FabSwingers.com forum: Lads, how often...

By *ilder OP Man
over a year ago

dublin

How often do ye receive unsolicited mail? Ye often have someone else make the first move?

It's a rarity for me but wondering what others have experienced regarding this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About 50/50.....

But I never sent alot of messages so its not like the inbox was flooded

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I don't send messages so all my mail is unsolicited.

I average one message every couple of weeks but that can increase depending on forum engagement and it's not rare for me to go a month with no messages at all.

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

From men, a fair amount.

. From women.

The nature of the beast though and I would expect the same from 99% of guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How often do ye receive unsolicited mail? Ye often have someone else make the first move?

It's a rarity for me but wondering what others have experienced regarding this"

Unsolicated mails been offered

BJ 19 times , sex 16times , both at same time 12 times, being rimmed 4 times and been asked if can piss on them once...was common theme none from Woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rare, very rare but in fairness. The best chats I've had have come from them.

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By *ilder OP Man
over a year ago

dublin

"From men, a fair amount.

. From women.

The nature of the beast though and I would expect the same from 99% of guys. "

Yeah I hear ya! I only have lads not blocked so I can get invites to parties etc. but yes the majority of mine are of the 'not for me thanks lads and I say that in my profile' variety

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By *exbombABCMan
over a year ago

BLANCHARDSTOWN

I’m on fabswingers over a year and still haven’t found anyone I don’t know how people get so lucky.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"I’m on fabswingers over a year and still haven’t found anyone I don’t know how people get so lucky."

You get out what you put in and it depends on your level of expectation. It has nothing to do with luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How often do ye receive unsolicited mail? Ye often have someone else make the first move?

It's a rarity for me but wondering what others have experienced regarding this"

A lot from men but none from women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How often do ye receive unsolicited mail? Ye often have someone else make the first move?

It's a rarity for me but wondering what others have experienced regarding this

A lot from men but none from women

A mails a male !

Wait, that's not right...

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By *eralt80Man
over a year ago

cork

Every once in a while I’ll log in to see the highlighted inbox with a message from someone I haven’t spoken to before. Always a nice surprise, who knows where it will lead. Sometimes it works out sometimes it doesn’t.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

I continue conversations everyday with people that I've been talking to for months at this stage

None of the conversations are about sex and the start of most of them were puzzles that I'd posted

Don't know whether they count or not but during the pandemic it was the thing to do as most people were not having meets amyway

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By *iss3BWoman
over a year ago

north down

I need to find new people to message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive had a lot of mail from seemingly straight men offering discreet oral sex totally out of the blue, This is worrying because some of these men have validations from couples saying no gay or bi men on their profiles.

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By *ardyboy54321Man
over a year ago

Fermanagh

I don't I've all the hairy arsed feckers blocked

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By *rowser79Man
over a year ago

Cork

Got a few from males offering various things when I first signed up and then figured out how to set mail preferences.

Have gotten a couple of messages from women and couples from forum use. No unsolicited messages as regards meeting etc.

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By *ilder OP Man
over a year ago

dublin

"I don't I've all the hairy arsed feckers blocked

And I thought ya luved me!!

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By *quinnMan
over a year ago

Limerick

Similar to others, happens very occasionally. Had some fantastic, unexpected chats through it. Always a nice surprise.

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By *ardyboy54321Man
over a year ago

Fermanagh

"I don't I've all the hairy arsed feckers blocked

And I thought ya luved me!!

I put a hit on ya but trust me ta hire a blind hitman and I'm down €20

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By *elfastblondMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I receive on average 4 mails a week, and 100% are from fellas offering me a blowjob

I get all excited when I see I've got mail, then I open it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Averaging about 1 every other day. Always men and CD/TVs and 9/10 they clearly haven't read my profile or sent any pics so straight in the bin they go.

The odd time it's worth responding to but they never seem as exciting as when I message first and get a response. The chase is better than the catch and all that.

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

In the last month women and couples have started to write first which I am shocked by

Men writing three word messages ? Daily but I have not blocked them and it’s ok. I am needy enough for it to be an ego boost . Never act on it though as I have a very specific type which includes ‘chatty’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of them come from me for me. All asking if I want them to suck me off. The clearly didn’t read the profile, especially when it says that I’m not into guys.

Hardly any from women

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"Most of them come from me for me. All asking if I want them to suck me off. The clearly didn’t read the profile, especially when it says that I’m not into guys.

Hardly any from women

Offering to suck yourself off? Fair play!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn’t all mail unsolicited? I think that term is misused here

I rarely send a first message and have had women make the first move

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How often do ye receive unsolicited mail? Ye often have someone else make the first move?

It's a rarity for me but wondering what others have experienced regarding this

A lot from men but none from women

A mails a male !

Wait, that's not right..."

Nope that's not right lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I receive on average 4 mails a week, and 100% are from fellas offering me a blowjob

I get all excited when I see I've got mail, then I open it

Know that feeling man lol

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By *ilder OP Man
over a year ago

dublin

"Isn’t all mail unsolicited? I think that term is misused here

I rarely send a first message and have had women make the first move

Unsolicited adjective :

given or supplied without being requested or asked for:

If you send a message a response to your message isn't unsolicited. If you receive a first message from someone else it can be unsolicited. I don't see any 'misuse' on my part.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Received an unsolicited TV licence letter in the mail.

I'd rather the dick pic

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By *murphMan
over a year ago

drogheda

"I need to find new people to message "

Message me if you want to chat sensational profile pictures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Every once in a while I’ll log in to see the highlighted inbox with a message from someone I haven’t spoken to before. Always a nice surprise, who knows where it will lead. Sometimes it works out sometimes it doesn’t. "

Not often but occasionally get some messages like this .. I’ve blocked guys early on because it’s easier.. although couples profiles lately I’m getting suspect about some.. possible fakes..

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By *ilder OP Man
over a year ago

dublin

"I don't I've all the hairy arsed feckers blocked

And I thought ya luved me!!

I put a hit on ya but trust me ta hire a blind hitman and I'm down €20

I hope you kept the receipt

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By *ilder OP Man
over a year ago

dublin

"Most of them come from me for me. All asking if I want them to suck me off. The clearly didn’t read the profile, especially when it says that I’m not into guys.

Hardly any from women

Offering to suck yourself off? Fair play!

That's the dream there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very rarely send out msgs but I have been know to send about 23 since I joined. I'm some a horndog really. I need to step up my game I think. Always good for chats though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Outside of forum threads/games and good friends my inbox would be virtually empty.

I don't even get offers from other men! I feel kinda left out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most of them come from me for me. All asking if I want them to suck me off. The clearly didn’t read the profile, especially when it says that I’m not into guys.

Hardly any from women

Offering to suck yourself off? Fair play!

That's the dream there.

Ffs! I meant “most of them come from men for me” lol can’t type for shit

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By *witch121Man
over a year ago

Cork

No incoming. Rare enough to send a message to at this stage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just had an idea for a new romcom film set in the Fabs world.

'You've got no-mail'

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By *ilder OP Man
over a year ago

dublin

"Outside of forum threads/games and good friends my inbox would be virtually empty.

I don't even get offers from other men! I feel kinda left out

That's just an invite for lads to mail you

I even had a lad proposition me yesterday when I was out for a walk in dublin, I don't know what kinda feckin signals I'm giving off recently

And no I wasn't in a known dogging spot or anything similar, just a regular Dublin street in a residential area. I'm glad I'd left my short shorts behind

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By *elfastDMan
over a year ago

belfast

Most of my mails are from conversations I’m having with people, which is proof that the unsolicited mails work, they did reply to my first message after all

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"Outside of forum threads/games and good friends my inbox would be virtually empty.

I don't even get offers from other men! I feel kinda left out

That's just an invite for lads to mail you

I even had a lad proposition me yesterday when I was out for a walk in dublin, I don't know what kinda feckin signals I'm giving off recently

And no I wasn't in a known dogging spot or anything similar, just a regular Dublin street in a residential area. I'm glad I'd left my short shorts behind

Walking around in your underwear will always elicit those type of responses.

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By *ilder OP Man
over a year ago

dublin

"Outside of forum threads/games and good friends my inbox would be virtually empty.

I don't even get offers from other men! I feel kinda left out

That's just an invite for lads to mail you

I even had a lad proposition me yesterday when I was out for a walk in dublin, I don't know what kinda feckin signals I'm giving off recently

And no I wasn't in a known dogging spot or anything similar, just a regular Dublin street in a residential area. I'm glad I'd left my short shorts behind

Walking around in your underwear will always elicit those type of responses.

It may have been the thong that did it alright

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"Outside of forum threads/games and good friends my inbox would be virtually empty.

I don't even get offers from other men! I feel kinda left out

That's just an invite for lads to mail you

I even had a lad proposition me yesterday when I was out for a walk in dublin, I don't know what kinda feckin signals I'm giving off recently

And no I wasn't in a known dogging spot or anything similar, just a regular Dublin street in a residential area. I'm glad I'd left my short shorts behind

Walking around in your underwear will always elicit those type of responses.

It may have been the thong that did it alright

Mother of God!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Outside of forum threads/games and good friends my inbox would be virtually empty.

I don't even get offers from other men! I feel kinda left out

That's just an invite for lads to mail you

I even had a lad proposition me yesterday when I was out for a walk in dublin, I don't know what kinda feckin signals I'm giving off recently

And no I wasn't in a known dogging spot or anything similar, just a regular Dublin street in a residential area. I'm glad I'd left my short shorts behind

too funny

Would love to have seen your face

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By *man79Man
over a year ago

newry dundalk. warrenpoint

"How often do ye receive unsolicited mail? Ye often have someone else make the first move?

It's a rarity for me but wondering what others have experienced regarding this"

Every day! Thinking of cloning myself

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

Weekly usually off guys suffering the sunday morning horn and the occasional female friend asking does my ass look big in this (pic attached) as they are off out to get shagged by some fecker other than me

dont you just hate the fooking friend zone

Really some of my best meets have being from first contacts from females usually trough interaction on the forums or chat rooms these are not often, but I think of them as the diamonds in the rough the cream of the crop so to speak

Moral of the story is ladys if u want to be in the cream mail me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I need to find new people to message "

You can message me anytime

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By *hilaboutMan
over a year ago

kilkenny

Here 3 yrs now on n off I dont think I ever got an initial message I always the instigator. Who knows maybe it will happen one day

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By *ohn400Man
over a year ago

Dublin or anywhere

i get a fair few messages from couples...but mostly rubbish /

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

My mail usually consists of sent, unread or deleted, is there another kind?….

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

Doesn't happen.

Between my filters, my specifically shite pics and my profile, I'm blissfully not in need of a secretary.

Previous profile was inundated, don't ya know, though I learned my lesson and adjusted accordingly.

Now I only get a rare ping that I might have interest in.

Perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have straight on my profile. I get a few how are you and a few "great cock" when I bother to sign in

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

To be fair fab straight and actually straight are two very different things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And on Fab it seems like there's bi bi and straight bi, whatever that means.

My all time favourite unsolicited message on Fab was the single line "I want to be a straight man's fart cushion".

Now if I was straight, which my profile clearly says I'm not, why would I want to sit on a guy's face?

Answers on a postcard please for that one.

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

There are loads of guys who are bi if a woman is also present but wouldn’t meet A guy 1:1 and would classify themselves as straight

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By *enTen888Man
over a year ago

Belfast

As most have stated very rarely woman but males it’s a non stop bombardment of sucking off requests and ‘nice cock’ messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If only to get a mail, never mind a n unsolicited one …

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