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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think i really am, not sure if if it's cos there's a clique going on here, or just good old fashioned Irish narrow-mindedness, but its like pulling teeth trying to get a little conversation out of people on the site. Strange, as I've used similar sites overseas and found it to be the opposite, in any case chat amongst yer selves there i suppose.

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

I'm sure a help dollop of bitterness and self-pity is bound to win them over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Without wishing to sound rude, genuinely, in such instances it's perhaps easier to blame it on something or someone else. I'm not saying it's 'you', Ohpee, but if you find it's a constant thing then there's nothing wrong with some self-evaluation!

Plus, moaning never did anyone any favours

My inbox is always open to anyone and everyone for a chitter!

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Im sure if the conversation is interesting the chat flows,it's a funny aul time on here i find endless chit chat goes stale rapid and I lose interest....

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By *eterdunneMan
over a year ago

leixlip


"Im sure if the conversation is interesting the chat flows,it's a funny aul time on here i find endless chit chat goes stale rapid and I lose interest...."

I've found that cold calling so to speak rarely gets a response. To the OS, just start using the forums to talk to whoever you find interesting. I know this is a sex site and all that but don't put the cart before the horse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mate I don't mean any disrespect or anything like that but seriously, you're only here a wet week and you're unhappy with your progress. Christ im here 3 years not and I'm still sending myself msgs to make me feel good. I don't know what you expected when joining here but whatever you thought I'd say chuck that out the window and strap in for the long haul, it isn't a dial a ride here. You've got real ppl with real lives and almost everyone here is looking for their own thing. The women here get inundated with billions of msgs everyday so here's the big spoiler for you.... they don't get to read them all and sometimes will even bulk delete(shocking I know, the cheek)

Just to give you a heads up, being thirsty is no becoming so avoid that. Also don't msg ppl over and over as you will most likely receive the opposite result than you were hoping for,in a block.

Definitely don't be nasty to anyone as that reverberates through the site and that's never good either.

Do stay in the forums and do keep posting and you will get familiar with ppl a they will get to know you. As I've already pointed out everyone on here has a real life real commitments and real jobs so they most probably will not want to hook up with you tonight or tomorrow , you've got to throw yourself into the mix get some verifications and settle in

This is just some of my experience here and I'm only addressing your post in a helpful manner so please don't take anything personally or in any bad way. Your not the first and you definitely wont be the last person to have some these questions about fab but it's just the cold hard truth in my opinion and it is just that, my opinion.

Happy fabbing , it has its ups and downs here but every now then good things happen when you least expect it that makes you spout your milky corn flakes all over the floor of a hotel. Christ that was funny.

Anyway...

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man
over a year ago

Belfast

Yeah I’d back up what the fellas are saying. It’s not a knocking shop and there’s no shortage of fellas going about. So patience is the name of the game.

Give a bit of chit chat on the forums, there’s always ice breaker games every now and again and see what happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think i really am, not sure if if it's cos there's a clique going on here, or just good old fashioned Irish narrow-mindedness, but its like pulling teeth trying to get a little conversation out of people on the site. Strange, as I've used similar sites overseas and found it to be the opposite, in any case chat amongst yer selves there i suppose. "

It's a numbers game tbh.. single guys are 100 a penny to ladies here..some may already have their stables full...who knows maybe they're only here to fill time ,chat to their stable mates..l dunno...but in the context of things ..as Freddie sang .." gotta be cool...relax..."..of course it's not easy when ya send messages and get nothing back but posting threads like this is only gonna make the ladies move away further... ..

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By *adyandthetramp20Couple
over a year ago

carry on camping

Another one bites the dust..

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By *inxnmasterCouple
over a year ago

naughty valley

6 weeks on this site, an almost meaningless profile, we agree, you waste your time . It’s a swinger site with all effort this may entail, it’s not dial a ride

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

Yes OP, give up, in fact all men should give up (you can stay if you want because you’re on the other side of the country), but the rest of you lads should give up…

I mean it, please…… , even for a while, give up….

It’s my only hope….

Good luck over in the West OP….

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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago

Kerry and Dublin


"I think i really am, not sure if if it's cos there's a clique going on here, or just good old fashioned Irish narrow-mindedness, but its like pulling teeth trying to get a little conversation out of people on the site. Strange, as I've used similar sites overseas and found it to be the opposite, in any case chat amongst yer selves there i suppose. "

It's Bill Gates and the vaccine people! When you access fab on a 5G network your inbox will be filled with messages from all the people on your hotlist. That's how they get you!

Seriously tho, just adjust your expectations.

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By *tanonieMan
over a year ago

killorglin

Keep the faith man

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheers for the feedback lads and ladies, I think one poster hit the nail on the head, it's a funny old time on here lately, I'm actually on here far longer than a wet week, ive been on and off here over the years and have met some interesting fun people, as another pointed out yes we all have busy lives myself included hence I drop in and out as circumstance allows, just finding its not what it used to be on here. I'm not really interested in participating in the forums that much as I quite simply find it a pain in the eyeball, and after all we are all here for or own reasons and have our preferences as to what we want from it.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"Cheers for the feedback lads and ladies, I think one poster hit the nail on the head, it's a funny old time on here lately, I'm actually on here far longer than a wet week, ive been on and off here over the years and have met some interesting fun people, as another pointed out yes we all have busy lives myself included hence I drop in and out as circumstance allows, just finding its not what it used to be on here. I'm not really interested in participating in the forums that much as I quite simply find it a pain in the eyeball, and after all we are all here for or own reasons and have our preferences as to what we want from it. "

If you don't use the forums ( and the majority of the site dont)what worked for you to get meets the last time

Why is it not working this time

What are you doing differently

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

There isn't a clique of people who exclusively meet with each other. There's a pandemic on so lots of people aren't meeting, and those that are may have different priorities now.

I'd echo what someone else said about your profile - it's all about what you want and nothing about what you have to offer, so nothing that would tempt me to respond.

Being an unverified newbie also doesn't help, regardless of whether you've been here before - maybe try deactivating rather than deleting next time.

You're not being persecuted, you're just not having any success.

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By *xperienced SamMan
over a year ago

Limerick


"I think i really am, not sure if if it's cos there's a clique going on here, or just good old fashioned Irish narrow-mindedness, but its like pulling teeth trying to get a little conversation out of people on the site. Strange, as I've used similar sites overseas and found it to be the opposite, in any case chat amongst yer selves there i suppose. "

Patience is definitely a virtue on here but I completely there is cliques on here ! If you have the audacity to meet someone they don’t approve of the members of that clique quickly hit the block button as instructed by their illustrious leaders !

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

Ah the illustrious leaders and the famous Fab clique.

Been here 5+yes and, though there's been many a mention of it, yet to actually find/witness it.

Common sense people derogating an abusive poster, yes.

A clique? No.

Groups of friends who fuck the same circle regularly? On a swingers site?? You don't say!!

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By *evilinsidemeMan
over a year ago

Trim


"6 weeks on this site, an almost meaningless profile, we agree, you waste your time . It’s a swinger site with all effort this may entail, it’s not dial a ride "

This says it all

Op, patience is something u need as no one likes a splash and dash lol

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne


"6 weeks on this site, an almost meaningless profile, we agree, you waste your time . It’s a swinger site with all effort this may entail, it’s not dial a ride

This says it all

Op, patience is something u need as no one likes a splash and dash lol"

Except when getting petrol

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By *xperienced SamMan
over a year ago

Limerick


"Ah the illustrious leaders and the famous Fab clique.

Been here 5+yes and, though there's been many a mention of it, yet to actually find/witness it.

Common sense people derogating an abusive poster, yes.

A clique? No.

Groups of friends who fuck the same circle regularly? On a swingers site?? You don't say!! "

You haven’t witnessed it ? Oh well if you haven’t witnessed it that’s the end of that discussion so

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

Legend has it they meet in Fab HQ reputed to be in a bunker under a lake somewhere in Ireland……

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I verified three brand new single guys profiles in the last two weeks over coffee. Why did I meet them and take a chance. They were genuinely nice people who didn't feel the need to turn every conversation sexual and they were a bit of craic and had a actual interest in getting involved in the lifestyle. Like it's not rocket sense be polite respectful sane and be able to carry a conversation without the need to show us your cocks.

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By *Sparkie.Man
over a year ago

Ratoath

I think your dead right...coming onto the forum and whinging like a spoilt child because you don't think it's going well for you, that'll get the fanny flutter movement going and your inbox will be overflowing with pussy pics now.

I reckon guys outnumber women here maybe 50 or 60 to one, for every message you sent and 49 or 59 guys sent her one, does she have time to reply to all those, not to mention the pushy guys who send 3,4 or more messages.

Slow and steady wins the race, dont be in a rush here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be interesting to get a new womens experience on here as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mate I don't mean any disrespect or anything like that but seriously, you're only here a wet week and you're unhappy with your progress. Christ im here 3 years not and I'm still sending myself msgs to make me feel good. I don't know what you expected when joining here but whatever you thought I'd say chuck that out the window and strap in for the long haul, it isn't a dial a ride here. You've got real ppl with real lives and almost everyone here is looking for their own thing. The women here get inundated with billions of msgs everyday so here's the big spoiler for you.... they don't get to read them all and sometimes will even bulk delete(shocking I know, the cheek)

Just to give you a heads up, being thirsty is no becoming so avoid that. Also don't msg ppl over and over as you will most likely receive the opposite result than you were hoping for,in a block.

Definitely don't be nasty to anyone as that reverberates through the site and that's never good either.

Do stay in the forums and do keep posting and you will get familiar with ppl a they will get to know you. As I've already pointed out everyone on here has a real life real commitments and real jobs so they most probably will not want to hook up with you tonight or tomorrow , you've got to throw yourself into the mix get some verifications and settle in

This is just some of my experience here and I'm only addressing your post in a helpful manner so please don't take anything personally or in any bad way. Your not the first and you definitely wont be the last person to have some these questions about fab but it's just the cold hard truth in my opinion and it is just that, my opinion.

Happy fabbing , it has its ups and downs here but every now then good things happen when you least expect it that makes you spout your milky corn flakes all over the floor of a hotel. Christ that was funny.

Anyway..."
wow what a brilliant response. That's it in a nutshell and as a newbie I am

slowly but surely starting to figure this out. I think patience is the key

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It would be interesting to get a new womens experience on here as well."

I joined three years ago with one photo and no profile late one night thought nothing more about it. I logged back in next morning and had 402 messages. Then the abuse started when I wasn't replying or deleted messages. It's why lot of girls don't stick around they get overwhelmed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats mad...so many msgs!!! Yeah deffo put anyone off that would.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It would be interesting to get a new womens experience on here as well.

I joined three years ago with one photo and no profile late one night thought nothing more about it. I logged back in next morning and had 402 messages. Then the abuse started when I wasn't replying or deleted messages. It's why lot of girls don't stick around they get overwhelmed "
fuck. No wonder no one is getting back to me and I thought it was me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yet another man who signed up thinking he was going to have sex on tap 24/7

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm confused now OP, you were doing OK with your first msg but now I've got questions.

You've been on and off here for years so it's safe to say you "know how it works" here. So... your feeling hard done by so you've picked the one place that causes you more pain (in your eyeballs) to come and have your tears dried ? So the place that you hate the most is when you come to be comforted. But wait.... knowing how it works surly you'd know that the forums is the one place you do not come crying to as there's not much sympathy for these type of posts ... you'd know that. So are you some kind of masochist do you like pain in some strange way or is it attention you seek ? I'm just trying to get it straight in my head so I can highlight certain pages of the " how to succeed in fab" book that I'm reading at the moment to help you out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yet another man who signed up thinking he was going to have sex on tap 24/7 "
I'm afraid to say I was one of those. But I'm open minded enough to learn with time.

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By *eterdunneMan
over a year ago

leixlip

Guys, have a little empathy. We don't know what shape this mans life is in. Maybe this is the only meaningful interaction he has with others. I haven't read through the entire thread but there but for the grace of God goes anyone on here. If all he is doing is complaining that he isn't getting laid then yea, he's fair game but if there is more to it......try to be a little supportive or at least don't run him down.

That said, I probably should have read the entire post again lol. Probably just made a tit of myself. But that's OK, because I'm surrounded by such a caring and supportive community of fuckers lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% . You're absolutely right. My bad.... just got me thinking that's all.

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...


"Guys, have a little empathy. We don't know what shape this mans life is in. Maybe this is the only meaningful interaction he has with others. I haven't read through the entire thread but there but for the grace of God goes anyone on here. If all he is doing is complaining that he isn't getting laid then yea, he's fair game but if there is more to it......try to be a little supportive or at least don't run him down.

That said, I probably should have read the entire post again lol. Probably just made a tit of myself. But that's OK, because I'm surrounded by such a caring and supportive community of fuckers lol."
Need a hug?

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By *eterdunneMan
over a year ago

leixlip


"Guys, have a little empathy. We don't know what shape this mans life is in. Maybe this is the only meaningful interaction he has with others. I haven't read through the entire thread but there but for the grace of God goes anyone on here. If all he is doing is complaining that he isn't getting laid then yea, he's fair game but if there is more to it......try to be a little supportive or at least don't run him down.

That said, I probably should have read the entire post again lol. Probably just made a tit of myself. But that's OK, because I'm surrounded by such a caring and supportive community of fuckers lol.Need a hug? "

Dunno......you offering? I suppose it can't hurt lol

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By *rotic desiresWoman
over a year ago

Here and there


"Guys, have a little empathy. We don't know what shape this mans life is in. Maybe this is the only meaningful interaction he has with others. I haven't read through the entire thread but there but for the grace of God goes anyone on here. If all he is doing is complaining that he isn't getting laid then yea, he's fair game but if there is more to it......try to be a little supportive or at least don't run him down.

That said, I probably should have read the entire post again lol. Probably just made a tit of myself. But that's OK, because I'm surrounded by such a caring and supportive community of fuckers lol."

But a lot of them are not fuckers - they're just wannabe fuckers, on the lookout

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By *eterdunneMan
over a year ago

leixlip


"100% . You're absolutely right. My bad.... just got me thinking that's all. "

I didn't mean to be preachy but....Well you know. Its not always black and white

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By *eterdunneMan
over a year ago

leixlip


"Guys, have a little empathy. We don't know what shape this mans life is in. Maybe this is the only meaningful interaction he has with others. I haven't read through the entire thread but there but for the grace of God goes anyone on here. If all he is doing is complaining that he isn't getting laid then yea, he's fair game but if there is more to it......try to be a little supportive or at least don't run him down.

That said, I probably should have read the entire post again lol. Probably just made a tit of myself. But that's OK, because I'm surrounded by such a caring and supportive community of fuckers lol.

But a lot of them are not fuckers - they're just wannabe fuckers, on the lookout "

Yes, this is often true but nobody really knows. Except Mr OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op equals original post? Sorry new to the this

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By *eterdunneMan
over a year ago

leixlip


"Op equals original post? Sorry new to the this "

Indeed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op equals original post? Sorry new to the this

Indeed "
pats myself on the back. Starting to get the hang of this

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Guys, have a little empathy. We don't know what shape this mans life is in. Maybe this is the only meaningful interaction he has with others. I haven't read through the entire thread but there but for the grace of God goes anyone on here. If all he is doing is complaining that he isn't getting laid then yea, he's fair game but if there is more to it......try to be a little supportive or at least don't run him down.

That said, I probably should have read the entire post again lol. Probably just made a tit of myself. But that's OK, because I'm surrounded by such a caring and supportive community of fuckers lol."

Good man Peter, it's good to see that some people are capable of lateral thinking,correct I didn't state state in the post that I was nt getting laid, my observation or complaint as it might be seen as is that quite a few of the people I've made contact with here via messaging have unfortunately the conversational skills of a potato.

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By *osmicGateMan
over a year ago

louth


"I think i really am, not sure if if it's cos there's a clique going on here, or just good old fashioned Irish narrow-mindedness, but its like pulling teeth trying to get a little conversation out of people on the site. Strange, as I've used similar sites overseas and found it to be the opposite, in any case chat amongst yer selves there i suppose. "

Trick is when you join a site like this have no expectations that way you won't be disappointed.. Its more of a sit and wait site.. Enjoy the forums and pics that's what I do.. I have had some meets here but they have been few and far between like once a year if even.. I find conventional dating sites infinitely better for meeting people and for nsa.. Strange really you'd think it would be the other way around

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By *ouple 0073Couple
over a year ago

donegal


"I think i really am, not sure if if it's cos there's a clique going on here, or just good old fashioned Irish narrow-mindedness, but its like pulling teeth trying to get a little conversation out of people on the site. Strange, as I've used similar sites overseas and found it to be the opposite, in any case chat amongst yer selves there i suppose.

Trick is when you join a site like this have no expectations that way you won't be disappointed.. Its more of a sit and wait site.. Enjoy the forums and pics that's what I do.. I have had some meets here but they have been few and far between like once a year if even.. I find conventional dating sites infinitely better for meeting people and for nsa.. Strange really you'd think it would be the other way around "
that's interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think i really am, not sure if if it's cos there's a clique going on here, or just good old fashioned Irish narrow-mindedness, but its like pulling teeth trying to get a little conversation out of people on the site. Strange, as I've used similar sites overseas and found it to be the opposite, in any case chat amongst yer selves there i suppose.

Trick is when you join a site like this have no expectations that way you won't be disappointed.. Its more of a sit and wait site.. Enjoy the forums and pics that's what I do.. I have had some meets here but they have been few and far between like once a year if even.. I find conventional dating sites infinitely better for meeting people and for nsa.. Strange really you'd think it would be the other way around "

I would agree with that same here...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Trick is when you join a site like this have no expectations that way you won't be disappointed.. Its more of a sit and wait site.. Enjoy the forums and pics that's what I do.. I have had some meets here but they have been few and far between like once a year if even.. I find conventional dating sites infinitely better for meeting people and for nsa.. Strange really you'd think it would be the other way around "

Yea id have to agree tbh. I had a non head shot on tinder and got a few meets out of that in 3/4 weeks plus plenty of other convos.

On here it seems women get tormented with messages so after realising that I started bantering in the forums. Its more of a comment on fun topics and have a browse at pics site for me atm.

Had seperated from someone & didnt want my face out there on tinder, feel like I can share my face on private messages here and ppl will be discreet plus I wanted there to be potentially be a bit more than a nsa 1 nighter that tinder was bringing so ditched tinder.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lads what are ye like, it couldnt be easier here, makes dial a ride look like a convent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lads what are ye like, it couldnt be easier here, makes dial a ride look like a convent"

Alright shagger give the rest of us a chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lads what are ye like, it couldnt be easier here, makes dial a ride look like a convent

Alright shagger give the rest of us a chance "

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By *evilinsidemeMan
over a year ago

Trim


"I verified three brand new single guys profiles in the last two weeks over coffee. Why did I meet them and take a chance. They were genuinely nice people who didn't feel the need to turn every conversation sexual and they were a bit of craic and had a actual interest in getting involved in the lifestyle. Like it's not rocket sense be polite respectful sane and be able to carry a conversation without the need to show us your cocks. "

True, the idea is, if you're charming enough, you will want us to show you, but if not, hey hopefully the coffee was great and the smiles were worth it.

You never know who you will meet till you do.

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