FabSwingers.com forum: Does the truth come out when d*unk

By *kblueeyes OP Couple
over a year ago

kilkenny

Had a conversation with a mate she was concerned when her boyfriend had a few drinks in him he expressed he felt they were boring and she was a bit of an angry woman.

He is normally happy go lucky, I was tempted to tell her about fab to spice up their lives but obviously didn't as they are vanilla

Got me wondering does it take a few drinks for a guy before he says what's really on his mind.

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By *asterandhissparklesCouple
over a year ago

tipperary

In Vino Veritas.

That's a Latin expression used by Romans to say that "when d*unk you say the truth".

So... After thousands of years, the answer is: yes, d*unk people (men or women) say things why wouldn't say I'd not d*unk

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By *asterandhissparklesCouple
over a year ago

tipperary

"In Vino Veritas.

That's a Latin expression used by Romans to say that "when d*unk you say the truth".

So... After thousands of years, the answer is: yes, d*unk people (men or women) say things why wouldn't say I'd not d*unk

Say things They wouldn't say if not d*unk*

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

There's an expression used the next day to explain something hurtful thats said...."it was the drink talking "

Always believed it to be true for both sexes

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By *amesd1114Man
over a year ago

Cork/Dublin

I think it’s an exaggerated version of the truth when d*unk. There is an element of truth but exaggerated due to be d*unk

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

The question I think she should really answer is whether he has a point or not. Is she a bit angry and is their sex life boring?

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By *kblueeyes OP Couple
over a year ago

kilkenny

"There's an expression used the next day to explain something hurtful thats said...."it was the drink talking "

Always believed it to be true for both sexes "

I agree I also think drink gives people Dutch courage and if it doesn't suit the next day ahh it was only the drink

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"Had a conversation with a mate she was concerned when her boyfriend had a few drinks in him he expressed he felt they were boring and she was a bit of an angry woman.

He is normally happy go lucky, I was tempted to tell her about fab to spice up their lives but obviously didn't as they are vanilla

Got me wondering does it take a few drinks for a guy before he says what's really on his mind.

Thoughts "

What was she concerned about?

A) that he was right?

B) that she didn’t think he was right but was concerned that’s what he thought?

C) concerned about what he might be planning on doing about it?

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By *omenameTV/TS
over a year ago

GALWAY

"In Vino Veritas.

That's a Latin expression used by Romans to say that "when d*unk you say the truth".

So... After thousands of years, the answer is: yes, d*unk people (men or women) say things why wouldn't say I'd not d*unk

Exactly my thoughts when I read the title of the thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Drink in truth out. I have s0aid things d*unk that I would be too embarrassed to say sober and to be honest it feels great to have said them the next day. Sometimes I would be embarrassed or dreading meeting who I said it to but in the back of my mind relived I have said how I feel. So in short yes drink really brings out the truth

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"Had a conversation with a mate she was concerned when her boyfriend had a few drinks in him he expressed he felt they were boring and she was a bit of an angry woman.

He is normally happy go lucky, I was tempted to tell her about fab to spice up their lives but obviously didn't as they are vanilla

Got me wondering does it take a few drinks for a guy before he says what's really on his mind.

Thoughts "

Did u ask her what she thought he meant maybe shes seeking help or approval from a friend to explore

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By *kblueeyes OP Couple
over a year ago

kilkenny

From what I am aware of

She adores him she thought they (he was happy)

Now she seems worried he is bored with her

But she thought they enjoyed relaxing on the weekend s

They are in their 40s fairly new relationship

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"From what I am aware of

She adores him she thought they (he was happy)

Now she seems worried he is bored with her

But she thought they enjoyed relaxing on the weekend s

They are in their 40s fairly new relationship

So she needs to talk to him and see what he thinks only them together can figure this out

Now if she asked how to go about spicing it up then ur in a perfect position to give a nudge towards fab

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By *asterandhissparklesCouple
over a year ago

tipperary

"From what I am aware of

She adores him she thought they (he was happy)

Now she seems worried he is bored with her

But she thought they enjoyed relaxing on the weekend s

They are in their 40s fairly new relationship

So she needs to talk to him and see what he thinks only them together can figure this out

Now if she asked how to go about spicing it up then ur in a perfect position to give a nudge towards fab "

Or just give her a strap on and let us know if she spiced it up enough

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By *kblueeyes OP Couple
over a year ago

kilkenny

"From what I am aware of

She adores him she thought they (he was happy)

Now she seems worried he is bored with her

But she thought they enjoyed relaxing on the weekend s

They are in their 40s fairly new relationship

So she needs to talk to him and see what he thinks only them together can figure this out

Now if she asked how to go about spicing it up then ur in a perfect position to give a nudge towards fab "

Don't think she could cope with the shock. Factor

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"From what I am aware of

She adores him she thought they (he was happy)

Now she seems worried he is bored with her

But she thought they enjoyed relaxing on the weekend s

They are in their 40s fairly new relationship

So she needs to talk to him and see what he thinks only them together can figure this out

Now if she asked how to go about spicing it up then ur in a perfect position to give a nudge towards fab

Don't think she could cope with the shock. Factor

Did u think at first you did ! people would shock you theres lots as a friend you can do go shopping for sexy undies point her towards literotica she may get a few ideas there

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By *upersoaker3000Man
over a year ago

Belfast

Not necessarily. I've been d*unk and said nice things to people I don't like and been d*unk and said nasty things to people I do like (only ever happened once or twice) point is neither scenario was true.

How many times have you caught yourself or someone else talking complete bollocks when they are d*unk?

I also agree with the other poster who said you tend to exaggerate when d*unk too.

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"I also agree with the other poster who said you tend to exaggerate when d*unk too."

I can’t completely agree with this, I’m absolutely convinced that my c*(k is defiantly bigger when I’m d*unk, don’t know why, I think it’s something to do with the barley or the hops or something…..

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By *upersoaker3000Man
over a year ago

Belfast

"I also agree with the other poster who said you tend to exaggerate when d*unk too.

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By *R BxMan
over a year ago

wonderland

"There's an expression used the next day to explain something hurtful thats said...."it was the drink talking "

Always believed it to be true for both sexes

I agree I also think drink gives people Dutch courage and if it doesn't suit the next day ahh it was only the drink "

This is so true, truth does come out but usually in a nasty way, and I personally hate this oh yeah sorry I was d*unk sure excuse after, like a get out of jail free card! Now to be fair used it myself in the past a few times so I suppose I can't complain too much....

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"From what I am aware of

She adores him she thought they (he was happy)

Now she seems worried he is bored with her

But she thought they enjoyed relaxing on the weekend s

They are in their 40s fairly new relationship

Anyone who called me an "angry woman" would be very swiftly proved correct. I'm practically blind with second hand rage just reading that!!!

He must believe what he said on some level, drink doesn't make you completely delusional or insert thoughts into your brain.

I'm sad that it's causing her to feel insecure or not good enough - if he thinks she's boring and angry he's free to fuck off, like. I hope she finds someone who appreciates her as she is, and that he finds someone very chill but also somehow very exciting.

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

I was apparently very adamant about a book on bananas that my daughter had to write, who thinks bananas are her nemesis, though I thought they were the ultimate subject for the book she was going to write.

Apparently I talked about this for 2hrs in the middle of the night.

Makes me scared to meet old FWB later this year, if I then talk about in my sleep to celibate wife!

Might give her the horn and she might want to reclaim me

Oh! Wait...

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

"I was apparently very adamant about a book on bananas that my daughter had to write, who thinks bananas are her nemesis, though I thought they were the ultimate subject for the book she was going to write.

Apparently I talked about this for 2hrs in the middle of the night.

Makes me scared to meet old FWB later this year, if I then talk about in my sleep to celibate wife!

Might give her the horn and she might want to reclaim me

Oh! Wait...

Sorry, meant to say, after a few beverages.

So yes, often d*unk equals honesty but, it can also equally mean BS, as above.

This should all be taken with a pinch of salt though, as I've been drinking since 5pm but Master Sparkle will verify I'm capable even after all that

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"From what I am aware of

She adores him she thought they (he was happy)

Now she seems worried he is bored with her

But she thought they enjoyed relaxing on the weekend s

They are in their 40s fairly new relationship

Anyone who called me an "angry woman" would be very swiftly proved correct. I'm practically blind with second hand rage just reading that!!!

He must believe what he said on some level, drink doesn't make you completely delusional or insert thoughts into your brain.

But if she was angry, for her own sake, wouldn’t it be better if it was discussed to try to identify the source of the anger and help with it rather than her just telling everyone to fuck off for ever?

Or why he’s thinking that?

Try to fix things rather than just throwing them away?

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"I've been drinking since 5pm but Master Sparkle will verify I'm capable even after all that

Why, what were you doing to Master Sparkle?….

And will this verification be published?

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

"I've been drinking since 5pm but Master Sparkle will verify I'm capable even after all that

Why, what were you doing to Master Sparkle?….

And will this verification be published?

He's an old, good friend.

Why does that worry you?

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"I've been drinking since 5pm but Master Sparkle will verify I'm capable even after all that

Why, what were you doing to Master Sparkle?….

And will this verification be published?

He's an old, good friend.

Why does that worry you?"

Why would it worry me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From what you said “ he felt THEY were boring” and that she “thought THEY enjoyed relaxing on the weekend”

Considering the normal options of doing stuff over the last year has been limited, is it a case that relaxing of weekend just means they been too comfortable sitting in watching tv and drinking as a couple. Maybe he was talking about they needed to get out more i.e being more active outdoors or not seeing the same four walls etc, not necessarily there sex life. It’s seems like both sides are at fault but correct me if I’m wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was thinking this too, that maybe they had gotten into covid habits that need to be shook off a bit.

Fabbing may not be the answer in this case esp if its a relatively new relationship.

If she considers his comment re anger maybe its true and she needs to let it go a bit, and if its not true she could ask him where he's coming from with that comment.

Ah people talk unfiltered when d*unk, it can definitely be exagerration of truth. Im sure it will be grand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was thinking this too, that maybe they had gotten into covid habits that need to be shook off a bit.

Fabbing may not be the answer in this case esp if its a relatively new relationship.

If she considers his comment re anger maybe its true and she needs to let it go a bit, and if its not true she could ask him where he's coming from with that comment.

Ah people talk unfiltered when d*unk, it can definitely be exagerration of truth. Im sure it will be grand."

Wise advice

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By *eturn of Sir PumpsMan
over a year ago

outside banbridge

Exactly this love that line from val kilmer in tombstone too

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

There are two in a relationship.. If something if boring then its not one of their fault, it's both. Being able to talk about a relationship and it's issues and discuss solutions calmly and without finger pointing is critically important. It's probably best done sober, but it depends on the personality. Either way these kind of issues are totally normal and nothing to worry about.

With regards swinging... I've always enjoyed the saying "turn swingers into friends, not friends into swingers'. There are a lot healthier things that they could be doing together than this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there can be some confusion on this one..sometimes the truth comes out and sometimes it's just noise.

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By *cottybear74Man
over a year ago

kilkenny

"Had a conversation with a mate she was concerned when her boyfriend had a few drinks in him he expressed he felt they were boring and she was a bit of an angry woman.

He is normally happy go lucky, I was tempted to tell her about fab to spice up their lives but obviously didn't as they are vanilla

Got me wondering does it take a few drinks for a guy before he says what's really on his mind.

Thoughts "

You should bring her shopping hehe

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By *kblueeyes OP Couple
over a year ago

kilkenny

Thanks guys it's great to hear other opinions who don't know them, I think as some people said covid has restricted alot of things, hopefully it's a blip and they will get back on track

Also as other person says I think I will leave them in the vanilla world for now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had a conversation with a mate she was concerned when her boyfriend had a few drinks in him he expressed he felt they were boring and she was a bit of an angry woman.

He is normally happy go lucky, I was tempted to tell her about fab to spice up their lives but obviously didn't as they are vanilla

Got me wondering does it take a few drinks for a guy before he says what's really on his mind.

Thoughts "

I would agree very much so, an ex of mine when we were together i literally had no clue what she thought or how she felt until we used to be on a night out. Id be told everything that night....next day nothing again

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By *Sparkie.Man
over a year ago

Ratoath

They say what goes in sober come out when d*unk....some people do open up with drink and speak their mind without holding back

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I don't drink and never have done but I've often been around people who have said and done things while under the influence that they put down to the drink talking.

Whether or not what they say is more truthful than anything they would say while sober depends on the person.

I've always been the designated driver so many tales have been told that make complete sense and confirm a lot of what I already knew about them just from my own experience with them.

There have been some who just talk rubbish when their tongues are loosened but in general it's mostly fairly accurate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most people will say what they really feel when inhibitions are down due to alcohol. Your friend probably needs to have a good open conversation with her partner expressing her concerns about what he said (without being confrontational),e.g, saying she agrees they've become a bit boring, what would he suggest changing, and asking if there are aspects of her behaviour he's uncomfortable with. Sticking her head in the sand and pretending things are grand isn't a good idea IMO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I had a guy on here message me and call me all sorts when he was d*unk and I wouldn’t give up my plans to see him last minute.

His nature came out and it was clear to me what he is really like.

Thank god he did that otherwise it might have taken quite a bit longer to see it.

Phew.

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By *upersoaker3000Man
over a year ago

Belfast

"Well I had a guy on here message me and call me all sorts when he was d*unk and I wouldn’t give up my plans to see him last minute.

His nature came out and it was clear to me what he is really like.

Thank god he did that otherwise it might have taken quite a bit longer to see it.

Phew.

That's not on. Nobody should be treating anyone that way, let alone the Leading Lady

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By *I TwoCouple
over a year ago

PDI 12-26th Nov 24

Unfortunately I don't need drink to say what I think, the wife hates it lol

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