FabSwingers.com forum: Intimidated by hot profiles

By *amson4Delilah OP Couple
over a year ago

ballina

Is anyone else intimidated by hot profiles. I kinda didn't know I was doing it until going through some profiles with Mac & where he would say message them, I find myself making excuses & saying sure they wouldn't go near us anyway. It's like I don't want to risk punching above my weight so to speak, it's that I dont want to be the ugly one in a meeting.

Mac is the most quietly confident man, which is one thing that attracted me to him & I'm still in awe of that trait. He's not one bit bothered about someone saying they are not into him & in that line I don't think I am either or am I? Please tell me I'm not the only one?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You described how most single, respectful guys feel I’d imagine.

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By *ogladyWoman
over a year ago

The bog

I do be like that sometimes as well

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By *ed_AliceWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

I know what you mean. I used to be like that but the worst that can happen is they don't reply or tell me "not interested" and I've found it doesn't actually bother me. I need more than hotness to interest me, so there are many profiles with hot pics that I wouldn't message because there wouldn't be compatibility. But I'll still fab the pictures

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I have been hesitant to message some profiles that I've seen on here as I think they must be getting a load of message and would never be interested in me .But the times I have reached out first usually have led to interesting chats and sometimes even to some great meets and yes a few no's as well but that's okay we are not everyone's type .

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By *ukeM8519Man
over a year ago

Leitrim & Dublin

If I was to message somebody on here I generally look at their verifications if available and see what the people they met with before look like and and their age and base my potential of matching with them from that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tell myself this is why people never message me

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By *oxyvixen99Woman
over a year ago

Newtownabbey

Nah, in the past perhaps but now no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I believe we can fuck anyone on our day. We need to be on it and have intensity we need to want it more than them. They need to be having an off day and we need the bounce of the balls to go our way..but on our day...

Wait shit sorry wrong out of my league speech...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is anyone else intimidated by hot profiles. I kinda didn't know I was doing it until going through some profiles with Mac & where he would say message them, I find myself making excuses & saying sure they wouldn't go near us anyway. It's like I don't want to risk punching above my weight so to speak, it's that I dont want to be the ugly one in a meeting.

After looking at your profile bot sure why you would feel intimidated.

As for me I very rarely message first, and if I get a message and read veris and see other woman they have met , I know whether to reply or not. Personal experience has taught me this.

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By *man79Man
over a year ago

newry dundalk. warrenpoint

Definitely not intimidated But my outlook on this is simple.

Look

If you had

One shot

Or one opportunity

To seize everything you ever wanted

In one moment

Would you capture it

Or just let it slip?

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By *ocketman99Man
over a year ago

fermanagh

I find myself often discovering people I’d like to meet up with because their profiles interest me and their pictures are stunning. Then I read their verifications and sometimes I click on the verifications to compare myself to the guys they’ve met. Upon comparing, I often rule myself out because I would be sure I’d only be wasting their time and I’d be hopelessly punching above my weight.

I’d say a lot of guys are like that and I know we shouldn’t but hey it is what it is!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, they will either like us or they won't. I don't expect everyone on the planet to fancy me or even like me, that's not how it works.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plus there's an awful lot of smoke and mirrors going on here

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

Yes I can be

but then I’m quite shy in rl too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single guy most of the female and couple profiles on here intimidate me

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By *eralt80Man
over a year ago

cork

Yea all the time and not just on fab. But I’m trying to get better. The way I see it, if you message them and they’re not interested so be it. But let it be their choice don’t speak for them in your own head, if that makes sense

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By *amson4Delilah OP Couple
over a year ago

ballina

"Plus there's an awful lot of smoke and mirrors going on here

Lol, thats half the thing, we can all get a good angle for a photo, well I've managed it anyway but I'd hate to "catfish" anyone either & have them be dissapointed with who they meet. Mac on the otherhand looks crap in photos & couldn't be arsed with trying to take a good photo, lol, but would charm the knickers off a nun & is everyone's best mate within an hour.

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By *arajeanCouple
over a year ago

mayo

I would never think some one is above me never judge anyone until sitting chatting face to face. We are who we are if people like us good if not move on nothing personal as not everyone for everyone works both ways

Jean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I definitely do this op

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do be like this as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would feel like you do and my husband sounds like yours. I think most women seem to focus on their “flaws” and then feeling like their not good enough. I’ve been working on that. If anything I feel this site has helped me to boost my self confidence: has helped me to realise I’m not just a mother/wife. I’m a sexy lady: some people like me others don’t. Keep doing you and realise you’re sexier than you realise. MrsC

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By *aint_or_SinnerWoman
over a year ago

South County Dublin

Am I guilty of comparing not only myself in person but also my profile to other women's profiles? Definitely!

Do I have moments of self doubt and thoughts that a certain profile is way hotter, superior to me or my profile, or think that someone who approached me is way out of my league? Definitely!

I think we're all guilty of comparing ourselves to the next woman/man/couple's profile to some extent, some more than others.

What one person deems a "hot" profile may be different to the next person's opinion.

Add the reality factor - they are just virtual profiles until you have the chance to connect in person to put a face, a body, an energy and a connection or lack of connection to it.

I have in the past made contact with profiles which caught my attention for whatever reason, many varied reasons, not necessarily looking to meet with the intention to hook up, but sometimes with that hope too.

Have I been disappointed? Yes - but I've also been pleasantly surprised. You won't know until you take the risk to make contact.

The worst thing to happen is what? For me, this is where regrets come in - nothing ventured, nothing gained!

I don't actually believe in being "in someone's league" or "out of someone's league". When you chat and/or meet, you either click, or you don't, be that as friends, fuck buddies, friends with benefits, a relationship with whatever boundaries you choose - regardless of what you look like or what your profile looks like, regardless of the verifications on that profile, which do what exactly? Mean nothing with the amount of fake verifications, are not necessarily representative of what went down if they are real verification and at the end of the day are not what YOU experienced with that person/people - hence is irrelevant as we all have different chemistry with different people!

You like a particular profile? Go for it - make that contact!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awww yes. And when your like ahh maybe this time it will go well. I'm 90% sure to get a meet if I meet for coffee. But I do not translate to phots for some reason. So it's always a risk. The worst is agreeing to trade face pics, then you send yours and they never reply. Never doesn't hurt...but dose hurt less over time hahaha...(sigh...)

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I don't send first contact messages but when I did I never compared myself to anyone they may have met. I've never been the most confident person but at the same time I don't decide how hot someone is simply by a few pics.

I have always and will always base any decision to chat or not on the person's demeanour in the forums or in their approach.

Yes of course there are taller, fitter, better looking, better hung and younger guys on here than me but I'm not competing with any of them.

I take people as I find them and if chatting is hard work it's usually a sign they aren't really interested so I leave it at that.

Usually you'll find the only person you are competing against is yourself.

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

I apologise to nobody for being this hot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely not intimidated But my outlook on this is simple.

Look

If you had

One shot

Or one opportunity

To seize everything you ever wanted

In one moment

Would you capture it

Or just let it slip?

Or run 8 mile me I prefer 500 miles lol

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By *aint_or_SinnerWoman
over a year ago

South County Dublin

"Definitely not intimidated But my outlook on this is simple.

Look

If you had

One shot

Or one opportunity

To seize everything you ever wanted

In one moment

Would you capture it

Or just let it slip?

Or run 8 mile me I prefer 500 miles lol

500 miles ?! I'd overshoot the target

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

We have a few decent pics because we want to make our shop window as appealing as possible. However, this puts added pressure (on me, not him) to impress in person. But at the end of the day we only want to meet people who like us so I don't worry too much about it. Mrs

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

"I don't send first contact messages but when I did I never compared myself to anyone they may have met. I've never been the most confident person but at the same time I don't decide how hot someone is simply by a few pics.

I have always and will always base any decision to chat or not on the person's demeanour in the forums or in their approach.

Yes of course there are taller, fitter, better looking, better hung and younger guys on here than me but I'm not competing with any of them.

I take people as I find them and if chatting is hard work it's usually a sign they aren't really interested so I leave it at that.

Usually you'll find the only person you are competing against is yourself. "

A wise approach and one we try to take ourselves

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By *rowser79Man
over a year ago

Cork

"I find myself often discovering people I’d like to meet up with because their profiles interest me and their pictures are stunning. Then I read their verifications and sometimes I click on the verifications to compare myself to the guys they’ve met. Upon comparing, I often rule myself out because I would be sure I’d only be wasting their time and I’d be hopelessly punching above my weight.

I’d say a lot of guys are like that and I know we shouldn’t but hey it is what it is! "

I’d be similar to that. With so many single guys on here it’s hard not to feel inadequate at times!

That’s kinda why I’m sticking to the forums for now and enjoying the entertainment here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well if the OP is worried about it then there is a good chance that the couple she finds intimating more than likely has the same problem. Unless they are complete narcissists.

Most people on here of in the real world are worried about how they come across to the other person or persons so they are not actually not thinking about how you may feel insecure.

So go for it OP, Fabs is low risk fun. Try to get over the fear. People looking at your profile maybe be feeling exactly the same!

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By *amson4Delilah OP Couple
over a year ago

ballina

Ye are all 100% on point & my logical brain knows that. To be honest it's just that it smacked me in the face that I put it out there. At our first party recently, I was in awe of how uninhibited the other ladies were & that to me is such a sexy thing. I work with mainly women on a day to day basis & am always banging on about body positivity, yet I suppose it's years of conditioning from societal norms that creep in and self doubt & self worth issues creep in. I love how this Fab experiences is making me look at myself. & thank you all for sharing your perspectives. I know it has helped me in viewing myself & others & hope putting it out there will help others too.

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By *inaandterryCouple
over a year ago

Westmeath

I'm super confident and although I'm not everyone's cup of tea, I'm sure some find me attractive. Tina is the same as the op, she always feels uncomfortable getting naked first time with couples and even the first social she spends days figuring out what to wear. That's why she has a few Dutch courage drinks I suppose.

My biggest hang up, is a size thing but I've come to realise over the years that stamina an personality are equally important in swinging thank god.

Its Funny, the programme naked attraction, how many of those couples apart from the odd one night stand actually end up close?

Ide prefer personality over models any day.

(Ps sexy models with personalities please pm)

Terry

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By *ub23Man
over a year ago

wandering

I’m actually a very shy person but not getting a reply on fab doesn’t seem to bother me! Wouldn’t be here if it did tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not intimidated at all... if like profile will message worst can happen is No and ya put in private notes don't message again. Can't be everyone's cup of tea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely not intimidated But my outlook on this is simple.

Look

If you had

One shot

Or one opportunity

To seize everything you ever wanted

In one moment

Would you capture it

Or just let it slip?

Or run 8 mile me I prefer 500 miles lol

500 miles ?! I'd overshoot the target

But then I walk 500 more Just to be the man who rolls a thousand miles

To fall down at your door

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By *hatCoupleNextDoorCouple
over a year ago

nearby

Know exaxtly what ya mean about being intimidated by other profiles! happens more than would care to admit!!

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By *avana_oh_na_naWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

I think everyone feels a bit like that sometimes OP. For me, I rarely send the first message but I'm a demon for not replying based on looks. If I feel like he wouldnt approach me on a night out, I won't reply. Same with verifications, if theres no ladies that look similar to me, no reply. It's probably silly but it's just where I am right now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some profiles i admire from afar but wouldn't have the balls to message.

Some i have made initial contact with and was delighted i did. It depends how confident im feeling at the time to be honest.

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By *ub23Man
over a year ago

wandering

Maybe a wink would be best ?

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By *aint_or_SinnerWoman
over a year ago

South County Dublin

"Definitely not intimidated But my outlook on this is simple.

Look

If you had

One shot

Or one opportunity

To seize everything you ever wanted

In one moment

Would you capture it

Or just let it slip?

Or run 8 mile me I prefer 500 miles lol

500 miles ?! I'd overshoot the target

But then I walk 500 more Just to be the man who rolls a thousand miles

To fall down at your door

I'll be long gone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely not intimidated But my outlook on this is simple.

Look

If you had

One shot

Or one opportunity

To seize everything you ever wanted

In one moment

Would you capture it

Or just let it slip?

Or run 8 mile me I prefer 500 miles lol

500 miles ?! I'd overshoot the target

But then I walk 500 more Just to be the man who rolls a thousand miles

To fall down at your door

I'll be long gone

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By *aint_or_SinnerWoman
over a year ago

South County Dublin

"Definitely not intimidated But my outlook on this is simple.

Look

If you had

One shot

Or one opportunity

To seize everything you ever wanted

In one moment

Would you capture it

Or just let it slip?

Or run 8 mile me I prefer 500 miles lol

500 miles ?! I'd overshoot the target

But then I walk 500 more Just to be the man who rolls a thousand miles

To fall down at your door

I'll be long gone

You'll have to walk even more and go on a magical mystery tour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As for me I very rarely message first, and if I get a message and read veris and see other woman they have met , I know whether to reply or not. Personal experience has taught me this."

This is me too..i look at the photos of who they meet and then run along to hopefully guys who like my body type..

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

used to be like that but now i dont really mind. they can either say yes or no. Not everyone is gonna like me and want to shag. Its all good

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"Maybe a wink would be best ?"

Did you mean wank?

Both could work?

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

"Maybe a wink would be best ?

Did you mean wank?

Both could work?

a winky wank. that sounds wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As for me I very rarely message first, and if I get a message and read veris and see other woman they have met , I know whether to reply or not. Personal experience has taught me this.

This is me too..i look at the photos of who they meet and then run along to hopefully guys who like my body type..

Well I.for one hope our paths finally cross

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely not intimidated But my outlook on this is simple.

Look

If you had

One shot

Or one opportunity

To seize everything you ever wanted

In one moment

Would you capture it

Or just let it slip?

Or run 8 mile me I prefer 500 miles lol

500 miles ?! I'd overshoot the target

But then I walk 500 more Just to be the man who rolls a thousand miles

To fall down at your door

I'll be long gone

You'll have to walk even more and go on a magical mystery tour

Sounds Intriguing

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By *inxnmasterCouple
over a year ago

naughty valley

OP, we hear you , it’s for us the same, browsing and perving thru hot galleries and then shyly send a wink . Sometimes we are bold enough and Toni strings up a few sentences to make a first contact . But then again , we are all here with our very individual traits , some of those you can’t reflect in a picture , like a good sense of humor or a smile or a sparkle in the eyes which makes you forget any flaw . And we all are here at times more worried about our flaws than with our true treasures in a decadent world of shallowness. Sometimes we don’t know our true treasures ourself . So we turned to an approach where we want to give anyone we are interested in the opportunity to get interested in us by contacting them . The refusal is already guaranteed when not contacting them . An arrow never shot will always miss the target

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"Maybe a wink would be best ?

Did you mean wank?

Both could work?

a winky wank. that sounds wrong "

Just like Pot Noodle

The best things in life always sound wrong!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is my thinking ALL THE TIME.. I really shouldn't wait for guys to message to show interest. Could be missing out on someone great!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i first joined i was intimidated by hot profiles, some had fantastic photos or just their whole profile was very good. I still think some members profiles are great but I'm not intimidated by them. I just message now and if i get a reply, if not it doesn't bother me.

It's just fab and all that goes with it..

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By *yeCandyDublinCouple
over a year ago

Lucan

Definitely in the beginning of our swinging adventure I would have been (Mrs - as I look after our fab account) intimidated/nervous wreck messaging anyone .. …but what we both realised early on is that not everyone actually looks like their profile pics when you meet them in person….great photos on a profile don’t always mean that the person(s) behind the photos are attractive in person!!! Sometimes yes it works out and they are hot as f..k, but more importantly for us regardless of profile photos…if there’s no connection, sense of humour and wit then it wouldn’t matter how fabulous they look on their profile as we would have no interest.

Fab has given me over time, an inner confidence and I’m braver now and message if a profile catches my attention. Don’t be put off by “the hot or heavily verified profiles”…either they will like you or they won’t, if they don’t then it’s their loss and move on

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

I always assumed that the reason no one messages me first is because they’re intimated by my hotness

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By *unlovingcouplehereCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

OP that is me all the time. Just not brave enough to send the first message to couples and only a little brave to single guys. Himself is of the opinion that if someone likes us they like us so what if we’re not for them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP that is me all the time. Just not brave enough to send the first message to couples and only a little brave to single guys. Himself is of the opinion that if someone likes us they like us so what if we’re not for them"

Go for it

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway

I think we all experience it. At this stage, I try not to look at profiles of people who have verified guys I’m interested in so that I won’t compare myself. While I will very rarely message a guy first, sometimes I’ll wink and see if they respond. Less commitment that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am for sure, although perhaps less than when we first joined. Especially as a big woman. I try not to be and, perhaps oddly, I'm pretty confident and not particularly self conscious in the bedroom, but God do I put myself through the wringer sometimes with worry and self-doubt. I'm a work in progress I guess but also I've no problem when I get a refusal because not everyone is attracted to the same things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As much as I don't like using the term I must admit I know that I've met and spoken to people that I would consider 'out of my league'

That's not self-deprecation I think at some point, on some level, in our lives we've all been guilty of feeling that way!

However to get to that point, to meet people far too good for me

, shows that there's more to any person than just their physical appearance. So just be you, Ohpee, and you'll always attract those best suited to you on every level!

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By *atherjackhackettMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

My own profile intimidates me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely not intimidated But my outlook on this is simple.

Look

If you had

One shot

Or one opportunity

To seize everything you ever wanted

In one moment

Would you capture it

Or just let it slip?

Do not miss the chance to blow, opportunity comes once in a lifetime

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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago

South Dublin Area

"Definitely in the beginning of our swinging adventure I would have been (Mrs - as I look after our fab account) intimidated/nervous wreck messaging anyone .. …but what we both realised early on is that not everyone actually looks like their profile pics when you meet them in person….great photos on a profile don’t always mean that the person(s) behind the photos are attractive in person!!! Sometimes yes it works out and they are hot as f..k, but more importantly for us regardless of profile photos…if there’s no connection, sense of humour and wit then it wouldn’t matter how fabulous they look on their profile as we would have no interest.

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I love this, two legends you are and exactly like your pics..love the positivity and great to see what the scene has done for you but more importantly the soundest pair on here. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always assumed that the reason no one messages me first is because they’re intimated by my hotness "

yeah

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By *1n_eaterMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Nope can't say I'm intimidating by any profile on here, and I like to think I'm approachable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I.for one hope our paths finally cross

Blush

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

Ah bollix, all sorts of mad hoors message me so I'm guessing they're not intimidated by my profile? Feck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think for a single guy ..if...now IF he knows..without being arrogant now...but if he knows that if it gets to "game on " time and he has the equipment and confidence to do the bizz he wont be one bit intimidated but thats only my tuppence worth...of course even if he has that confidence he still has to work on getting to game on time so maybe if he cant stimulate her mind to want to go to "game on " its futile wether he has the other qualities...so its a delicately balanced situation..because if she doesnt see anything to attract her to him its " game isnt even gonna start " time ...but as ld always think..let the other person decide its not gonna happen...regardless of how you think you'd feel..." a faint heart never won a fair lady "...whats the worst that can happen ??? She says no ?...

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By *yeCandyDublinCouple
over a year ago

Lucan

I love this, two legends you are and exactly like your pics..love the positivity and great to see what the scene has done for you but more importantly the soundest pair on here. Xxx"

Back at you guys xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a bit like imposter syndrome OP i think, I get that. Where you wonder if you are good enough. It can be a bit paralysing. I rarely message first, but if I do I just read the veris (without checking the profile that gave them) & read the profile details and if it looks good ill send a short message just to say hi, & whatever drew my attention. Its hard to know what to say even

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I guilty of comparing not only myself in person but also my profile to other women's profiles? Definitely!

Do I have moments of self doubt and thoughts that a certain profile is way hotter, superior to me or my profile, or think that someone who approached me is way out of my league? Definitely!

I think we're all guilty of comparing ourselves to the next woman/man/couple's profile to some extent, some more than others.

What one person deems a "hot" profile may be different to the next person's opinion.

Add the reality factor - they are just virtual profiles until you have the chance to connect in person to put a face, a body, an energy and a connection or lack of connection to it.

Have I been disappointed? Yes - but I've also been pleasantly surprised. You won't know until you take the risk to make contact.

The worst thing to happen is what? For me, this is where regrets come in - nothing ventured, nothing gained!

You like a particular profile? Go for it - make that contact!

I just gotta use a quote from my favourite movie BRAVEHEART here..." Fine speech..now what do we do ?"..."lm gonna pick a fight "..." well...we didnt get dressed up for nothing "...no seriously Vee...you hit the nail spot on ..if ya like a profile...go for it..like l said somewhere else...whats the worst they can do ...say no ???

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

To quote the young wans ...

YOLO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To quote the young wans ...

YOLO

Exactly

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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago

South Dublin Area

"To quote the young wans ...

YOLO

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Spot on xx

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

Surprised those Eminem lyrics didn’t feature more heavily in the lyrics thread. They’re amongst the best . Have listened to them

Before many an important moment . Most recently a coffee with rubadubdub

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surprised at the amount of people that feel like this.

David

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

"Surprised at the amount of people that feel like this.

David "

Why so

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

"Surprised those Eminem lyrics didn’t feature more heavily in the lyrics thread. They’re amongst the best . Have listened to them

Before many an important moment . Most recently a coffee with rubadubdub "

I just imagine myself on my death bed with no regrets and a lil' smirk on my face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We did find this but over time we became a lot more comfortable and it doesnt bother us if we are not for everyone. But I totally understand what you mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm exactly like that. Sometimes people on here can make you feel like nothing

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

"I'm exactly like that. Sometimes people on here can make you feel like nothing "

It’s up to you to manage the feeling . If you know yourself to be sound , then it’s their loss surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People overthink things. We are all guilty of it and have ourselves talked out of many things before we even take any action. It's human nature.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm exactly like that. Sometimes people on here can make you feel like nothing

It’s up to you to manage the feeling . If you know yourself to be sound , then it’s their loss surely? "

Sometimes easier said than done.

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By *eijaWoman
over a year ago

City Centre

Carpe Diem is our motto...you only live once OP

I definitely think that with experience you deal with things better for sure!

B x

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By *enuinecpl101Couple
over a year ago

Co armagh

These so called hot profiles that you feel intimated by do you ever look at their verifications xx

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

Everyone commenting on this are the hot profiles the rest of us are intimated by…..

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

I have done this and then being totally shocked when they mail and ask when are we going to fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have done this and then being totally shocked when they mail and ask when are we going to fuck

And you still didn't answer

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By *ouple 0073Couple
over a year ago

donegal

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"I have done this and then being totally shocked when they mail and ask when are we going to fuck

And you still didn't answer

I am not foolish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh definitely.. There's some smoking hot profiles on here who I'd love to get to know, but there's always that small 'what if' voice in the back of my head that would stop me reaching out..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Surprised at the amount of people that feel like this.

David

Why so"

Why would people not have an open mind?

Is it not really shallow to base an opinion just on a picture??

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

"Surprised at the amount of people that feel like this.

David

Why so

Why would people not have an open mind?

Is it not really shallow to base an opinion just on a picture?? "

I dont think so no

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Surprised at the amount of people that feel like this.

David

Why so

Why would people not have an open mind?

Is it not really shallow to base an opinion just on a picture?? "

What's shallow about having low self esteem?

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By *ardyboy54321Man
over a year ago

Fermanagh

I'd have no problem messaging. Nothing ventured nothing gained

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd have no problem messaging. Nothing ventured nothing gained

exactly, you're no worse off if they aren’t interested

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By *ardyboy54321Man
over a year ago

Fermanagh

"I'd have no problem messaging. Nothing ventured nothing gained

exactly, you're no worse off if they aren’t interested"
ya haven't opened mine yet lol get the finger out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd have no problem messaging. Nothing ventured nothing gained

exactly, you're no worse off if they aren’t interested ya haven't opened mine yet lol get the finger out

I'm almost afraid to

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"I'd have no problem messaging. Nothing ventured nothing gained

exactly, you're no worse off if they aren’t interested ya haven't opened mine yet lol get the finger out

I'm almost afraid to

Afraid to take the finger

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By *ardyboy54321Man
over a year ago

Fermanagh

"I'd have no problem messaging. Nothing ventured nothing gained

exactly, you're no worse off if they aren’t interested ya haven't opened mine yet lol get the finger out

I'm almost afraid to

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just cover your eyes you'll be grand

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By *yeswideshuT18Couple
over a year ago

Hillsborough

Yes absolutely.

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By *onedbodMan
over a year ago

co Galway

Wouldn't be intimidated whatsoever! Some might have smoking hot pics but then have the personality of an ashtray! I doubt when they crap it smells of roses either! So never be intimated cause everyone has something amazing about them be it personality, a great friend, lover, etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting reading,

I think for me anyhow I tend to focus more on the nasty messages (fat etc )

And maybe that stops me reaching out to the profiles that really catch my eye

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

"Interesting reading,

I think for me anyhow I tend to focus more on the nasty messages (fat etc )

And maybe that stops me reaching out to the profiles that really catch my eye

The nasty messages say far more about them than it does about you. It clearly makes them feel a bit better about themselves to put others down. Just block, shake it off and move on.

It's really telling that couples don't get the same abuse. They seem to be put off when it's a two against one scenario, the cowards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interesting reading,

I think for me anyhow I tend to focus more on the nasty messages (fat etc )

And maybe that stops me reaching out to the profiles that really catch my eye

Gotta love them ones,

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Interesting reading,

I think for me anyhow I tend to focus more on the nasty messages (fat etc )

And maybe that stops me reaching out to the profiles that really catch my eye

The nasty messages say far more about them than it does about you. It clearly makes them feel a bit better about themselves to put others down. Just block, shake it off and move on.

It's really telling that couples don't get the same abuse. They seem to be put off when it's a two against one scenario, the cowards

And sometimes that works in reverse. The only abusive messages I have ever received in 4 years have been from couples who contacted me, listed their demands and became abusive when I referred them to my profile or asked if the doormat approach usually worked for them?

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

"Interesting reading,

I think for me anyhow I tend to focus more on the nasty messages (fat etc )

And maybe that stops me reaching out to the profiles that really catch my eye

The nasty messages say far more about them than it does about you. It clearly makes them feel a bit better about themselves to put others down. Just block, shake it off and move on.

It's really telling that couples don't get the same abuse. They seem to be put off when it's a two against one scenario, the cowards

Yes, the guys aren't treated very well either sometimes. The couples seem to get the easiest 'ride' here

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

"Interesting reading,

I think for me anyhow I tend to focus more on the nasty messages (fat etc )

And maybe that stops me reaching out to the profiles that really catch my eye

The nasty messages say far more about them than it does about you. It clearly makes them feel a bit better about themselves to put others down. Just block, shake it off and move on.

It's really telling that couples don't get the same abuse. They seem to be put off when it's a two against one scenario, the cowards

Yes, the guys aren't treated very well either sometimes. The couples seem to get the easiest 'ride' here

At least ye are getting a ride

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

"Interesting reading,

I think for me anyhow I tend to focus more on the nasty messages (fat etc )

And maybe that stops me reaching out to the profiles that really catch my eye

The nasty messages say far more about them than it does about you. It clearly makes them feel a bit better about themselves to put others down. Just block, shake it off and move on.

It's really telling that couples don't get the same abuse. They seem to be put off when it's a two against one scenario, the cowards

Yes, the guys aren't treated very well either sometimes. The couples seem to get the easiest 'ride' here

Probably in the grand scheme of things. We used to get some right whoppers though. They seemed to stop when we through up a few pics of himself though.

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

"Interesting reading,

I think for me anyhow I tend to focus more on the nasty messages (fat etc )

And maybe that stops me reaching out to the profiles that really catch my eye

The nasty messages say far more about them than it does about you. It clearly makes them feel a bit better about themselves to put others down. Just block, shake it off and move on.

It's really telling that couples don't get the same abuse. They seem to be put off when it's a two against one scenario, the cowards

Yes, the guys aren't treated very well either sometimes. The couples seem to get the easiest 'ride' here

Probably in the grand scheme of things. We used to get some right whoppers though. They seemed to stop when we through up a few pics of himself though. "

threw not through. ugh

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By *iver80Man
over a year ago

south side ,

Very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely for me

There are a few people I take a glance at and like, yup, she is waaaaaaay out of my league so I dont send anything. I read profiles and if have something in common maybe I'd take a chance but it's quite rare. Just dont see the point in wasting their time

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

Why would you be intimidated by a so-called hot profile; we all have to start this journey of discovery, development and debauchery at some point!

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By *ancylaceloverTV/TS
over a year ago

Limerick

Its getting a message from a hot profile, that gives me terrible anxiety . I recently got a message and invite from a very sexy good looking couple. Luckily I couldn't take the invite for work reasons

In saying all this, I dont mean to disparage any of my previous meets, they all beautiful people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeap ... every time I log in here I think... who am I kidding I haven't a hope. Its just the way it goes I guess. Probably not a healthy way of thinking but sometimes you get a little surprise

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Have to be honest I felt more intimidated by the male profiles on here that by any hot couple or women

Some of the men ( even on this thread ) have great profiles and bodies and I just wanted to give up before I even started

Then I realised Im not in a competition with them anyway so didn't feel intimidated anymore

The men never said anything to me and in fact I get on with most of them so it was just in my head

I can't believe some of the people on this thread feel intimidated....ye are all rides....

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"Oh definitely.. There's some smoking hot profiles on here who I'd love to get to know, but there's always that small 'what if' voice in the back of my head that would stop me reaching out.. "

What is the “what if” voice saying?

What if they don’t reply if I reach out or what if they do reply?

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"Yeap ... every time I log in here I think... who am I kidding I haven't a hope. Its just the way it goes I guess. Probably not a healthy way of thinking but sometimes you get a little surprise"

Because a surprise is always better that disappointment…..

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