FabSwingers.com forum: All women are sluts

By *ungry Cat OP Couple
over a year ago

Belfast

Apologies for provocative name of the thread, but I couldn't put it any other way.

Responding to a different thread got me thinking about what exactly does a word slut mean to different people.

I've been called a slut for turning someone down.

Been called a slut for dressing a certain way.

Been called a slut for having had more than 3 previous relationships.

Been called a slut for having more than 20 sexual partners.

Been called a slut for having a one night stand.

Been called a slut for being a swinger.

What I take from it is no matter what I would have ever done in my life - if I wouldn't have married my first boyfriend and dressed in baggy curtains for the rest of my life- anything I do- I'm labelled as a slut.

What is your own personal definition of the word "slut"?

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By *iWestBelfastMan
over a year ago

Andytown, Belfast

Even then, some clown would still find a reason to call you a slut. It's about the attempt to control, nothing else.

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

Own it!

When you are in a position where you like/want to be called a slut (usually bedroom) then act like one, if it suits your mood.

If it's in public, deck the fucker that said it and then ask them what right they think they have to make a moral judgement on you in public.

Key point - deck them via punch to jaw or kick to crotch first, before they ever think it might happen and then, act reasonable and have a discussion

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

Apologies.

My definition of a slut is someone who doesn't care for themselves or others and has sex without any protection frequently and with multiple partners, exchanging what one might have passed on to others.

In a sexually trusting relationship, with protection as required, a slut is a person who loves sex, protects accordingly and enjoys and gets off on being called a slut, whether she is one or not.

I may not be clear on that but it's Friday night and I've had a few beers

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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago

C'est moi Boudoir

Great post op as was your reply on the other thread.

I don't personally like it used in or out of the bedroom. I love the reaction though if I hear a guy saying it so does your behaviour make you a man whore!

Great point at the end, it doesn't matter what you do as some people will judge, name call or generally put down for whatever reason.

I had a conversation with a friend recently who isn't part of the lifestyle and pointed out that the word promiscuous wasn't actually a bad term but had been given a negative connotation by religion as it wanted society to move in a different direction.

I feel that the word slut when used by consenting adults as part of role play is fine but in general society absolutely not.

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Promiscuity#:~:text=Promiscuity%20is%20the%20practice%20of,the%20choice%20of%20sexual%20partners.&text=A%20common%20example%20of%20behavior,as%20a%20marker%20for%20promiscuity.

Indeed often better for the profileration of good genes.

Not what Fab is about though, except for the "breeders" and the bbk folks whom I reserve my public judgement of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Slut has always had negative connotations in my mind. Its always used in a judgemental, shaming context, and its misogynistic. I wont be 'owning that'.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Own it!

When you are in a position where you like/want to be called a slut (usually bedroom) then act like one, if it suits your mood.

If it's in public, deck the fucker that said it and then ask them what right they think they have to make a moral judgement on you in public.

Key point - deck them via punch to jaw or kick to crotch first, before they ever think it might happen and then, act reasonable and have a discussion

Off topic maybe and I'm assuming it was said tongue in cheek but does this also apply if the person calling you a slut is a woman or is it only acceptable to kick or punch out when it's a man?

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Back on topic.

I can honestly say that if I have heard a dozen men use the word slut to describe a woman in my lifetime that's about the height of it.

I've only ever heard it used once to a woman's face and that was a husband to his wife in a bar when she was flirting with his friends.

The other times were in private conversation when the woman being talked about wasn't present or in some cases it wasn't used to describe anyone in particular but was a broadstroke term.

I have however heard many more women jokingly refer to their friend or colleague as a slut almost as a term of endearment.

I've also heard many women throw it at someone else as a way of demeaning them during an argument.

It is also a generational subject as it was a word or term used by women of my mother's age to describe a promiscuous younger woman.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I agree with Rub the word slut has always had negative meanings for me .It's a word used to be purely derogatory to a woman and like Missus says in the opening post sometimes no matter what a woman does it is used in a way to demean her.

And I would feel the same if anyone used it in the heat of the moment when we were having sex.It would be an immediate turn off for me .

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By *rakesterlingMan
over a year ago

Dublin

By that logic most men are sluts or wannabe sluts, so... Yeah...

I simply do not like the word, the label, not even in the heat of the moment, never used it and never will, even if asked.

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By *osmicGateMan
over a year ago

louth

Great thread I can see this ending well...

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By *oserMan
over a year ago

where the wild roses grow

"Apologies for provocative name of the thread, but I couldn't put it any other way.

Responding to a different thread got me thinking about what exactly does a word slut mean to different people.

I've been called a slut for turning someone down.

Been called a slut for dressing a certain way.

Been called a slut for having had more than 3 previous relationships.

Been called a slut for having more than 20 sexual partners.

Been called a slut for having a one night stand.

Been called a slut for being a swinger.

What is your own personal definition of the word "slut"? "

The sorry thing about society is that if Dirk had written this post the implied tone of the word slut would equate to hero, legend etc. etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't necessarily agree with the "own it" thing.

If I tell you that I dislike being referred to in a certain way then that should be respected.

In the bedroom - wellllll - all bets are off really. I'll say anything if my partner enjoys it.

Slut. Whore. Cunt. Cumbucket. Bitch.

It's the 'nasty', 'bold' and let's face it, dismissive, insulting and disrespectful nature of those words that can inflame certain people's passions.

I've done the same with cuckold males.

I've been referred to as things in the throes of passion that I'd throw hands with for being called it outside of the bedroom.

And I've also been told by sexual partners that there's some words they dislike. "Cunt" being the most common. As such I simply don't use it with those partners.

Personally, during sex, the more filthy the talk the more I enjoy.

(Then again I also enjoy spitting, biting, anal, female ejaculation, slapping, scratching, choking, hair pulling and am intensely curious about watersports, go figure)

The English lexicon is wonderfully crammed with a litany of alternatives, thankfully.

As for "slut". I don't necessarily use it, except when referring to myself.

Man whore also prominently features but is slightly disingenuous as I don't charge for my services.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Slut and the C word are horrible words and shouldnt be used in any context. Thats my old fashioned view anyway.

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By *rakesterlingMan
over a year ago

Dublin

"The sorry thing about society is that if Dirk had written this post the implied tone of the word slut would equate to hero, legend etc. etc.

Yeah, lets not get started on how 'popular culture' is used to reshape and reinvent things and just generally twist the mindset of the masses...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Slut and the C word are horrible words and shouldnt be used in any context. Thats my old fashioned view anyway."

Notveryshy - from your listed interests

"Adult Parties, Anal, Blindfolds, Cuckolding, Dogging, DP, Gangbangs, Group Sex, Making Videos, Oral, Rimming, Role Play, Safe Sex, Same Room Swapping, Separate Room Swapping, SM, Soft Swing, Spanking, Swingers Clubs, Taking Photos, Threesomes, Toys, Voyeurism, Watersports"

These all fit within your "old fashioned" views then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice thread to start a sunny morning.

I love mixing sex and art. It makes a great concoction.

I was recently working on a research about the influence of "primitive" practices in the expressionist art of the begginning of the 20th century. I checked the Tate museum website and I was so glad to find that they had removed the description for this term because of the misinterpretation and negative connotation of the word. Such a great advance to support and an example that many people will follow.

We all have allowed to evolve many fields in our societies, like science, education, human rights, etc. Why can't language evolve? Because we do not allow it.

Reclaiming terms that once meant abuse and are owned by the people it once stigmatised it is a defiant action. Taking the power away from the oppresor is revolutionary.

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By *oxyvixen99Woman
over a year ago

Newtownabbey

I've never been called a slut in my life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nice thread to start a sunny morning.

I love mixing sex and art. It makes a great concoction.

We all have allowed to evolve many fields in our societies, like science, education, human rights, etc. Why can't language evolve? Because we do not allow it.

Reclaiming terms that once meant abuse and are owned by the people it once stigmatised it is a defiant action. Taking the power away from the oppresor is revolutionary.

Dude - language evolves constantly.

Every year the Oxford English dictionary makes a big hullabaloo about the new words it's introduced.

The use and meaning of words evolve constantly too, the one that springs readily to mind is "Faggot" initially meaning a bundle of sticks.

(thank you South Park)

Language is one of the most fluid and versatile things in the world.

Look at American English vs The Queen's English.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

I don't like the word slut. I prefer people who love sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A woman from UK messaged me (i must really attract them!!) and had on her profile... "I'm a lady on the streets but a slut between the sheets!".....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dude - language evolves constantly.

Every year the Oxford English dictionary makes a big hullabaloo about the new words it's introduced.

The use and meaning of words evolve constantly too, the one that springs readily to mind is "Faggot" initially meaning a bundle of sticks.

(thank you South Park)

Language is one of the most fluid and versatile things in the world.

Look at American English vs The Queen's English.

Hmmmm funny and true but also depends on the individual's perspective. South park would be out of my sources of consultation. I'll see wholesome evolution when there's no oppression by the use of language

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Language is a tool. It has no preference for use beyond being utilised.

Like a hammer.

We can use the hammer to build... Or destroy.... The hammer doesn't give a shit.

Language can be used to build or destroy, lift up or oppress. This is not the tools fault but that of the wielder.

If you wish language to be used for betterment you must first address the intentions of the they who use it.

So if I call a sexual partner a slut because it excited her - this shouldn't be an issue.

If I call her a slut to hurt her feelings it is an issue.

But the word itself is blameless.

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

There's a misogynistic connotation for the word since it's used to describe a woman.

An 'ethical slut' is a more acceptable term but only in describing oneself, in my opinion. Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Language is a tool. It has no preference for use beyond being utilised.

Like a hammer.

We can use the hammer to build... Or destroy.... The hammer doesn't give a shit.

Language can be used to build or destroy, lift up or oppress. This is not the tools fault but that of the wielder.

If you wish language to be used for betterment you must first address the intentions of the they who use it.

So if I call a sexual partner a slut because it excited her - this shouldn't be an issue.

If I call her a slut to hurt her feelings it is an issue.

But the word itself is blameless.

I couldn't agree more wholeheartedly with this and your earlier post on the thread.

I could go on about the use of other descriptors; how the intent (how the tool is wielded) reflects the meaning; how the perception of the recipient is of vital importance.

It is perhaps for all these reasons that a word such as slut can convey many meanings?

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By *he wanerding bullMan
over a year ago

cavan

I would class woman on swingers sites as sluts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would class woman on swingers sites as sluts. "

And wat do you call guys on swinger sites!!!!

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By *he wanerding bullMan
over a year ago

cavan

"I would class woman on swingers sites as sluts.

And wat do you call guys on swinger sites!!!!"

Male sluts !

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

"I would class woman on swingers sites as sluts.

And wat do you call guys on swinger sites!!!!

Male sluts !"
all sluts.

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By *ouple 0073Couple
over a year ago

donegal

Sluts are us.com

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would class woman on swingers sites as sluts. "

Jaysis man.

Easy on.

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

Reclaiming terms that once meant abuse and are owned by the people it once stigmatised it is a defiant action. Taking the power away from the oppresor is revolutionary.

I agree! I happily own the term slut for this reason. If a slut is supposed to be an insult for a woman who is promiscuous ... OK, I'm promiscuous? And? What's wrong with that?

It's one of these slurs that loses its power once you embrace it. For me, the same goes for fat - yeah I am fat. I don't feel bad about that. Now what? Choose another insult because that one doesn't work on me.

Marginalised groups constantly reclaim language in this way to take power from their oppressors - think of the words gay, queer, dyke, the n-word, tr**ny, fat, bitch... all words now used by those communities as neutral when before they were used as tools to harm them.

That said, there's no onus on anyone to feel the same way or accept being called a name if it makes them uncomfortable. Also, the word slut should NEVER come out of a man's mouth to describe a woman who hasn't clearly consented to being called that. It's for women to reclaim, on their terms.

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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago

C'est moi Boudoir

Your point directly above about it should never be directed at women I agree but this also applies to every one not just towards women. I know historically it was used more against women but I think it is gender neutral nowadays.

As said before swinging by definition is promiscuous but the word promiscuous isn't a bad word per say as it's just got a stigma placed on it by society.

I think reowning a word to depower them is fantastic but only if with like minded people. You can't get people to understand something if they chose to not look at it in a different light.

There will always be idiots who try to use words to get a reaction or be hurtful as also proven above in 1 or 2 of the posts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Apologies for provocative name of the thread, but I couldn't put it any other way.

Responding to a different thread got me thinking about what exactly does a word slut mean to different people.

I've been called a slut for turning someone down.

Been called a slut for dressing a certain way.

Been called a slut for having had more than 3 previous relationships.

Been called a slut for having more than 20 sexual partners.

Been called a slut for having a one night stand.

Been called a slut for being a swinger.

What is your own personal definition of the word "slut"? "

Whoever were the ones who said those things to you are just SCUM and for me that's a worse word than slut, I don't call a woman it unless it's something they would request. I usually go with calling a lady dirty cause that's a much more relaxed phrase I think when being sexual.

The word definitely has negative and positive vibes even maybe a bit less than the negative but I say if someone calls you it in a negative way, just say "thank you, I know I am" whether it's slut or something else derogatory. Those type of scum are always trying to know they upset you by your reply so.

I don't get offended much by words for myself, more would for other people but like others it's not so easy to let it roll off ya but if you pretend it doesn't affect you that'll really annoy those scummy feckers

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Vulgar language just doesn't do anything for me and I've absolutely no interest in owning it. However if you rearrange the letters slut turns into lust which is way more acceptable.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"Vulgar language just doesn't do anything for me and I've absolutely no interest in owning it. However if you rearrange the letters slut turns into lust which is way more acceptable.

I like your way of thinking .Lust is definitely more appealing to me as well .

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By *ungry Cat OP Couple
over a year ago

Belfast

"Apologies for provocative name of the thread, but I couldn't put it any other way.

Responding to a different thread got me thinking about what exactly does a word slut mean to different people.

I've been called a slut for turning someone down.

Been called a slut for dressing a certain way.

Been called a slut for having had more than 3 previous relationships.

Been called a slut for having more than 20 sexual partners.

Been called a slut for having a one night stand.

Been called a slut for being a swinger.

What is your own personal definition of the word "slut"? "

Thank you all kindly for your input, but I do need to clarify myself - I never said that it was only men who call women "sluts" men and women are equally guilty of this. I would even go as far as women do it more often as they have nothing to lose while if a man senses that a woman he may be attracted to may be on a looser side - he'll not burn his bridges by throwing insults (I'm talking real life, not fab general).

Also the original question I asked about what does the word "slut" mean to you - what I really was asking is what criteria does a woman/man have to meet for you to call them a "slut"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Slut and the C word are horrible words and shouldnt be used in any context. Thats my old fashioned view anyway.

Notveryshy - from your listed interests

These all fit within your "old fashioned" views then?

All these are consensual and doesnt mean I would use those terms. But know what you mean . Still class myself as old fashioned... have to , just look at my age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nice thread to start a sunny morning.

I love mixing sex and art. It makes a great concoction.

We all have allowed to evolve many fields in our societies, like science, education, human rights, etc. Why can't language evolve? Because we do not allow it.

Reclaiming terms that once meant abuse and are owned by the people it once stigmatised it is a defiant action. Taking the power away from the oppresor is revolutionary.

Dude - language evolves constantly.

Every year the Oxford English dictionary makes a big hullabaloo about the new words it's introduced.

The use and meaning of words evolve constantly too, the one that springs readily to mind is "Faggot" initially meaning a bundle of sticks.

(thank you South Park)

Language is one of the most fluid and versatile things in the world.

Look at American English vs The Queen's English.

Faggots are a sort of meatball as well. See them often in supermarkets.

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By *rakesterlingMan
over a year ago

Dublin

*chews on some popcorn while taking a huge swill from the Fanta orange cup, his eyes peeled to the thread lest he misses something*

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

a slut in general is labelled to women who sleeps around with different men. women are labelled sluts and men are lauded.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To answer the original OP I'm not sure I've used it outside of the bedroom since I've grown older and more enlightened.

In my younger days, I've used it in anger against another woman - in that case it was just one more angry word amongst several dozen that fell out of my mouth and as such i never thought about the definition. I rarely, if ever, used it as a descriptor. That being said, I've never challenged anyone else for using it either.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"To answer the original OP I'm not sure I've used it outside of the bedroom since I've grown older and more enlightened.

You've triggered a memory here from when I was 18 going on 19. A fellow student repeatedly called a quiet introverted girl a porn queen and a slut.

I was one of the few who didn't laugh and when he had said it 4 or 5 times I did indeed challenge him on it and as a result our friendship ended that day.

Two years later he joined the priesthood.

That was the first of many times that I called people out for their behaviour but I'm not proud of the times I didn't.

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By *rmrspumpCouple
over a year ago

narnia

The word slut used in any context other than between two consenting adults is misogyny, plain and simple. The word is used in a derogatory context by men with low self esteem who feel threatened by a woman's sexuality

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By *arajeanCouple
over a year ago

mayo

Not a nice word and definitely not be used to insult any woman.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"The word slut used in any context other than between two consenting adults is misogyny, plain and simple. The word is used in a derogatory context by men with low self esteem who feel threatened by a woman's sexuality"

It is also part and parcel of internal misogyny and used just as often by women towards women.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

It is also part and parcel of internal misogyny and used just as often by women towards women. "
absolutely.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

It is also part and parcel of internal misogyny and used just as often by women towards women. "

Yup and as long as we women keep on using it to insult and don't emancipate ourselves from that derogatory point of view of what it entails to be a sexually liberated woman we will always struggle. And the term quality over quantity is often used in the same context to set oneself apart from the rest of us sluts on here. As if it matters if you rake up 10 or 59 veris.

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By *ittlekinks38Woman
over a year ago

outside belfast x

Ppl think it's the worse thing they can call you! Jealously more likely got the better of them small minded ppl who would dare call a women a sl*t .... men are sl*ts too then in that cause but you wouldn't see me calling anyone such horrid names especially as I wouldn't know them personally ...if used in the bedroom that's fine other than that they just being complete pr*cks really!!

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By *inxnmasterCouple
over a year ago

naughty valley

We would think the valuation of the word slut is a matter of context and consent . We love being slutty and we love slutty peeps

The traditional context can change if it becomes mainstream to use for different purpose ( usually thus is triggered by the next generation of teenagers )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are no sluts, the word is an irrelevance and has only recently been popularised by the internet. There are only ladies who do and ladies who don’t and they all have my respect.

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By *anKinkyMan
over a year ago

Carrick on Shannon

"Apologies for provocative name of the thread, but I couldn't put it any other way.

Responding to a different thread got me thinking about what exactly does a word slut mean to different people.

I've been called a slut for turning someone down.

Been called a slut for dressing a certain way.

Been called a slut for having had more than 3 previous relationships.

Been called a slut for having more than 20 sexual partners.

Been called a slut for having a one night stand.

Been called a slut for being a swinger.

What is your own personal definition of the word "slut"? "
Dress sense- F The Begrudgers,Sexually,bedroom whispered in the ear-enjoy it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the meaning shifts to suit the person using it. If someone wants to insult you by calling you a slut then they'll apply it whatever. If you want to call yourself a slut then it means whatever you want it to. How about that for a non answer to a relatively straight forward question. I'm just a dumb slut

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you

Never given it much thought.

Oy person who knows number of sexual partners is me and hubby, only people that know were singers is each other and the few people we have met.

Don't ever recall being called a slot, to my face anyway.

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By *atts n titsCouple
over a year ago

everywhere

Let's be honest every man on here looks at females as sluts they can sweet talk all they like but deep down it's exactly how they feel

Que the white Knights

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let's be honest every man on here looks at females as sluts they can sweet talk all they like but deep down it's exactly how they feel

Que the white Knights "

Meh, thankfully you seem barely capable of speaking for yourself, let alone the rest of us.

Since I'm sure you attach the label "White Knight" to men who attempt to defend women, allow me to defend myself.

You don't speak for me chum, so don't presume to know how I think or how I perceive anyone.

Good chap.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Let's be honest every man on here looks at females as sluts they can sweet talk all they like but deep down it's exactly how they feel

Que the white Knights "

I think the word you were looking for was women not females

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By *atts n titsCouple
over a year ago

everywhere

"Let's be honest every man on here looks at females as sluts they can sweet talk all they like but deep down it's exactly how they feel

Que the white Knights

Meh, thankfully you seem barely capable of speaking for yourself, let alone the rest of us.

Since I'm sure you attach the label "White Knight" to men who attempt to defend women, allow me to defend myself.

You don't speak for me chum, so don't presume to know how I think or how I perceive anyone.

Good chap.

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I'm a woman check my profile chum

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By *atts n titsCouple
over a year ago

everywhere

"Let's be honest every man on here looks at females as sluts they can sweet talk all they like but deep down it's exactly how they feel

Que the white Knights

I think the word you were looking for was women not females

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nope female some like to be called ladies, girls so it covers all

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By *rmrspumpCouple
over a year ago

narnia

"Let's be honest every man on here looks at females as sluts they can sweet talk all they like but deep down it's exactly how they feel

Que the white Knights

I think the word you were looking for was women not females

nope female some like to be called ladies, girls so it covers all

Male or female, your assertion is deeply offensive and I take exception to it

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By *atts n titsCouple
over a year ago

everywhere

"Let's be honest every man on here looks at females as sluts they can sweet talk all they like but deep down it's exactly how they feel

Que the white Knights

I think the word you were looking for was women not females

nope female some like to be called ladies, girls so it covers all

Male or female, your assertion is deeply offensive and I take exception to it"
truth hurts buttercup xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let's be honest every man on here looks at females as sluts they can sweet talk all they like but deep down it's exactly how they feel

Que the white Knights

I think the word you were looking for was women not females

nope female some like to be called ladies, girls so it covers all

Male or female, your assertion is deeply offensive and I take exception to ittruth hurts buttercup xxxx"

Your truth doesn't make it THE truth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good chap.

I'm a woman check my profile chum

Says couple on that profile friend. Listed as a male and a female.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hate that word.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let's be honest every man on here looks at females as sluts they can sweet talk all they like but deep down it's exactly how they feel

Que the white Knights "

Interesting coment.

So from my analysis you mean, All men here think you are a slut and the rest of women too. You are here to meet men (assuming you are straight or bi) even when they think you are a slut. Does that mean you dont give a f*c what they think and you still meet them for your own pleasure? That's a way of reclaiming

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe I was the one that posted the original post that spurred this chat ??. Looks like it caused quite a stir. I can confirm that it was only meant in a way that was to be applied in the bedroom of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I believe I was the one that posted the original post that spurred this chat ??. Looks like it caused quite a stir. I can confirm that it was only meant in a way that was to be applied in the bedroom of course"

There’s a time and a place for that kind of dirty talk and maybe it’s not a fab forum ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not a work I have used jn anything bit a sarcastic manner since probably my teens.. so I don't really have a personal definition for it.

Besides I prefer the term manwhore

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By *adboyandgirlCouple
over a year ago

Louth/M1

Oh it all depends the context... if it's used demeaningly as an insult.. then I don't think any woman would be happy or partner of a woman if over heard...

If used as a word to whip up sexual excitement and all parties are happy with its use... then it's no different to any derogatory remark used where are are happy with its use...

I like my slut used....! See very harmless... xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To answer the original OP I'm not sure I've used it outside of the bedroom since I've grown older and more enlightened.

You used it on me K. In actual writing. Pics on profile. I don't mind being your slut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let's be honest every man on here looks at females as sluts they can sweet talk all they like but deep down it's exactly how they feel

Que the white Knights "

Wait so I either think every woman on here is a slut or I'm a white Knight?

Thats a really interesting way of looking at the world

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I can't even ride a horse and I'm not into jousting

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

I think its a word bothers alot of mainly younger women. if you're shagging around alot, are you committing a crime? no. sex is a normal, natural thing to do whether you have lots of it or little of it.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

"I think its a word bothers alot of mainly younger women. if you're shagging around alot, are you committing a crime? no. sex is a normal, natural thing to do whether you have lots of it or little of it. "

There's slutshaming and slutbashing on social media which can have devastating effects on a young person.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

There's slutshaming and slutbashing on social media which can have devastating effects on a young person. "
exactly. a young woman is seen to be having lots of sex outside of a relationship and she's labelled a slut.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could definitely see how it’s an awful word OP and I personally don’t and wouldn’t use it as I agree it has negative connotations...

What I do find though is some women like it because of the taboo nature and like to have guys use it.. I wouldn’t try to delve my opinion too much as it is something that only women seem to have to deal with, which of course isn’t right either.... it’s just something I observed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jesus, I wish I was having enough sex to be called a slut... Wishful thinking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Jesus, I wish I was having enough sex to be called a slut... Wishful thinking

Would usually like us to abuse you I'm dms to fool yourself into thinking you are?

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By *arti and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Here, there & everywhere

My thinking, unless used between adults during play, if anyone calls you a slut personally I would be more concerned about them and their maturity as an adult. Calling someone a slut in a degrading way childish... P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is something that has fascinated me since childhood. I have never personally seen it as derogatory. (I know that's irrelevant because it is derogatory but I'm surfing an insomniac wave and im going with the flow). I went to an all male school and every single dude either behaved in a slut like way or wanted to behave in a slut like way. i desperately wanted to be a male slut. I loved the idea of it being liberating. Why wouldnt a woman want to behave like a man?

Ok. Fast forward 30 years. (Still desperately want to be a male slut but alas my window has closed lol) while it's a term of endearment between my wife and I (and a few others) the adult me knows that it's a word that is used to hurt women and to control their behaviour. It's used by people to judge and brand women but it often seems to come from a place of envy, jealousy or insecurity. A way of lashing out and trying to inflict shame.

I have sat at tables M&Gs and socials and heard women being described as sluts by fellow swingers! Variations of shes cock mad stay away from her or shes cock mad she better stay away from him. And everyone who passed judgement was there either looking for said cock or was looking to provide said cock!!

I guess its understandable to a degree. Sex, rejection and hormones are not exactly a cocktail that gives you stable reactions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I realise I never actually answered the OPs inital question.

To me, a slut is a person who is sexually liberated and sex positive.

Some of my best friends are sluts by that definition

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