FabSwingers.com forum: Things I am learning about organising parties

By *asual777 OP Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

1. Sometimes landlords cancel , for no reason , other than they might think swingers are booking

2. Sometimes the attendees cancel , mostly because real life shit happens

3. Trying to keep numbers of both genders equal is impossible , see above

4. It helps to look nerdy . Landlords think you’re boring and don’t charge you an enormous damage deposit

5. It helps to have a script, if you’re asked about why a single adult is booking family accommodation

6. It helps to be an insomniac. Somebody is bound to want to stay up with you

7. Food and wine are vital

8. Towels . See separate thread

9. It’s a part time job

10. The right mix of people is everything

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By *iktikiCouple
over a year ago

cork

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By *iktikiCouple
over a year ago

cork

You have it sussed

when’s your 1st one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

#5 is odd.

I've booked loads of different accommodation for lots of different sized groups and never once has my relationship status come up.

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By *asual777 OP Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

I got asked

I said I really wanted to treat myself after lockdown

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By *lassy lady 216Woman
over a year ago

Craigavon

Organised group meet in Dublin City centre this Thurs 22nd need a few extra ladies as one has had to pull out due to family commitments I. Willing to meet with any prospective candidates before hand on Thurs morning if interested message _asual777 or myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a suggestion as I have experienced this and thought it would be ideal for ye folk that are in a position to play, no pun intended! Hire boats on the Shannon, loads of private places to pull in, lots of islands with jetty’s that are totally private. Scenery is fab also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just a suggestion as I have experienced this and thought it would be ideal for ye folk that are in a position to play, no pun intended! Hire boats on the Shannon, loads of private places to pull in, lots of islands with jetty’s that are totally private. Scenery is fab also. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I got asked

I said I really wanted to treat myself after lockdown"

Just say its a friends reunion

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

Or a yoga group meeting... Or school reunion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or a yoga group meeting... Or school reunion"

Or a birthday

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By *adyandthetramp20Couple
over a year ago

carry on camping

"1. Sometimes landlords cancel , for no reason , other than they might think swingers are booking

2. Sometimes the attendees cancel , mostly because real life shit happens

3. Trying to keep numbers of both genders equal is impossible , see above

4. It helps to look nerdy . Landlords think you’re boring and don’t charge you an enormous damage deposit

5. It helps to have a script, if you’re asked about why a single adult is booking family accommodation

6. It helps to be an insomniac. Somebody is bound to want to stay up with you

7. Food and wine are vital

8. Towels . See separate thread

9. It’s a part time job

10. The right mix of people is everything

Single men are leathal for cancelling close to the event or on the night.

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By *lassy lady 216Woman
over a year ago

Craigavon

It's amazing how many nurses reunions I have been too lol

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By *andytownMan
over a year ago

Gods Own Country

"It's amazing how many nurses reunions I have been too lol "

Must get myself a uniform

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

What about a funeral

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By *asual777 OP Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

Like it a lot

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By *adylaceWoman
over a year ago

Waterford City

If you want 10 guys there. You need to invite around 30. That's how many usually cancel/don't show.

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By *asual777 OP Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

"1. Sometimes landlords cancel , for no reason , other than they might think swingers are booking

2. Sometimes the attendees cancel , mostly because real life shit happens

3. Trying to keep numbers of both genders equal is impossible , see above

4. It helps to look nerdy . Landlords think you’re boring and don’t charge you an enormous damage deposit

5. It helps to have a script, if you’re asked about why a single adult is booking family accommodation

6. It helps to be an insomniac. Somebody is bound to want to stay up with you

7. Food and wine are vital

8. Towels . See separate thread

9. It’s a part time job

10. The right mix of people is everything

Single men are leathal for cancelling close to the event or on the night.

Absolutely

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By *adyandthetramp20Couple
over a year ago

carry on camping

"If you want 10 guys there. You need to invite around 30. That's how many usually cancel/don't show. "

I'm not ashamed to let you know that my body swayed, my hand did a wave and I said "preach" out loud when I read that hahaha

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By *asual777 OP Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

"Or a yoga group meeting... Or school reunion"

Downward dog is a regular feature tbf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What about a funeral

Can I be in the coffin?

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"What about a funeral

Can I be in the coffin?"

Sounds like a plan

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

"1. Sometimes landlords cancel , for no reason , other than they might think swingers are booking

2. Sometimes the attendees cancel , mostly because real life shit happens

3. Trying to keep numbers of both genders equal is impossible , see above

4. It helps to look nerdy . Landlords think you’re boring and don’t charge you an enormous damage deposit

5. It helps to have a script, if you’re asked about why a single adult is booking family accommodation

6. It helps to be an insomniac. Somebody is bound to want to stay up with you

7. Food and wine are vital

8. Towels . See separate thread

9. It’s a part time job

10. The right mix of people is everything

Single men are leathal for cancelling close to the event or on the night.

Some single men...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1. Sometimes landlords cancel , for no reason , other than they might think swingers are booking

2. Sometimes the attendees cancel , mostly because real life shit happens

3. Trying to keep numbers of both genders equal is impossible , see above

4. It helps to look nerdy . Landlords think you’re boring and don’t charge you an enormous damage deposit

5. It helps to have a script, if you’re asked about why a single adult is booking family accommodation

6. It helps to be an insomniac. Somebody is bound to want to stay up with you

7. Food and wine are vital

8. Towels . See separate thread

9. It’s a part time job

10. The right mix of people is everything

Single men are leathal for cancelling close to the event or on the night.

Some single men..."

True

You are one of the very reliable ones

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By *asual777 OP Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

"What about a funeral

Can I be in the coffin?"

Finally the Galway social schedule is coming together

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By *adylaceWoman
over a year ago

Waterford City

"If you want 10 guys there. You need to invite around 30. That's how many usually cancel/don't show.

I'm not ashamed to let you know that my body swayed, my hand did a wave and I said "preach" out loud when I read that hahaha

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By *adyandthetramp20Couple
over a year ago

carry on camping

"1. Sometimes landlords cancel , for no reason , other than they might think swingers are booking

2. Sometimes the attendees cancel , mostly because real life shit happens

3. Trying to keep numbers of both genders equal is impossible , see above

4. It helps to look nerdy . Landlords think you’re boring and don’t charge you an enormous damage deposit

5. It helps to have a script, if you’re asked about why a single adult is booking family accommodation

6. It helps to be an insomniac. Somebody is bound to want to stay up with you

7. Food and wine are vital

8. Towels . See separate thread

9. It’s a part time job

10. The right mix of people is everything

Single men are leathal for cancelling close to the event or on the night.

Some single men..."

That's very true. We're lucky enough to have a few regular guys. When we find reliable ones we tend to hold on tight to them lol.

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

Any party I've organised if there were single guys there they were ones I knew to be respectful (non creepy) and reliable, occasionally I'd not know them if being brought as a 'plus 1'.

When selected right I found them to certainly not be more likely to cancel than a couple or single fem. In most cases they were more likely to be the ones to show up.

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By *asual777 OP Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

I wonder if it is to do with

1. Because of the ratios , you have to send a message telling people about how wonderful you are as a single male, building a certain level of expectation for yourself

2. If you’re invited , you realise that the female attendees are often confident and assertive and start worrying about your performance so you cancel .

From my perspective , having discussed it with the core attendees , being sound and reliable trumps porn star qualities always . Everyone knows how to have sex .

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

"I wonder if it is to do with

1. Because of the ratios , you have to send a message telling people about how wonderful you are as a single male, building a certain level of expectation for yourself

2. If you’re invited , you realise that the female attendees are often confident and assertive and start worrying about your performance so you cancel .

From my perspective , having discussed it with the core attendees , being sound and reliable trumps porn star qualities always . Everyone knows how to have sex . "

Not every lad can 'perform' in public though, as in with someone other than the girl you're with in the room. At parties it may not be possible to always get private space and some lads can't handle that, which makes me wonder why they went in the first place but I guess with some they don't realise until they are put in that position

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By *acky40Man
over a year ago

galway and everywhere

Would be interested in Galway social

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By *asual777 OP Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

11. try to book places that have several beds in one room

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

"11. try to book places that have several beds in one room "

And even better rooms where beds can be pushed together. I helped organise a hotel party once where we pushed several beds together. Easier where headboards and lockers aren't mounted to the wall

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By *asual777 OP Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

Very true , but it’s good if the room already has a set up you can work with or only need to slightly modify . I normally only get there 30 minutes before the first guests so barely time for a shower , opening windows closing curtains etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1. Sometimes landlords cancel , for no reason , other than they might think swingers are booking

2. Sometimes the attendees cancel , mostly because real life shit happens

3. Trying to keep numbers of both genders equal is impossible , see above

4. It helps to look nerdy . Landlords think you’re boring and don’t charge you an enormous damage deposit

5. It helps to have a script, if you’re asked about why a single adult is booking family accommodation

6. It helps to be an insomniac. Somebody is bound to want to stay up with you

7. Food and wine are vital

8. Towels . See separate thread

9. It’s a part time job

10. The right mix of people is everything

Single men are leathal for cancelling close to the event or on the night.

I would never cancel, give me a shot and include me sometime. Im a devil for the craic

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By *asual777 OP Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

12. I do think organisers have a ‘pastoral’ duty ! Weird bringing religion to this but I couldn’t find a better description . I think if you’re inviting people then their safety and comfort is your business . Maybe harder with massive events but a smaller one in the single figures absolutely . How are they getting to your event ? How are they getting back ? What if something happens at your event ? Most of the time as an organiser you’re not needed for these things but if you’re asked you have to , IMO, oblige and help.

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