FabSwingers.com forum: Green flags

By *affa31 OP Woman
over a year ago

Galway

We often talk about the negatives on the forum so let’s shift it a little to the positive.

I saw a post talking about Green Flags in the Bedroom. The ones listed were:

Aftercare (offering drinks, clean up etc)

Prioritising your pleasure

Regular check ins (does this feel good etc)

Open about STI status

Whips out protection with no complaints.

Do you have any green flags to add?

I would add

Open to discussing trying new things (toys, positions, new types of play for you or your partner)

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

We don't discuss flegs in NI.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Green flags are what get me into the bedroom, once I'm there I have other things on my mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We don't discuss flegs in NI.

It's all about the flegs lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aftercare (clean up)

As in providing three ply kitchen wipes to clean up my mess?

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Isn't in a hurry to get the deed done and get away.

Willing to laugh and have a few giggles.

Can take a break and go again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't take themselves or sex too seriously

Isn't mortified or disgusted if you accidentally fart

Is happy to take a no as a no without trying to coerce you into something you're not entirely comfortable with

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Someone I can be open with and discuss likes and dislikes without worrying about their reaction.

Someone who has a similar sense of humour so we can have a laugh together as well as great sex.

Someone who keeps in touch pretty regularly not just when they want to meet for sex.

Someone who isn't in a rush all the time to leave after sex .

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By *R BxMan
over a year ago

wonderland

"Someone I can be open with and discuss likes and dislikes without worrying about their reaction.

Someone who has a similar sense of humour so we can have a laugh together as well as great sex.

Someone who keeps in touch pretty regularly not just when they want to meet for sex.

Someone who isn't in a rush all the time to leave after sex .

This is exactly what i want!

Feels like reading fiction though to be honest

where are you Green Flag people???

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By *affa31 OP Woman
over a year ago

Galway

Laughing at the silly noises and things that happen during sex is a definite green flag!

Also agree on the not being in a hurry to leave bit…cumming and running is no fun!

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By *r NovemberMan
over a year ago

Closer than you think

Willingness to try new things and not needing to run straight after are definite green flags for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Laughing at the silly noises and things that happen during sex is a definite green flag!

Also agree on the not being in a hurry to leave bit…cumming and running is no fun!"

And messy....very messy

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By *affa31 OP Woman
over a year ago

Galway

"Laughing at the silly noises and things that happen during sex is a definite green flag!

Also agree on the not being in a hurry to leave bit…cumming and running is no fun!

And messy....very messy

If it’s not messy, you’re doing it wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loads and loads of big hugs and cuddles

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By *ummer_XOWoman
over a year ago

Tyrone

"Laughing at the silly noises and things that happen during sex is a definite green flag!

Also agree on the not being in a hurry to leave bit…cumming and running is no fun!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread should be pinned to the top to remind people what swinging should be about fun, hot sex, cuddles if you like, spanking if you like, odd funny noises that make you giggle.

Not dial a ride

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub

Absolutely love lying in bed wrecked and chatting, maybe a cuddle

offering a drink or a towel

and most definitely not cum and go!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As above, and a check in text after is a green flag too IMO, and maybe some sexy reminiscing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We don't discuss flegs in NI.

Especially Green ones

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

"As above, and a check in text after is a green flag too IMO, and maybe some sexy reminiscing! "

I agree with most of the suggestions especially help tidying up . I am In two minds about checking in afterwards as I am much Keener on a chat face to face and not rushing off afterwards. I also verify before I leave the venue if it’s a first meet or a first play meet . There is a bit of me that likes to get on with my non fab life once I have left and not have an ongoing post meet check in conversation Ideally .

A real green flag is the chat about other things and not just planning meets . Frankly if you don’t in Any way care for a person you’re meeting with why not just masturbate ? So much less hassle . Even if it’s a one off meet the non anatomical bits have to be pleasant and you Need to be able to have a nice conversation which isn’t about fucking IMO.

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By *ed just RedWoman
over a year ago

Dublin City

A green flag for me is a lover that remembers exactly how I like to be kissed and takes time out to kiss me exactly right just before we say goodbye. Another one is someone who takes care to ask about boundaries and makes sure they understand what they are and why I have them - not to a prying level but so they can work around then. Just amazing.

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