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"Friends as in house mates or life long can't be without friends It has a big impact on the decision process" Lifelong 20+ years | |||
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"I wouldn't..it would change the dynamics of your friendship forever..just my thoughts.." hence why I’m torn!!!! | |||
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"Friends as in house mates or life long can't be without friends It has a big impact on the decision process Lifelong 20+ years" Married to each other Friends on an exploration Fwb Theres so many complications to weigh up its a decision only u can make if it goes tits up u loose if it becomes the best experience of all your life's its a win win all round | |||
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"Friends as in house mates or life long can't be without friends It has a big impact on the decision process Lifelong 20+ years Married to each other Friends on an exploration Fwb Theres so many complications to weigh up its a decision only u can make if it goes tits up u loose if it becomes the best experience of all your life's its a win win all round " Not married but they are together 4-5 years, it came up omin conversation few weeks back that I was on this site and it got them thinking, they don’t want a stranger to join them for their first time | |||
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"I much prefer regretting things I have done Can you imagine if this goes well and becomes a regular thing ? " That’s what the devil on one shoulder is telling me too  | |||
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"Friends as in house mates or life long can't be without friends It has a big impact on the decision process Lifelong 20+ years Married to each other Friends on an exploration Fwb Theres so many complications to weigh up its a decision only u can make if it goes tits up u loose if it becomes the best experience of all your life's its a win win all round Not married but they are together 4-5 years, it came up omin conversation few weeks back that I was on this site and it got them thinking, they don’t want a stranger to join them for their first time " I get their hesitation in getting a stranger but you have to ask yourself how this may change how they look at you in the future? What if their first experience makes them realise they should have keep their fantasies to just fantasy after all. It's a hard thing to 'reset' your relationship. Perhaps mention this and other concerns to them. If they aren't experienced themselves they may not have considered all the positives and negatives... Life is unfortunately not like a porn movie, things can be complicated. I'd thread carefully on this one if I were you. | |||
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"Friends as in house mates or life long can't be without friends It has a big impact on the decision process Lifelong 20+ years Married to each other Friends on an exploration Fwb Theres so many complications to weigh up its a decision only u can make if it goes tits up u loose if it becomes the best experience of all your life's its a win win all round Not married but they are together 4-5 years, it came up omin conversation few weeks back that I was on this site and it got them thinking, they don’t want a stranger to join them for their first time I get their hesitation in getting a stranger but you have to ask yourself how this may change how they look at you in the future? What if their first experience makes them realise they should have keep their fantasies to just fantasy after all. It's a hard thing to 'reset' your relationship. Perhaps mention this and other concerns to them. If they aren't experienced themselves they may not have considered all the positives and negatives... Life is unfortunately not like a porn movie, things can be complicated. I'd thread carefully on this one if I were you. " maybe time for another convo with them about it yeah. As you say , weigh up the pos and negs  | |||
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"Friends as in house mates or life long can't be without friends It has a big impact on the decision process Lifelong 20+ years Married to each other Friends on an exploration Fwb Theres so many complications to weigh up its a decision only u can make if it goes tits up u loose if it becomes the best experience of all your life's its a win win all round Not married but they are together 4-5 years, it came up omin conversation few weeks back that I was on this site and it got them thinking, they don’t want a stranger to join them for their first time I get their hesitation in getting a stranger but you have to ask yourself how this may change how they look at you in the future? What if their first experience makes them realise they should have keep their fantasies to just fantasy after all. It's a hard thing to 'reset' your relationship. Perhaps mention this and other concerns to them. If they aren't experienced themselves they may not have considered all the positives and negatives... Life is unfortunately not like a porn movie, things can be complicated. I'd thread carefully on this one if I were you. maybe time for another convo with them about it yeah. As you say , weigh up the pos and negs "Yeah, I've been the 3rd party in a couples first mfm with 4 different couples at least. I didnt know them in advance though. This was all meetings arranged here or on other sites. It's very important to talk it all out in advance and get wants, limits, expectations etc. Knowing them in advance just adds more things to be clarified and to be prepared for if it should go t*ts up (despite your best efforts). | |||
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"I wouldn't ever knowingly agree to be a couple's first open experience. The potential for disaster is astronomical. Add in that they are friends and you'd have to witness the fallout if it causes issues between them (never mind with you)... Nope. Run, don't walk. " Gotcha, yeah the more I think about it, the more I’m inclined to decline the offer. If it was a strange couple asking me I’d have no hesitation in accepting. The rogue in me wants to though | |||
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"It's just sex. Not worth ruining a good friendship over." This, as someone else said also, sex is easy to come by, good friends aren't. If you value their friendship and respect their relationship, decline politely and explain why. And introduce them to fab  | |||
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"Will the friendship be exactly like it was after you turn down their proposition ? If they have a regular plus one will you feel any jealousy which will impact on your rapport ? I don’t think the options are exactly the same Vs loads of risks " If the friendship is that flakey are they really friends at all? | |||
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"Will the friendship be exactly like it was after you turn down their proposition ? If they have a regular plus one will you feel any jealousy which will impact on your rapport ? I don’t think the options are exactly the same Vs loads of risks If the friendship is that flakey are they really friends at all? " Have to agree | |||
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"Hard no from me! As opposed to a hard yes?  "My favourite type | |||
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"Hard no from me! As opposed to a hard yes? "Hard yes between Fab friends  | |||
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"Hard no from me! As opposed to a hard yes?
Hard yes between Fab friends "With the focus fully on the hard bit. | |||
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"Long story short, couple ( my friends ) have propositioned me to join them in a threesome. I’m torn, good move ,bad move? Anyone had any good/ bad experiences of same ?" Don't do it mate. Make friends out of swingers, not swingers out of friends! I ruined a friendship a few years back by inviting her for a threesome. It's just a bad idea. | |||
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"Hard no from me! As opposed to a hard yes?
Hard yes between Fab friends
With the focus fully on the hard bit. "Pull hard DH....as hurling people say | |||
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"Don't shit on your own doorstep it always comes back to haunt you!" I think my mind is made up and conversation to be had with them soon. I value their friendship way too much so I will be asking them to seek their 3rd elsewhere. Some lucky man on here may benefit  | |||
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"Don't shit on your own doorstep it always comes back to haunt you! I think my mind is made up and conversation to be had with them soon. I value their friendship way too much so I will be asking them to seek their 3rd elsewhere. Some lucky man on here may benefit "Well maybe as a friend give them some advice and guidance on who to meet.It's pretty nerve racking your first time. | |||
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"Don't shit on your own doorstep it always comes back to haunt you! I think my mind is made up and conversation to be had with them soon. I value their friendship way too much so I will be asking them to seek their 3rd elsewhere. Some lucky man on here may benefit "Introduce them to the site, show them the filters etc and let them find their way. You don’t want to be blamed for things going tits up | |||
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"Don't shit on your own doorstep it always comes back to haunt you! I think my mind is made up and conversation to be had with them soon. I value their friendship way too much so I will be asking them to seek their 3rd elsewhere. Some lucky man on here may benefit
Introduce them to the site, show them the filters etc and let them find their way. You don’t want to be blamed for things going tits up" | |||
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"Don't shit on your own doorstep it always comes back to haunt you! I think my mind is made up and conversation to be had with them soon. I value their friendship way too much so I will be asking them to seek their 3rd elsewhere. Some lucky man on here may benefit
Well maybe as a friend give them some advice and guidance on who to meet.It's pretty nerve racking your first time. " | |||
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"Will the friendship be exactly like it was after you turn down their proposition ? If they have a regular plus one will you feel any jealousy which will impact on your rapport ? I don’t think the options are exactly the same Vs loads of risks " My thoughts exactly! It’s already been changed by the invitation. Schrodingers mfm | |||
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"Will the friendship be exactly like it was after you turn down their proposition ? If they have a regular plus one will you feel any jealousy which will impact on your rapport ? I don’t think the options are exactly the same Vs loads of risks My thoughts exactly! It’s already been changed by the invitation. I have to disagree there, the invite changes nothing, they will still be great friends even if they opt for someone else. I’m not the jealous type and if they go with another then good luck to them and whoever they pick. I’ll actually be interested to hear about their experience if it happens Schrodingers mfm " | |||
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As said above, guide them on how to use the site best and also, show them guys you may have been in group situations with, who were respectful and personable. That should give them a good start | |||
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"great experience for us....as a friend to join us ...he nearly fainted...he said yes ...mrs was delighted...so it happened...more than once ..we progress to here " Glad to hear it all worked out for ye | |||
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things may change a bit after but you only love once and if you are up for it go for it!!! | |||
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"F**k it go for it things may change a bit after but you only love once and if you are up for it go for it!!!"Cheers , it’s hard to argue with a bit of positivity and good honest opinion which is the route I’m take king on this one too I think. Life’s too short but there is a long conversation between all 3 to be had first | |||
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And that was the start of a long, joyful and eventful journey into the lifestyle, and I never looked back. I think it was around 2006/7
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"Long story short, couple ( my friends ) have propositioned me to join them in a threesome. I’m torn, good move ,bad move? Anyone had any good/ bad experiences of same ?" Have done with friends. No issues after | |||
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"Its really down to how strong their relationship is and how well you know then. would there be any risk of jealousy creeping in if it did work and she wanted it again/regularly or worse could be a freak out when faced with the reality of a fantasy, your the one who knows these people best so your the only one who can weigh up the potential outcome good or bad" They are solid and not the jealous type at all, I’m far from the jealous type so I don’t see that being a problem down the line. I did mention to them about joining here over the weekend and they both took it on board but I got the feeling they wouldn’t be comfortable with a stranger for their first time but they are gonna mull over it for a while. There’s no rush. I’ve left it with them now and I’ll be happy with whatever they decide | |||
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