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"The man has to cum too? What?? " Who said that? At the very least, a gentleman says ladies first lol | |||
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"I have never seen it as a Must for me when having sex tbh . " See ladies? Don't be worrying about us that way. | |||
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"Its very important to me. Its sexy and hot ![]() ![]() Well now, that's a complete other thread lol. Who could resist you for long anyway? | |||
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"There's been times when it just wouldn't happen for me... With one partner, that was more often than not, so I dreaded having sex as it felt like a massive chore " Was she blockmailing you or something?? Change the o in block for an a | |||
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"There's been times when it just wouldn't happen for me... With one partner, that was more often than not, so I dreaded having sex as it felt like a massive chore Was she blockmailing you or something?? Change the o in block for an a" No, I just couldn't cum when we had sex. So it became a psychological as well as physical issue. | |||
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"It's pretty important to me .Mainly because it should be about mutual pleasure and satisfaction. And I feel when a guy doesn't cum that maybe he didn't enjoy the experience as much. It has happened once when I was with a guy and while we had great fun and he said he enjoyed the experience it always left me thinking maybe I could have done something more. Id agree. Id be disappointed if he didn't and would totally question myself afterwards." This is so true, happened to me and I totally had self doubt after it....although ì know it left them feeling crap too | |||
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"Its about the journey not the destination, even if I do love a guy to cum. " Exactly | |||
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"I live by the motto, life is a journey, not a destination - the same is true for sex. If the emphasis is only on the end result - the orgasm, be that for him or me, puts too much pressure on the fun. I find that counter productive. Those who I've been comfortable with in the past know that I get over sensitised relatively easy, which makes it more difficult for me to cum but they also knew that they still had me riding the wave of ecstasy, on the constant brink of orgasm, which is as good as an orgasm because it lasts and lasts and lasts. If he hasn't cum, it's not a big deal for me unless it's a problem for him. I believe I'm easygoing, open and honest enough to have those conversations, whatever the cause. In the past either one or both cumming or not cumming when on repeat meets has never been made into a "problem". It's something that is chatted about in a light hearted manner. " Best answer yet. It should only ever be an issue if the lady or whoever, likes the feel, taste, etc as a part of the process | |||
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"And guys if a lady doesn't cum or orgasm? " Shur they do be quivering as the sight of me ![]() ![]() | |||
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"And guys if a lady doesn't cum or orgasm? Shur they do be quivering as the sight of me ![]() ![]() Thats nausea ![]() | |||
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"There's been times when it just wouldn't happen for me... With one partner, that was more often than not, so I dreaded having sex as it felt like a massive chore " And that's exactly what I was trying to get at in my post - if there's too much pressure on the orgasm at the end by either party, it just destroys the fun! I'd be the same! If it's expected, it's guaranteed NOT to happen. And I know the same is true for (some) men too. The orgasm starts in the mind, if the mind isn't in the right place, which in this instance, it just couldn't be, it's a lost cause! | |||
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"And guys if a lady doesn't cum or orgasm? Shur they do be quivering as the sight of me ![]() ![]() ![]() Shhhhh...was trying to impress everyone ![]() | |||
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"And guys if a lady doesn't cum or orgasm? " Don't dare stop | |||
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"And guys if a lady doesn't cum or orgasm? " What she thinks about it is the most important . There are no goals . It’s such a privilege to be healthy and experience joy in the world given what’s going on in some parts . Just to make connections and have sex occasionally feels so amazing on its own . I wouldn’t want to put conditions on what might be deemed good sex and what wouldn’t | |||
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"I live by the motto, life is a journey, not a destination - the same is true for sex. If the emphasis is only on the end result - the orgasm, be that for him or me, puts too much pressure on the fun. I find that counter productive. Those who I've been comfortable with in the past know that I get over sensitised relatively easy, which makes it more difficult for me to cum but they also knew that they still had me riding the wave of ecstasy, on the constant brink of orgasm, which is as good as an orgasm because it lasts and lasts and lasts. If he hasn't cum, it's not a big deal for me unless it's a problem for him. I believe I'm easygoing, open and honest enough to have those conversations, whatever the cause. In the past either one or both cumming or not cumming when on repeat meets has never been made into a "problem". It's something that is chatted about in a light hearted manner. Best answer yet. It should only ever be an issue if the lady or whoever, likes the feel, taste, etc as a part of the process" I would have thought most women who enjoy having sex with men enjoy the man's orgasm, be that because of the sensory aspects or be that because it makes her feel sexy and desirable, being the cause and a part of that man's orgasm or the combination of those and any other reasons. I've been in a situation where I had problems with my orgasm. I had been single for a while after the break up of a long term relationship. The first guy I slept with had me down to a Tee, touched me how and exactly where I needed it but I couldn't cum - nothing to do with him, everything to do with me and finding my way back into my sexuality and sharing it again, but with someone new. Hence I would never take it personally if I was with a man who didn't cum when he's with me. Unless, of course, it's a constant over lots of meets, then I would question it. I'd have a conversation in the hope of finding the root cause with the possibility to change that. (If it's someone I'm interested in and like, obviously). | |||
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"It's pretty important to me .Mainly because it should be about mutual pleasure and satisfaction. And I feel when a guy doesn't cum that maybe he didn't enjoy the experience as much. It has happened once when I was with a guy and while we had great fun and he said he enjoyed the experience it always left me thinking maybe I could have done something more. Id agree. Id be disappointed if he didn't and would totally question myself afterwards." In my younger days I couldn't cum during sex. I couldn't get out of me own head to relax and feel comfortable with the lady I was with. You shouldn't take it personally because, for me anyway it was entirely my problem and nothing to do with the women. | |||
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"It's pretty important to me .Mainly because it should be about mutual pleasure and satisfaction. And I feel when a guy doesn't cum that maybe he didn't enjoy the experience as much. It has happened once when I was with a guy and while we had great fun and he said he enjoyed the experience it always left me thinking maybe I could have done something more. Id agree. Id be disappointed if he didn't and would totally question myself afterwards. In my younger days I couldn't cum during sex. I couldn't get out of me own head to relax and feel comfortable with the lady I was with. You shouldn't take it personally because, for me anyway it was entirely my problem and nothing to do with the women." There seems to be a narrative that not Cumming for a guy is an issue in some way and that needs to be not over thought etc . For some it’s sometimes a choice , to prolong intercourse . If it’s some kind of deal breaker it happens and when the time is right It happens . And sometimes it doesn’t . | |||
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"It's really for anyone who likes the cock I guess. Q, How important is it to you that the man cums during sex?" Ok, I've had experiences when it comes to this. I've been with a couple of women over the years that orgasm quiet easily and quickly. Because of this they have gotten extra sensitive and uncomfortable to continue. Of course the offer to help me out in other ways was there each time but I always decline because I like my partner to just relax and enjoy the moment after sex. Now I've also had partners that were the opposite and who don't orgasm easily at all. Usually I figure that out at the end of the first meet where I win the race lol. Definitely got to work harder at it next time. But what has happened me sometimes then in this situation is I put so much pressure on myself to help them get there I end up giving myself a mental block. Although I have to point out I'm definitely one who enjoys giving a little more than receiving so I enjoy these experiences very much so too. Now tho I feel like I should point out most of the time I have no prob finishing the race haha | |||
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"It's pretty important to me .Mainly because it should be about mutual pleasure and satisfaction. And I feel when a guy doesn't cum that maybe he didn't enjoy the experience as much. It has happened once when I was with a guy and while we had great fun and he said he enjoyed the experience it always left me thinking maybe I could have done something more. Id agree. Id be disappointed if he didn't and would totally question myself afterwards." I wouldn’t stress so much ladies.. the guys are probably trying their best to hold off cuming for ages during sex and reached a stage of not being able to.. as long as he was still hard I’m sure it shouldn’t be perceived as failure .. cum don’t cum us guys can’t win.... ![]() | |||
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"It's pretty important to me .Mainly because it should be about mutual pleasure and satisfaction. And I feel when a guy doesn't cum that maybe he didn't enjoy the experience as much. It has happened once when I was with a guy and while we had great fun and he said he enjoyed the experience it always left me thinking maybe I could have done something more. Id agree. Id be disappointed if he didn't and would totally question myself afterwards. I wouldn’t stress so much ladies.. the guys are probably trying their best to hold off cuming for ages during sex and reached a stage of not being able to.. as long as he was still hard I’m sure it shouldn’t be perceived as failure .. cum don’t cum us guys can’t win.... ![]() You guys can always win ![]() | |||
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"I live by the motto, life is a journey, not a destination - the same is true for sex. If the emphasis is only on the end result - the orgasm, be that for him or me, puts too much pressure on the fun. I find that counter productive. Those who I've been comfortable with in the past know that I get over sensitised relatively easy, which makes it more difficult for me to cum but they also knew that they still had me riding the wave of ecstasy, on the constant brink of orgasm, which is as good as an orgasm because it lasts and lasts and lasts. If he hasn't cum, it's not a big deal for me unless it's a problem for him. I believe I'm easygoing, open and honest enough to have those conversations, whatever the cause. In the past either one or both cumming or not cumming when on repeat meets has never been made into a "problem". It's something that is chatted about in a light hearted manner. " Hear hear. I recently attended a sex education workshop and this is exactly what was said. We need to enjoy the pleasure as it happens and not always think that orgasm has to be the goal to having good sex. | |||
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