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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Question for the singles... How long has it been?

Are u on the hunt or a happy lone wolf?

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By *angtasticallyMan
over a year ago

Drogheda

Good question I suppose it depends on the road you came from for me anyways

Be a lone wolf has is plus but I surpose have a loyal companion for company can also be very good to.

Its hard when u actually taste that new found freedom

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Good question I suppose it depends on the road you came from for me anyways

Be a lone wolf has is plus but I surpose have a loyal companion for company can also be very good to.

Its hard when u actually taste that new found freedom "

Best of both worlds would be ideal, wouldn't it?

I suppose this place can offer elements of that...at least physical side. With right partner in crime of course!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Question for the singles... How long has it been?

Are u on the hunt or a happy lone wolf?

"

If you meet the right person you connect with in every way here...do yourself a HUGE favour and DO NOT let him/her go...because believe me you will regret it...because the price you pay for not following your heart is having to live with it for the rest of your life..DO NOT think you want to be the " Cock of the Walk " and think you can go around screwing who you like when you like when you should be with THE one you should be with because she truly wants to be with you....because if she moves on...she will never return..you know shes the Diamond...treat her like so...NEVER let her go...

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I'm not interested in a conventional relationship.and haven't been in one for a long time now well over 15 years.

It's why fab has suited me and I haven't gone on dating sites. I like having my own space and cannot see myself ever living with anyone again.

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By *lassy lady 216Woman
over a year ago

Craigavon

I'm loving being single can do what you want when you want noone to answer to highly recommend it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im happy out being single currently. Ive found I dont believe in 'the one', mate for life, or monogamy.

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By *aa KaliWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Second that lady ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just over two years. Happy out though sometimes miss the good bits. Dont miss the shit though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Relationship wise last one was 1998

As for sex it's been a long 7 months

Do I want a relationship, I so long single i don't think I could do one full time

But the odd weekend here and there, a night away every now and than and a bit of hot sex thrown in the middle would do me.

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

7 years or so. I love my independence and space and living on my own. A relationship I'd be willing to get into would need to be non-monogamous and one were we would be unlikely to live together so for guys my age pickings are slim in that area.

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By *olourpurpleMan
over a year ago

Waterford

About three years at this stage. There’s definitely some things you’d miss about it but the freedom and space you getting going solo is very nice.

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick


"Question for the singles... How long has it been?

Are u on the hunt or a happy lone wolf?

"

I would imagine for singles who have been on Fab a long time that while it may be great to get into a relationship outside of Fab, it would be difficult to maintain monogamy in the long term?

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"Question for the singles... How long has it been?

Are u on the hunt or a happy lone wolf?

I would imagine for singles who have been on Fab a long time that while it may be great to get into a relationship outside of Fab, it would be difficult to maintain monogamy in the long term?"

I doubt that's true if I'm honest. I don't see why it should be any different from anyone else getting into a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nearly 5 years I was long enough trying to get away from my husband that I'm delighted to be single and do whatever I want to. So my forties has being my favorite decade of life because I'm very much single!

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By *ysticalWoman
over a year ago

north wexford

Love my independence but do miss the cuddles and kissing.for a relationship don't think I could ever been in a vanilla relationship again.

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By *uckoldDesiresMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Would gladly have a relationship but only with that elusive cuckoldress I seek

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By *urfdudeMan
over a year ago

WEXFORD

One year and happy being independent and single, If a relationship is godd everything is great, If its bad time to get out. Have needs though and like like-minded people for drama free fun

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By *eanbelfastMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Been single since the day before New Year’s Eve and then came on here again as a friend was seeing in New Years in the Irish chat room. Like a lot I love my independence but it’s funny the things you miss and you don’t just mean sex. Love kissing and think people don’t spend enough time with it thinking it’s a means to an end when it can be a while adventure by itself. Also miss that infancy, holding someone close or lying in bed, her head on your chest stroking her hair and back and just talking. Fab is great in different ways but I still need a chemistry and connection with someone even on here.

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By *rowser79Man
over a year ago

Cork

Single just over a year and a half now. Just before the first lockdown so timing wasn’t ideal. Quite happy being single at the moment and getting back to the person I was before my last relationship drained it out of me.

With things opening up again now I’m finding there’s some adjusting to do. Most of my friends are all settled so there’s times when I want to do things but there’s nobody to do them with. So I just went off and booked a holiday for myself instead

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Question for the singles... How long has it been?

Are u on the hunt or a happy lone wolf?

I would imagine for singles who have been on Fab a long time that while it may be great to get into a relationship outside of Fab, it would be difficult to maintain monogamy in the long term?"

Disagree personally! I'm definitely monogamous but I'd have no issue being on the kink or swing scene with my partner, attending parties etc. You don't have to be non monogamous to be kinky.

I'm also not looking for a relationship "outside of Fab" - the ideal would be to meet someone through Fab, so we're on the same page.

I've been single 5 years, and it's 2 months since my last ride

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single just over a year and a half now. Just before the first lockdown so timing wasn’t ideal. Quite happy being single at the moment and getting back to the person I was before my last relationship drained it out of me.

With things opening up again now I’m finding there’s some adjusting to do. Most of my friends are all settled so there’s times when I want to do things but there’s nobody to do them with. So I just went off and booked a holiday for myself instead "

Fair play on booking the holiday. The year before covid I had started to do a wee bit of travel alone hoping to get back to it later in the year

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since October for me, now we’re out of lockdown though I’m enjoying the single life for now, whether with FWB or others I’ve met on here or other sites/apps

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"Been single since the day before New Year’s Eve and then came on here again as a friend was seeing in New Years in the Irish chat room. Like a lot I love my independence but it’s funny the things you miss and you don’t just mean sex. Love kissing and think people don’t spend enough time with it thinking it’s a means to an end when it can be a while adventure by itself. Also miss that infancy, holding someone close or lying in bed, her head on your chest stroking her hair and back and just talking. Fab is great in different ways but I still need a chemistry and connection with someone even on here. "

You can get that with people on here it's not always about just sex .And I know I need chemistry and connection with someone before I will shag anyone I meet off here. Without both then I find the sex is just meh anyhow and pointless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been single since the day before New Year’s Eve and then came on here again as a friend was seeing in New Years in the Irish chat room. Like a lot I love my independence but it’s funny the things you miss and you don’t just mean sex. Love kissing and think people don’t spend enough time with it thinking it’s a means to an end when it can be a while adventure by itself. Also miss that infancy, holding someone close or lying in bed, her head on your chest stroking her hair and back and just talking. Fab is great in different ways but I still need a chemistry and connection with someone even on here.

You can get that with people on here it's not always about just sex .And I know I need chemistry and connection with someone before I will shag anyone I meet off here. Without both then I find the sex is just meh anyhow and pointless."

I'm the same Bo definitely need chemistry with a guy , that cold sex isn't worth the effort

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick


"Been single since the day before New Year’s Eve and then came on here again as a friend was seeing in New Years in the Irish chat room. Like a lot I love my independence but it’s funny the things you miss and you don’t just mean sex. Love kissing and think people don’t spend enough time with it thinking it’s a means to an end when it can be a while adventure by itself. Also miss that infancy, holding someone close or lying in bed, her head on your chest stroking her hair and back and just talking. Fab is great in different ways but I still need a chemistry and connection with someone even on here.

You can get that with people on here it's not always about just sex .And I know I need chemistry and connection with someone before I will shag anyone I meet off here. Without both then I find the sex is just meh anyhow and pointless.

I'm the same Bo definitely need chemistry with a guy , that cold sex isn't worth the effort"

It's one of the biggest mistakes some guys make, because they don't understand women. I agree with you both. Mrs

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By *eanbelfastMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"Been single since the day before New Year’s Eve and then came on here again as a friend was seeing in New Years in the Irish chat room. Like a lot I love my independence but it’s funny the things you miss and you don’t just mean sex. Love kissing and think people don’t spend enough time with it thinking it’s a means to an end when it can be a while adventure by itself. Also miss that infancy, holding someone close or lying in bed, her head on your chest stroking her hair and back and just talking. Fab is great in different ways but I still need a chemistry and connection with someone even on here.

You can get that with people on here it's not always about just sex .And I know I need chemistry and connection with someone before I will shag anyone I meet off here. Without both then I find the sex is just meh anyhow and pointless.

I'm the same Bo definitely need chemistry with a guy , that cold sex isn't worth the effort

It's one of the biggest mistakes some guys make, because they don't understand women. I agree with you both. Mrs "

You all hit the nail on the head. Fab is different things to different people and it’s up to each of us to enjoy it. I want the chemistry and connection, the spark and build up to an amazing time and others may want to keep it cold, each to their own.

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Been single since the day before New Year’s Eve and then came on here again as a friend was seeing in New Years in the Irish chat room. Like a lot I love my independence but it’s funny the things you miss and you don’t just mean sex. Love kissing and think people don’t spend enough time with it thinking it’s a means to an end when it can be a while adventure by itself. Also miss that infancy, holding someone close or lying in bed, her head on your chest stroking her hair and back and just talking. Fab is great in different ways but I still need a chemistry and connection with someone even on here.

You can get that with people on here it's not always about just sex .And I know I need chemistry and connection with someone before I will shag anyone I meet off here. Without both then I find the sex is just meh anyhow and pointless.

I'm the same Bo definitely need chemistry with a guy , that cold sex isn't worth the effort

It's one of the biggest mistakes some guys make, because they don't understand women. I agree with you both. Mrs

You all hit the nail on the head. Fab is different things to different people and it’s up to each of us to enjoy it. I want the chemistry and connection, the spark and build up to an amazing time and others may want to keep it cold, each to their own. "

I also need the chemistry and connection but I know myself well enough to know that if I have that, I'm likely to want more. So it's really tricky to navigate that with someone who only wants casual!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Going on over 5 years... single life I have enjoyed in Fab and real life as I now like myself again and this is me no intention of changing.....

Not closed to meeting someone actually look forward to it as they will be one amazing (and cracked in head) person to change my status from single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been single since the day before New Year’s Eve and then came on here again as a friend was seeing in New Years in the Irish chat room. Like a lot I love my independence but it’s funny the things you miss and you don’t just mean sex. Love kissing and think people don’t spend enough time with it thinking it’s a means to an end when it can be a while adventure by itself. Also miss that infancy, holding someone close or lying in bed, her head on your chest stroking her hair and back and just talking. Fab is great in different ways but I still need a chemistry and connection with someone even on here.

You can get that with people on here it's not always about just sex .And I know I need chemistry and connection with someone before I will shag anyone I meet off here. Without both then I find the sex is just meh anyhow and pointless.

I'm the same Bo definitely need chemistry with a guy , that cold sex isn't worth the effort"

Agreed, and ive had some lovely lovely cuddles, giggles and no-sex times with friends ive met here. Those times go beyond the physical need, and meet my need for intimacy and connection and feeling valued as a person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been single since the day before New Year’s Eve and then came on here again as a friend was seeing in New Years in the Irish chat room. Like a lot I love my independence but it’s funny the things you miss and you don’t just mean sex. Love kissing and think people don’t spend enough time with it thinking it’s a means to an end when it can be a while adventure by itself. Also miss that infancy, holding someone close or lying in bed, her head on your chest stroking her hair and back and just talking. Fab is great in different ways but I still need a chemistry and connection with someone even on here.

You can get that with people on here it's not always about just sex .And I know I need chemistry and connection with someone before I will shag anyone I meet off here. Without both then I find the sex is just meh anyhow and pointless.

I'm the same Bo definitely need chemistry with a guy , that cold sex isn't worth the effort

Agreed, and ive had some lovely lovely cuddles, giggles and no-sex times with friends ive met here. Those times go beyond the physical need, and meet my need for intimacy and connection and feeling valued as a person.

"

Cant beat a good hug or cuddle or a snuggle

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By *ed_AliceWoman
over a year ago

Belfast


"Been single since the day before New Year’s Eve and then came on here again as a friend was seeing in New Years in the Irish chat room. Like a lot I love my independence but it’s funny the things you miss and you don’t just mean sex. Love kissing and think people don’t spend enough time with it thinking it’s a means to an end when it can be a while adventure by itself. Also miss that infancy, holding someone close or lying in bed, her head on your chest stroking her hair and back and just talking. Fab is great in different ways but I still need a chemistry and connection with someone even on here.

You can get that with people on here it's not always about just sex .And I know I need chemistry and connection with someone before I will shag anyone I meet off here. Without both then I find the sex is just meh anyhow and pointless.

I'm the same Bo definitely need chemistry with a guy , that cold sex isn't worth the effort

Agreed, and ive had some lovely lovely cuddles, giggles and no-sex times with friends ive met here. Those times go beyond the physical need, and meet my need for intimacy and connection and feeling valued as a person.

"

Just to chime in that I'm in a similar boat. Just because I want ethically non-monogamous partnerships & can't see me ever living with someone again doesn't mean I'm not seeking intimacy & friendship from people I meet.

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By *onedbodMan
over a year ago

co Galway

Single and enjoying the peace and tranquillity! Wouldn't rule out a relationship if met a female connected with personality wise.

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By *ubeMan
over a year ago

Drogheda

For me it's a few years now I'm single, I'm happy out so can't complain, as for sex I had a friend stay over last weekend but before that it was about 8 months, but you get used to being alone and doing what ever you want when ever you want, a good kiss and cuddle every now and then would be nice too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Can be hard to communicate wanting affection, intimacy and connection to some men here without red flags being assumed! I want someone in my bed when free time and life allows, not someone to share the rest of it with.. The best of both worlds can be attained if the assumptions were put aside.. Just another type of judgement I've experienced regularly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

NSA is a term that think kinda hard to achieve as when ya crave intimacy and affection then feelings do become apparent... more apparent when havin regular fun with someone....

and ya can be straight upfront but guarantee someone is going to think more about whats going on than the other...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *rowser79Man
over a year ago

Cork


"Single just over a year and a half now. Just before the first lockdown so timing wasn’t ideal. Quite happy being single at the moment and getting back to the person I was before my last relationship drained it out of me.

With things opening up again now I’m finding there’s some adjusting to do. Most of my friends are all settled so there’s times when I want to do things but there’s nobody to do them with. So I just went off and booked a holiday for myself instead

Fair play on booking the holiday. The year before covid I had started to do a wee bit of travel alone hoping to get back to it later in the year"

Travelling alone was actually the one thing I was most excited about when my last relationship ended. Unfortunately the world had other plans. Hoping this short trip away will get the ball rolling for more solo travels.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"NSA is a term that think kinda hard to achieve as when ya crave intimacy and affection then feelings do become apparent... more apparent when havin regular fun with someone....

and ya can be straight upfront but guarantee someone is going to think more about whats going on than the other...

"

I have to disagree. I feel that is a common misconception and many people can separate the two. I've been meeting a guy from here for almost 3 years and there's no feelings there on either side. Is the sex great, yes.. Do I want more, no.. Does he, nope..

I think many people (not all) partaking in "swinging" lifestyle (or casual sex if single and here) can make that divide.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did I say its impossible, I said it's hard ... Well done in finding it and think most be jealous of it but say majority of time doesn't work out that way

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"

Just to chime in that I'm in a similar boat. Just because I want ethically non-monogamous partnerships & can't see me ever living with someone again doesn't mean I'm not seeking intimacy & friendship from people I meet. "

This pretty much sums up exactly exactly why I joined fab and I've been lucky to find on here as well.

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By *ed_AliceWoman
over a year ago

Belfast


"NSA is a term that think kinda hard to achieve as when ya crave intimacy and affection then feelings do become apparent... more apparent when havin regular fun with someone....

and ya can be straight upfront but guarantee someone is going to think more about whats going on than the other...

I have to disagree. I feel that is a common misconception and many people can separate the two. I've been meeting a guy from here for almost 3 years and there's no feelings there on either side. Is the sex great, yes.. Do I want more, no.. Does he, nope..

I think many people (not all) partaking in "swinging" lifestyle (or casual sex if single and here) can make that divide. "

I'm with you, been meeting someone regularly for many years. I consider him a mate, so there's 'feelings' to that extent, but neither of us are interested in escalating beyond what it is.

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By *ogladyWoman
over a year ago

The bog

I'm single about 20 years now..altho I do love being able to do and go where I want there are also times when I miss the little things like just chilling with someone doing normal stuff etc..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm single about 20 years now..altho I do love being able to do and go where I want there are also times when I miss the little things like just chilling with someone doing normal stuff etc.."

That's why ya have 3 husbands

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By *cottybear74Man
over a year ago

kilkenny

At the moment no hunting.... But I'm coping well ish kinda

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By *he English OneMan
over a year ago

west


"Question for the singles... How long has it been?

Are u on the hunt or a happy lone wolf?

"

I'm not really looking for a relationship although saying that a certain special someone could easily change my mind

I've been single for 2 years being honest I'm actually happy with it at the moment when it comes to the bedroom would over a year be considered a long time story of my life really

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

I've stopped counting the months

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single more than ten years, love my life a d my solitude. Couldnt stand 24/7 with a partner anymore. Id say im the perfect girlfriend, doesnt phone ya non stop, never asks ya where you were, doesnt want to see you every night, isnt jealous

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By *aint_or_SinnerWoman
over a year ago

South County Dublin


"Good question I suppose it depends on the road you came from for me anyways

Be a lone wolf has is plus but I surpose have a loyal companion for company can also be very good to.

Its hard when u actually taste that new found freedom "

Does a relationship mean losing your freedom? Doesn't it depend entirely on the person you're in a relationship with? Do they respect your space, your boundaries, your right to some "me time"? Does a relationship necessarily entail living together?

I'm separated over 3 years after a lifetime with one man and it nearly broke me not being able to make it work, have had a couple of short term relationships since, one which broke my heart.

Am I lonely? Yes, at times. I miss the intimacy of a loving relationship, being able to spend time with a special someone, be that hot, passionate love making, a quickie in the car, sitting in front of the fire watching a movie, going to a gig or the cinema, even having that squabble about who's turn it is to put the bin out...

Being in a relationship doesn't mean living together. It can be had living in separate households, no matter your age. Being in a relationship doesn't mean losing any freedoms, it's about being supportive of another person you care for and receiving that support in return, it's about sharing the good, the bad and the indifferent times in life, while boundaries and personal time is respected without jealousy by the other half. This can only be established over time with open, honest communication. Me times and me hobbies are partly what add topics of conversation to a relationship so it doesn't go stale.

If you feel you are giving up "freedoms" in a relationship, you're in the wrong relationship!

However, being in a loving relationship, does come with an aspect of "selflessness" as give and take goes both ways. And if you are committed to a relationship, be that monogamous or not, there is the need for that selflessness to look out for each other through not only the good times, but also the bad times... and it does take effort, dedication, honesty and communication to get through times...if that means you feel you are losing freedoms, then relationships are maybe not for you (I mean "you" as in any single person out there, rather than you specifically)...

We get older and more set in our ways, less tolerant of other people's behaviour, particularly if we've had relationships gone wrong, where we learned a thing or two about our own boundaries.

Now, that is - if this post is about relationships rather than sex, which, as a single person, might be more scarce in the times we live in compared to those in well working established relationships

The man for the relationship has to be the right man...but the man for NSA sex - also has to be the right man...one isn't necessarily equal to the other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good question I suppose it depends on the road you came from for me anyways

Be a lone wolf has is plus but I surpose have a loyal companion for company can also be very good to.

Its hard when u actually taste that new found freedom

Does a relationship mean losing your freedom? Doesn't it depend entirely on the person you're in a relationship with? Do they respect your space, your boundaries, your right to some "me time"? Does a relationship necessarily entail living together?

I'm separated over 3 years after a lifetime with one man and it nearly broke me not being able to make it work, have had a couple of short term relationships since, one which broke my heart.

Am I lonely? Yes, at times. I miss the intimacy of a loving relationship, being able to spend time with a special someone, be that hot, passionate love making, a quickie in the car, sitting in front of the fire watching a movie, going to a gig or the cinema, even having that squabble about who's turn it is to put the bin out...

Being in a relationship doesn't mean living together. It can be had living in separate households, no matter your age. Being in a relationship doesn't mean losing any freedoms, it's about being supportive of another person you care for and receiving that support in return, it's about sharing the good, the bad and the indifferent times in life, while boundaries and personal time is respected without jealousy by the other half. This can only be established over time with open, honest communication. Me times and me hobbies are partly what add topics of conversation to a relationship so it doesn't go stale.

If you feel you are giving up "freedoms" in a relationship, you're in the wrong relationship!

However, being in a loving relationship, does come with an aspect of "selflessness" as give and take goes both ways. And if you are committed to a relationship, be that monogamous or not, there is the need for that selflessness to look out for each other through not only the good times, but also the bad times... and it does take effort, dedication, honesty and communication to get through times...if that means you feel you are losing freedoms, then relationships are maybe not for you (I mean "you" as in any single person out there, rather than you specifically)...

We get older and more set in our ways, less tolerant of other people's behaviour, particularly if we've had relationships gone wrong, where we learned a thing or two about our own boundaries.

Now, that is - if this post is about relationships rather than sex, which, as a single person, might be more scarce in the times we live in compared to those in well working established relationships

The man for the relationship has to be the right man...but the man for NSA sex - also has to be the right man...one isn't necessarily equal to the other"

You had me at "Does"

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By *aint_or_SinnerWoman
over a year ago

South County Dublin


"Good question I suppose it depends on the road you came from for me anyways

Be a lone wolf has is plus but I surpose have a loyal companion for company can also be very good to.

Its hard when u actually taste that new found freedom

Does a relationship mean losing your freedom? Doesn't it depend entirely on the person you're in a relationship with? Do they respect your space, your boundaries, your right to some "me time"? Does a relationship necessarily entail living together?

I'm separated over 3 years after a lifetime with one man and it nearly broke me not being able to make it work, have had a couple of short term relationships since, one which broke my heart.

Am I lonely? Yes, at times. I miss the intimacy of a loving relationship, being able to spend time with a special someone, be that hot, passionate love making, a quickie in the car, sitting in front of the fire watching a movie, going to a gig or the cinema, even having that squabble about who's turn it is to put the bin out...

Being in a relationship doesn't mean living together. It can be had living in separate households, no matter your age. Being in a relationship doesn't mean losing any freedoms, it's about being supportive of another person you care for and receiving that support in return, it's about sharing the good, the bad and the indifferent times in life, while boundaries and personal time is respected without jealousy by the other half. This can only be established over time with open, honest communication. Me times and me hobbies are partly what add topics of conversation to a relationship so it doesn't go stale.

If you feel you are giving up "freedoms" in a relationship, you're in the wrong relationship!

However, being in a loving relationship, does come with an aspect of "selflessness" as give and take goes both ways. And if you are committed to a relationship, be that monogamous or not, there is the need for that selflessness to look out for each other through not only the good times, but also the bad times... and it does take effort, dedication, honesty and communication to get through times...if that means you feel you are losing freedoms, then relationships are maybe not for you (I mean "you" as in any single person out there, rather than you specifically)...

We get older and more set in our ways, less tolerant of other people's behaviour, particularly if we've had relationships gone wrong, where we learned a thing or two about our own boundaries.

Now, that is - if this post is about relationships rather than sex, which, as a single person, might be more scarce in the times we live in compared to those in well working established relationships

The man for the relationship has to be the right man...but the man for NSA sex - also has to be the right man...one isn't necessarily equal to the other

You had me at "Does" "

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By *he English OneMan
over a year ago

west


"Single more than ten years, love my life a d my solitude. Couldnt stand 24/7 with a partner anymore. Id say im the perfect girlfriend, doesnt phone ya non stop, never asks ya where you were, doesnt want to see you every night, isnt jealous "

Knock knock (flowers and chocolates in hand in my Sunday best)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

9 years as a singleton and happy out. Have a fwb who knows all about my fab life. Just not her scene.We meet up quite often. Its works really well for both of us as she is into golf as well

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By *eterdunneMan
over a year ago

leixlip


"Been single since the day before New Year’s Eve and then came on here again as a friend was seeing in New Years in the Irish chat room. Like a lot I love my independence but it’s funny the things you miss and you don’t just mean sex. Love kissing and think people don’t spend enough time with it thinking it’s a means to an end when it can be a while adventure by itself. Also miss that infancy, holding someone close or lying in bed, her head on your chest stroking her hair and back and just talking. Fab is great in different ways but I still need a chemistry and connection with someone even on here.

You can get that with people on here it's not always about just sex .And I know I need chemistry and connection with someone before I will shag anyone I meet off here. Without both then I find the sex is just meh anyhow and pointless.

I'm the same Bo definitely need chemistry with a guy , that cold sex isn't worth the effort

Agreed, and ive had some lovely lovely cuddles, giggles and no-sex times with friends ive met here. Those times go beyond the physical need, and meet my need for intimacy and connection and feeling valued as a person.

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I think many many see sex and intimacy as the same thing. They aren't though.

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

Some highly fascinating posts on this thread . My only contribution would be to say that a relationship , particularly one where you take on additional responsibilities such as parenting , absolutely means losing some freedoms . It maybe that they’re minor , it maybe that your love for each other is worth it, but you compromise . For those lucky enough to be in total synergy with each other this maybe so insignificant that it’s imperceptible . At times , during tougher times , it’s palpable , and can feel like you’re the one always handing out the free passes whilst your needs and feelings get left behind .

So there is no right or wrong way , just what’s right for you at that moment in time . Any posts , threads or people judging someone because of their perception of what’s going on in that person’s life have usually very little idea as to what’s really going on

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By *otlips322020Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

For me it’s a year next week since I was destroyed but I hope when I meet a guy he can make me squirt all over us

Wow can’t wait ha x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been single since the day before New Year’s Eve and then came on here again as a friend was seeing in New Years in the Irish chat room. Like a lot I love my independence but it’s funny the things you miss and you don’t just mean sex. Love kissing and think people don’t spend enough time with it thinking it’s a means to an end when it can be a while adventure by itself. Also miss that infancy, holding someone close or lying in bed, her head on your chest stroking her hair and back and just talking. Fab is great in different ways but I still need a chemistry and connection with someone even on here.

You can get that with people on here it's not always about just sex .And I know I need chemistry and connection with someone before I will shag anyone I meet off here. Without both then I find the sex is just meh anyhow and pointless.

I'm the same Bo definitely need chemistry with a guy , that cold sex isn't worth the effort

Agreed, and ive had some lovely lovely cuddles, giggles and no-sex times with friends ive met here. Those times go beyond the physical need, and meet my need for intimacy and connection and feeling valued as a person.

I think many many see sex and intimacy as the same thing. They aren't though."

You are so right, and I think many relationships crash on those rocks

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By *aint_or_SinnerWoman
over a year ago

South County Dublin


"Some highly fascinating posts on this thread . My only contribution would be to say that a relationship , particularly one where you take on additional responsibilities such as parenting , absolutely means losing some freedoms . It maybe that they’re minor , it maybe that your love for each other is worth it, but you compromise . For those lucky enough to be in total synergy with each other this maybe so insignificant that it’s imperceptible . At times , during tougher times , it’s palpable , and can feel like you’re the one always handing out the free passes whilst your needs and feelings get left behind .

So there is no right or wrong way , just what’s right for you at that moment in time . Any posts , threads or people judging someone because of their perception of what’s going on in that person’s life have usually very little idea as to what’s really going on "

Agreed that parenting brings a loss of freedoms, especially if you're a couple and the biological parents of all children in the relationship.

Where a relationship is concerned, where either one or both bring children of their own into that relationship, I would again be of the opinion of the boundaries put in place stipulate any feeling of freedom one may lose with respect to the other person's child/ren - they are the other person's child/ren and ultimately their responsibility.

I don't have any experience with "patchwork family". I for one, do not feel the wish or need to be in a relationship which involves a partner moving in with me, never mind co-parenting with me. I parent my children with their father, from separate domiciles. My children are young enough still and I have one with special needs. Hence I'll be damned introducing anyone to my children if I'm personally not absolutely certain that I want that person to be not only a part of my life in the longer term, but my children's too (obviously taking into account that the risk is always there, that he may choose to not want to be around for as long as I'd like him to be). I expect that kind of relationship can be years in the making...hence if I were to start a relationship now, there'd be no "loss of freedoms" for him for quite some time (as I and my ex parent my children!) - though there may be interference in the ability and availability to spend time together...but that is something that comes with dating anyone who has a life and family and work commitments!

It also depends on your own personal definition of what "freedom" is within a relationship.

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

Agree SAS, and do worry that even thinking about losing freedoms can sound selfish , but you can’t help what the heart thinks

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By *aint_or_SinnerWoman
over a year ago

South County Dublin


"Agree SAS, and do worry that even thinking about losing freedoms can sound selfish , but you can’t help what the heart thinks "

Should it not be SOS never thought of myself in abbreviation terms lol

The heart doesn't think, it feels.

Ultimately we as humans are selfish entities. But social creatures.

It's about boundaries. Even freedom has boundaries.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being the happy lone wolf may only be a defence mechanism, for myself at least due to past experience (as thats all i can go on really). Trying to actively "hunt" these days is a fools errand, all the dating profiles with the tag line "I know what I what and I know what I don't want"... Thats great Bridie, if you keep it a secret you're not really giving me anything to work with haha

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

SOS indeed

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By *ngloirishcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Dundalk

As a couple we may be intruding, but due to our adventures on Fab, we have realised we like the polyamorous construct having another woman in a triad. It's something we have enjoyed and miss, probably because of the extra joy the new relationship energy brings.

We love swinging, and meeting like minded people, having great sex, but there is something to be said for a deeper connection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couple of years, but I'm so fine with my own company. Just enjoying my life with friends and all that.

That's not to say there's hasn't been some flings in between.

I'm just not looking, if something comes my way so be it, but for now single life is good

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