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"So I was browsing male profiles yesterday and I asked Rainmaker for his insight as to why so many men on here seem to have no clue how to be sexy. Rainmaker -"Well men our age were never given the impression growing up that we would have to put effort in to be attractive." Puddles -"you mean you were taught you are good enough just as you are?" Rainmaker - "yea basically" Me - "wow! That's so healthy. No woman has been told that in over two thousand years" I love to know your thoughts." Whilst I am not strictly speaking Irish , like many Irish guys My Mum has always told me that I am truly wonderful . A woman holding me to account was a bit of a shock to start with . Many ladies I talk to say the same about guys they meet through here . Might explain some of the one word messages also !!! | |||
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" Women, I think, assume they will be judged and compared purely on looks, " No assuming about it. Women are judged daily and even young girls are. Even from a young age and I think its got worse over the years | |||
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" Women, I think, assume they will be judged and compared purely on looks, No assuming about it. Women are judged daily and even young girls are. Even from a young age and I think its got worse over the years " Who judges women? Is it that women tend to judge themselves, or other women judge other women. As I don’t think many men are very judgmental against women. (I’m sure there will always be a small minority that are) But for the most part the only criticism of women that I have heard tends to come from other women. And as for men, most men don’t really care what strangers think of them, they can look in the mirror and think yes I’m a sexy beast no matter how they look. Helicopter dance optional | |||
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" Women, I think, assume they will be judged and compared purely on looks, No assuming about it. Women are judged daily and even young girls are. Even from a young age and I think its got worse over the years Who judges women? Is it that women tend to judge themselves, or other women judge other women. As I don’t think many men are very judgmental against women. (I’m sure there will always be a small minority that are) But for the most part the only criticism of women that I have heard tends to come from other women. And as for men, most men don’t really care what strangers think of them, they can look in the mirror and think yes I’m a sexy beast no matter how they look. Helicopter dance optional" Really you don't think men judge women in vanilla life? And yes women judge women too. | |||
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"Not every man is lucky enough to get such high praise and confidence from parents. Does that mean that these DO make loads of effort on their appearance? I don't think so I do have an innate sense that I'm good enough generally. Good enough looking. Intelligent enough. A good enough dad, etc. Honestly i think it's not just what parents say.. its the patriarchy. Society sees men one way and women another. Tell a man he in attractive, powerful, confident, and in charge enough in his life then it will stick. (Many generalisations here and this doesn't apply to all men in all situations obviously)" Particularly in some rural families where the arrival of the farm heir is a cause of celebration after the anxious wait following the birth of a couple of daughters , with a complete lack of understanding as to how that would make the daughters feel long term | |||
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"Not every man is lucky enough to get such high praise and confidence from parents. Does that mean that these DO make loads of effort on their appearance? I don't think so I do have an innate sense that I'm good enough generally. Good enough looking. Intelligent enough. A good enough dad, etc. Honestly i think it's not just what parents say.. its the patriarchy. Society sees men one way and women another. Tell a man he in attractive, powerful, confident, and in charge enough in his life then it will stick. (Many generalisations here and this doesn't apply to all men in all situations obviously)" All true IMO | |||
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"I think we have a bit easier IMO I mean masculinity and its toxicity is a shit show , and erections and cock size , and ratios on fab , but no periods , menopause , make up , child birth , maternity leave impacting on career , shaving legs and armpits , And we can get away with only prepping five minutes to get ready for a meet " Wearing heels , babies latching on to the breast , expressing milk , going to the toilet during festivals , PMT, and the list goes on and on | |||
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"Puddles: "Wow its so healthy that so many men are given the message they are good enough and feel confident" Also Puddles: "Why do so many men here have no idea how to be sexy" " | |||
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"I think we have a bit easier IMO I mean masculinity and its toxicity is a shit show , and erections and cock size , and ratios on fab , but no periods , menopause , make up , child birth , maternity leave impacting on career , shaving legs and armpits , And we can get away with only prepping five minutes to get ready for a meet Wearing heels , babies latching on to the breast , expressing milk , going to the toilet during festivals , PMT, and the list goes on and on " I hope people know where me heart is here and don't misconstrue this for me being a prick, but I feel so blessed for being born male. For all the points listed above plus many more that were probably missed due to the fact we're probably completely unaware of them. | |||
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"So I was browsing male profiles yesterday and I asked Rainmaker for his insight as to why so many men on here seem to have no clue how to be sexy. Rainmaker -"Well men our age were never given the impression growing up that we would have to put effort in to be attractive." Puddles -"you mean you were taught you are good enough just as you are?" Rainmaker - "yea basically" Me - "wow! That's so healthy. No woman has been told that in over two thousand years" I love to know your thoughts." I think it's less to do with confidence and more to do with statements like "sure who'd be looking at ya" | |||
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" Women, I think, assume they will be judged and compared purely on looks, No assuming about it. Women are judged daily and even young girls are. Even from a young age and I think its got worse over the years " A survey conducted in Britain of girls aged 11 when asked what is their most important quality was and the vast majority said their looks. I can't find the study to reference at the moment but it was said on a interview on the Sean Moncrieff show a year or so ago. | |||
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"So I was browsing male profiles yesterday and I asked Rainmaker for his insight as to why so many men on here seem to have no clue how to be sexy. Rainmaker -"Well men our age were never given the impression growing up that we would have to put effort in to be attractive." Puddles -"you mean you were taught you are good enough just as you are?" Rainmaker - "yea basically" Me - "wow! That's so healthy. No woman has been told that in over two thousand years" I love to know your thoughts." Catholic Ireland | |||
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