FabSwingers.com forum: The Meet- what meet do you want

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

the day finally arrives..the meet is happening..after all the online chat, messages and flirting today is the day.

But what type of meet do you want, have any elements of the meet been discussed

If a hotel meet,

who is paying?

Is it an over nite or time limited?Will you meet socially 1st in the bar for that 1st time meeting introductory chat( even if there was already the obligatory coffee meet) or is it straight to the room and rip your clothes off?

Guy's do you bring a little present for your date, wine, chocolates, flowers?

Who brings condoms, have you checked if the Meet has a latex allergy?

Similarly if meeting at their accommodation, what is the agreed etiquette?

If meeting a couple, do you know their rules of play?

is there a Bi element expected?

how long do you stay after the fun, if you have had some drinks, do you expect to stay the night in the guest room?

and there is of course the sex element,

Cum & go,

sensual,

rough,

toys

restrains,

a little BDSM,

or a little of everything

its the little things can make a great meet , but also the lack of preparation can make a meet memorable in all the wrong ways.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

A social meet first with no expectations of it going farther you never know how you will get on until you meet.

I would never go to someone's house I made that mistake once,never will again.

If we agree to meet again and meet at a hotel I would expect to pay half the costs.

The sex well I that all depends on the chemistry between us and what we discussed before hand I wouldn't be letting anyone I don't know well tie me up or anything on a first meet

Every meet I have had has been different so there is no right or wrong really. But if it's not enjoyable it won't continue.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Always a social meet first and sometimes second as well.

If a further meet is planned based on chemistry there is no discussion beforehand of what may or may not happen.

First play meets for me at least are not 100 miles an hour and are all about being tactile and a slow exploration of mind and body.

If that leads to another meet then over time there may be a conversation to preplan a scenario.

The word mutual is used in my profile because that's what I'm interested in and what I expect so everything must be two way including conversation,pleasure, travel and splitting costs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First meet is always a social 100%

2nd meet if there chemistry go to a nice hotel pay half/half, dinner few drinks have few laughs and hopefully lots of hot sex, some snuggles after and breakfast in the morning

Gifts this depends on the person and if I know them well enough, not expected ever though.

For me a meet will always be a mutual pleasure and experience , hence why I have no interest in random hook ups

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By *t777Woman
over a year ago

close by

Always a social meet first, then if click see what happens after that

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By *oserMan
over a year ago

where the wild roses grow

Walk in cock out, get arrested,,,,,again

Never liked Costa anyway

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

"Walk in cock out, get arrested,,,,,again

Never liked Costa anyway

I have to admit , that made me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely a social meet 1st to see if there's any chemistry... Make plans from there then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I apporach them all with zero expectations. When I've gone to meets expect sparks to fly, they've been washouts.

I just see what happens. Mostly a social meet to start.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any single ladies or wives fancy a social with hubby . He’s in Dublin for a week

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"I apporach them all with zero expectations. When I've gone to meets expect sparks to fly, they've been washouts.

I just see what happens. Mostly a social meet to start."

It's like when you go drinking with a few friends and a few plans...nights a washout

Go out drinking with no plans...have a great night

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

"I apporach them all with zero expectations. When I've gone to meets expect sparks to fly, they've been washouts.

I just see what happens. Mostly a social meet to start.

It's like when you go drinking with a few friends and a few plans...nights a washout

Go out drinking with no plans...have a great night "

You really can't beat spontaneity

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

If a hotel meet,

who is paying? Me we can sort out those details later. Money chat is vulgar

Is it an over nite or time limited? Day use rooms involve a ticking clock which is as sexy as anthrax

Will you meet socially 1st in the bar for that 1st time meeting introductory chat( even if there was already the obligatory coffee meet) or is it straight to the room and rip your clothes off?

I don’t usually make that decision

Guy's do you bring a little present for your date, wine, chocolates, flowers?

Occasionally

Who brings condoms, have you checked if the Meet has a latex allergy?

In group meets all guests have assigned things to bring . I never check allergies

Similarly if meeting at their accommodation, what is the agreed etiquette?

The only thing I check is who is bringing condoms . Need to up my romance game

If meeting a couple, do you know their rules of play?

I check

is there a Bi element expected?

Hoped but not expected . I am happy to go with the flow

how long do you stay after the fun, if you have had some drinks, do you expect to stay the night in the guest room?

I never drink more than 1. I like to stay and chat if possible . Leaving straight after is as sexy as anthrax and likely to lead to no repeat meets . People meet you again for the connection usually I think

and there is of course the sex element,

Cum & go,

sensual, only game in town

rough,

toys; god that doxy is amazing

restrains,

a little BDSM,

or a little of everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I apporach them all with zero expectations. When I've gone to meets expect sparks to fly, they've been washouts.

I just see what happens. Mostly a social meet to start.

It's like when you go drinking with a few friends and a few plans...nights a washout

Go out drinking with no plans...have a great night "

Precisely... However, before some meets, I knew immediately once we met, that we'd be in bed very soon. I've only had a couple of those.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First meet: an attraction, a laugh and good kissing.

Then make a mutual plan for whatever takes our fancy, ideally an overnight for proper indulgence

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