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"Does being stood up count? "It is amazing how many women on Fab are being stood up, I've heard good few complaining in the past. I've always wondered why people do it ? | |||
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"Does being stood up count?
It is amazing how many women on Fab are being stood up, I've heard good few complaining in the past.
I've always wondered why people do it ?"You could ask the same question of the women who are also capable of standing people up. | |||
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"This type of thread pops up every month or so.. Wasn't there a guy who got the crap beaten out of him in a hotel room by a woman he went to meet "I’m confused by smily emoji  | |||
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"This type of thread pops up every month or so.. Wasn't there a guy who got the crap beaten out of him in a hotel room by a woman he went to meet "Not quite although it wouldn't be you if you didn't put a different spin on it. Yes I got punched in the face and kneed in the balls but that was because she wanted me to react and retaliate as part of her kink. I didn't and left her to it. | |||
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"Does being stood up count?
It is amazing how many women on Fab are being stood up, I've heard good few complaining in the past.
I've always wondered why people do it ?
You could ask the same question of the women who are also capable of standing people up."Very true! It's a mystery why someone would do that | |||
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"This type of thread pops up every month or so.. Wasn't there a guy who got the crap beaten out of him in a hotel room by a woman he went to meet
Not quite although it wouldn't be you if you didn't put a different spin on it.
Yes I got punched in the face and kneed in the balls but that was because she wanted me to react and retaliate as part of her kink.
I didn't and left her to it. " | |||
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"This type of thread pops up every month or so.. Wasn't there a guy who got the crap beaten out of him in a hotel room by a woman he went to meet
Not quite although it wouldn't be you if you didn't put a different spin on it.
Yes I got punched in the face and kneed in the balls but that was because she wanted me to react and retaliate as part of her kink.
I didn't and left her to it. "Ooooo.. I had a meet eerily similar to that but arranged through a different site. | |||
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"This type of thread pops up every month or so.. Wasn't there a guy who got the crap beaten out of him in a hotel room by a woman he went to meet
Not quite although it wouldn't be you if you didn't put a different spin on it.
Yes I got punched in the face and kneed in the balls but that was because she wanted me to react and retaliate as part of her kink.
I didn't and left her to it.
Ooooo.. I had a meet eerily similar to that but arranged through a different site. "Mine was 4 years ago and she never discussed what she intended to do even though we met socially twice before that. I wouldn't have agreed anyway. I walked away but often think about how that would have worked if the roles were reversed or the repercussions if I had been the type to retaliate. | |||
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"This type of thread pops up every month or so.. Wasn't there a guy who got the crap beaten out of him in a hotel room by a woman he went to meet
Not quite although it wouldn't be you if you didn't put a different spin on it.
Yes I got punched in the face and kneed in the balls but that was because she wanted me to react and retaliate as part of her kink.
I didn't and left her to it.
Ooooo.. I had a meet eerily similar to that but arranged through a different site.
Mine was 4 years ago and she never discussed what she intended to do even though we met socially twice before that. I wouldn't have agreed anyway.
I walked away but often think about how that would have worked if the roles were reversed or the repercussions if I had been the type to retaliate.
"Mine was about 7 or 8 years ago. I found out later from someone who knew her that she was going through a messy divorce. She had suggested that her alcoholic husband was beating her. I genuinely wondered if she wanted some bruises to pin on him. She bit me on the shoulder and drew blood, then tried hitting me when I started dressing to leave. | |||
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"This type of thread pops up every month or so.. Wasn't there a guy who got the crap beaten out of him in a hotel room by a woman he went to meet
Not quite although it wouldn't be you if you didn't put a different spin on it.
Yes I got punched in the face and kneed in the balls but that was because she wanted me to react and retaliate as part of her kink.
I didn't and left her to it.
Ooooo.. I had a meet eerily similar to that but arranged through a different site.
Mine was 4 years ago and she never discussed what she intended to do even though we met socially twice before that. I wouldn't have agreed anyway.
I walked away but often think about how that would have worked if the roles were reversed or the repercussions if I had been the type to retaliate.
Mine was about 7 or 8 years ago. I found out later from someone who knew her that she was going through a messy divorce. She had suggested that her alcoholic husband was beating her. I genuinely wondered if she wanted some bruises to pin on him. She bit me on the shoulder and drew blood, then tried hitting me when I started dressing to leave. "Never thought of it that way but her story was that she was very wealthy and had sex with her hubby almost every day but he was too vanilla and she wanted something different. When I asked in what way different she wouldn't say and said she would leave that up to me but that changed the minute she punched me in the face. | |||
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"This type of thread pops up every month or so.. Wasn't there a guy who got the crap beaten out of him in a hotel room by a woman he went to meet
Not quite although it wouldn't be you if you didn't put a different spin on it.
Yes I got punched in the face and kneed in the balls but that was because she wanted me to react and retaliate as part of her kink.
I didn't and left her to it.
Ooooo.. I had a meet eerily similar to that but arranged through a different site.
Mine was 4 years ago and she never discussed what she intended to do even though we met socially twice before that. I wouldn't have agreed anyway.
I walked away but often think about how that would have worked if the roles were reversed or the repercussions if I had been the type to retaliate.
Mine was about 7 or 8 years ago. I found out later from someone who knew her that she was going through a messy divorce. She had suggested that her alcoholic husband was beating her. I genuinely wondered if she wanted some bruises to pin on him. She bit me on the shoulder and drew blood, then tried hitting me when I started dressing to leave.
Never thought of it that way but her story was that she was very wealthy and had sex with her hubby almost every day but he was too vanilla and she wanted something different. When I asked in what way different she wouldn't say and said she would leave that up to me but that changed the minute she punched me in the face. "Mother of God! | |||
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Every last cent...yes ... What a scum bag... But that wasn't my worst experience by far...my worst is way too upsetting for me to write...let's just say I had a very lucky but very difficult escape but thankfully I got the strength to fight him off...don't ask me where my strength came from cos he was alot taller and very well built | |||
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"My worst experience on fab must be the stalker that I ended up with. Very scary, tried to b/mail me. Had other guys contact me. I'm hoping it has now finally stopped "that's scary and terrible | |||
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"The contents of my purse been taken
Every last cent...yes ... What a scum bag... But that wasn't my worst experience by far...my worst is way too upsetting for me to write...let's just say I had a very lucky but very difficult escape but thankfully I got the strength to fight him off...don't ask me where my strength came from cos he was alot taller and very well built"oh my my... That's terrible | |||
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"The contents of my purse been taken
Every last cent...yes ... What a scum bag... But that wasn't my worst experience by far...my worst is way too upsetting for me to write...let's just say I had a very lucky but very difficult escape but thankfully I got the strength to fight him off...don't ask me where my strength came from cos he was alot taller and very well built oh my my... That's terrible"Yes a very very scary experience...I have major major trust issues now & I'm extremely cautious to a fault... I very very rarely meet new people now I haven't met anyone new in over 2yrs due to that horrid life changing experience | |||
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"The contents of my purse been taken
Every last cent...yes ... What a scum bag... But that wasn't my worst experience by far...my worst is way too upsetting for me to write...let's just say I had a very lucky but very difficult escape but thankfully I got the strength to fight him off...don't ask me where my strength came from cos he was alot taller and very well built"Oh my stomach turned reading this. I hope you have recovered. That’s an absolutely horrifying experience. | |||
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Out cold and hopped my head off their kitchen floor
I was on the floor and could hear "oh jaysus tommy,hes dead" from herself | |||
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"Has to be He ch*ked me and even though I tapped out and grabbed at him to stop he wouldn't and didn't until he came! Very scary as I thought I would pass out! I already had trust issue but this set me back a good bit! " OK that's a bit f*cked up | |||
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"Laura has had to talk down more than one "Dom" who got into his head what she wanted to be harmed.. and one who unilaterally decided to impregnate her. " Sounds like a dim "Dom" to us | |||
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"Laura has had to talk down more than one "Dom" who got into his head what she wanted to be harmed.. and one who unilaterally decided to impregnate her. Sounds like a dim "Dom" to us" Dim Dom’s are definitely not an endangered species on Fab . There’s an abundance of men who think they are Mr Gray after watching 50 Shades. I only know of maybe 3 worthy of the title Dom (not that I’m an authority on the subject but you don’t have to be a master brewer to know a bad pint!). Newbie ladies are really in a precarious position and are probably more susceptible to the waffle these pretenders give. My wife had a wannabe dom take her down the garden path. Turned out to be a Walter Mitty adventure. | |||
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"Laura has had to talk down more than one "Dom" who got into his head what she wanted to be harmed.. and one who unilaterally decided to impregnate her. Sounds like a dim "Dom" to us Dim Dom’s are definitely not an endangered species on Fab . There’s an abundance of men who think they are Mr Gray after watching 50 Shades. I only know of maybe 3 worthy of the title Dom (not that I’m an authority on the subject but you don’t have to be a master brewer to know a bad pint!). Newbie ladies are really in a precarious position and are probably more susceptible to the waffle these pretenders give. My wife had a wannabe dom take her down the garden path. Turned out to be a Walter Mitty adventure. "Oh I've came across some so called "masters" here in my time. Unfortunately some really don't have a clue and can cause lasting issues by using items they haven't a clue how to use safely. Others use it as a way to abuse and use it as a cover. I've been around long enough to see the signs and from the other side especially when dealing with subs also | |||
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"All these bad experiences would make you very cautious "Absolutely. There’s always a chance that you will meet a wrong person in any situation, fab or not. The hidden nature of swinging might appear provide a better element of cover for these type of predators but the community shouldn’t allow that to happen. One person’s safety has to be everybody’s concern. If you’re cautious about who, where and how you meet you should be fine. | |||
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"All these bad experiences would make you very cautious "100% and yet guys wonder when you decline to invite them into your home without meeting them | |||
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"All these bad experiences would make you very cautious
100% and yet guys wonder when you decline to invite them into your home without meeting them "Agree totally but to me any man worth his salt wouldn't even question why? We as a couple are extremely aware when meeting a single female.. It's Really up to her where we meet and what's she is comfortable with etc we look at it from her point of view always  | |||
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"I've had an actual and several attempts to not obey lack of consent. " No means no. It’s an absolute. Why they can’t get it into their heads is baffling. | |||
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" Not quite although it wouldn't be you if you didn't put a different spin on it. Yes I got punched in the face and kneed in the balls but that was because she wanted me to react and retaliate as part of her kink. I didn't and left her to it. " Ah I remember you saying this now in that other thread. If that's what she was into and it wasn't something like that divorce mentioned she should meet that dude that wanted to throw women around the hotel room (seems like that thread is removed now). I mean they would match up fairly well. | |||
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"All these bad experiences would make you very cautious
100% and yet guys wonder when you decline to invite them into your home without meeting them "I would never ever bring someone into my home after I stupidly did once...h He started to turn up unannounced it was beginning to get a
littke scary...as he wouldn't stop showing up unannounced even though I told him not to...I never allowed him in with this unannounced visits... Thankfully I have a boys in blue friends on here and they contacted him...the visits stopped then thankfully | |||
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"All these bad experiences would make you very cautious
100% and yet guys wonder when you decline to invite them into your home without meeting them
I would never ever bring someone into my home after I stupidly did once...h
He started to turn up unannounced it was beginning to get a
littke scary...as he wouldn't stop showing up unannounced even though I told him not to...I never allowed him in with this unannounced visits... Thankfully I have a boys in blue friends on here and they contacted him...the visits stopped then thankfully"*A Few | |||
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"Just my luck I thought but didn’t want to embarrass her so said to myself f*ck it, just get on with it.." Why on earth would you try sleep with her anyway? Would have been much more respectful to have chat and be honest with not feeling it... I find this mentality disturbing.. She's a person too  | |||
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"Not from fab but a dating site. I had been chatting to a recently separated woman, 10 or so years older than me. She looked alright in her pics so after chatting for a while and exchanging a few racy pics we agreed to meet for a bit of afternoon delight. Never have I regretted anything as much in my life. First off - she answered the door, looked absolutely nothing like the pics she had sent and was about 2 feet shorter and a lot bigger than what her pics showed. Just my luck I thought but didn’t want to embarrass her so said to myself f*ck it, just get on with it... After about 5 mins small talk and wanting to get things over and done with, I suggest the bedroom. We go upstairs and get down to business. She strips and yet again looks nothing like the pictures she had sent. She goes down on me and I’m doing my best to try and enjoy it, not really looking forward to the main event. Well, nothing could prepare me for what followed. The smell was absolutely disgusting. I have never experienced anything like it. How she thought I wouldn’t notice is beyond me. I tried to humour her for a few minutes but I had stop, made my excuses and left. A few valuable lessons were learnt that day..." You should have left immediately and said who's the person in the pics you sent. I honestly do not know why you went ahead with the meet as in your sexually advances on her...it doesn't add up it's sounding like you were desperate for sex tbh | |||
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"^^^^^^^ I used to have that I was sub on my profile and omg some of the msgs I was receiving were seriously fked up...they have an ignorant messed up misinterpretation of Sub/Dom...some of the mail I received are long stories but omg very disturbing stuff" I removed I was a Dom from my profile. First because I'm not looking to Dom anyone here, it was just a characteristic of mine, but also because the amount of profiles I seen saying they don't want anything to do with Doms is surreal. | |||
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"^^^^^^^ I used to have that I was sub on my profile and omg some of the msgs I was receiving were seriously fked up...they have an ignorant messed up misinterpretation of Sub/Dom...some of the mail I received are long stories but omg very disturbing stuff I removed I was a Dom from my profile. First because I'm not looking to Dom anyone here, it was just a characteristic of mine, but also because the amount of profiles I seen saying they don't want anything to do with Doms is surreal." I get ya...I can have a submissive personality...but sometimes I like to be dominated in the bedroom until I decide to take control  that's what I mean by me being sub | |||
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" Now, about fake Doms. I read some comments about Doms. Even in the BDSM community, fake Doms are everywhere, and there's an easy way to identify most of them. Ask him who holds the power between a Dom and a sub. The answer should be the sub. Tell him you don't think safewords are important. If he agrees, run. If he doesn't ask you about your kinks, your soft and hard limits, or your safeword. Bad idea. Keep in mind BDSM is always about trust, honesty, safety and constant consent. And I know not every fuck is going to take your kinks to the limits, but try finding someone who understands the importance of aftercare. Sub drop is no joke. " I agree 1000%. Out of the way too many men I’ve talked to off here, so many have said they were Doms/Masters. I’m still giggling at the some of the arsefeckery of most of them. I think I’ve been lucky to meet the best two so far. The rest are laughable. | |||
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"^^^^^^^ I used to have that I was sub on my profile and omg some of the msgs I was receiving were seriously fked up...they have an ignorant messed up misinterpretation of Sub/Dom...some of the mail I received are long stories but omg very disturbing stuff I removed I was a Dom from my profile. First because I'm not looking to Dom anyone here, it was just a characteristic of mine, but also because the amount of profiles I seen saying they don't want anything to do with Doms is surreal. I get ya...I can have a submissive personality...but sometimes I like to be dominated in the bedroom until I decide to take control that's what I mean by me being sub"And that's fine. There's no right or wrong when it comes to a dynamic. Dom and sub are just labels to help people recognise themselves and others more easily. There is a huge amount of people who are very dominant in their professional lives but very submissive in the bedroom, and vice-versa. | |||
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"I always just assume anyone who describes themselves as a Dom(me)/master is basically just someone with a fragile ego. " And you are usually right. It’s hilarious. | |||
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"I always just assume anyone who describes themselves as a Dom(me)/master is basically just someone with a fragile ego. " I wouldn't go that far. There certainly are a lot of big egos and fakery in those who identify as Dom(me), but these are also good peoole with genuine interest and decades of knowledge. I would call myself sexually dominant, but I wouldn't label myself further than that because of all the attached nonsense and imagined 50 shades claptrap that goes with it. I don't want any part of it. Also I find the "scene" a bit pretentious. I'd rather think of kink as 1 person in front of another person trying to understand the others sexual needs (and vice versa) and go deep enough to be honest about what you enjoy. Once you go labelling things and bringing all the associated props then it can become a "scene" or a performance and it loses its appeal. | |||
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"I always just assume anyone who describes themselves as a Dom(me)/master is basically just someone with a fragile ego. I wouldn't go that far. There certainly are a lot of big egos and fakery in those who identify as Dom(me), but these are also good peoole with genuine interest and decades of knowledge. I would call myself sexually dominant, but I wouldn't label myself further than that because of all the attached nonsense and imagined 50 shades claptrap that goes with it. I don't want any part of it. Also I find the "scene" a bit pretentious. I'd rather think of kink as 1 person in front of another person trying to understand the others sexual needs (and vice versa) and go deep enough to be honest about what you enjoy. Once you go labelling things and bringing all the associated props then it can become a "scene" or a performance and it loses its appeal. " Very well put | |||
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"I always just assume anyone who describes themselves as a Dom(me)/master is basically just someone with a fragile ego. I wouldn't go that far. There certainly are a lot of big egos and fakery in those who identify as Dom(me), but these are also good people with genuine interest and decades of knowledge. I would call myself sexually dominant, but I wouldn't label myself further than that because of all the attached nonsense and imagined 50 shades claptrap that goes with it. I don't want any part of it. Also I find the "scene" a bit pretentious. I'd rather think of kink as 1 person in front of another person trying to understand the others sexual needs (and vice versa) and go deep enough to be honest about what you enjoy. Once you go labelling things and bringing all the associated props then it can become a "scene" or a performance and it loses its appeal. " I'd agree with that summation. My assumption isn't always going to be right, but 9 times of out 10 it's the case. It's the difference between saying I'm a dominant person Vs I've experience in dominating a person/I am sexually dominant. The first grouping I've encountered, and in all aspects of life, tend to be the fragile ones. I think the performance description is very accurate. Often it's a person performing for themselves and their own ego. From my own perspective I view D/s as more like role play myself, as with role play you talk through the scenario first so both parties are on the same wavelength and get what they both want from it. | |||
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"Not from fab but a dating site. I had been chatting to a recently separated woman, 10 or so years older than me. She looked alright in her pics so after chatting for a while and exchanging a few racy pics we agreed to meet for a bit of afternoon delight. Never have I regretted anything as much in my life. First off - she answered the door, looked absolutely nothing like the pics she had sent and was about 2 feet shorter and a lot bigger than what her pics showed. Just my luck I thought but didn’t want to embarrass her so said to myself f*ck it, just get on with it... After about 5 mins small talk and wanting to get things over and done with, I suggest the bedroom. We go upstairs and get down to business. She strips and yet again looks nothing like the pictures she had sent. She goes down on me and I’m doing my best to try and enjoy it, not really looking forward to the main event. Well, nothing could prepare me for what followed. The smell was absolutely disgusting. I have never experienced anything like it. How she thought I wouldn’t notice is beyond me. I tried to humour her for a few minutes but I had stop, made my excuses and left. A few valuable lessons were learnt that day... You should have left immediately and said who's the person in the pics you sent. I honestly do not know why you went ahead with the meet as in your sexually advances on her...it doesn't add up it's sounding like you were desperate for sex tbh"Young and inexperienced at the time. Like I said lesson learned | |||
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