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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Based on knowledge & previous experiences, Marriage/Committed relationship.

Would you do it again

Or do again with some differences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To the same person...No.

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

No and No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Yes in a heartbeat

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By *eepixieWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

No and definitely no

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By *oxyvixen99Woman
over a year ago

Newtownabbey

Yes

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By *wingme22Man
over a year ago

Galway

Hell ya!

No one like her!

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By *ercc63Man
over a year ago

Hillsborough

Definitely not - biggest mistake of my life !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never have and never will, being single is too good to mess with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.. she's the one for me

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Yes marriage is important to me

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By *exy Ruby 100 300Couple
over a year ago

unknown

Hi Vintage, yes we married in d early 80s ,still together n having fun kids grown up ,n I'd definitely do it again with d same man ,n a bit of Fab fun now n again magic x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes but I think I’d probably have been more open about my kink before getting into a serious relationship. Wasn’t fair on either of us

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By *arajeanCouple
over a year ago

mayo

Yes definitely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup definitely

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By *phrodite72Woman
over a year ago

dublin/galway

No and yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll never marry again as its proving incredibly difficult to get out of my current one.

Open to a relationship. Wouldnt mind trying a fab relationship as my last one was monogamous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes (maybe not married but a committed relationship for sure)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm with the same woman now 26 years.

Only change I would make, would be to start swinging sooner.

Aside from that it was the best decision of my life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Marriage NO never again!

Committed relationship maybe - I think with the right person I couldn’t rule it out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m in a long term marriage, I find the spark greatly diminished, really struggling. She knows I have kinks and urges to play with others (let it all out a few months ago after pints!). She is great, but my soul is dying. Couldn’t leave as it would hurt both of us, kids are nearly out of teens. Think it’s time for counselling. Don’t know why I’m posting this , anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Seems 50/50 yes/no marriage or marriage again.

There are some legal protections within a marriage not within a Committed Relationship, personally a committed relationship would be my preference & with a little swinging thrown in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Based on knowledge & previous experiences, Marriage/Committed relationship.

Would you do it again

Or do again with some differences"

I learned by being married that it's not for me ,it's not because lm selfish..lm not ,lm too much of a free spirit , BUT if the combination is wrong ..the combination is wrong..full stop.

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By *phrodite72Woman
over a year ago

dublin/galway


"I’m in a long term marriage, I find the spark greatly diminished, really struggling. She knows I have kinks and urges to play with others (let it all out a few months ago after pints!). She is great, but my soul is dying. Couldn’t leave as it would hurt both of us, kids are nearly out of teens. Think it’s time for counselling. Don’t know why I’m posting this , anyway."

Go for counselling..its worth trying to save

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m in a long term marriage, I find the spark greatly diminished, really struggling. She knows I have kinks and urges to play with others (let it all out a few months ago after pints!). She is great, but my soul is dying. Couldn’t leave as it would hurt both of us, kids are nearly out of teens. Think it’s time for counselling. Don’t know why I’m posting this , anyway."

Counselling can be good if you find a good one. Hope it works out. I feel for you - I remember the soul dying feeling. Couldnt bear it

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over


"I’m in a long term marriage, I find the spark greatly diminished, really struggling. She knows I have kinks and urges to play with others (let it all out a few months ago after pints!). She is great, but my soul is dying. Couldn’t leave as it would hurt both of us, kids are nearly out of teens. Think it’s time for counselling. Don’t know why I’m posting this , anyway.

Counselling can be good if you find a good one. Hope it works out. I feel for you - I remember the soul dying feeling. Couldnt bear it "

It’s important that the life within your soul is not dependent on others . Counselling is a good start to look into this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Marriage Number 1 for both of us ended in failures ..our previous partners we always say should have been with each other instead of us. we met and just clicked and we zing zing like crazy still so it all works out right for us and continues to each and every time..

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

I'll never marry again. I'm too much of a free spirit now. I'd go for a relationship, with lots of agreed freedoms. Don't fence me in. I think polyamoury would suit me.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Never found one stupid enough to marry me beside that I don't find the concept of marriage and ownership in anyway attractive. Nothing wrong with a partner that is up for an open relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never found one stupid enough to marry me beside that I don't find the concept of marriage and ownership in anyway attractive. Nothing wrong with a partner that is up for an open relationship. "

Yeah I had an issue with the ownership concept despite it being absolutely a non-issue in my ex-marraige. I think essentially im a free-spirited commitment phobe, and I find any long term responsibility for another persons wellbeing to be a burden. But im conflicted, I have a romantic heart!

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By *an25Man
over a year ago

Newtownabbey

No def not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never again ever..

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By *scar3Man
over a year ago

navan

In my experience and the experience of most of my friends. When you decide to go for counselling it's already over. They'll just string you along for the money. If you need a stranger to sort out your relationship well it time to bale out. Not one I know including myself did counselling work for. Wish it did but it didn't. Sorry.

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

Been there, done that, with a story that would put most off forever, but I will always try to remain open minded for anything with the right person, whatever that anything may be.

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over


"In my experience and the experience of most of my friends. When you decide to go for counselling it's already over. They'll just string you along for the money. If you need a stranger to sort out your relationship well it time to bale out. Not one I know including myself did counselling work for. Wish it did but it didn't. Sorry."

There is something about having a space to say things with a mediator rather than to each other’s faces which gives a little more of a net. There ought to be a lot more publicly funded sessions available IMO to address the ‘stringing along’ élément. I have read a fair bit of research to suggest that as far as kids are concerned outcomes are better to stay together unless the arguments can’t be kept away from them , there is DV or contempt . Hence marriage counselling’s better availability might be useful .

The outcomes for the married individuals are not included and I suspect it’s best for one’s sanity to separate at a much earlier point ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love to get married and be a sissy bride any offers x

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By *cottybear74Man
over a year ago

kilkenny

Never married, don't plan to

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By *ex coupleCouple
over a year ago

wexford

Yes definitely, found the love of my life and partner in crime

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"In my experience and the experience of most of my friends. When you decide to go for counselling it's already over. They'll just string you along for the money. If you need a stranger to sort out your relationship well it time to bale out. Not one I know including myself did counselling work for. Wish it did but it didn't. Sorry.

There is something about having a space to say things with a mediator rather than to each other’s faces which gives a little more of a net. There ought to be a lot more publicly funded sessions available IMO to address the ‘stringing along’ élément. I have read a fair bit of research to suggest that as far as kids are concerned outcomes are better to stay together unless the arguments can’t be kept away from them , there is DV or contempt . Hence marriage counselling’s better availability might be useful .

The outcomes for the married individuals are not included and I suspect it’s best for one’s sanity to separate at a much earlier point ..."

Can you point me at that research pls. My experience is that kids are better off living with peoole who are in good relationships, not bad relationships.

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over


"In my experience and the experience of most of my friends. When you decide to go for counselling it's already over. They'll just string you along for the money. If you need a stranger to sort out your relationship well it time to bale out. Not one I know including myself did counselling work for. Wish it did but it didn't. Sorry.

There is something about having a space to say things with a mediator rather than to each other’s faces which gives a little more of a net. There ought to be a lot more publicly funded sessions available IMO to address the ‘stringing along’ élément. I have read a fair bit of research to suggest that as far as kids are concerned outcomes are better to stay together unless the arguments can’t be kept away from them , there is DV or contempt . Hence marriage counselling’s better availability might be useful .

The outcomes for the married individuals are not included and I suspect it’s best for one’s sanity to separate at a much earlier point ...

Can you point me at that research pls. My experience is that kids are better off living with peoole who are in good relationships, not bad relationships. "

You are correct , hence why I said if you can keep the arguments away from them , not be violent towards each other , and not show contempt . They ll see that as a good marriage even if you’re acting

Wallerstein JS, Lewis JM, Blakeslee S. The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce: The 25 Year Landmark Study. 2000.

There are tonnes of studies like this .

Judith Wallerstein, the author of The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce,2 is convinced, based on her research, that children are almost always better off if the family remains intact, even if the parents are no longer in love.3

If parents can remain civil and work together to parent, even if they are sad or lonely, and can avoid exposing the children to fights and squabbles, then co-parenting under the same roof is better.

Wallerstein's research found that the effects of divorce on children, and particularly among these children who grow up to adulthood, are so devastating emotionally that parents should stay together at virtually any cost.

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford

Never married never will

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"In my experience and the experience of most of my friends. When you decide to go for counselling it's already over. They'll just string you along for the money. If you need a stranger to sort out your relationship well it time to bale out. Not one I know including myself did counselling work for. Wish it did but it didn't. Sorry.

There is something about having a space to say things with a mediator rather than to each other’s faces which gives a little more of a net. There ought to be a lot more publicly funded sessions available IMO to address the ‘stringing along’ élément. I have read a fair bit of research to suggest that as far as kids are concerned outcomes are better to stay together unless the arguments can’t be kept away from them , there is DV or contempt . Hence marriage counselling’s better availability might be useful .

The outcomes for the married individuals are not included and I suspect it’s best for one’s sanity to separate at a much earlier point ...

Can you point me at that research pls. My experience is that kids are better off living with peoole who are in good relationships, not bad relationships.

You are correct , hence why I said if you can keep the arguments away from them , not be violent towards each other , and not show contempt . They ll see that as a good marriage even if you’re acting

Wallerstein JS, Lewis JM, Blakeslee S. The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce: The 25 Year Landmark Study. 2000.

There are tonnes of studies like this .

Judith Wallerstein, the author of The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce,2 is convinced, based on her research, that children are almost always better off if the family remains intact, even if the parents are no longer in love.3

If parents can remain civil and work together to parent, even if they are sad or lonely, and can avoid exposing the children to fights and squabbles, then co-parenting under the same roof is better.

Wallerstein's research found that the effects of divorce on children, and particularly among these children who grow up to adulthood, are so devastating emotionally that parents should stay together at virtually any cost."

Just had a good read.. her study seems to be based on a very old, very small sample sized study from a culture very different to modern Ireland. Only 141 kids from California in 1971. Seperated child rearing and coparenting abilities in modern Ireland bear little to no relation to this. Also, have a read at what Sanford Braver had to say about divorced dad's. He says about Wallerstein "there are literally hundreds of better designed studies that contradict some of her conclusions."

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over


"In my experience and the experience of most of my friends. When you decide to go for counselling it's already over. They'll just string you along for the money. If you need a stranger to sort out your relationship well it time to bale out. Not one I know including myself did counselling work for. Wish it did but it didn't. Sorry.

There is something about having a space to say things with a mediator rather than to each other’s faces which gives a little more of a net. There ought to be a lot more publicly funded sessions available IMO to address the ‘stringing along’ élément. I have read a fair bit of research to suggest that as far as kids are concerned outcomes are better to stay together unless the arguments can’t be kept away from them , there is DV or contempt . Hence marriage counselling’s better availability might be useful .

The outcomes for the married individuals are not included and I suspect it’s best for one’s sanity to separate at a much earlier point ...

Can you point me at that research pls. My experience is that kids are better off living with peoole who are in good relationships, not bad relationships.

You are correct , hence why I said if you can keep the arguments away from them , not be violent towards each other , and not show contempt . They ll see that as a good marriage even if you’re acting

Wallerstein JS, Lewis JM, Blakeslee S. The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce: The 25 Year Landmark Study. 2000.

There are tonnes of studies like this .

Judith Wallerstein, the author of The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce,2 is convinced, based on her research, that children are almost always better off if the family remains intact, even if the parents are no longer in love.3

If parents can remain civil and work together to parent, even if they are sad or lonely, and can avoid exposing the children to fights and squabbles, then co-parenting under the same roof is better.

Wallerstein's research found that the effects of divorce on children, and particularly among these children who grow up to adulthood, are so devastating emotionally that parents should stay together at virtually any cost.

Just had a good read.. her study seems to be based on a very old, very small sample sized study from a culture very different to modern Ireland. Only 141 kids from California in 1971. Seperated child rearing and coparenting abilities in modern Ireland bear little to no relation to this. Also, have a read at what Sanford Braver had to say about divorced dad's. He says about Wallerstein "there are literally hundreds of better designed studies that contradict some of her conclusions." "

Perhaps the one thing we ll agree on is that as a decision it’s complicated , individual , shouldn’t be based on what someone says on a forum , and judgements ( or perhaps we won’t ). I studied this topic as an undergrad btw and there are numerous other studies which say the same thing . I won’t get into the same rabbit hole as happened with other threads and this is the last I ll post on this but it’s vital to know that there are situations which can’t have a blanket response , and that some who make decisions different from ours might have done so based on meticulous consideration of all factors as it applies to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me personally marriage was like a three ring circus....

Engagement ring

Wedding Ring

Suffering

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never marry ever...I never felt the need to ... Don't get me wrong...I did have 5 proposals since the age of 19...yes 5

I honestly don't get the marriage thing at all...to me it's just a legal document. Grant it I can understand when wanting to bring kids into the world in Wed-Lock but that's about it.

I know a good few men who have told me they got the ultimatum..."marry me or else"...like omg & so many have ended in divorce. Marriage is quite an expensive experience also... Spending up to £60,000 or more on 1-day out seems a little nuts to me also.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"I would never marry ever...I never felt the need to ... Don't get me wrong...I did have 5 proposals since the age of 19...yes 5

I honestly don't get the marriage thing at all...to me it's just a legal document. Grant it I can understand when wanting to bring kids into the world in Wed-Lock but that's about it.

I know a good few men who have told me they got the ultimatum..."marry me or else"...like omg & so many have ended in divorce. Marriage is quite an expensive experience also... Spending up to £60,000 or more on 1-day out seems a little nuts to me also."

There are practical reasons with regards inheritance, tax, and parental rights.. that only kick in once you ate married. Also there is absolutely no need to spend 60k to do it.

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over a year ago


"I would never marry ever...I never felt the need to ... Don't get me wrong...I did have 5 proposals since the age of 19...yes 5

I honestly don't get the marriage thing at all...to me it's just a legal document. Grant it I can understand when wanting to bring kids into the world in Wed-Lock but that's about it.

I know a good few men who have told me they got the ultimatum..."marry me or else"...like omg & so many have ended in divorce. Marriage is quite an expensive experience also... Spending up to £60,000 or more on 1-day out seems a little nuts to me also.

There are practical reasons with regards inheritance, tax, and parental rights.. that only kick in once you ate married. Also there is absolutely no need to spend 60k to do it. "

Yes I know there's definitely no need to spend that amount...it's nuts crazy...there's just some needy diva women out there who want the ultimate super super princess day out & I know this from experiencing it on the side-lines. Yup I'm well aware of the inheritance, tax & parental rights reasons...hence I said marriage is a legal document

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would never marry ever...I never felt the need to ... Don't get me wrong...I did have 5 proposals since the age of 19...yes 5

I honestly don't get the marriage thing at all...to me it's just a legal document. Grant it I can understand when wanting to bring kids into the world in Wed-Lock but that's about it.

I know a good few men who have told me they got the ultimatum..."marry me or else"...like omg & so many have ended in divorce. Marriage is quite an expensive experience also... Spending up to £60,000 or more on 1-day out seems a little nuts to me also.

There are practical reasons with regards inheritance, tax, and parental rights.. that only kick in once you ate married. Also there is absolutely no need to spend 60k to do it.

Yes I know there's definitely no need to spend that amount...it's nuts crazy...there's just some needy diva women out there who want the ultimate super super princess day out & I know this from experiencing it on the side-lines. Yup I'm well aware of the inheritance, tax & parental rights reasons...hence I said marriage is a legal document

"

I worked in a very luxurious hotel the brides were nuts! One Dad paid €50k for the wedding. He forgot his wedding shoes and the bride had a meltdown absolutely tore stripes off him and wouldn't let him walk her down the aisle. There didn't seem to be any love for the poor groom either it was all for show.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would never marry ever...I never felt the need to ... Don't get me wrong...I did have 5 proposals since the age of 19...yes 5

I honestly don't get the marriage thing at all...to me it's just a legal document. Grant it I can understand when wanting to bring kids into the world in Wed-Lock but that's about it.

I know a good few men who have told me they got the ultimatum..."marry me or else"...like omg & so many have ended in divorce. Marriage is quite an expensive experience also... Spending up to £60,000 or more on 1-day out seems a little nuts to me also.

There are practical reasons with regards inheritance, tax, and parental rights.. that only kick in once you ate married. Also there is absolutely no need to spend 60k to do it.

Yes I know there's definitely no need to spend that amount...it's nuts crazy...there's just some needy diva women out there who want the ultimate super super princess day out & I know this from experiencing it on the side-lines. Yup I'm well aware of the inheritance, tax & parental rights reasons...hence I said marriage is a legal document

I worked in a very luxurious hotel the brides were nuts! One Dad paid €50k for the wedding. He forgot his wedding shoes and the bride had a meltdown absolutely tore stripes off him and wouldn't let him walk her down the aisle. There didn't seem to be any love for the poor groom either it was all for show. "

The traveller weddings look awesome

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By *atherjackhackettMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

No to marriage

Yes to relationship and preferably a FAB non monogamous one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never been married for various reasons both good and bad it never happened. However, in recent years I have found myself thinking it might be nice to be married so am open to the idea. Finding a suitable partner is the issue as I have become very discerning and so have the ladies it seems!

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By *addubMan
over a year ago

dublin. 12

Been there done that twice both ended in divorce. Both cheaters in different ways.

so not keen on third time but never say never. Committed relationship with the right person definitely. as long as they are into swinging. I will give it a try.

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By *uietcpl2Couple
over a year ago

Dublin City

We are married for nearly 30 years and yes we would both do it all over again. it has been wonderful.

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

Married 14yrs and would do it all again together

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By *ightower2021Man
over a year ago

donegal

Never

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By *oudicaWoman
over a year ago

Kilkenny

I never had a husband of my own but plenty of ladies here have been kind enough to share theirs with me That’s as close as I like to get to marriage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi Vintage, yes we married in d early 80s ,still together n having fun kids grown up ,n I'd definitely do it again with d same man ,n a bit of Fab fun now n again magic x"

When did the swinging fun start?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Er Nooooooo thanks! Love being single and carefree. Thank heavens for good natured friends with benefits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No and Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never found one stupid enough to marry me beside that I don't find the concept of marriage and ownership in anyway attractive. Nothing wrong with a partner that is up for an open relationship.

Yeah I had an issue with the ownership concept despite it being absolutely a non-issue in my ex-marraige. I think essentially im a free-spirited commitment phobe, and I find any long term responsibility for another persons wellbeing to be a burden. But im conflicted, I have a romantic heart! "

Romance Vs Responsibility ( for another)

Tricky one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my experience and the experience of most of my friends. When you decide to go for counselling it's already over. They'll just string you along for the money. If you need a stranger to sort out your relationship well it time to bale out. Not one I know including myself did counselling work for. Wish it did but it didn't. Sorry.

There is something about having a space to say things with a mediator rather than to each other’s faces which gives a little more of a net. There ought to be a lot more publicly funded sessions available IMO to address the ‘stringing along’ élément. I have read a fair bit of research to suggest that as far as kids are concerned outcomes are better to stay together unless the arguments can’t be kept away from them , there is DV or contempt . Hence marriage counselling’s better availability might be useful .

The outcomes for the married individuals are not included and I suspect it’s best for one’s sanity to separate at a much earlier point ...

Can you point me at that research pls. My experience is that kids are better off living with peoole who are in good relationships, not bad relationships.

You are correct , hence why I said if you can keep the arguments away from them , not be violent towards each other , and not show contempt . They ll see that as a good marriage even if you’re acting

Wallerstein JS, Lewis JM, Blakeslee S. The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce: The 25 Year Landmark Study. 2000.

There are tonnes of studies like this .

Judith Wallerstein, the author of The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce,2 is convinced, based on her research, that children are almost always better off if the family remains intact, even if the parents are no longer in love.3

If parents can remain civil and work together to parent, even if they are sad or lonely, and can avoid exposing the children to fights and squabbles, then co-parenting under the same roof is better.

Wallerstein's research found that the effects of divorce on children, and particularly among these children who grow up to adulthood, are so devastating emotionally that parents should stay together at virtually any cost."

It doesn’t work . Kids are like sponges and take everything in.

From personal experience, the earlier you separate the better, otherwise your teaching your kids to live in an unhealthy Marraige. It’s a toxic environment for all concerned especially kids. Trust me from personal experience of my own separation, kids are very resilient.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes marriage is important to me"

I agree, marriage is important to me too

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By *shoreMan
over a year ago

cork

Amazing points put forward.... A great read... I myself have mixed views but feel in Ireland the Catholic Church fucked us all up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope..half again of the half I got wouldn't be funny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes for sure

Marriage was a total disaster but it gave me the wonderful family I have now,

Woukd not change a thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been there, done that already, so at this stage any woman would need to very down to earth and easygoing to interest me in a serious relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Marriage- No

Committed relationship -

mmmmmm not closed to it

Long Term Open Relationship with similar Greedy Sexy Lady - Hell Yeah

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

Yep. Were planning a vow renewal in iceland since we didnt get there for our honeymoon

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By *eralt80Man
over a year ago

cork


"Yep. Were planning a vow renewal in iceland since we didnt get there for our honeymoon"

Are they gonna close the shop for it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My marriage did not end so well so I'd be cautious about going into another one tbh.

I do think there is an upside though from companionship & shared experiences like enjoying travelling and trips away with someone to the smaller things like cuddling on the sofa or just being around someone who makes you feel content and smile in their presence.

Given how my marriage went I guess I missed out on some of those things but romance shouldn't be given up on, being in love is good for the soul if it's with the right person and done in the right way

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford


"Yep. Were planning a vow renewal in iceland since we didnt get there for our honeymoon

Are they gonna close the shop for it?"

Smarty pants

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By *rue lies 75400Man
over a year ago

meath

Not a fucken chance never was never will be after what I’ve seen over the years all guys should check out the cohabitating laws was brought in for d gays that couldn’t marry but affects all so be v careful who u let into ur property and on d flip side u married u lose a lot if she changes her mind and will be paying through d nose till u die all above is legal txt

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By *rakesterlingMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Nah, not marriage, but some kind of partnership with as much guaranteed freedom...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a heartbeat!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have said I’d rather blow up than do it again but I’m not totally against the idea now

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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

Never been Married and it's not on my to do list but absolutely yes for a committed relationship.

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By *ameswXXXMan
over a year ago

Killarney

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By *rue lies 75400Man
over a year ago

meath

Guys just read d legals Irish law is only for d legals to make money on d I do that’s why it’s called a wedding (showcase )

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

A committed relationship would be fine, with one proviso, she would have to be into swinging with another couple, of her own volition.

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By *rue lies 75400Man
over a year ago

meath

It’s d only way forward plus she has her own house just another leagal lol

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By *eturn of Sir PumpsMan
over a year ago

outside banbridge

Marriage fuck no but i wouldnt change having my kids

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would do it all again....no hesitation

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By *ookingfun82Man
over a year ago

Enniskillen

Not a chance

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By *ercandMagicCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

Marriage is grand

Divorce 350 grand lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes but would be more upfront about my desires and less worried about pleasing other people...less, it's still important obviously!

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By *iseekingbiCouple
over a year ago

N ireland and West Midlands

We would. We have had a ball

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By *ackandsashaCouple
over a year ago

West Dublin

Love being married. Does help being married to the right person. A few women can say they were my gf, only one lady can say she is my wife.Hope it stays that way.

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By *rezMan
over a year ago

Ennis

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting married Monday

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway

Fake marriages only for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Getting married Monday "

Have you informed her of this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Getting married Monday

Have you informed her of this? "

She is thrilled

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Getting married Monday

Have you informed her of this?

She is thrilled "

She might be busy washing her hair on Monday. Just a wild guess!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Getting married Monday

Have you informed her of this?

She is thrilled

She might be busy washing her hair on Monday. Just a wild guess! "

Last minute neves, to be expected when you're punching

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By *eralt80Man
over a year ago

cork


"Fake marriages only for me "

Can I get an invite to the fake reception

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Getting married Monday

Have you informed her of this?

She is thrilled

She might be busy washing her hair on Monday. Just a wild guess!

Last minute neves, to be expected when you're punching "

Well i know someone who's asking for a punch

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway


"Fake marriages only for me

Can I get an invite to the fake reception"

Of course! It’s in your fake postbox

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By *eralt80Man
over a year ago

cork


"Fake marriages only for me

Can I get an invite to the fake reception

Of course! It’s in your fake postbox "

I better get the suit to the dry cleaners

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fake marriages only for me

Can I get an invite to the fake reception

Of course! It’s in your fake postbox

I better get the suit to the dry cleaners "

Bonus you can't get in trouble for forgetting a fake anniversary

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway


"Fake marriages only for me

Can I get an invite to the fake reception

Of course! It’s in your fake postbox

I better get the suit to the dry cleaners

Bonus you can't get in trouble for forgetting a fake anniversary"

Oh you can

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By *eralt80Man
over a year ago

cork


"Fake marriages only for me

Can I get an invite to the fake reception

Of course! It’s in your fake postbox

I better get the suit to the dry cleaners

Bonus you can't get in trouble for forgetting a fake anniversary

Oh you can"

Aww the first fake argument, I’m looking forward to the fake divorce party already

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway


"Fake marriages only for me

Can I get an invite to the fake reception

Of course! It’s in your fake postbox

I better get the suit to the dry cleaners

Bonus you can't get in trouble for forgetting a fake anniversary

Oh you can

Aww the first fake argument, I’m looking forward to the fake divorce party already "

Believe me it’s not the first

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By *cottybear74Man
over a year ago

kilkenny

Nope never gonna marry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fake marriages only for me

Can I get an invite to the fake reception

Of course! It’s in your fake postbox

I better get the suit to the dry cleaners

Bonus you can't get in trouble for forgetting a fake anniversary

Oh you can

Aww the first fake argument, I’m looking forward to the fake divorce party already

Believe me it’s not the first "

I never fake an argument

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me personally marriage was like a three ring circus....

Engagement ring

Wedding Ring

Suffering

"

Couldn’t have put it any better myself mr smyth

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