FabSwingers.com forum: Chatting turn offs for men

By *3nses OP Man
over a year ago

Dublin

To keep the equality theme going.

What do men find a turn off from a first message?

I'll start;

Text speak

One word messages - hi, hello etc

One line messages - how are you, ugh.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"No"

Anything short of that is welcome.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Messages at the same time every Friday or Saturday night when you know someone has had a few drinks

A profile that writes all their long list of demands,sends the first message which consists of one or two words

I get it I'm not very good at messages either but if I reply and get 3 messages back of a couple of words ...forget it

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By *rish FatherFigureMan
over a year ago

Cork City & sometimes Dublin

For what it’s worth, I’ll respond enthusiastically to a Hello, a Hiya or even a Hi. From a woman that is.

If I get a How’re you doing? I’ll consider that that’s a relationship!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Text speak definitely a no go, both in profile or messages

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Any message that asks for a face pic, phone number or what time I can meet the next day?

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

"Any message that asks for a face pic, phone number or what time I can meet the next day?"

Soooo are ya free or wha

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Any message that asks for a face pic, phone number or what time I can meet the next day?

Soooo are ya free or wha"

Are you in my area?

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By *eanbelfastMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Someone asking what Sapiophile means.

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By *oxtrotTangoLoveMan
over a year ago

monkstown/kentstown

1. Do you want to meet now

2. Send me photos

3. Hi

4. You free now

5. I'm horny

6. What up man

7. Want to fuck

8. I close!

9. Nice photos

10.Free house now what to unload

What kind of BS is this!

No effort, no reading your profile. No wonder it's hard to find a meet!

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By *iscuits8Man
over a year ago

Meath / Dublin / Birmingham

"Wife is looking for a younger lad to fuck her"

From a single male profile. Most likely with said wife being completely unaware he is messaging fellas about this.

At least one of those comes in every week or two.

Then the lads who offer a suck/fuck and think they can turn you when you say you're straight and decline. They're gas.

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By *eralt80Man
over a year ago

cork

Graphic fanny pics in the first message and just a message saying “hi”

I mean have some respect for yourself

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

"Any message that asks for a face pic, phone number or what time I can meet the next day?

Soooo are ya free or wha

Are you in my area?

no but yaa got a car dont ya

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Any message that asks for a face pic, phone number or what time I can meet the next day?

Soooo are ya free or wha

Are you in my area?

no but yaa got a car dont ya

Straight in with the demands

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Graphic fanny pics in the first message and just a message saying “hi”

I mean have some respect for yourself

Soz Lads for intruding on your equality thread...fair play btw

Do you really get msgs like that??? "Graphic fanny pics in the first message and just a message saying“

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Graphic fanny pics in the first message and just a message saying “hi”

I mean have some respect for yourself

Soz Lads for intruding on your equality thread...fair play btw

Do you really get msgs like that??? "Graphic fanny pics in the first message and just a message saying“

I've never got a fanny pic but I've got numerous one word messages such as Hi, number?, Kik? or instructions to change my profile to bi because I had no hope of getting a meet as it was and if I wanted to meet them I'd have to play bi and/or bring a sexy lady to move up their list of prospects.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Graphic fanny pics in the first message and just a message saying “hi”

I mean have some respect for yourself

Hey come on, how many times do I have to apologise?

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By *3nses OP Man
over a year ago

Dublin

"Graphic fanny pics in the first message and just a message saying “hi”

I mean have some respect for yourself

Soz Lads for intruding on your equality thread...fair play btw

It's an equality thread. All our welcome.

Ideally it would have been one thread called "chatting turn offs for people."

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

"Graphic fanny pics in the first message and just a message saying “hi”

I mean have some respect for yourself

Hey come on, how many times do I have to apologise?"

dont mind him. he loved it

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Graphic fanny pics in the first message and just a message saying “hi”

I mean have some respect for yourself

Hey come on, how many times do I have to apologise?

dont mind him. he loved it"

I prefer a graphic granny pic myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Graphic fanny pics in the first message and just a message saying “hi”

I mean have some respect for yourself

Hey come on, how many times do I have to apologise?

dont mind him. he loved it

I prefer a graphic granny pic myself

Not a granny yet but I can improvise?

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Graphic fanny pics in the first message and just a message saying “hi”

I mean have some respect for yourself

Hey come on, how many times do I have to apologise?

dont mind him. he loved it

I prefer a graphic granny pic myself

Not a granny yet but I can improvise?"

Go for it

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By *iscuits8Man
over a year ago

Meath / Dublin / Birmingham

Can whoever is sending that man graphic fanny pics please STOP

...and send them to me instead

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By *eralt80Man
over a year ago

cork

"Graphic fanny pics in the first message and just a message saying “hi”

I mean have some respect for yourself

Hey come on, how many times do I have to apologise?

dont mind him. he loved it"

Shush you, I’m playing hard to get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Graphic fanny pics in the first message and just a message saying “hi”

I mean have some respect for yourself

Hey come on, how many times do I have to apologise?

dont mind him. he loved it

Shush you, I’m playing hard to get

Gotcha

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By *eralt80Man
over a year ago

cork

"Graphic fanny pics in the first message and just a message saying “hi”

I mean have some respect for yourself

Soz Lads for intruding on your equality thread...fair play btw

Do you really get msgs like that??? "Graphic fanny pics in the first message and just a message saying“

No, I’ve never received one of those

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By *eralt80Man
over a year ago

cork

"Graphic fanny pics in the first message and just a message saying “hi”

I mean have some respect for yourself

Hey come on, how many times do I have to apologise?

dont mind him. he loved it

Shush you, I’m playing hard to get

Gotcha

Damn, my secrets out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah come on when a man gets a message is it it not usually F off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What does a message from a lady look like ??? Just in case l get one at least i'll recognise it and wont delete it by accident or think l'm after been hacked

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By *aint_or_SinnerWoman
over a year ago

South County Dublin

"Any message that asks for a face pic, phone number or what time I can meet the next day?"

Next day?!

Whatever happened to right now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Graphic fanny pics in the first message and just a message saying “hi”

I mean have some respect for yourself

When I glanced quickly at this I thought you said Graphic Granny pics

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Graphic fanny pics in the first message and just a message saying “hi”

I mean have some respect for yourself

When I glanced quickly at this I thought you said Graphic Granny pics

You need to scroll down a bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Graphic fanny pics in the first message and just a message saying “hi”

I mean have some respect for yourself

When I glanced quickly at this I thought you said Graphic Granny pics

You need to scroll down a bit

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By *eralt80Man
over a year ago

cork

"Graphic fanny pics in the first message and just a message saying “hi”

I mean have some respect for yourself

When I glanced quickly at this I thought you said Graphic Granny pics

I seem to have started a new trend

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By *riangleCouple
over a year ago

galway/dublin

Requests for bareback sex . Appalling

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By *herieWoman
over a year ago

The Burbs

"Graphic fanny pics in the first message and just a message saying “hi”

I mean have some respect for yourself

My bad

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

One word answers or even one sentence, after you have written a paragraph or two.

Not porn paragraphs, real ones based on their profile and then they respond with Really? Or Interesting!

FFS grow a pair ladies

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By *unnyfookMan
over a year ago

Naas

I always like the driving by messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ones where it’s like trying to draw blood from a stone…. There’s only so much conversation I can come up with when getting one word answers…and then I’m labelled a time waster or fake when I give up

Graphic Granny pics……. I like the sound of that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The ones where it’s like trying to draw blood from a stone…. There’s only so much conversation I can come up with when getting one word answers…and then I’m labelled a time waster or fake when I give up

Graphic Granny pics……. I like the sound of that

You should take that as a hint that they're not particularly interested

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By *atherjackhackettMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

All my first messages come from guys (unfortunately) generally along the lines of 'nice cock'. Still, I should take the compliments when they are going I suppose

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By *elfastDMan
over a year ago

belfast

A lack of chat is a serious problem, maybe I’m just not entertaining enough, or maybe they are just no craic

But when the chat and craic flows it’s a serious turn on

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By *ublinguy99Man
over a year ago

Dublin South

what about messages from men posing as women on this site, normally blank profile, crude language and something that just doesnt seem right. Then again I dont get many messages at all from which to compare.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Based on my experience a verbal ball tickling works quite well.

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest

"what about messages from men posing as women on this site, normally blank profile, crude language and something that just doesnt seem right. Then again I dont get many messages at all from which to compare."

This happens on here

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

""Wife is looking for a younger lad to fuck her"

From a single male profile. Most likely with said wife being completely unaware he is messaging fellas about this.

At least one of those comes in every week or two."

Ya, got one of these this morning, maybe they thought I was you, I’m flattered…..

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By *3nses OP Man
over a year ago

Dublin

"Based on my experience a verbal ball tickling works quite well.

What does that involve? You'll have to message me an example.

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