FabSwingers.com forum: world suicide prevention day 2021

By *ystical OP Woman
over a year ago

north wexford

Please remember it's ok not to be ok and it's absolutely ok to look for help.never feel alone x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Please remember it's ok not to be ok and it's absolutely ok to look for help.never feel alone x

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over a year ago

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By *eralt80Man
over a year ago

cork

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great post OP.

Seek support. Tell a friend. Take it seriously.

*If you experience symptoms of depression for most of the day, every day for more than 2 weeks, you should seek help from a GP.*

It's particularly important to speak to a GP if you:

have symptoms of depression that are not improving

find your mood affects your work, other interests, and relationships with your family and friends

have thoughts of suicide or self-harm action if you have persistant negative thoughts.

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By *nickers pants guyMan
over a year ago

Cork killkenny laois Limerick Offaly kildare carlow Dublin Waterford and everywhere else

"Please remember it's ok not to be ok and it's absolutely ok to look for help.never feel alone x

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seen lots of people out walking for suicide awareness yesterday and to see all the names they have on the boards, really hits home how much it affects whole communities. I'm always available if anybody needs to reach out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t know if this will ever be prevented. Just 2 days ago my close friend pulled his brother out of a river, the happiest kindest helpful person you could ever meet. Absolutely devastation.

What tips people over the edge? No one knows or will ever know.

It’s grand doing all this walking etc but what people should really do is treat everyone with respect and kindness, remember people have problems that effect them differently and you don’t know what someone is going through.

So if your at a gig and someone spills your drink don’t shout at them at the top of your lungs calling them a fucking idiot, it was and accident move on.

Look after yourselves brothers and sisters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You with the sad eyes

Don't be discouraged

Oh I realize

It's hard to take courage

In a world full of people

You can lose sight of it all

And the darkness inside you

Can make you feel so small

But I see your true colors

Shining through

I see your true colors

And that's why I love you

So don't be afraid to let them show

Your true colors

True colors are beautiful

Like a rainbow"

Cyndi Lauper

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By *phrodite72Woman
over a year ago

dublin/galway

""You with the sad eyes

Don't be discouraged

Oh I realize

It's hard to take courage

In a world full of people

You can lose sight of it all

And the darkness inside you

Can make you feel so small

But I see your true colors

Shining through

I see your true colors

And that's why I love you

So don't be afraid to let them show

Your true colors

True colors are beautiful

Like a rainbow"

Cyndi Lauper

Beautiful rub

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By *limfitladMan
over a year ago

Dublin

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By *eepixieWoman
over a year ago

belfast

It’s good to talk, but it’s even better to listen…

I’m always here to listen.

Travelling down that road myself, I understand how hard it is to trust someone enough to talk to.

Stay safe

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By *limfitladMan
over a year ago

Dublin

" It’s good to talk, but it’s even better to listen…

I’m always here to listen.

Travelling down that road myself, I understand how hard it is to trust someone enough to talk to.

Stay safe

truth! folks need more listeners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God I wish this post gained more traction.

Please people, please don't suffer in silence.

I worked as a Samaritan for 3 years.

I've also known first hand what's it's like to stare into the abyss and see nothing but darkness and no way out. So I have seen it from both sides.

If anyone on here is serious about wanting to help anyone please contact your local Samaritans group and ask if there's anything you can do.

It's also the most rewarding thing I have ever done. It helped change me massively as a person.

A stranger helped me once and it saved my life.

Also if anyone is on here and they are feeling down, worried, confused or even at point where they see no way out or can't find a reason to carry on and you want to talk message me or call someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"God I wish this post gained more traction.

Please people, please don't suffer in silence.

I worked as a Samaritan for 3 years.

I've also known first hand what's it's like to stare into the abyss and see nothing but darkness and no way out. So I have seen it from both sides.

If anyone on here is serious about wanting to help anyone please contact your local Samaritans group and ask if there's anything you can do.

It's also the most rewarding thing I have ever done. It helped change me massively as a person.

A stranger helped me once and it saved my life.

Also if anyone is on here and they are feeling down, worried, confused or even at point where they see no way out or can't find a reason to carry on and you want to talk message me or call someone.

Fair play on doing great work. Samaritans is an amazing service and has helped me in the past. Just talking to someone helps so much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fair play and thanks to the OP And everyone who’s posted.

I’ve lost an uncle, cousin and friend to suicide, and even writing this brings up such sad feelings and memories.

I’ll never know what pain they were going though and I never will.

I think it’s so important to link in with friends and family especially if you think they’re not feeling the best mentally.

A simple phone call, chat or act of kindness may make a even a small difference.

And hopefully by everyone talking more openly about suicide and mental health in general, it may break down some of the stigma associated with it all.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Suicide is heartbreaking for anyone effected by it. I've seen it with close friends who thought they had no other way out and I cannot imagine how they felt before they took their own lives. One of them where the happiest person I knew and there was never any hint it happen.

I wish they had realised there is help there and they have someone they felt they could confide in before it got to the point they felt they could no longer continue living.

There is no shame in seeking help.Listening is as important as talking sometimes .

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By *phrodite72Woman
over a year ago

dublin/galway

"God I wish this post gained more traction.

Please people, please don't suffer in silence.

I worked as a Samaritan for 3 years.

I've also known first hand what's it's like to stare into the abyss and see nothing but darkness and no way out. So I have seen it from both sides.

If anyone on here is serious about wanting to help anyone please contact your local Samaritans group and ask if there's anything you can do.

It's also the most rewarding thing I have ever done. It helped change me massively as a person.

A stranger helped me once and it saved my life.

Also if anyone is on here and they are feeling down, worried, confused or even at point where they see no way out or can't find a reason to carry on and you want to talk message me or call someone.

What a lovely post..fair play

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By *phrodite72Woman
over a year ago

dublin/galway

"Suicide is heartbreaking for anyone effected by it. I've seen it with close friends who thought they had no other way out and I cannot imagine how they felt before they took their own lives. One of them where the happiest person I knew and there was never any hint it happen.

I wish they had realised there is help there and they have someone they felt they could confide in before it got to the point they felt they could no longer continue living.

There is no shame in seeking help.Listening is as important as talking sometimes .

Sending hugs to you..so sad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Suicide sucks. Big time. But what sucks more is the reluctance to talk about it openly and frankly.

For me, every day is suicide prevention day. Be kind. You just have no idea what someone may be struggling with.

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By *lay rock69Man
over a year ago

monaghan

Some people biggest fights are the ones we can't not see

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Thankfully my only personal experience was through a customer who decided it was his only option less than an hour after I spoke to him on the phone. He had called me about something he wanted me to do for him the following day and sounded exactly like he always did.

I didn't know him well enough anyway to pick up on any change in tone and he lived 80 miles away.

It turns out I was the last person on his call list and he had made similar arrangements with other suppliers.

Like everyone else has said no-one should ever feel guilty for reaching out.

I've experienced many many dark years but suicide was never an option I considered so I guess I'm one of the lucky ones.

Don't be afraid to listen either. Sometimes that's all it takes.

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By *ystical OP Woman
over a year ago

north wexford

My own personal experience has been hard I have lost my brother and nephew to suicide in the last few years. Please never be afraid to talk or never be afraid to listen to someone when they need your help.

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By *phrodite72Woman
over a year ago

dublin/galway

"My own personal experience has been hard I have lost my brother and nephew to suicide in the last few years. Please never be afraid to talk or never be afraid to listen to someone when they need your help."

So sorry to hear this hope you are ok

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By *issusWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

Sadly I don't know a single person who's at least one close friend or a relative haven't taken their own lives.

Last year and a half have been very hard to witness - so many people have become extremely hostile and aggressive toward strangers.

Every day should be a suicide prevention day, shame it only seem to matter to people once a year.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sorry to hear this. I hope you got support with the tragic loss x

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By *ystical OP Woman
over a year ago

north wexford

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By *lay rock69Man
over a year ago

monaghan

How do you get over the dark days

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By *ystical OP Woman
over a year ago

north wexford

So sorry to hear this hope you are ok "
I'm good thank you very much I always have my wonderful memories of them both

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By *ystical OP Woman
over a year ago

north wexford

So sorry to hear this. I hope you got support with the tragic loss x"
thank you so much my family were my biggest support in them darkest days

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By *phrodite72Woman
over a year ago

dublin/galway

So sorry to hear this hope you are ok I'm good thank you very much I always have my wonderful memories of them both"

What a beautiful thing to say

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By *lay rock69Man
over a year ago

monaghan

If you dont have family or friends to turn 2 it can be very hard

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By *assio2uMan
over a year ago

all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done OP. Just this last few a guy committed suicide in the midlands, from a good family, happily married everything going for him. You never know who is suffering silently.

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By *oo32Man
over a year ago

tipperary

"Please remember it's ok not to be ok and it's absolutely ok to look for help.never feel alone x

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speak up whenever you are ready, you'd be surprised the difference it makes & how much the ppl that matter around you care and want to help

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By *lay rock69Man
over a year ago

monaghan

Were is the best place to look for help

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By *oo32Man
over a year ago

tipperary

"Were is the best place to look for help"

Pieta house

Samaritans

Shine

Rural stress helpline

Grow

Friends...family..

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By *lay rock69Man
over a year ago

monaghan

"Were is the best place to look for help

Pieta house

Samaritans

Shine

Rural stress helpline

Grow

Friends...family.."
thanks i look in to them

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By *oo32Man
over a year ago

tipperary

"Were is the best place to look for help

Pieta house

Samaritans

Shine

Rural stress helpline

Grow

Friends...family.. thanks i look in to them "

No problem

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By *lay rock69Man
over a year ago

monaghan

I need help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I need help"

Any friends or family you can chat to pal?

If not a few numbers below:

Samaritans - 116123

Pieta - 1800 247 247

Your mental health - 1800 111 888

Feel free to drop me a message if you would rather chat off public forum too

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By *lay rock69Man
over a year ago

monaghan

"I need help

Any friends or family you can chat to pal?

If not a few numbers below:

Samaritans - 116123

Pieta - 1800 247 247

Your mental health - 1800 111 888

Feel free to drop me a message if you would rather chat off public forum too "
cant pm you thank for the numbers

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By *IE HARDMan
over a year ago

galway .. on the rocks

Absolutely fabulous post op... well done you . Most people have been hit by this topic in some way and life can be difficult sometimes ..always try talk to somebody and things will change and people get stronger ..positivity creates positivity ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I need help

Any friends or family you can chat to pal?

If not a few numbers below:

Samaritans - 116123

Pieta - 1800 247 247

Your mental health - 1800 111 888

Feel free to drop me a message if you would rather chat off public forum too cant pm you thank for the numbers "

I had filters on there but just lifted them if you want to message. The numbers I provided will allow you to speak to professionals who will give better advise than me and really will help, trust me on that.

Well done for speaking up, it's incredibly brave and a hard thing to do even on an Internet forum, you have done the right thing & showm alot of strength in doing so!

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

I keep ‘reasons to say alive’ , a great book , by the bed

There is a great Ted talk on emotional first aid

Helps you know what to say to someone who is in trouble

Great thread

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By *issusWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

"I keep ‘reasons to say alive’ , a great book , by the bed

There is a great Ted talk on emotional first aid

Helps you know what to say to someone who is in trouble

Great thread "

I keep a book "How not to be a Dick" in my bathroom.

Thinking of starting a new forum thread with just typed paragraphs from it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I need help

Any friends or family you can chat to pal?

If not a few numbers below:

Samaritans - 116123

Pieta - 1800 247 247

Your mental health - 1800 111 888

Feel free to drop me a message if you would rather chat off public forum too cant pm you thank for the numbers "

Samaritans brother. They'll listen.

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By *eepixieWoman
over a year ago

belfast

"I need help"

I’m always here to listen.. may not know the best course of action for you as you’re in Ireland, but I’ll always always listen. DM me if you want to. Absolutely no pressure of course x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I need help

I’m always here to listen.. may not know the best course of action for you as you’re in Ireland, but I’ll always always listen. DM me if you want to. Absolutely no pressure of course x"

Likewise. That goes for any fellow fabbers feeling low too.

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By *oo32Man
over a year ago

tipperary

"I need help"

Keep going lad....chat to someone...

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By *phrodite72Woman
over a year ago

dublin/galway

"I need help"

Feel free to message anytime for a non judgemental listening ear

U are not alone

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

Great post op

No ones knows what goes on in peoples lives or head…. Never feel no one will listen, cause people will all it takes is to ask for help….

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By *andytownMan
over a year ago

Gods Own Country

It's good to talk.... Be that person at the end of a call, a text or WhatsApp.

Don't think it's not relevant, convenient,.... Or you don't have time.

Just be there when you can.... Nothing more or less.... Just be available ??

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By *ol_ieMan
over a year ago

Dublin west

Just check in with people and ask them are they OK.

Then ask them again are they really OK..

It's the double ask that works..

I have lost way too many people I care about to want to loose any more..

It's always darkest before the dawn.. But the dawn will come. You just have to hold on and look for it..

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

I frequently visit the grave of a young woman, whose manifestly troubled life I failed to intervene in several years ago.

When I stand above her last resting place, I still cannot believe what she did, on her own, in an isolated locatip, where her body lay for weeks in the heat of summer.

A tragic waste. If you have the slightest inclination that someone you know is depressed, troubled or becomes unusually contented after a long period of depression, act instantly.

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By *ogladyWoman
over a year ago

The bog

I lost my son 4 years ago to sucide then two years ago my daughter done it but but some mirecal they managed to bring her back with minimal damage done.. bit during lock down she was crying out for help and everyone she rang told her they would ring her back and never did..it got to the stage she was that bad that literally she was causing serious harm to her self and eventually the hospital finally got her sent to Roscommon to get help but it was a sad state of affairs that she had to get that bad before she got any help..she still has her issues but as soon as she rings her doctor now she is taken seriously stright away..

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

The amount of money devoted to mental health services needs to be increased to cope with the increasing demand caused by Covid; the depth of the crisis is only beginning to be realised.

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By *phrodite72Woman
over a year ago

dublin/galway

"I lost my son 4 years ago to sucide then two years ago my daughter done it but but some mirecal they managed to bring her back with minimal damage done.. bit during lock down she was crying out for help and everyone she rang told her they would ring her back and never did..it got to the stage she was that bad that literally she was causing serious harm to her self and eventually the hospital finally got her sent to Roscommon to get help but it was a sad state of affairs that she had to get that bad before she got any help..she still has her issues but as soon as she rings her doctor now she is taken seriously stright away.."

Sending huge hugs my lovely girl

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By *osmicGateMan
over a year ago

louth

we all have good days and bad days and we cant all be in great form the whole time..sooner we realise this the better..I always use a good dose of man up and get on with it when im having a bad day ..it works for me just my opinion

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By *ilverfox74Man
over a year ago

dublin offaly

"Were is the best place to look for help"

Go to your doctor. They will listen and guide you on the right track. It’s worth it.

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By *ilverfox74Man
over a year ago

dublin offaly

""You with the sad eyes

Don't be discouraged

Oh I realize

It's hard to take courage

In a world full of people

You can lose sight of it all

And the darkness inside you

Can make you feel so small

But I see your true colors

Shining through

I see your true colors

And that's why I love you

So don't be afraid to let them show

Your true colors

True colors are beautiful

Like a rainbow"

Cyndi Lauper

This pretty much sums it all in one. Brilliant few lines.

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By *eepixieWoman
over a year ago

belfast

So so sorry to hear about your son. I hope your daughter continues to improve with whatever help is given to her. It’s so difficult when it’s your child and you can’t help them. I’ve been there too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really good reading this thread. I can relate to it all. I known friends and family that have committed suicide. It's heart breaking to all involved, it's so devastating. I've witnessed severe depression with a family member, post natal depression, suicide attempts, psychiatric help, after care, meds, the shame and stigma still prevalent in society today. The expectation that you will be grand when you're not. I've gotten the phone call and have the dreadful memory of my cousin crying after his mother. I live by a code of never throwing stones as we all live in glass houses, never judge someone at first glance and if someone reaches out, take it as a compliment and make it your duty to help. Life isn't easy at times, we all need a hand up every now and then.

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By *lay rock69Man
over a year ago

monaghan

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By *riangleCouple
over a year ago

galway/dublin

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By *riangleCouple
over a year ago

galway/dublin

So sorry to hear _oglady. Wishing you and your family peace

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just heard another fella I knew commited suicide yesterday. Thats 2 in a week in a very small rural area.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So very sorry to hear of your loss. Its unimaginable to know you and your families grief. I hope your daughter gets all the help she needs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really good reading this thread. I can relate to it all. I known friends and family that have committed suicide. It's heart breaking to all involved, it's so devastating. I've witnessed severe depression with a family member, post natal depression, suicide attempts, psychiatric help, after care, meds, the shame and stigma still prevalent in society today. The expectation that you will be grand when you're not. I've gotten the phone call and have the dreadful memory of my cousin crying after his mother. I live by a code of never throwing stones as we all live in glass houses, never judge someone at first glance and if someone reaches out, take it as a compliment and make it your duty to help. Life isn't easy at times, we all need a hand up every now and then. "

Well said that man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are a very strong and supportive lady for your Daughter. The fact that you posted this proves that. Mental health takes a poor second place in parts of Ireland. Stay strong . Sending hugs to you.

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