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"Who would verify it. For example if I decide your annoying me and I get 3 of my friends to report for for no shows" Fair point yeah I havent thought it through just an interesting topic i was thinking of | |||
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"Four years on fab and never had a no show or been a no show but your suggestion is definitely open to be abused for a number of reasons." We've only had one "death in the family" cancellation during our time on fab, and people do die sometimes | |||
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"I'm amazed people don't show.... What's the point? On average most people must turn up... I'd say the % of no shows is very low.. " Lots of people can talk the talk, but that's all it is, a wank fantasy, an ego boost. | |||
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"Too easy to abuse. I've been stood up a few times and one guy just turned pm his heel in the coffee shop and left me standing. It hurt at the time but way I see it now their loss" I remeber u saying that I would have followed him and troath punched him.. | |||
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"Shit happens... But do people get a kick out of leading someone up the garden path... " God only knows | |||
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"Shit happens... But do people get a kick out of leading someone up the garden path... " Id say so If some people get a kick out of fale accounts I'd imagine leading someone up the garden path is fairly easy | |||
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"I have a zero strike rule" So you are preemptively not meeting people ? | |||
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"Nah like others have said it would be open to abuse and people getting blamed when they did nothing wrong. " This is very accurate. I had my first ever no-show recently and when he messaged next, I ripped the head off him. Turns out he HAD messaged me, but on an old Kik address I’ve not used since we moved to WhatsApp. Enormously apologetic and he has “made it up to me” since. | |||
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"I'm amazed people don't show.... What's the point? On average most people must turn up... I'd say the % of no shows is very low.. " I'd say more than half of meets I've organised have been no shows. It's incredibly common. I think people make plans when the blood is up and then realise they're actually not interested. | |||
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"If people are getting repeated no shows I'd be inclined to look at the common denominator rather than just the individuals who aren't turning up. " The commen denominator is a small core off guys being reliable whilst the majority aren't..be it selective with the truth and their profile's ( single when in fact married or a partner or their sexuality ) or just being dreamers. | |||
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"The commen denominator is a small core off guys being reliable whilst the majority aren't..be it selective with the truth and their profile's ( single when in fact married or a partner or their sexuality ) or just being dreamers." You’re spot on there Twosum. | |||
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"If people are getting repeated no shows I'd be inclined to look at the common denominator rather than just the individuals who aren't turning up. The commen denominator is a small core off guys being reliable whilst the majority aren't..be it selective with the truth and their profile's ( single when in fact married or a partner or their sexuality ) or just being dreamers." Or maybe the common denominator is the person themselves  | |||
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"If people are getting repeated no shows I'd be inclined to look at the common denominator rather than just the individuals who aren't turning up. The commen denominator is a small core off guys being reliable whilst the majority aren't..be it selective with the truth and their profile's ( single when in fact married or a partner or their sexuality ) or just being dreamers. Or maybe the common denominator is the person themselves "I forgot to add that guy's ( and no we aren't bashing guy's here we know there is a few good ones )...seem to be under the impression that couple's can just fly off for a meet at the drop off a hat,no logistics required...or if you are like us and a social meet is a must first so Mrs twosum can get an actual feel for the guy..no pun intended  ...that most don't want to put in the effort but seem to expect couples and females on fab to lie back and think off ireland for them... | |||
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"I just got stood up right now, for the second time by the same guy! "one strike left for him | |||
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"I just got stood up right now, for the second time by the same guy! "Noooooo!!!!!! Oh god!! Did you shave?? | |||
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"I just got stood up right now, for the second time by the same guy! one strike left for him "A good hard one, up the ass | |||
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"I just got stood up right now, for the second time by the same guy! one strike left for him
A good hard one, up the ass"now now no chat about things up the ass  | |||
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"Zero strikes! And luckily I had a feeling after the first time this might happen so didn’t bother preparing, I just need to wash my make up off again "So basically he's a gobshite..at least you had a feeling | |||
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"I just got stood up right now, for the second time by the same guy! "Glasgow guys are sneaky feckers not to be trusted lol | |||
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"If people are getting repeated no shows I'd be inclined to look at the common denominator rather than just the individuals who aren't turning up. The commen denominator is a small core off guys being reliable whilst the majority aren't..be it selective with the truth and their profile's ( single when in fact married or a partner or their sexuality ) or just being dreamers. Or maybe the common denominator is the person themselves "What could an individual possibly do to CAUSE multiple individuals to flake on them, though? Like, if someone doesn't actually like someone else surely the onus is on them to not plan to fuck them?? | |||
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"If people are getting repeated no shows I'd be inclined to look at the common denominator rather than just the individuals who aren't turning up. The commen denominator is a small core off guys being reliable whilst the majority aren't..be it selective with the truth and their profile's ( single when in fact married or a partner or their sexuality ) or just being dreamers. Or maybe the common denominator is the person themselves
What could an individual possibly do to CAUSE multiple individuals to flake on them, though? Like, if someone doesn't actually like someone else surely the onus is on them to not plan to fuck them?? "Not to mention than 99% of the time the same people come back a few weeks later asking to hook up again... | |||
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"If people are getting repeated no shows I'd be inclined to look at the common denominator rather than just the individuals who aren't turning up. The commen denominator is a small core off guys being reliable whilst the majority aren't..be it selective with the truth and their profile's ( single when in fact married or a partner or their sexuality ) or just being dreamers. Or maybe the common denominator is the person themselves
What could an individual possibly do to CAUSE multiple individuals to flake on them, though? Like, if someone doesn't actually like someone else surely the onus is on them to not plan to fuck them?? "It's a question that's often asked about people doing exactly the same thing over and over and expecting a different outcome. If it happens that often there should be obvious signs. | |||
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"If people are getting repeated no shows I'd be inclined to look at the common denominator rather than just the individuals who aren't turning up. The commen denominator is a small core off guys being reliable whilst the majority aren't..be it selective with the truth and their profile's ( single when in fact married or a partner or their sexuality ) or just being dreamers." I don’t agree with this at all. I only meet single guys and in over 10 years of playing this game, I’ve only had 1 no show for a coffee meet and none for a play meet. If you’re having repeat no shows you need to look at how you’re vetting potential meets. | |||
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"If people are getting repeated no shows I'd be inclined to look at the common denominator rather than just the individuals who aren't turning up. The commen denominator is a small core off guys being reliable whilst the majority aren't..be it selective with the truth and their profile's ( single when in fact married or a partner or their sexuality ) or just being dreamers. I don’t agree with this at all. I only meet single guys and in over 10 years of playing this game, I’ve only had 1 no show for a coffee meet and none for a play meet. If you’re having repeat no shows you need to look at how you’re vetting potential meets. " Do enlighten us as to the correct way to vet meets? | |||
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"It’s a phenomenon that I just can’t get my head around. Why go through all the effort of chatting and arranging to meet and then not follow through? I think it’s a horrible thing to do to someone. Fab do have the facility to report for “no shows” but I wonder how they police it. I would be in favour of proper sanctions against repeat offenders. " By what I’ve seen they really don’t make any effort to deal with such people, seen them hanging around for years sometimes despite being reported by large numbers of people. Just advertising revenue as they make up the numbers. | |||
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"If people are getting repeated no shows I'd be inclined to look at the common denominator rather than just the individuals who aren't turning up. The commen denominator is a small core off guys being reliable whilst the majority aren't..be it selective with the truth and their profile's ( single when in fact married or a partner or their sexuality ) or just being dreamers." No I don't agree I'd think more men are going to show than not. I've never had a no show but then I get to know someone before I meet them it has worked for me so far. If people are getting a lot of no shows then they need to look at why it's happening .There are usually red flags that someone isn't going to show you just need to learn to spot them . And there are women who don't show as well on here so laying the blame at guys feet all the time and trying to act like it's always them is well pretty typical of fab mentality. | |||
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"If people are getting repeated no shows I'd be inclined to look at the common denominator rather than just the individuals who aren't turning up. The commen denominator is a small core off guys being reliable whilst the majority aren't..be it selective with the truth and their profile's ( single when in fact married or a partner or their sexuality ) or just being dreamers. No I don't agree I'd think more men are going to show than not. I've never had a no show but then I get to know someone before I meet them it has worked for me so far. If people are getting a lot of no shows then they need to look at why it's happening .There are usually red flags that someone isn't going to show you just need to learn to spot them . And there are women who don't show as well on here so laying the blame at guys feet all the time and trying to act like it's always them is well pretty typical of fab mentality. " Again, do tell what these red flags are that will tell you that someone who actively arranges a meet with you isn't gonna show? I'm baffled that somehow this is made out to be the fault of the person trusting what someone says rather than the person flaking.... | |||
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"If people are getting repeated no shows I'd be inclined to look at the common denominator rather than just the individuals who aren't turning up. The commen denominator is a small core off guys being reliable whilst the majority aren't..be it selective with the truth and their profile's ( single when in fact married or a partner or their sexuality ) or just being dreamers. No I don't agree I'd think more men are going to show than not. I've never had a no show but then I get to know someone before I meet them it has worked for me so far. If people are getting a lot of no shows then they need to look at why it's happening .There are usually red flags that someone isn't going to show you just need to learn to spot them . And there are women who don't show as well on here so laying the blame at guys feet all the time and trying to act like it's always them is well pretty typical of fab mentality. " Agreed Bo. Plenty of chat prior to arranging a meet especially non sex based chat. Trust your gut feeling and if they’re strangely quiet the day of the meet, don’t bother your arse getting off the couch | |||
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"If people are getting repeated no shows I'd be inclined to look at the common denominator rather than just the individuals who aren't turning up. The commen denominator is a small core off guys being reliable whilst the majority aren't..be it selective with the truth and their profile's ( single when in fact married or a partner or their sexuality ) or just being dreamers. No I don't agree I'd think more men are going to show than not. I've never had a no show but then I get to know someone before I meet them it has worked for me so far. If people are getting a lot of no shows then they need to look at why it's happening .There are usually red flags that someone isn't going to show you just need to learn to spot them . And there are women who don't show as well on here so laying the blame at guys feet all the time and trying to act like it's always them is well pretty typical of fab mentality. Again, do tell what these red flags are that will tell you that someone who actively arranges a meet with you isn't gonna show? I'm baffled that somehow this is made out to be the fault of the person trusting what someone says rather than the person flaking.... " It's not the fault of the person themselves if someone doesn't show up. A no show is a no show and the person or persons not showing up do have to take responsibility. However if you are consistently finding that people aren't turning up then you have to look at who you are chatting to and how you engage with them. Red flags are always obvious if you look for them. A change in tone, a one track conversation, no interest beyond the actual meet. | |||
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" Plenty of chat prior to arranging a meet especially non sex based chat. Trust your gut feeling and if they’re strangely quiet the day of the meet, don’t bother your arse getting off the couch "That's not vetting a no show... They've still no showed? | |||
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" No I don't agree I'd think more men are going to show than not. I've never had a no show but then I get to know someone before I meet them it has worked for me so far. If people are getting a lot of no shows then they need to look at why it's happening .There are usually red flags that someone isn't going to show you just need to learn to spot them . And there are women who don't show as well on here so laying the blame at guys feet all the time and trying to act like it's always them is well pretty typical of fab mentality. Again, do tell what these red flags are that will tell you that someone who actively arranges a meet with you isn't gonna show? I'm baffled that somehow this is made out to be the fault of the person trusting what someone says rather than the person flaking.... " I said if you read my comment if someone is getting a lot of no shows not when someone just gets a few. Stop twisting things .And yes there are red flags quite a few times and when I see what I consider to be any then I will cancel a meet if I think someone won't show and I have done in the past. Someone going quiet running up to a meet or changing their stories are always a red flag to me. But what are to me may not be to you. | |||
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"And there are women who don't show as well on here so laying the blame at guys feet all the time and trying to act like it's always them is well pretty typical of fab mentality. " Yep! Happened me last-minute with 3 separate people in a row on my previous profile. Decided maybe a few months off here was a good idea | |||
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"If people are getting repeated no shows I'd be inclined to look at the common denominator rather than just the individuals who aren't turning up. The commen denominator is a small core off guys being reliable whilst the majority aren't..be it selective with the truth and their profile's ( single when in fact married or a partner or their sexuality ) or just being dreamers. No I don't agree I'd think more men are going to show than not. I've never had a no show but then I get to know someone before I meet them it has worked for me so far. If people are getting a lot of no shows then they need to look at why it's happening .There are usually red flags that someone isn't going to show you just need to learn to spot them . And there are women who don't show as well on here so laying the blame at guys feet all the time and trying to act like it's always them is well pretty typical of fab mentality. Agreed Bo. Plenty of chat prior to arranging a meet especially non sex based chat. Trust your gut feeling and if they’re strangely quiet the day of the meet, don’t bother your arse getting off the couch " | |||
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" Someone going quiet running up to a meet or changing their stories are always a red flag to me. But what are to me may not be to you. "This is also still a no show! If you've arranged to meet and they go quiet or start giving you guff... That's flaking in my book. Which is why I say about 50% of guys I plan to meet, flake. | |||
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" Plenty of chat prior to arranging a meet especially non sex based chat. Trust your gut feeling and if they’re strangely quiet the day of the meet, don’t bother your arse getting off the couch
That's not vetting a no show... They've still no showed? "You seem to be getting defensive about all of this and not willing to take any points on board. At the end of the day, if you feel your approach to fab is right for you, there’s no need for you to change anything. | |||
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" Someone going quiet running up to a meet or changing their stories are always a red flag to me. But what are to me may not be to you.
This is also still a no show! If you've arranged to meet and they go quiet or start giving you guff... That's flaking in my book. Which is why I say about 50% of guys I plan to meet, flake. "That happens there are always ones that do that it is what it is .Chats die out even if you have been chatting about meeting .Block and move on and forget them there are plenty who will meet. | |||
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" Someone going quiet running up to a meet or changing their stories are always a red flag to me. But what are to me may not be to you.
This is also still a no show! If you've arranged to meet and they go quiet or start giving you guff... That's flaking in my book. Which is why I say about 50% of guys I plan to meet, flake. "So roughly how many of the 50% of the people you consider no shows are people you have cancelled in advance because of a bad feeling? That kind of changes conversation completely if you are already spotting trends and traits and cancelling | |||
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" Someone going quiet running up to a meet or changing their stories are always a red flag to me. But what are to me may not be to you.
This is also still a no show! If you've arranged to meet and they go quiet or start giving you guff... That's flaking in my book. Which is why I say about 50% of guys I plan to meet, flake. "Why do you think this happens ? Because if it was happening to me then I'd be wondering why . | |||
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"From my POV, a no show is someone who stands you up not someone who bails in advance " Ye I would think the same. A chat fizzling out is just that.Someone not showing up when you have gone to meet them is completely different. | |||
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