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By *MAs OP   Man
over a year ago

Craigavon

Ive been on fab a while now but it seems to be getting harder to have a conversation or interaction with another member im sure a few might have this same problem.

I wouldn't make a face pic public due to my respect of privacy but more than happy to send someone who ive been chatting to which is surely is a problem within itself.Also women are constantly bombarded with messages/winks/fake accounts daily which is damaging to the genuine guys out there?!

How do you get a step ahead..Please advise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't send it face pics willy nilly. Some ppl are very demanding asking for face pics and you may still never hear from them again. You're right to respect your privacy as you can't say that other strangers will. It's a tough game but stick in there I understand your frustration but not everyone expect a face pic on first contact.

Mind yourself and happy fabbing

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

Sending a picture in a first message does not guarantee that conversations are going to progress to more than just chatting.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I don't think the amount of messages people get is damaging and there are filters which can dramatically cut down the amount of messages you get if you don't want a load daily.

It is definitely harder for guys on here though to get chatting on here.

I know before I answer any new message I look at the profile if the profile doesn't appeal and the depending on the message I'll either answer saying no or just delete. Your profile is your shop window as such and I think can be one of the most important things to make an effort with on here .

As for a face pic in a first message it doesn't bother me if I see one or not in a first message and I don't ask for one either as I think everyone is entitled to their privacy if I have chatted for a bit then we normally exchange them anyhow.But that's just me others will think the opposite all you can do it keep trying.

Delete messages you sent so you're not checking to see if they are read or deleted so you don't worry about it all.

Or join in the forum's so people get to see you more .

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

I feel your frustration. I've been a single guy on here and the experience is VERY different to couples and females. Try not to take it too seriously and make your public pics the absolute best you can. Dorsnt have to be a faceplate it DOES have to grab the attention.

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By *ineapple_PrincessWoman
over a year ago

in the waves

A lot of men send pace pics in first messages and then think they're entitled to one back. I don't ask for face pics, and never send my own until I've chatted with someone a good bit. This often causes problems because they sent theirs but I won't reciprocate. My advice... don't send face pics until you feel comfortable. And I'd be wary of any profile demanding anything in first messages.

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By *ed_AliceWoman
over a year ago

Belfast


"A lot of men send pace pics in first messages and then think they're entitled to one back. I don't ask for face pics, and never send my own until I've chatted with someone a good bit. This often causes problems because they sent theirs but I won't reciprocate. My advice... don't send face pics until you feel comfortable. And I'd be wary of any profile demanding anything in first messages.

"

I second this

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By *ireannCplCouple
over a year ago

Suburbs

We used to be of the opinion that photographs be exchanged before any meet. As of recently because of the amount of fake profiles (yes we got burned recently) we now feel that we will exchange a face photo with a well verified and active member, Not a cam or photo verified. Any other profile we'll just go with a blind meet if it suits both parties. It seems the way to go. Just because someone sends a face photo on the blind doesn't automatically mean you should reply with one though. It could open the door to further conversation, it may not. It's a chance you take yourself. Hope we made sense..lol

EireCpl x

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By *addywhackerMan
over a year ago

Derry

I agree, I'm ready to throw in the towel here

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By *parklySassWoman
over a year ago

Sassville

I would never consider sending a face picture unless ive been chatting to someone for a while. Nor do i ask or expect one to be sent to me!! Everybody has their own way and ideas about it. I have been given abuse over the years about not sending one, not just from guys either!! Think ive only ever broken my rule once and that was on a Friday face pic forum post about a year ago on a whim

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By *ac147Man
over a year ago

Belfast East

Personally I think the main reason guys send a face pic and usually have the headline of "face pic attached" is because a lot of blokes just send pics of their wee Percy's. So by saying that they have included a face pic maybe gives an extra chance that the message will be read and not just deleted. At least that's my thinking. Lol.

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

Don't think guys would have it half as hard if:

1. They would read profiles before messaging and not message people who's criteria they don't fit. I.e. woman/couple states that they don't want to meet people from far away. If you live far away just don't message them as you aren't what they're looking for etc.

2. If after reading profile and ticking all the boxes you feel like you've nothing to say - just don't message that person. Add them to your hotlist, keep an eye on updates, you may come up with something in near future.

3. Wish guys would stop being so God damn forward. There is a grey area in between "hi" and "want to fuck". Stay in it. Most women don't want random strangers to approach them with their plans on how they going to fuck them.

4. Most guys assume that if a person replies or agrees to meet for a social - sex is guaranteed, they let themselves loose and quickly push people away with their assumptions.

In summary- guys hardships mainly come from ignoring people's personal preferences and wrong attitude.

Missus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't think guys would have it half as hard if:

1. They would read profiles before messaging and not message people who's criteria they don't fit. I.e. woman/couple states that they don't want to meet people from far away. If you live far away just don't message them as you aren't what they're looking for etc.

2. If after reading profile and ticking all the boxes you feel like you've nothing to say - just don't message that person. Add them to your hotlist, keep an eye on updates, you may come up with something in near future.

3. Wish guys would stop being so God damn forward. There is a grey area in between "hi" and "want to fuck". Stay in it. Most women don't want random strangers to approach them with their plans on how they going to fuck them.

4. Most guys assume that if a person replies or agrees to meet for a social - sex is guaranteed, they let themselves loose and quickly push people away with their assumptions.

In summary- guys hardships mainly come from ignoring people's personal preferences and wrong attitude.

Missus "

Some of your post i do agree on some i dont I've been chatting 2 a few woman on here and having great conversation with them about situation like this.. yes a lot of good lads on here read your bio tick all the boxes and then start off conversation as some bios state no hi or hello say what you want and see... most lads that don't have manner for themselves let alone the woman the wanna bed mess it up for the good guys.. we add pictures as required but get blanked by in my opinion high maintenance or woman just as ignorant as some men 2 it is harder for us 2 click with the right woman we do put in more efforts 2 talk or get meets but just have 2 be patient with it good times do come ahead its all a bit of fun suits some people doesn't suit others

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast


"Don't think guys would have it half as hard if:

1. They would read profiles before messaging and not message people who's criteria they don't fit. I.e. woman/couple states that they don't want to meet people from far away. If you live far away just don't message them as you aren't what they're looking for etc.

2. If after reading profile and ticking all the boxes you feel like you've nothing to say - just don't message that person. Add them to your hotlist, keep an eye on updates, you may come up with something in near future.

3. Wish guys would stop being so God damn forward. There is a grey area in between "hi" and "want to fuck". Stay in it. Most women don't want random strangers to approach them with their plans on how they going to fuck them.

4. Most guys assume that if a person replies or agrees to meet for a social - sex is guaranteed, they let themselves loose and quickly push people away with their assumptions.

In summary- guys hardships mainly come from ignoring people's personal preferences and wrong attitude.

Missus

Some of your post i do agree on some i dont I've been chatting 2 a few woman on here and having great conversation with them about situation like this.. yes a lot of good lads on here read your bio tick all the boxes and then start off conversation as some bios state no hi or hello say what you want and see... most lads that don't have manner for themselves let alone the woman the wanna bed mess it up for the good guys.. we add pictures as required but get blanked by in my opinion high maintenance or woman just as ignorant as some men 2 it is harder for us 2 click with the right woman we do put in more efforts 2 talk or get meets but just have 2 be patient with it good times do come ahead its all a bit of fun suits some people doesn't suit others "

Connections with right people come effortlessly. If you feel like someone is making you jump through the hoops - maybe it's not a right person for you.

Nobody is ruining it for the good guys. True good guys stand out very well and are very much appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't think guys would have it half as hard if:

1. They would read profiles before messaging and not message people who's criteria they don't fit. I.e. woman/couple states that they don't want to meet people from far away. If you live far away just don't message them as you aren't what they're looking for etc.

2. If after reading profile and ticking all the boxes you feel like you've nothing to say - just don't message that person. Add them to your hotlist, keep an eye on updates, you may come up with something in near future.

3. Wish guys would stop being so God damn forward. There is a grey area in between "hi" and "want to fuck". Stay in it. Most women don't want random strangers to approach them with their plans on how they going to fuck them.

4. Most guys assume that if a person replies or agrees to meet for a social - sex is guaranteed, they let themselves loose and quickly push people away with their assumptions.

In summary- guys hardships mainly come from ignoring people's personal preferences and wrong attitude.

Missus

Some of your post i do agree on some i dont I've been chatting 2 a few woman on here and having great conversation with them about situation like this.. yes a lot of good lads on here read your bio tick all the boxes and then start off conversation as some bios state no hi or hello say what you want and see... most lads that don't have manner for themselves let alone the woman the wanna bed mess it up for the good guys.. we add pictures as required but get blanked by in my opinion high maintenance or woman just as ignorant as some men 2 it is harder for us 2 click with the right woman we do put in more efforts 2 talk or get meets but just have 2 be patient with it good times do come ahead its all a bit of fun suits some people doesn't suit others

Connections with right people come effortlessly. If you feel like someone is making you jump through the hoops - maybe it's not a right person for you.

Nobody is ruining it for the good guys. True good guys stand out very well and are very much appreciated. "

I feel that if you have loads of men hounding women and been plain ignorant towards women filling up the inbox do you not think that ruins it for good men that we get over looked or she couldn't be bothered anymore thats just my opinion.... im not saying im jumping through hoops just stating as the form is it is harder for men and just takes time the right people do come along and I've connected with old and new friends im on this 2 years now and started all over again still learning new things just showing some support 2 people that can relate

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By *ecentguy321Man
over a year ago

nearby

I wouldnt worry about being a step ahead. Just be yourself. If you connect with someone, itll progress from there.

In regards to face pics. I dont see an issue with sending in a message, 1st or otherwise. As long as youre satisfied hornyteen18 is not actually hornygeorge55 whos sat at home in his mums box room

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast


"Don't think guys would have it half as hard if:

1. They would read profiles before messaging and not message people who's criteria they don't fit. I.e. woman/couple states that they don't want to meet people from far away. If you live far away just don't message them as you aren't what they're looking for etc.

2. If after reading profile and ticking all the boxes you feel like you've nothing to say - just don't message that person. Add them to your hotlist, keep an eye on updates, you may come up with something in near future.

3. Wish guys would stop being so God damn forward. There is a grey area in between "hi" and "want to fuck". Stay in it. Most women don't want random strangers to approach them with their plans on how they going to fuck them.

4. Most guys assume that if a person replies or agrees to meet for a social - sex is guaranteed, they let themselves loose and quickly push people away with their assumptions.

In summary- guys hardships mainly come from ignoring people's personal preferences and wrong attitude.

Missus

Some of your post i do agree on some i dont I've been chatting 2 a few woman on here and having great conversation with them about situation like this.. yes a lot of good lads on here read your bio tick all the boxes and then start off conversation as some bios state no hi or hello say what you want and see... most lads that don't have manner for themselves let alone the woman the wanna bed mess it up for the good guys.. we add pictures as required but get blanked by in my opinion high maintenance or woman just as ignorant as some men 2 it is harder for us 2 click with the right woman we do put in more efforts 2 talk or get meets but just have 2 be patient with it good times do come ahead its all a bit of fun suits some people doesn't suit others

Connections with right people come effortlessly. If you feel like someone is making you jump through the hoops - maybe it's not a right person for you.

Nobody is ruining it for the good guys. True good guys stand out very well and are very much appreciated.

I feel that if you have loads of men hounding women and been plain ignorant towards women filling up the inbox do you not think that ruins it for good men that we get over looked or she couldn't be bothered anymore thats just my opinion.... im not saying im jumping through hoops just stating as the form is it is harder for men and just takes time the right people do come along and I've connected with old and new friends im on this 2 years now and started all over again still learning new things just showing some support 2 people that can relate"

Absolutely not. It's easy to delete nonsesne messages and block rude people.

I'm more fed up with guys in my inbox stating how everyone else is horrible but they're a good guy and don't stand a chance because of everyone else (this happens on a daily basis)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't think guys would have it half as hard if:

1. They would read profiles before messaging and not message people who's criteria they don't fit. I.e. woman/couple states that they don't want to meet people from far away. If you live far away just don't message them as you aren't what they're looking for etc.

2. If after reading profile and ticking all the boxes you feel like you've nothing to say - just don't message that person. Add them to your hotlist, keep an eye on updates, you may come up with something in near future.

3. Wish guys would stop being so God damn forward. There is a grey area in between "hi" and "want to fuck". Stay in it. Most women don't want random strangers to approach them with their plans on how they going to fuck them.

4. Most guys assume that if a person replies or agrees to meet for a social - sex is guaranteed, they let themselves loose and quickly push people away with their assumptions.

In summary- guys hardships mainly come from ignoring people's personal preferences and wrong attitude.

Missus

Some of your post i do agree on some i dont I've been chatting 2 a few woman on here and having great conversation with them about situation like this.. yes a lot of good lads on here read your bio tick all the boxes and then start off conversation as some bios state no hi or hello say what you want and see... most lads that don't have manner for themselves let alone the woman the wanna bed mess it up for the good guys.. we add pictures as required but get blanked by in my opinion high maintenance or woman just as ignorant as some men 2 it is harder for us 2 click with the right woman we do put in more efforts 2 talk or get meets but just have 2 be patient with it good times do come ahead its all a bit of fun suits some people doesn't suit others

Connections with right people come effortlessly. If you feel like someone is making you jump through the hoops - maybe it's not a right person for you.

Nobody is ruining it for the good guys. True good guys stand out very well and are very much appreciated. "

I’d say effortlessly is overblown if it slightly. Might seem more like that from a woman being pursued and landing on a guy who is putting lots of effort into seeming effortless.

I’ve a feeling it’s easier on a woman’s side to feel like it’s effortless particularly if you’re more of the passive disposition. Similar to the whole “oh it just happened” thing. Nothing just happens or is effortless in life

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast


"Don't think guys would have it half as hard if:

1. They would read profiles before messaging and not message people who's criteria they don't fit. I.e. woman/couple states that they don't want to meet people from far away. If you live far away just don't message them as you aren't what they're looking for etc.

2. If after reading profile and ticking all the boxes you feel like you've nothing to say - just don't message that person. Add them to your hotlist, keep an eye on updates, you may come up with something in near future.

3. Wish guys would stop being so God damn forward. There is a grey area in between "hi" and "want to fuck". Stay in it. Most women don't want random strangers to approach them with their plans on how they going to fuck them.

4. Most guys assume that if a person replies or agrees to meet for a social - sex is guaranteed, they let themselves loose and quickly push people away with their assumptions.

In summary- guys hardships mainly come from ignoring people's personal preferences and wrong attitude.

Missus

Some of your post i do agree on some i dont I've been chatting 2 a few woman on here and having great conversation with them about situation like this.. yes a lot of good lads on here read your bio tick all the boxes and then start off conversation as some bios state no hi or hello say what you want and see... most lads that don't have manner for themselves let alone the woman the wanna bed mess it up for the good guys.. we add pictures as required but get blanked by in my opinion high maintenance or woman just as ignorant as some men 2 it is harder for us 2 click with the right woman we do put in more efforts 2 talk or get meets but just have 2 be patient with it good times do come ahead its all a bit of fun suits some people doesn't suit others

Connections with right people come effortlessly. If you feel like someone is making you jump through the hoops - maybe it's not a right person for you.

Nobody is ruining it for the good guys. True good guys stand out very well and are very much appreciated.

I’d say effortlessly is overblown if it slightly. Might seem more like that from a woman being pursued and landing on a guy who is putting lots of effort into seeming effortless.

I’ve a feeling it’s easier on a woman’s side to feel like it’s effortless particularly if you’re more of the passive disposition. Similar to the whole “oh it just happened” thing. Nothing just happens or is effortless in life "

You either get along with someone or you don't. Simple as.

If I get a whiff of someone putting the effort into being something they're not - I simply cut contact.

Also - brave assumption about passive disposition. Just because every woman isn't wide open to all sorts of connections with every man approaching them doesn't mean they're in any way passive. They may just be passive towards people who don't ignite that little fire inside them. And it's okay. There's someone for everyone. No need to get upset over it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, its always going to be hard to get meets on here. Try and get yourself to a few local meet and greets or parties when everything opens up again. Dont forget not a lot of people are meeting due to covid. Keep your chin up lad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't think guys would have it half as hard if:

1. They would read profiles before messaging and not message people who's criteria they don't fit. I.e. woman/couple states that they don't want to meet people from far away. If you live far away just don't message them as you aren't what they're looking for etc.

2. If after reading profile and ticking all the boxes you feel like you've nothing to say - just don't message that person. Add them to your hotlist, keep an eye on updates, you may come up with something in near future.

3. Wish guys would stop being so God damn forward. There is a grey area in between "hi" and "want to fuck". Stay in it. Most women don't want random strangers to approach them with their plans on how they going to fuck them.

4. Most guys assume that if a person replies or agrees to meet for a social - sex is guaranteed, they let themselves loose and quickly push people away with their assumptions.

In summary- guys hardships mainly come from ignoring people's personal preferences and wrong attitude.

Missus

Some of your post i do agree on some i dont I've been chatting 2 a few woman on here and having great conversation with them about situation like this.. yes a lot of good lads on here read your bio tick all the boxes and then start off conversation as some bios state no hi or hello say what you want and see... most lads that don't have manner for themselves let alone the woman the wanna bed mess it up for the good guys.. we add pictures as required but get blanked by in my opinion high maintenance or woman just as ignorant as some men 2 it is harder for us 2 click with the right woman we do put in more efforts 2 talk or get meets but just have 2 be patient with it good times do come ahead its all a bit of fun suits some people doesn't suit others

Connections with right people come effortlessly. If you feel like someone is making you jump through the hoops - maybe it's not a right person for you.

Nobody is ruining it for the good guys. True good guys stand out very well and are very much appreciated.

I’d say effortlessly is overblown if it slightly. Might seem more like that from a woman being pursued and landing on a guy who is putting lots of effort into seeming effortless.

I’ve a feeling it’s easier on a woman’s side to feel like it’s effortless particularly if you’re more of the passive disposition. Similar to the whole “oh it just happened” thing. Nothing just happens or is effortless in life

You either get along with someone or you don't. Simple as.

If I get a whiff of someone putting the effort into being something they're not - I simply cut contact.

Also - brave assumption about passive disposition. Just because every woman isn't wide open to all sorts of connections with every man approaching them doesn't mean they're in any way passive. They may just be passive towards people who don't ignite that little fire inside them. And it's okay. There's someone for everyone. No need to get upset over it.

"

I’m honestly not upset. I was just trying to see it from a possibly different vantage point.

Also getting on or not, simple as? If only life were so simple

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