FabSwingers.com forum: People that won't reveal their face pic.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've been on Fab a few years now and have met and chatted to lots of wonderful and some,not so great people.But more recently i'm amazed at the amount of people chatting that go quiet or awol when asked to share their face pic.On my initial message i will always attach my face pic and if it meets with their approval,a conversation will develop and could go on for hours or even days in some cases.But my issue is,that when asked if they would care to share their face pic,i am met with silence....does anybody else experience this?

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I won't share my face pic quickly with anyone I chat to and if someone keeps pushing for one I will ignore them .

No one has to share anything their not comfortable with just because you send yours does not mean the other person has to.

In saying that if I chat for a bit and I am getting on well with someone I've no issue sending a face pic.

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By *rmrspumpCouple
over a year ago

narnia

We never share lu's face pic, there are some lovely people on fab, and some very dangerous people. So we don't take chances, if anyone doesn't like that then they can move along..

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By *andomCaptainMan
over a year ago

Roscommon

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By *andomCaptainMan
over a year ago

Roscommon

"I won't share my face pic quickly with anyone I chat to and if someone keeps pushing for one I will ignore them .

No one has to share anything their not comfortable with just because you send yours does not mean the other person has to.

In saying that if I chat for a bit and I am getting on well with someone I've no issue sending a face pic. "

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im always very reluctant to share a face pic. I most certainly dont share with anybody just because they've sent me one. Obviously if im getting on well with a guy and see potential then i will share one, and even then i still kinda dread it

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

I never asked for a face pic and if someone sends me one attached to a message I feel no obligation to return the favor....If they keep asking ill delete or ignore the message... Only when chatting for a while or when i feel comfortable to share one i will...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Let me just state that its not a case of asking straight off for a face pic.This is after a lot of messaging and 'getting to know eachother'.No point in progressing the conversation if i don't have an attraction thats the way i feel.Also i NEVER put pressure on others for a face pic.I would always ask if a person was comfortable in sharing a face pic.

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By *oserMan
over a year ago

where the wild roses grow

"Let me just state that its not a case of asking straight off for a face pic.This is after a lot of messaging and 'getting to know eachother'.No point in progressing the conversation if i don't have an attraction thats the way i feel.Also i NEVER put pressure on others for a face pic.I would always ask if a person was comfortable in sharing a face pic."

Evidently them going awol is an answer to you then?

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By *hatCoupleNextDoorCouple
over a year ago

nearby

Face pics seems to be a topic that will divide people OP. Some will be more than happy to send them on without a hesitation. Others will be more hesitant and will wait until they feel more comfortable with the person(s) they are chatting with. Given that the site is what it is, many will lean towards the latter. Personally we will chat for a good bit before feeling that it is right to send pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I too don't share my face pics easily. I like to get to know someone first and if we're going to meet then we will exchange face pics. I hate been asked straight away and as for men and couples expecting a face pic in return just because they sent one in their opening message that's a massive turn off due to pushy behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don't want to meet or talk to someone without a face pic that's fine, and if they don't want to send one that's fine too. It's entirely up to what you and they are comfortable with.

I send them, but that's me. It's hard to trust someone you just met and a lot of people are aware of that. In fact, I'm sure there's some people here who'll ask a user from their county for a face pic to see if they know them.

You do you !

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've never asked for a face pic or sent an unsolicited one. If I've chatted to someone for a while and we are both comfortable with the conversation they may ask for one and I will be happy to share but it never happens the other way around.

It's not a deal-breaker where I'm concerned because I don't expect to meet everyone I chat to. In fact I don't expect to meet anyone I chat to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Face pics seems to be a topic that will divide people OP. Some will be more than happy to send them on without a hesitation. Others will be more hesitant and will wait until they feel more comfortable with the person(s) they are chatting with. Given that the site is what it is, many will lean towards the latter. Personally we will chat for a good bit before feeling that it is right to send pics.

I agree and thats normally the time i request one as i feel if its to progress any further,i have to have an attraction to that person.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I too don't share my face pics easily. I like to get to know someone first and if we're going to meet then we will exchange face pics. I hate been asked straight away and as for men and couples expecting a face pic in return just because they sent one in their opening message that's a massive turn off due to pushy behaviour. "

I always send one first as a way of introduction.Obviously if the recipient feels they are attracted,then they may respond.Only after a lot of messaging and even possibly just before arranging a meet,do i ask for a face pic and always in a courteous manner.

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By *0FLHMan
over a year ago

Devon

I have a face pic but reading your comments I'm getting a bit glittery.

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By *0FLHMan
over a year ago

Devon

Sorry gittery.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've never asked for a face pic or sent an unsolicited one. If I've chatted to someone for a while and we are both comfortable with the conversation they may ask for one and I will be happy to share but it never happens the other way around.

It's not a deal-breaker where I'm concerned because I don't expect to meet everyone I chat to. In fact I don't expect to meet anyone I chat to. "

Most bios now will state that they will not reply to a message that doesn't have a face pic attached.My conversations and topics of messaging would generally be for a meet up.

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

It's not a deal-breaker where I'm concerned because I don't expect to meet everyone I chat to. In fact I don't expect to meet anyone I chat to. "

And there's me flirty my ass off all for nothing

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By *hatCoupleNextDoorCouple
over a year ago

nearby

I agree and thats normally the time i request one as i feel if its to progress any further,i have to have an attraction to that person."

Naturally you need to know if there's a physical attraction once you have established that you get on well, both are necessary to continue

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By *oingMan
over a year ago

co. antrim

It’s those who ask for a face pic right away who get on my tits

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

It's not a deal-breaker where I'm concerned because I don't expect to meet everyone I chat to. In fact I don't expect to meet anyone I chat to.

Most bios now will state that they will not reply to a message that doesn't have a face pic attached.My conversations and topics of messaging would generally be for a meet up."

Strangely enough I've never seen one of those bios so I doubt very much if most do ask for a pic. Then again I don't send first contact messages so that would never be an issue

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I agree and thats normally the time i request one as i feel if its to progress any further,i have to have an attraction to that person.

Naturally you need to know if there's a physical attraction once you have established that you get on well, both are necessary to continue

Thats my point.And only then do i ask.But it is a case of avoidance for some people i've encountered.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

It's not a deal-breaker where I'm concerned because I don't expect to meet everyone I chat to. In fact I don't expect to meet anyone I chat to.

And there's me flirty my ass off all for nothing

You just keep asking for ass pics

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By *andomCaptainMan
over a year ago

Roscommon

It's not a deal-breaker where I'm concerned because I don't expect to meet everyone I chat to. In fact I don't expect to meet anyone I chat to.

Most bios now will state that they will not reply to a message that doesn't have a face pic attached.My conversations and topics of messaging would generally be for a meet up."

If i read that statement 'messages must have a face pic' on a profile i just move on because 1) not type I'm looking to meet - too pushy 2) they are lightly just nosy pic hunters.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's not a deal-breaker where I'm concerned because I don't expect to meet everyone I chat to. In fact I don't expect to meet anyone I chat to.

Most bios now will state that they will not reply to a message that doesn't have a face pic attached.My conversations and topics of messaging would generally be for a meet up.

Strangely enough I've never seen one of those bios so I doubt very much if most do ask for a pic. Then again I don't send first contact messages so that would never be an issue"

Strange alright

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By *olongsuckerMan
over a year ago

Carrickonshannon

"We never share lu's face pic, there are some lovely people on fab, and some very dangerous people. So we don't take chances, if anyone doesn't like that then they can move along.."

Proper order too, too much at stake and too many weirdos out there

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

It's not a deal-breaker where I'm concerned because I don't expect to meet everyone I chat to. In fact I don't expect to meet anyone I chat to.

And there's me flirty my ass off all for nothing

You just keep asking for ass pics

But but but it's such a nice ass

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By *rmrspumpCouple
over a year ago

narnia

"It’s those who ask for a face pic right away who get on my tits"

People can ask gor whatever they want, it's your choice to give it to them or not. Once you've sent a photo, you lose control if it. There have been some horror stories on this date and I've had personal experience of them. It's your choice what you want to give up in return for ghe chance of z meet, but the dynamic is very different for guys than it is for girls and couples

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By *avidc2019Man
over a year ago

dublin

I’m on here little over a year op and have no bother sending face picture if asked but think people only send them when there interested in going further and the banter is flowing and they want to see more than a dick picture or the sky remote

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m on here little over a year op and have no bother sending face picture if asked but think people only send them when there interested in going further and the banter is flowing and they want to see more than a dick picture or the sky remote

Lol i hear you.But a few of the pics i received back,i'll tell you that a SKY REMOTE control would have made me much happier

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By *uniorendowedMan
over a year ago

London Derbyshire

"It’s those who ask for a face pic right away who get on my tits

Yeah I completely agree it’s very different for guys than it is for everyone else.

I think you can tell a lot from someone’s profile pictures too. Of course that’s not always the case but it has not failed me yet on fab and I’ve met some couples I find extremely sexy on here. Take Mrandmrspump you know they are bound to have an attractive couple

And also context is everything, I wouldn’t really be replying to someone who does not have any Veris or real depth or photos in their profiles and I certainly would not be responding with a face pic even if I was sent one and like everyone mentioned no one is really obliged to do anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just frightened if I take the brown paper bag off my head and reveal my face I'll look too hideous and scare them off

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By *ireannCplCouple
over a year ago

Suburbs

We posted our view point about exchanging face photos in another thread so we wont repeat again here.. (We can hear the sigh of relief..lol.)

Something we forgot to say was that we have had some great meetings after meeting someone at a club, event or party. We feel the day of having to exchange face photos is coming to an end now with the social scene compared to when we first joined. Just our two cents worth

EireCpl x

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By *avidc2019Man
over a year ago

dublin

Lol i hear you.But a few of the pics i received back,i'll tell you that a SKY REMOTE control would have made me much happier

jeeez lol

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By *avidc2019Man
over a year ago

dublin

"I'm just frightened if I take the brown paper bag off my head and reveal my face I'll look too hideous and scare them off

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that would never happen and sometimes your personality means more than a flawless looking beauty queen

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By *rmrspumpCouple
over a year ago

narnia

"It’s those who ask for a face pic right away who get on my tits

Yeah I completely agree it’s very different for guys than it is for everyone else.

Smooth..

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By *ogladyWoman
over a year ago

The bog

Unfortunately I'm one of those who won't meet without seeing who I'm meeting there needs to be an attraction for me and if i spend loads of time talking without seeing them then end up not being attracted to the person then it was all pointless..

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By *ogladyWoman
over a year ago

The bog

"We posted our view point about exchanging face photos in another thread so we wont repeat again here.. (We can hear the sigh of relief..lol.)

EireCpl x"

I'm the same as this I've met with more people after socials and parties

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

No way id sent a face pic i am here to get me rocks of not blown off

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

"No way id sent a face pic i am here to get me rocks of not blown off

What about sucked off

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By *appytoadsCouple
over a year ago

West Dublin

Ah the face pic sharing chestnut. Everyone here is of course entitled to their opinion, and to their level of paranoia. Some people have nothing to lose and eagerly show their face pics, others won't at all. Our view is that we don't do blind dates, so there is a time when exchange needs to happen. Of course then who shows first, and will the second person show after the first person, delema. Unfortunately here in Ireland being small and where everyone knowing someone who knows you there is great reluctance to out yourself by showing face pics, in the UK who seem to be well ahead of us and have face pics in there public gallery. Don't think we're getting there anytime soon.

So in our book manners and respect are high on our list of attributes for Likely meets but like everything can go to shit very quickly. Choose wisely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never share my face on this. I don't want a screenshot of my face on this website. I even state it on my singles. If you send a facepic and then demand one of me just don't bother sending it.

Himself does sometimes.

Miss_tattoo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unfortunately I'm one of those who won't meet without seeing who I'm meeting there needs to be an attraction for me and if i spend loads of time talking without seeing them then end up not being attracted to the person then it was all pointless.."

I agree. When a woman gets so many messages how can she have to time to stay chatting with guys when she doesn't even know what they look like? Each to their own but that to me is a complete waste of time. If I'm impressed by the initial message and their profile then the next step before getting into any deep chat is to exchange face pics; if I fancy them I'll probably give them my number...

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By *Belfast_FellaMan
over a year ago

belfast

I don't mind sharing a face pic after I've been chatting to someone for a while, or if they've been on the site for a while and I can see that they're legit. I won't share one with someone who's just come on the site or who asks me for it in the first pic.

I can understand why people won't share theirs, but I was once asked to travel an hour to meet someone, who then refused to share their pic (even though I'd shared mine). I figured that was a deal-breaker & called off the meet.

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By *oiracpl38Couple
over a year ago

moira ish

Would never ever share face pic nor do we ever ask for 1,NI is far too small palace and lot of creeps on here unfortunately if it's an issue for someone too bad.

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By *rmrspumpCouple
over a year ago

narnia

"Would never ever share face pic nor do we ever ask for 1,NI is far too small palace and lot of creeps on here unfortunately if it's an issue for someone too bad."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to have my face pic up. Then 2 years ago I met a lady on tinder. Chatting for a few days and things were going well. Then out of the blue she asked was I on any other sites. Turns out her friend was a fab member and when she saw my pic, she told her mate. Have an idea who her fab friend was but couldnt prove anything. So now im choosy who i send my face pics to.

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By *ouple 0073Couple
over a year ago

donegal

"Would never ever share face pic nor do we ever ask for 1,NI is far too small palace and lot of creeps on here unfortunately if it's an issue for someone too bad."
Well said x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m always curious if fabbers ‘friends’ pass pics from third parties to each other. That’s something Stopping me sharing face pics. I do like seeing peoples faces and would share mine at some point but building trust is essential first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m always curious if fabbers ‘friends’ pass pics from third parties to each other. That’s something Stopping me sharing face pics. I do like seeing peoples faces and would share mine at some point but building trust is essential first. "

That unfortunately has been an ongoing problem here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That unfortunately has been an ongoing problem here. "

I mean, it takes a bit to finally decide to send the face pic just to be shown all over? Disrespectful people!

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By *quinnMan
over a year ago

Limerick

That unfortunately has been an ongoing problem here.

I mean, it takes a bit to finally decide to send the face pic just to be shown all over? Disrespectful people!

Thats the part that makes me hesitate to do it, I think if you've been talking to someone a bit and built up a trust, its fine in those circumstances but I've had interactions before where a face pic has been immediately requested either on 1st contact or as 1st reply to my initial message and that always puts me off a bit.

Perfectly happy to chat and see if there seems to be mutual interest in sharing pics etc, but the initial request or demand without any other conversation isn't for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think anyone should send face pictures here or on any other site, it’s too dangerous. At the end of the day this place should be just about fun and enjoyment.

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By *elfastDMan
over a year ago

belfast

I don’t think passing around of pics is happening as often as you might think when reading the threads on the forum, personally I’ve never experienced it first or second hand. It does happen, absolutely, but for every face picture that is sent I’d say the percentage passed on to others has to be pretty low.

When you’re comfortable enough to share a face pic you generally know it’s the right time. Don’t share prematurely, nobody likes a premature e-pic-ulator

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By *rmrspumpCouple
over a year ago

narnia

When you’re comfortable enough to share a face pic you generally know it’s the right time. Don’t share prematurely, nobody likes a premature e-pic-ulator"

I have had personal experience of this, my face pic has been used in the past to set up troll profiles. And there was a thread on this forum last week from a couple who had had thier privacy compromised. To think that after a few days of messaging what is effectively a stranger on the Internet you can generate enough trust to risk your privacy and safety is frankly a little silly, you have no idea who that person really is, they could be completely trust worthy, or they could be a weirdo stalker that has a good line in bullshit. I'd also note that every one of these threads is started by a guy, I can assure you that no one is passing around face pics of guys in private groups..

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By *ent and bratCouple
over a year ago

here there everywhere

All of this down to our pics been used by trolls aswell. Worst part is you dont know if they are still floating about out there somewere.

Takes an awful lot of chatting and trust been built with us before we go there now. As you say I highly doubt there is any guys face pics or private pics been used or sent anywere.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Two couples that say mens face pictures are not shared

Yet there's been many an argument on here about the fact that mens face pics have been shared in outside groups

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Two couples that say mens face pictures are not shared

Yet there's been many an argument on here about the fact that mens face pics have been shared in outside groups

Not just mens...

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By *rmrspumpCouple
over a year ago

narnia

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By *rmrspumpCouple
over a year ago

narnia

"Two couples that say mens face pictures are not shared

Yet there's been many an argument on here about the fact that mens face pics have been shared in outside groups

If you were part of a couple would you be happy sharing your partner's face on fab?

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By *ent and bratCouple
over a year ago

here there everywhere

"Two couples that say mens face pictures are not shared

Yet there's been many an argument on here about the fact that mens face pics have been shared in outside groups

Ok then from personal experience we have never heard or seen of mens face pics been shared but have heard of dozens of women and couples. Dont get involved in arguments on here so havent seen any of that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't mind sharing a face pic after I've been chatting to someone for a while, or if they've been on the site for a while and I can see that they're legit. I won't share one with someone who's just come on the site or who asks me for it in the first pic.

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By *rmrspumpCouple
over a year ago

narnia

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually send a face pic with any message and I don't push for a face pic-usually wait for it to be sent or asked if I want to see one! We men can be fools asking a woman(in my case that's how I roll) as we are so focused on appearances rather than the type of person or if there is any chemistry.

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By *rmrspumpCouple
over a year ago

narnia

"Two couples that say mens face pictures are not shared

Yet there's been many an argument on here about the fact that mens face pics have been shared in outside groups

I spent a fair amount of time in this site as a single guy, and had no problem sending a face pic, because no one gives a shit about a guy on a sex site. Girls and couples on the other hand is a very different story, and we all know it

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I have spoken to numerous women who have left chat groups due to pic sharing of both men and women. There were no men in any of these groups.

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By *rmrspumpCouple
over a year ago

narnia

"I have spoken to numerous women who have left chat groups due to pic sharing of both men and women. There were no men in any of these groups.

We've been in many couple/single girl groups and have NEVER experienced anyone sharing pics that weren't their own

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"Two couples that say mens face pictures are not shared

Yet there's been many an argument on here about the fact that mens face pics have been shared in outside groups

Not just mens... "

True...it's just that men were mentioned

I've shared my face pic with some on here and they've shared theirs with me.

I trust them enough to share mine and presume they trusted me to do the same

It was never about meeting but just about putting a face to a profile

Its a gut feeling ...if i was wrong I was wrong

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"I have spoken to numerous women who have left chat groups due to pic sharing of both men and women. There were no men in any of these groups.

We've been in many couple/single girl groups and have NEVER experienced anyone sharing pics that weren't their own"

I've been in half a dozen over 4 years and left 1 because of videos of people not in the group being shared and left 2 others because pics and PM's were being shared.

That's why I'm not in any groups now.

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By *rmrspumpCouple
over a year ago

narnia

"I have spoken to numerous women who have left chat groups due to pic sharing of both men and women. There were no men in any of these groups.

We've been in many couple/single girl groups and have NEVER experienced anyone sharing pics that weren't their own

I've been in half a dozen over 4 years and left 1 because of videos of people not in the group being shared and left 2 others because pics and PM's were being shared.

That's why I'm not in any groups now. "

We've been in very different groups

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"Two couples that say mens face pictures are not shared

Yet there's been many an argument on here about the fact that mens face pics have been shared in outside groups

If you were part of a couple would you be happy sharing your partner's face on fab?"

Hard to tell as it would be her decision in the first place as to what was shared once we joined

Some couples say they would never expect a partner to take one for the team so face pics or not even a social meet

Then some couples never share face pics at all

Its a difficult dilemma for anyone

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By *rmrspumpCouple
over a year ago

narnia

"Two couples that say mens face pictures are not shared

Yet there's been many an argument on here about the fact that mens face pics have been shared in outside groups

If you were part of a couple would you be happy sharing your partner's face on fab?

Hard to tell as it would be her decision in the first place as to what was shared once we joined

Some couples say they would never expect a partner to take one for the team so face pics or not even a social meet

Then some couples never share face pics at all

Its a difficult dilemma for anyone

As I said earlier, I've had my face pics used on troll profiles here, I've also had a fem friend had her face pic posted on Facebook and numerous troll profiles here. Once you send something you lose control of it, hit that send button at your peril

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By *uittopMan
over a year ago

South County Dublin

"I've been on Fab a few years now and have met and chatted to lots of wonderful and some,not so great people.But more recently i'm amazed at the amount of people chatting that go quiet or awol when asked to share their face pic.On my initial message i will always attach my face pic and if it meets with their approval,a conversation will develop and could go on for hours or even days in some cases.But my issue is,that when asked if they would care to share their face pic,i am met with silence....does anybody else experience this?"
I have full face pics on my profile, if someone doesn't want to share theirs, I have no problem with that. However we then have to meet for coffee and a chat, before deciding to go further at a later day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite often

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alot of fake profiles, most are just looking for gossip to see if they recognise you, happens to me all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We never share lu's face pic, there are some lovely people on fab, and some very dangerous people. So we don't take chances, if anyone doesn't like that then they can move along.."

Your of course right to be cautious.. I’m sure she’s gorgeous.. it’s the single guys I think are at most risk here as we need to do pretty much what ever the couple or single lady want to get a meet.. including face pics... it’s a dangerous path we walk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you’re comfortable enough to share a face pic you generally know it’s the right time. Don’t share prematurely, nobody likes a premature e-pic-ulator

You simply can not assure anyone of that. That’s rather privileged thinking there of you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Two couples that say mens face pictures are not shared

Yet there's been many an argument on here about the fact that mens face pics have been shared in outside groups

That’s a much different and more reasonable statement than your first one. Glad you’ve seen sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have spoken to numerous women who have left chat groups due to pic sharing of both men and women. There were no men in any of these groups.

We've been in many couple/single girl groups and have NEVER experienced anyone sharing pics that weren't their own"

Your response only seems like an attempt to invalidate his statement - it’s showing some parallels with victim blaming

Just because you haven’t experienced it goes NO way to serve up the idea that it doesn’t happen - and often

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By *rmrspumpCouple
over a year ago

narnia

"I have spoken to numerous women who have left chat groups due to pic sharing of both men and women. There were no men in any of these groups.

We've been in many couple/single girl groups and have NEVER experienced anyone sharing pics that weren't their own

Your response only seems like an attempt to invalidate his statement - it’s showing some parallels with victim blaming

Just because you haven’t experienced it goes NO way to serve up the idea that it doesn’t happen - and often

I was replying to his outline of his personal experience with my very different personal experience, I'd like you to explain how that is victim blaming, especially as the gentleman I was replying to never claimed to be a victim? I'd also point out that as I have previously explained on this very thread that I in fact have been a victim

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you’re comfortable enough to share a face pic you generally know it’s the right time. Don’t share prematurely, nobody likes a premature e-pic-ulator"

I almost lost my singles profile as someone stole all my pics and reported my profile for using "her" pics as mine. Even though the time line was in my favour I had to delete my pics and repost new pictures. Then they set up another profile with almost same name as mine and reported me again I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have spoken to numerous women who have left chat groups due to pic sharing of both men and women. There were no men in any of these groups.

We've been in many couple/single girl groups and have NEVER experienced anyone sharing pics that weren't their own

Your response only seems like an attempt to invalidate his statement - it’s showing some parallels with victim blaming

Just because you haven’t experienced it goes NO way to serve up the idea that it doesn’t happen - and often

If you can’t see how it is essentially disregarding the truth of someone else then I can’t help you to see the equivalence or dismissing someone’s experience.

You directly and immediately replied that it never happened to you and it looks like it’s an attempt at possibly undermining the previous poster

That’s how it reads to me anyway

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By *rmrspumpCouple
over a year ago

narnia

"I have spoken to numerous women who have left chat groups due to pic sharing of both men and women. There were no men in any of these groups.

We've been in many couple/single girl groups and have NEVER experienced anyone sharing pics that weren't their own

Your response only seems like an attempt to invalidate his statement - it’s showing some parallels with victim blaming

Just because you haven’t experienced it goes NO way to serve up the idea that it doesn’t happen - and often

If you can’t see how it is essentially disregarding the truth of someone else then I can’t help you to see the equivalence or dismissing someone’s experience.

You directly and immediately replied that it never happened to you and it looks like it’s an attempt at possibly undermining the previous poster

That’s how it reads to me anyway "

Still don't see how it's remotely victim blaming.

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over a year ago

"I have spoken to numerous women who have left chat groups due to pic sharing of both men and women. There were no men in any of these groups.

We've been in many couple/single girl groups and have NEVER experienced anyone sharing pics that weren't their own

Your response only seems like an attempt to invalidate his statement - it’s showing some parallels with victim blaming

Just because you haven’t experienced it goes NO way to serve up the idea that it doesn’t happen - and often

And in dating you’ve been a victim leaves it further hard to see why in at least a few comments you keep ramming home people must be in different groups to yours if men’s pics are getting shared.

Well, duh, that’s obvious and therefore what point does it serve to say that. You seem very vociferous in your replies here. Gives off a certain vibe simply

Dismissive of other’s experiences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have spoken to numerous women who have left chat groups due to pic sharing of both men and women. There were no men in any of these groups.

We've been in many couple/single girl groups and have NEVER experienced anyone sharing pics that weren't their own

Your response only seems like an attempt to invalidate his statement - it’s showing some parallels with victim blaming

Just because you haven’t experienced it goes NO way to serve up the idea that it doesn’t happen - and often

If you can’t see how it is essentially disregarding the truth of someone else then I can’t help you to see the equivalence or dismissing someone’s experience.

You directly and immediately replied that it never happened to you and it looks like it’s an attempt at possibly undermining the previous poster

That’s how it reads to me anyway

Still don't see how it's remotely victim blaming."

Maybe I got my phrase wrong - victim dismissal maybe or undermining/white washing their experiences

See my previous post

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By *rmrspumpCouple
over a year ago

narnia

"I have spoken to numerous women who have left chat groups due to pic sharing of both men and women. There were no men in any of these groups.

We've been in many couple/single girl groups and have NEVER experienced anyone sharing pics that weren't their own

Your response only seems like an attempt to invalidate his statement - it’s showing some parallels with victim blaming

Just because you haven’t experienced it goes NO way to serve up the idea that it doesn’t happen - and often

If you can’t see how it is essentially disregarding the truth of someone else then I can’t help you to see the equivalence or dismissing someone’s experience.

You directly and immediately replied that it never happened to you and it looks like it’s an attempt at possibly undermining the previous poster

That’s how it reads to me anyway

Still don't see how it's remotely victim blaming.

Maybe I got my phrase wrong - victim dismissal maybe or undermining/white washing their experiences

See my previous post

So what your suggesting that my experience is less valid than someone else's? That I should refrain from pointing out that my experience has been very different, yes?

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over a year ago

"I have spoken to numerous women who have left chat groups due to pic sharing of both men and women. There were no men in any of these groups.

We've been in many couple/single girl groups and have NEVER experienced anyone sharing pics that weren't their own

Your response only seems like an attempt to invalidate his statement - it’s showing some parallels with victim blaming

Just because you haven’t experienced it goes NO way to serve up the idea that it doesn’t happen - and often

If you can’t see how it is essentially disregarding the truth of someone else then I can’t help you to see the equivalence or dismissing someone’s experience.

You directly and immediately replied that it never happened to you and it looks like it’s an attempt at possibly undermining the previous poster

That’s how it reads to me anyway

Still don't see how it's remotely victim blaming.

Maybe I got my phrase wrong - victim dismissal maybe or undermining/white washing their experiences

See my previous post

So what your suggesting that my experience is less valid than someone else's? That I should refrain from pointing out that my experience has been very different, yes?"

Nope you’re twisting now. I’m done. I know you know what I mean and others will have seen it

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By *rmrspumpCouple
over a year ago

narnia

"I have spoken to numerous women who have left chat groups due to pic sharing of both men and women. There were no men in any of these groups.

We've been in many couple/single girl groups and have NEVER experienced anyone sharing pics that weren't their own

Your response only seems like an attempt to invalidate his statement - it’s showing some parallels with victim blaming

Just because you haven’t experienced it goes NO way to serve up the idea that it doesn’t happen - and often

If you can’t see how it is essentially disregarding the truth of someone else then I can’t help you to see the equivalence or dismissing someone’s experience.

You directly and immediately replied that it never happened to you and it looks like it’s an attempt at possibly undermining the previous poster

That’s how it reads to me anyway

Still don't see how it's remotely victim blaming.

Maybe I got my phrase wrong - victim dismissal maybe or undermining/white washing their experiences

See my previous post

So what your suggesting that my experience is less valid than someone else's? That I should refrain from pointing out that my experience has been very different, yes?

Nope you’re twisting now. I’m done. I know you know what I mean and others will have seen it

Not twisting at all, my experience is as valid as anyone else's, and at no time did the person I was replying to claim to be a victim.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"I have spoken to numerous women who have left chat groups due to pic sharing of both men and women. There were no men in any of these groups.

We've been in many couple/single girl groups and have NEVER experienced anyone sharing pics that weren't their own

Your response only seems like an attempt to invalidate his statement - it’s showing some parallels with victim blaming

Just because you haven’t experienced it goes NO way to serve up the idea that it doesn’t happen - and often

If you can’t see how it is essentially disregarding the truth of someone else then I can’t help you to see the equivalence or dismissing someone’s experience.

You directly and immediately replied that it never happened to you and it looks like it’s an attempt at possibly undermining the previous poster

That’s how it reads to me anyway

Still don't see how it's remotely victim blaming.

Maybe I got my phrase wrong - victim dismissal maybe or undermining/white washing their experiences

See my previous post

So what your suggesting that my experience is less valid than someone else's? That I should refrain from pointing out that my experience has been very different, yes?

Nope you’re twisting now. I’m done. I know you know what I mean and others will have seen it

Not twisting at all, my experience is as valid as anyone else's, and at no time did the person I was replying to claim to be a victim."

I've never been a victim of pic sharing as far as I'm aware apart from my public pics being used by others.

My experiences in chat groups have been varied though and as said before I have left groups because of pic sharing and videos being shared of people not in the group. These groups were made up of men, women and couples and it wasn't just the men who were sharing and on one occasion personal details were also posted.

In 4 years on here I can say with confidence that I have only chatted privately to approximately 30 people and 8-10 of those have told me about their personal experiences in various groups involving sharing of details including face pics.

I've no reason to doubt any of this as these conversations were spread out over 4 years and with both experienced swingers and those new to the scene.

I'm sure there are lots of groups with strict rules that don't allow this and not all the groups I've been in have allowed it but it does happen and a number of women have posted here in the forums about similar experiences over the last year.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

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By *rmrspumpCouple
over a year ago

narnia

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By *rmrspumpCouple
over a year ago

narnia

"I have spoken to numerous women who have left chat groups due to pic sharing of both men and women. There were no men in any of these groups.

We've been in many couple/single girl groups and have NEVER experienced anyone sharing pics that weren't their own

Your response only seems like an attempt to invalidate his statement - it’s showing some parallels with victim blaming

Just because you haven’t experienced it goes NO way to serve up the idea that it doesn’t happen - and often

If you can’t see how it is essentially disregarding the truth of someone else then I can’t help you to see the equivalence or dismissing someone’s experience.

You directly and immediately replied that it never happened to you and it looks like it’s an attempt at possibly undermining the previous poster

That’s how it reads to me anyway

Still don't see how it's remotely victim blaming.

Maybe I got my phrase wrong - victim dismissal maybe or undermining/white washing their experiences

See my previous post

So what your suggesting that my experience is less valid than someone else's? That I should refrain from pointing out that my experience has been very different, yes?

Nope you’re twisting now. I’m done. I know you know what I mean and others will have seen it

Not twisting at all, my experience is as valid as anyone else's, and at no time did the person I was replying to claim to be a victim.

I've never been a victim of pic sharing as far as I'm aware apart from my public pics being used by others.

I've no reason to doubt any of this as these conversations were spread out over 4 years and with both experienced swingers and those new to the scene.

I'm not doubting you, although as I said it's never been my experience. Although I do find it aodd that these threads always come down to a men vs women dynamic. Someone will point out that women and couples have more to lose, and then a small gaggle of guys will spit the dummy out. I don't think many would disagree that men generally are much more willing to send face pics than women, and the reason for that in my opinion being that there is very much less fuss about a man being outed as a swinger than a woman or a couple. And I say this as someone who has been on this site as both a single and part of a couple. When I was here as a single guy I had no problem sharing face pics, now, not so much. That is of course unless the guy is married or in a sensitive position

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Its really just down to personal choice in the end

if you're going to be asked for face pics then decide yes or no and live with either the silence or the conversation continuing.

We all have different experiences of sharing and we'll never agree in fairness

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

"I'm not doubting you, although as I said it's never been my experience. Although I do find it odd that these threads always come down to a men vs women dynamic. Someone will point out that women and couples have more to lose, and then a small gaggle of guys will spit the dummy out. I don't think many would disagree that men generally are much more willing to send face pics than women, and the reason for that in my opinion being that there is very much less fuss about a man being outed as a swinger than a woman or a couple. And I say this as someone who has been on this site as both a single and part of a couple. When I was here as a single guy I had no problem sharing face pics, now, not so much. That is of course unless the guy is married or in a sensitive position"

It was you further up that brought in the distinction between men and women/couples, and it's you cooking it up over and over,odd isn't it?

There are thousands of valid reasons why someone feels uncomfortable to share a face pic on here regardless of gender or civil status or favourite chocolate bar. Also my best guess is single men are more likely to share a face pic because it increases their chances on here, not because they're less reluctant to do so. While your personal experience is valid, it can't be generalised and it's down to each person to make their own decisions regarding face pics. Also privacy of each person should be respected again regardless of gender or other criteria.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't have any face pics on this site to share,nor do we intend to upload any.

Says on our profile we won't send face pics,but still get messages from guys that get annoyed we won't when they have sent theirs.

Maybe if they actually read our profile and didn't make assumptions

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"I've been on Fab a few years now and have met and chatted to lots of wonderful and some,not so great people.But more recently i'm amazed at the amount of people chatting that go quiet or awol when asked to share their face pic.On my initial message i will always attach my face pic and if it meets with their approval,a conversation will develop and could go on for hours or even days in some cases.But my issue is,that when asked if they would care to share their face pic,i am met with silence....does anybody else experience this?"
I like to get face pics out of the way pretty quickly as I see no point chatting and getting on like a house on fire only to discover later that there is no physical attraction

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

It was you further up that brought in the distinction between men and women/couples, and it's you cooking it up over and over,odd isn't it?

Exactly I don't see why it seems to be deemed okay for it to happen to men on here Every ones privacy should be respected but it's not by some on here .

And I have been in groups in some groups where men's face pics and their personal info was shared it's the reason I left them ..There has only been a small handful of ones I've been in that haven't allowed it to happen .It's one of the reasons I have no interest in groups anymore .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have spoken to numerous women who have left chat groups due to pic sharing of both men and women. There were no men in any of these groups.

We've been in many couple/single girl groups and have NEVER experienced anyone sharing pics that weren't their own

Your response only seems like an attempt to invalidate his statement - it’s showing some parallels with victim blaming

Just because you haven’t experienced it goes NO way to serve up the idea that it doesn’t happen - and often

If you can’t see how it is essentially disregarding the truth of someone else then I can’t help you to see the equivalence or dismissing someone’s experience.

You directly and immediately replied that it never happened to you and it looks like it’s an attempt at possibly undermining the previous poster

That’s how it reads to me anyway

Still don't see how it's remotely victim blaming.

Maybe I got my phrase wrong - victim dismissal maybe or undermining/white washing their experiences

See my previous post

So what your suggesting that my experience is less valid than someone else's? That I should refrain from pointing out that my experience has been very different, yes?

Nope you’re twisting now. I’m done. I know you know what I mean and others will have seen it

Not twisting at all, my experience is as valid as anyone else's, and at no time did the person I was replying to claim to be a victim.

I've never been a victim of pic sharing as far as I'm aware apart from my public pics being used by others.

I've no reason to doubt any of this as these conversations were spread out over 4 years and with both experienced swingers and those new to the scene.

I’m not sure why you find it odd when it’s yourself in particular in this thread who is driving much of the division.

Men simply shared their experiences - no attempt to make it a battle until basically you’ve been decently replying “oh I’ve never seen it”. We kinda get it at this stage. You don’t need to ram it down our throats

So in summary, don’t naively try to act surprised and say it’s odd that threads like these turn into a vs thing when in this one it’s you who is the primary driver of it

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over a year ago

It was you further up that brought in the distinction between men and women/couples, and it's you cooking it up over and over,odd isn't it?

I’m actually glad someone else has seen it so I’ll say thanks.

Bloody infuriating

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By *ll about fun timeCouple
over a year ago

Dublin/Wmeath

But the you have men and couples that want you to meet and accom without seeing a face pic I'm sorry but if chats got to meeting stage it's a requirement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes face pics do have their advantages but they also take away from the mystery if you do decide to meet...going from when I had a singles profile I would always quite happily send a face pic if requested but never asked for one in return because I enjoyed first meets where I was trying to figure out who in the crowded room was the one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m with you, definitely adds to the excitement

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