool at heart. Romance makes it all much more personal which to me is better."

Romance is something that can very very easily happen here,how do l know that ?...l lived it.

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By *eterdunneMan
over a year ago

leixlip

What if the guy did show up and then told you he was married. Would you still use the room? With him?

Nope I'd call the beautiful Missme and I'd say heah girl fancy coming over and hanging out here in the Honeymoon suite to drink Processco in fluffy dressing gowns! "

Oooooooooooòoh, that's would sink his boat alright.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks Saint or Sinner, I’d often meet new and old friends in cafes and hotels, or anywhere. It is the where and guess I’m a little fortunate in that yes, Ireland is a village, but I’ve a small social circle….

Anyhow, the debate is great… and opinions, well we all know about opinions. I know that the site offers any lifestyle choice, many I will have nowt to do with, but it was just to glean a little more why that drama is a associated with attached profiles…. Guess in my rose tinted glasses view, having attached fab friends keeps the Fab friends clearly as friends in that moment…. And perhaps for many others.

Well, I’ve Achieved one thing…. perhaps getting myself blocked by half the nice looking ladies on this thread …. Not intended….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's more risk involved when you're married, you might see someone that you know when meeting a person, but everyone has their own reasons for being here. I'm single so I can't say much. I don't have to sneak around. I don't judge anyone

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By *eterdunneMan
over a year ago

leixlip

Well, I’ve Achieved one thing…. perhaps getting myself blocked by half the nice looking ladies on this thread …. Not intended….

They won't block you if they are decent people. Most, if not all the ladies who posted to this one are very nice regardless of their opinion on this subject. If someone does block you because of this then consider them a bullet that has been dodged.

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By *aint_or_SinnerWoman
over a year ago

South County Dublin

Well, I’ve Achieved one thing…. perhaps getting myself blocked by half the nice looking ladies on this thread …. Not intended….

You're welcome

What speaks for you, is that you are honest about being attached in your profile. This way people can make an informed decision. It will get you blocks on one side but may open doors on another.

We sure do know about opinions

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over a year ago

Well, I’ve Achieved one thing…. perhaps getting myself blocked by half the nice looking ladies on this thread …. Not intended….

You're welcome

What speaks for you, is that you are honest about being attached in your profile. This way people can make an informed decision. It will get you blocks on one side but may open doors on another.

We sure do know about opinions

Don't sweat the small stuff...life's is short and nothing annoys you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, I’ve Achieved one thing…. perhaps getting myself blocked by half the nice looking ladies on this thread …. Not intended….

Blocks are fine, no issues,,,announcing blocks ..not for me

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By *issme39Woman
over a year ago

kildare

Well, I’ve Achieved one thing…. perhaps getting myself blocked by half the nice looking ladies on this thread …. Not intended….

I genuinely tired to get my point across without getting mean/ personal etc.. some of your comments and others I don't agree with but that is life..

you still don't see/get our point but that's ok too..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, I’ve Achieved one thing…. perhaps getting myself blocked by half the nice looking ladies on this thread …. Not intended….

Sometimes blocks are used to save both parties wasting each others time. Consider it a favour done id say

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By *eterdunneMan
over a year ago

leixlip

Well, I’ve Achieved one thing…. perhaps getting myself blocked by half the nice looking ladies on this thread …. Not intended….

Sometimes blocks are used to save both parties wasting each others time. Consider it a favour done id say "

I don't necessarily agree here. A good conversation is never a waste of time. Definitely a favour done but for different reasons.

Rubadub is going to block me now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, I’ve Achieved one thing…. perhaps getting myself blocked by half the nice looking ladies on this thread …. Not intended….

Sometimes blocks are used to save both parties wasting each others time. Consider it a favour done id say

I don't necessarily agree here. A good conversation is never a waste of time. Definitely a favour done but for different reasons.

Rubadub is going to block me now!

We dont disagree either. Im all for good conversation as long as theres no misrepresentation in it

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By *eterdunneMan
over a year ago

leixlip

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By *eterdunneMan
over a year ago

leixlip

Well, I’ve Achieved one thing…. perhaps getting myself blocked by half the nice looking ladies on this thread …. Not intended….

Sometimes blocks are used to save both parties wasting each others time. Consider it a favour done id say

I don't necessarily agree here. A good conversation is never a waste of time. Definitely a favour done but for different reasons.

Rubadub is going to block me now!

We dont disagree either. Im all for good conversation as long as theres no misrepresentation in it

I got nothin but live for my Rubadub

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By *t777Woman
over a year ago

close by

I guess from my own perspective I don't ever fully trust what someone who is attached tells me in relation to their reasons for being on here.

Not you specifically but in general its why I dont change my mind even when people are for their own reasons"

Not everyone attached, married etc.. is lying to their partners, please listen to everyone's story before judging

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By *eterdunneMan
over a year ago

leixlip

I guess from my own perspective I don't ever fully trust what someone who is attached tells me in relation to their reasons for being on here.

Not you specifically but in general its why I dont change my mind even when people are for their own reasons

Not everyone attached, married etc.. is lying to their partners, please listen to everyone's story before judging"

That's a wise lady right there.

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over a year ago

I guess from my own perspective I don't ever fully trust what someone who is attached tells me in relation to their reasons for being on here.

Not you specifically but in general its why I dont change my mind even when people are for their own reasons

Not everyone attached, married etc.. is lying to their partners, please listen to everyone's story before judging"

I think it's very clear thos thread is about meeting people playing behind their partners backso thats what my comment was referring to. My preference is together single people and not those who are part of a couple, but that's a personal preference not a judgement

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By *ol_ieMan
over a year ago

Dublin west

Have been on and off various sites for a number of years.

I actually have had more drama from some of the single ones than the attached ones.

I'm single myself and open to long time of the right girl came along but while I know people that have coupled up from in here I also know many that have coupled up to split up a year or two later, so take it a day at a time and see what happens.

People make their own choices and have to live by them but that's what keeps life interesting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get the feeling I have created a bit of a stir

Not my intention but glad it’s be trashed out.

Better to be honest either way

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By *eterdunneMan
over a year ago

leixlip

"I get the feeling I have created a bit of a stir

Not my intention but glad it’s be trashed out.

Better to be honest either way

There's nothing wrong with a civil debate. It's nice to see both sides of it playing nice.

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By *hilaboutMan
over a year ago

kilkenny

Ah sure it is what it is we may move on people

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

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There's plenty singles on here that draw drama in buckets and you could argue playing with an attached person can cut out other problems you don't want to run into when you're looking for no strings sex.

Anyhow each on their own as they say. I've met gents from both groups, never had any issues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any attached ladies looking to play let me know.

lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Any attached ladies looking to play let me know.

lol

Hey… no hijacking a thread of conversations on Fab to shamelessly ask for any attached ladies to give you a wink!!

Seriously, have you no shame….

Oh and ditto for me….

… attached or single and looking with open eyes.

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By *aint_or_SinnerWoman
over a year ago

South County Dublin

"Any attached ladies looking to play let me know.

lol

Hey… no hijacking a thread of conversations on Fab to shamelessly ask for any attached ladies to give you a wink!!

Seriously, have you no shame….

Oh and ditto for me….

… attached or single and looking with open eyes. "

And those looking with closed eyes???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any attached ladies looking to play let me know.

lol

Hey… no hijacking a thread of conversations on Fab to shamelessly ask for any attached ladies to give you a wink!!

Seriously, have you no shame….

Oh and ditto for me….

… attached or single and looking with open eyes.

And those looking with closed eyes???

Struggle to wink I assume

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

And those looking with closed eyes???

Struggle to wink I assume"

Good point… the wink is a tough one there…. Maybe a finger tap system…

But if the minds eye is closed…. And there is no option for a wink…. Guess that is where we go our own merry ways….

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By *aint_or_SinnerWoman
over a year ago

South County Dublin

And those looking with closed eyes???

Struggle to wink I assume

Good point… the wink is a tough one there…. Maybe a finger tap system…

But if the minds eye is closed…. And there is no option for a wink…. Guess that is where we go our own merry ways…. "

Third eye is always open

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And those looking with closed eyes???

Struggle to wink I assume

Good point… the wink is a tough one there…. Maybe a finger tap system…

But if the minds eye is closed…. And there is no option for a wink…. Guess that is where we go our own merry ways….

Third eye is always open

And there's always a reason for that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've found drama comes in all forms from all groups and certainly not owned by married ones.

Going by many statuses some seem to attract it far more than others, whether this is who they are attracted too or who they happen to be or mix with I couldn't say but there has to be some correlation.

Are expectations something to do with it or looking for something that can't be had with the one they are wanting?

Some simply cause it through jealousy or nose put out of joint.

I understand some of it but most I just don't understand what is gained by it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own, in my personal view. However without their partners knowledge and consent etc I’m not interested. And I’ve stated that on my profile.

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