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By *ettaMan OP   Man
over a year ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

What kind of relationship dynamic are you in?

In the thread about fake profiles, a few posters mentioned that they, as couples, don't live together. It got me thinking about relationship dynamics and I figured there would probably be a variety here on Fab.

I'm in a poly relationship with a woman who is in an open marriage. She and her husband have separate accommodation. A play partner once told me about their aunt who has a similar dynamic.

I'm interested to know bcos - as is obvious from being on here - 'traditional' relationship dynamics ain't for me and I'd be interested to get an idea of other 'models', so to speak.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not really in an “open marriage” per say. I’m (happily) married with my wife’s permission to have NSA fun, for the time being at any rate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Currently waiting to sign a divorce agreement once solicitors do their bit so id have an interesting enough dynamic atm

Sure life is what u make of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are happily married, we are on here to explore my (Mrs) bi side.

Mr can have NSA fun with women if he wishes. I am only interested in having fun with women preferably with Mr.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im seperated, still consider my ex one of my besties and we chat most days. Im loving being single but am open to any and all sorts of love as long as it feels healthy for my heart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What kind of relationship dynamic are you in?

In the thread about fake profiles, a few posters mentioned that they, as couples, don't live together. It got me thinking about relationship dynamics and I figured there would probably be a variety here on Fab.

I'm in a poly relationship with a woman who is in an open marriage. She and her husband have separate accommodation. A play partner once told me about their aunt who has a similar dynamic.

I'm interested to know bcos - as is obvious from being on here - 'traditional' relationship dynamics ain't for me and I'd be interested to get an idea of other 'models', so to speak."

Relationship anarchy OP - look it up, it can be a smorgasbord

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By *ettaMan OP   Man
over a year ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.


"I’m not really in an “open marriage” per say. I’m (happily) married with my wife’s permission to have NSA fun, for the time being at any rate."

Nice one. Would there be much communication around the dynamic? Not necessarily about your exploits but are there things you do to reassure or reconnect your wife after you've had a play date, or is she just cool as fuck?

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By *ettaMan OP   Man
over a year ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.


"Currently waiting to sign a divorce agreement once solicitors do their bit so id have an interesting enough dynamic atm

Sure life is what u make of it"

Sorry to hear it! Even if it is for the best, I'm sure it's not an easy thing to go through

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By *ettaMan OP   Man
over a year ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.


"We are happily married, we are on here to explore my (Mrs) bi side.

Mr can have NSA fun with women if he wishes. I am only interested in having fun with women preferably with Mr."

That's cool! Do you mind me asking in f it took a lot of communication to get to a point where ye were both on the same page, or had ye been living the lifestyle before ye met?

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

Divorced and single, currently building a better relationship with myself….

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By *ettaMan OP   Man
over a year ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.


"Im seperated, still consider my ex one of my besties and we chat most days. Im loving being single but am open to any and all sorts of love as long as it feels healthy for my heart "

That's cool that ye're still close. It happens that two people just don't work as a traditional monogamous couple, but it's cool when the the friendship can be maintained.

I'll check out that relationship anarchy. Cheers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are happily married, we are on here to explore my (Mrs) bi side.

Mr can have NSA fun with women if he wishes. I am only interested in having fun with women preferably with Mr.

That's cool! Do you mind me asking in f it took a lot of communication to get to a point where ye were both on the same page, or had ye been living the lifestyle before ye met?"

We were together over 10 years and it took 1 night with a few drinks for Dutch courage to tell Mr what I wanted and he was fully on board.

It has taken quite a few discussions to get to where we are now, communication and openness is key.

We both know what we want and are comfortable with and what we dont want or would be uncomfortable with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Currently waiting to sign a divorce agreement once solicitors do their bit so id have an interesting enough dynamic atm

Sure life is what u make of it

Sorry to hear it! Even if it is for the best, I'm sure it's not an easy thing to go through"

Thanks pal, very nice of you to say. Really is a situation were there are no winners esp with a wee man involved but I appreciate your post

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

Myself and my former partner had an open relationship, we didn't live together, but we would swing together as a couple, usually BB; we both preferred it that way. Communication between us was first class, everything was on the table for discussion. After a meet we we would discuss how it went, especially if we DP'd or DVP'd, which we both enjoyed, although we never did double anal.

We had a trusted couple whom we would regularly meet, usually Bareback; and we enjoyed watching each other, especially when she would use a strapon. Literally all four if us were fucking simultaneously; I would be on my back being straddled by other lady; my partner and I would be DPing her, and she in turn would be penetrated anally or vaginally by the other guy. It was a really exciting dynamic, to return to the OP's post.

On a couple of occasions we all managed to cum at roughly the same time, which was amazing.

Unfortunately, this arrangement with the other couple ended and we then parted ompany, for good, for reasons unconnected with swinging.

I think my former partner lives abroad, but returns occasionally to see her elderly parents. They we're happy times; great memories. A great dynamic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m not really in an “open marriage” per say. I’m (happily) married with my wife’s permission to have NSA fun, for the time being at any rate.

Nice one. Would there be much communication around the dynamic? Not necessarily about your exploits but are there things you do to reassure or reconnect your wife after you've had a play date, or is she just cool as fuck? "

Well I haven’t had a lot of luck on here yet so when I do I’ll let you know. Although when she gave me permission to play away she never really brought it up again so I haven’t said anything about it either. It’s it’s kinda a don’t ask don’t tell thing. But she has always been sexually open about things so to me she’s cool as fuck

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By *ettaMan OP   Man
over a year ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.


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Thanks pal, very nice of you to say. Really is a situation were there are no winners esp with a wee man involved but I appreciate your post "

Ah shite, that makes it so much harder. In the long run though, it'll probably be what's best for him - assuming you guys can make arrangements for both of you to see him regularly.

Kids are more resilient than we often give them credit for.

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By *ettaMan OP   Man
over a year ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.


"Communication between us was first class, everything was on the table for discussion. "

As with everything, communication is key. But even more moreso in non-monogamous relationships

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By *ettaMan OP   Man
over a year ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.


"But she has always been sexually open about things so to me she’s cool as fuck "

She sounds pretty cool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are a couple for 10 years but don't live together full-time and we find that works well for us. In fact we both believe our relationship is stronger because of our living arrangements.

Time spent together is always good.

Lee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are a couple for 10 years but don't live together full-time and we find that works well for us. In fact we both believe our relationship is stronger because of our living arrangements.

Time spent together is always good.

Lee"

I think its fantastic to be able to break norms and do what works for you. Im not sure if I could live with anyone again, but I would definitely want my own room, own bed if I do, still some people find that wierd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are a couple for 10 years but don't live together full-time and we find that works well for us. In fact we both believe our relationship is stronger because of our living arrangements.

Time spent together is always good.

Lee

I think its fantastic to be able to break norms and do what works for you. Im not sure if I could live with anyone again, but I would definitely want my own room, own bed if I do, still some people find that wierd "

I've never "lived/relationship" with a guy so at this stage in my life two separate houses be grand, back to back I can turn the back door light on when I'm.horny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are a couple for 10 years but don't live together full-time and we find that works well for us. In fact we both believe our relationship is stronger because of our living arrangements.

Time spent together is always good.

Lee

I think its fantastic to be able to break norms and do what works for you. Im not sure if I could live with anyone again, but I would definitely want my own room, own bed if I do, still some people find that wierd

I've never "lived/relationship" with a guy so at this stage in my life two separate houses be grand, back to back I can turn the back door light on when I'm.horny "

Genius

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By *amson4DelilahCouple
over a year ago

ballina

Really happily Married, we're still new to this and learning from it. To be fair we always had a brilliant sex life and were always on about exploring more. We had both given each other the ok to fuck others if the opportunity arose, but with some rules.. not someone we know, or in the company of people we know, & never on our own doorstep.. and no keeping in contact. Basically neither of has ever bothered cause if we were out together we'd be out in a group or if we were out separately we'd be having too much craic to be looking.. lol.

He said even b4 we were married he wanted all of my love, but he doesn't own my fantacies or my body & he promised me the same, so we were always on the same wavelength. It just works for us, and we are loving doing this together.

I always think there is so much social conditioning that has people living lives that neither are fulfilled in,& its do sad, but to the outside world they are a "proper couple" or family.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But she has always been sexually open about things so to me she’s cool as fuck

She sounds pretty cool"

She’s the best

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"We are a couple for 10 years but don't live together full-time and we find that works well for us. In fact we both believe our relationship is stronger because of our living arrangements.

Time spent together is always good.

Lee

I think its fantastic to be able to break norms and do what works for you. Im not sure if I could live with anyone again, but I would definitely want my own room, own bed if I do, still some people find that wierd

I've never "lived/relationship" with a guy so at this stage in my life two separate houses be grand, back to back I can turn the back door light on when I'm.horny "

You'd need a long lasting bulb as you'd have it on all the time

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By *NawtyCplCouple
over a year ago

Around and about

Together since we were teens, living together since we were 18 and we do near everything together. Same pass times (swinging aside) and hobbies. Started in the lifestyle in our late 20's. For us its not much fun unless we do it together. Not much interest in playing apart although we are discussing Hall Passes.

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By *ettaMan OP   Man
over a year ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.


"We are a couple for 10 years but don't live together full-time and we find that works well for us. In fact we both believe our relationship is stronger because of our living arrangements.

Time spent together is always good.

Lee"

That's cool. I think that is the kind of dynamic that would work for me.

Although, I'm not certain yet about having a primary partner

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By *ettaMan OP   Man
over a year ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.


". We had both given each other the ok to fuck others if the opportunity arose"

I'm very interested to know how the space for this conversation was created. We're ye open about sleeping with other people before ye got together or did it become obvious at some point. Or did someone have to bite the bullet and just say 'fuck it, cards on the table'?

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By *ettaMan OP   Man
over a year ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.


"Together since we were teens, living together since we were 18 and we do near everything together. Same pass times (swinging aside) and hobbies. Started in the lifestyle in our late 20's. For us its not much fun unless we do it together. Not much interest in playing apart although we are discussing Hall Passes. "

That's a childhood sweethearts story you don't often see depicted in Hollywood movies

That's really cool how the relationship evolved!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are a couple for 10 years but don't live together full-time and we find that works well for us. In fact we both believe our relationship is stronger because of our living arrangements.

Time spent together is always good.

Lee

That's cool. I think that is the kind of dynamic that would work for me.

Although, I'm not certain yet about having a primary partner"

For me, it would be impossible to maintain an arrangement where one person wasn't prioritised, I couldn't pretend I loved everyone equally, I can like others, but ultimately I can't meet the needs of multiple people.

Casey

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By *amson4DelilahCouple
over a year ago

ballina


". We had both given each other the ok to fuck others if the opportunity arose

I'm very interested to know how the space for this conversation was created. We're ye open about sleeping with other people before ye got together or did it become obvious at some point. Or did someone have to bite the bullet and just say 'fuck it, cards on the table'?"

I think it came about from messing & me saying they would all be trying to ride him he was looking so hot..I'd often say smart arse things like that that just lead to a real conversation

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