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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So not all girls but most girls do. Whats wrong with just saying hey how are you, or something generic like that, like I mean most girls don't text first, and you can't really read someone's character from a simple message like that, come on it goes both ways. It's just something I find very irritating and I want to see your views on it so you can tell me I'm wrong if you like I'm not going to take offence to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm confused.. You want more women to message you first or respond differently to your inital message?

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Most don't like to be called girls

I'll always message first if a profile catches my eye, it's usually about there pictures or maybe something they said in the forum or on there status update....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So not all girls but most girls do. Whats wrong with just saying hey how are you, or something generic like that, like I mean most girls don't text first, and you can't really read someone's character from a simple message like that, come on it goes both ways. It's just something I find very irritating and I want to see your views on it so you can tell me I'm wrong if you like I'm not going to take offence to it "

I very rarely message first but I'm curious op what messages do you get from women ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So not all girls but most girls do. Whats wrong with just saying hey how are you, or something generic like that, like I mean most girls don't text first, and you can't really read someone's character from a simple message like that, come on it goes both ways. It's just something I find very irritating and I want to see your views on it so you can tell me I'm wrong if you like I'm not going to take offence to it "

Hey there. So how is your Friday so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think he means what's wrong with a guy texting "hey how are you ?" As a first text. Women on here at times think that's not good enough for some reason. I could be wrong on what he means though.

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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago

C'est moi Boudoir

I send out first messages if the profile catches my eye or something funny on the forum's happens but I won't respond to one liners like that.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Well I haven't been called a girl in a long time anyhow so I may not be the people you are aiming this thread at anyhow

A hi how are you message is okay but I'll only answer if the profile sending it appeals to me .I look at a profile before I answer any new message if it is not a profile that I like or is virtually blank than chances are I won't answer a basic hi how are you message.

I also do send first messages so I appreciate how hard they can be to write .I have no issue with sending a first message to someone tho .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think he means what's wrong with a guy texting "hey how are you ?" As a first text. Women on here at times think that's not good enough for some reason. I could be wrong on what he means though. "

Prefer a guy to text that than

I'm in your area in a hour

Or

I'm at the hotel on my own tonight want to join

Or faf

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm confused.. You want more women to message you first or respond differently to your inital message? "
I mean overall guys particularly text first then a wemon would but then when they text first and they say something generic women don't like a small simple message like it really doesn't make sense, is a guy supposed to write an essay for the first message.im not just taking about this site like other thing like tender etc when you already know they like the look of you if you get me

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

The title indicates you have a question, but you haven't actually asked any question

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

OK I say girls or guys, I don't say women or men. Like dose it really make a difference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most don't like to be called girls

I'll always message first if a profile catches my eye, it's usually about there pictures or maybe something they said in the forum or on there status update...."

Be honest, you’re just looking for chocolate cake

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok so I forgot that you wouldn't actually experience it. Sort the guy text a girl and just says hey how are you how was your weekend etc what's wrong with that. And I mean that because maturity of girls don't take to it. And that's not me saying that's all I say when I text. But I do know a lot of guys do come up against that when texting, I was just seen if ye had any views on it, I was just curious

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...


"OK I say girls or guys, I don't say women or men. Like dose it really make a difference "

Well im 48 I much prefer to be called a woman...

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"OK I say girls or guys, I don't say women or men. Like dose it really make a difference

Well im 48 I much prefer to be called a woman..."

I have to agree with you lolly must be a 48 year old thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok so I forgot that you wouldn't actually experience it. Sort the guy text a girl and just says hey how are you how was your weekend etc what's wrong with that. And I mean that because maturity of girls don't take to it. And that's not me saying that's all I say when I text. But I do know a lot of guys do come up against that when texting, I was just seen if ye had any views on it, I was just curious "

A lot of messages say that and they just dont stand out sorry.

if i text first its usually because ive seen someone on forums and i like the cut of their jib

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well I wasn't speaking directly to you and if I said woman maybe a young girl on this would say I don't want to be called a woman you can look at it from different ways, so stop acting like I insulted you and stop being Petty I wasn't speaking directly to you, you do know it's not all about you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In his defense OP did send me an amusing first mail

It was on the back of me telling him I eat lads like him for breakfast in a forum post however

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick


"OK I say girls or guys, I don't say women or men. Like dose it really make a difference

Well im 48 I much prefer to be called a woman...

I have to agree with you lolly must be a 48 year old thing "

48 year old 'mature' ladies we are to some

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"OK I say girls or guys, I don't say women or men. Like dose it really make a difference

Well im 48 I much prefer to be called a woman...

I have to agree with you lolly must be a 48 year old thing

48 year old 'mature' ladies we are to some "

48 year old young ladies you are to some

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with a simple hello, that's how many great friendships started. But for me its the profile what matters. Always check the profile first. If there is nothing of my interest I don't open the message.

I rarely text first. But if I do, it's because I'm really interested. Or its for a game.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In his defense OP did send me an amusing first mail

It was on the back of me telling him I eat lads like him for breakfast in a forum post however "
thanks very much I'm not asking this question because I'm struggling to interact I was just curious to see what you guys perspective was, but thanks very much

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"Well I wasn't speaking directly to you and if I said woman maybe a young girl on this would say I don't want to be called a woman you can look at it from different ways, so stop acting like I insulted you and stop being Petty I wasn't speaking directly to you, you do know it's not all about you "

Wow .No one acted insulted or petty people took time to answer what you asked .If you don't want answers maybe don't ask the question then if you are going to be so quick to be defensive to people .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like everything on here everyone has different wants and desires. Some send messages some don't. Some people copy and paste their messages, some just say hi.

Fab is a wonderful place and a bit mad at times. Think people just need to run their fab the way they want. Way I see it if a guy/gal was out at night and spoke to someone at a bar they more than likely would just day hi how are you , just be polite and enjoy what fab has to offer

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've never sent a " hey how's you?" message but I've received a few.

Women do make first contact on here.

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By *ogladyWoman
over a year ago

The bog

I always say guys and girls as well...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well I wasn't speaking directly to you and if I said woman maybe a young girl on this would say I don't want to be called a woman you can look at it from different ways, so stop acting like I insulted you and stop being Petty I wasn't speaking directly to you, you do know it's not all about you

Wow .No one acted insulted or petty people took time to answer what you asked .If you don't want answers maybe don't ask the question then if you are going to be so quick to be defensive to people . "
that message wasn't answering my question it was nitpicking my choice of words it's a group message and she took that word girl and thought it was directed at her. So just leave it at that know point in getting into it.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"Well I wasn't speaking directly to you and if I said woman maybe a young girl on this would say I don't want to be called a woman you can look at it from different ways, so stop acting like I insulted you and stop being Petty I wasn't speaking directly to you, you do know it's not all about you

Wow .No one acted insulted or petty people took time to answer what you asked .If you don't want answers maybe don't ask the question then if you are going to be so quick to be defensive to people . that message wasn't answering my question it was nitpicking my choice of words it's a group message and she took that word girl and thought it was directed at her. So just leave it at that know point in getting into it. "

I answered both your questions I didn't see anyone on here who got annoyed over it that's all I was saying.If it was a pm you received then if someone can't say it in the thread they shouldn't in pm but that happens a lot on here anyhow.

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Nothing wrong with a simple hello, that's how many great friendships started. But for me its the profile what matters. Always check the profile first. If there is nothing of my interest I don't open the message.

I rarely text first. But if I do, it's because I'm really interested. Or its for a game. "

Agreed! A simple hi is a perfectly fine first message if you have a full profile which tells me enough about you to decide that I want to talk to you (ie, it captures my interest). If the profile is blank and you've just said hi, I'm not gonna be interested enough to respond and no motivation to go digging to find out more.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well I wasn't speaking directly to you and if I said woman maybe a young girl on this would say I don't want to be called a woman you can look at it from different ways, so stop acting like I insulted you and stop being Petty I wasn't speaking directly to you, you do know it's not all about you

Wow .No one acted insulted or petty people took time to answer what you asked .If you don't want answers maybe don't ask the question then if you are going to be so quick to be defensive to people . that message wasn't answering my question it was nitpicking my choice of words it's a group message and she took that word girl and thought it was directed at her. So just leave it at that know point in getting into it.

I answered both your questions I didn't see anyone on here who got annoyed over it that's all I was saying.If it was a pm you received then if someone can't say it in the thread they shouldn't in pm but that happens a lot on here anyhow. "
I tried to text you in private message but I can't haha I'm not annoyed about it I was just speaking my mind on what was said. But we will just forget about it we are all on this to enjoy it and not to get into this into it to much if I'm ever chatting to you again I'll call you a woman have a good night

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"Well I wasn't speaking directly to you and if I said woman maybe a young girl on this would say I don't want to be called a woman you can look at it from different ways, so stop acting like I insulted you and stop being Petty I wasn't speaking directly to you, you do know it's not all about you

Wow .No one acted insulted or petty people took time to answer what you asked .If you don't want answers maybe don't ask the question then if you are going to be so quick to be defensive to people . that message wasn't answering my question it was nitpicking my choice of words it's a group message and she took that word girl and thought it was directed at her. So just leave it at that know point in getting into it.

I answered both your questions I didn't see anyone on here who got annoyed over it that's all I was saying.If it was a pm you received then if someone can't say it in the thread they shouldn't in pm but that happens a lot on here anyhow. I tried to text you in private message but I can't haha I'm not annoyed about it I was just speaking my mind on what was said. But we will just forget about it we are all on this to enjoy it and not to get into this into it to much if I'm ever chatting to you again I'll call you a woman have a good night "

Just don't call me an ould wan and it will be grand

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well I wasn't speaking directly to you and if I said woman maybe a young girl on this would say I don't want to be called a woman you can look at it from different ways, so stop acting like I insulted you and stop being Petty I wasn't speaking directly to you, you do know it's not all about you

Wow .No one acted insulted or petty people took time to answer what you asked .If you don't want answers maybe don't ask the question then if you are going to be so quick to be defensive to people . that message wasn't answering my question it was nitpicking my choice of words it's a group message and she took that word girl and thought it was directed at her. So just leave it at that know point in getting into it.

I answered both your questions I didn't see anyone on here who got annoyed over it that's all I was saying.If it was a pm you received then if someone can't say it in the thread they shouldn't in pm but that happens a lot on here anyhow. I tried to text you in private message but I can't haha I'm not annoyed about it I was just speaking my mind on what was said. But we will just forget about it we are all on this to enjoy it and not to get into this into it to much if I'm ever chatting to you again I'll call you a woman have a good night

Just don't call me an ould wan and it will be grand "
haha don't worry you look young as a girl haha OK sorry it was my last one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women absolutely do send first message. In fairness they have approached first a lot more than I have which is a credit to some really nice women here. But you are right that there is nothing wrong with a nice simple message...a person should not be judged just because they said hello.. how are you... If we were all in a bar then it would be totally acceptable so don't see why here should be any different

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"Well I wasn't speaking directly to you and if I said woman maybe a young girl on this would say I don't want to be called a woman you can look at it from different ways, so stop acting like I insulted you and stop being Petty I wasn't speaking directly to you, you do know it's not all about you

Wow .No one acted insulted or petty people took time to answer what you asked .If you don't want answers maybe don't ask the question then if you are going to be so quick to be defensive to people . that message wasn't answering my question it was nitpicking my choice of words it's a group message and she took that word girl and thought it was directed at her. So just leave it at that know point in getting into it.

I answered both your questions I didn't see anyone on here who got annoyed over it that's all I was saying.If it was a pm you received then if someone can't say it in the thread they shouldn't in pm but that happens a lot on here anyhow. I tried to text you in private message but I can't haha I'm not annoyed about it I was just speaking my mind on what was said. But we will just forget about it we are all on this to enjoy it and not to get into this into it to much if I'm ever chatting to you again I'll call you a woman have a good night

Just don't call me an ould wan and it will be grand haha don't worry you look young as a girl haha OK sorry it was my last one "

You'll be in detention if you keep that up young fella

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Women absolutely do send first message. In fairness they have approached first a lot more than I have which is a credit to some really nice women here. But you are right that there is nothing wrong with a nice simple message...a person should not be judged just because they said hello.. how are you... If we were all in a bar then it would be totally acceptable so don't see why here should be any different "
I do get 100% why people will be a bit more cautious on this but my question wasn't just about this site it was in general. The thought came into my head when I read someone's bio I'll answer these questions now as in ( hi how are you) and I seen it on a lot of girls profiles so that's why I was asking.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well I wasn't speaking directly to you and if I said woman maybe a young girl on this would say I don't want to be called a woman you can look at it from different ways, so stop acting like I insulted you and stop being Petty I wasn't speaking directly to you, you do know it's not all about you

Wow .No one acted insulted or petty people took time to answer what you asked .If you don't want answers maybe don't ask the question then if you are going to be so quick to be defensive to people . that message wasn't answering my question it was nitpicking my choice of words it's a group message and she took that word girl and thought it was directed at her. So just leave it at that know point in getting into it.

I answered both your questions I didn't see anyone on here who got annoyed over it that's all I was saying.If it was a pm you received then if someone can't say it in the thread they shouldn't in pm but that happens a lot on here anyhow. I tried to text you in private message but I can't haha I'm not annoyed about it I was just speaking my mind on what was said. But we will just forget about it we are all on this to enjoy it and not to get into this into it to much if I'm ever chatting to you again I'll call you a woman have a good night

Just don't call me an ould wan and it will be grand haha don't worry you look young as a girl haha OK sorry it was my last one

You'll be in detention if you keep that up young fella "
yeah it wouldn't be my first ha but have you got the outfit and the ruler haha

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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago

C'est moi Boudoir


"Women absolutely do send first message. In fairness they have approached first a lot more than I have which is a credit to some really nice women here. But you are right that there is nothing wrong with a nice simple message...a person should not be judged just because they said hello.. how are you... If we were all in a bar then it would be totally acceptable so don't see why here should be any different "

Imagine a woman sitting at a bar with a queue of guys going up to her and saying hi how are you after multiple announcements at the bar for people to be original. The ratio is always going to make things harder for the lads so they have to up their game a bit. I respond to decent messages even if I have no interest in taking things further but to acknowledge that the message was lovely or made me laugh.

I am not saying women are being picky, I am saying that they are inundated with hey how are you messages that get bulk deleted usually.

I look at profile, message, photos, verifications...it's a combination of thing's.

Telling someone new that he will get anywhere with a hey how are you message puts him at a disadvantage. The reality of fab is most won't even open the message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did someone mention cake ?

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...


"Did someone mention cake ? "

Wrong thread your looking for the Fabs Biggest Bake Off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women absolutely do send first message. In fairness they have approached first a lot more than I have which is a credit to some really nice women here. But you are right that there is nothing wrong with a nice simple message...a person should not be judged just because they said hello.. how are you... If we were all in a bar then it would be totally acceptable so don't see why here should be any different

Imagine a woman sitting at a bar with a queue of guys going up to her and saying hi how are you after multiple announcements at the bar for people to be original. The ratio is always going to make things harder for the lads so they have to up their game a bit. I respond to decent messages even if I have no interest in taking things further but to acknowledge that the message was lovely or made me laugh.

I am not saying women are being picky, I am saying that they are inundated with hey how are you messages that get bulk deleted usually.

I look at profile, message, photos, verifications...it's a combination of thing's.

Telling someone new that he will get anywhere with a hey how are you message puts him at a disadvantage. The reality of fab is most won't even open the message. "
.. I get your point and its a valid one. Its good to be original. But its hard to do that all the time and i would not shoot someone down just because they said hello only. I wouldn't expect someone to knock me off my feet within a few sentences. The hello is an invitation to start a conversation and if the profile looks decent... then who knows what can lead from there. If hello worked for Lionel Richie then it can work for anyone

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"Women absolutely do send first message. In fairness they have approached first a lot more than I have which is a credit to some really nice women here. But you are right that there is nothing wrong with a nice simple message...a person should not be judged just because they said hello.. how are you... If we were all in a bar then it would be totally acceptable so don't see why here should be any different

Imagine a woman sitting at a bar with a queue of guys going up to her and saying hi how are you after multiple announcements at the bar for people to be original. The ratio is always going to make things harder for the lads so they have to up their game a bit. I respond to decent messages even if I have no interest in taking things further but to acknowledge that the message was lovely or made me laugh.

I am not saying women are being picky, I am saying that they are inundated with hey how are you messages that get bulk deleted usually.

I look at profile, message, photos, verifications...it's a combination of thing's.

Telling someone new that he will get anywhere with a hey how are you message puts him at a disadvantage. The reality of fab is most won't even open the message. .. I get your point and its a valid one. Its good to be original. But its hard to do that all the time and i would not shoot someone down just because they said hello only. I wouldn't expect someone to knock me off my feet within a few sentences. The hello is an invitation to start a conversation and if the profile looks decent... then who knows what can lead from there. If hello worked for Lionel Richie then it can work for anyone "

Didn't he also dance on the ceiling tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm pretty sure someone mentioned cake and I didn't get any

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women absolutely do send first message. In fairness they have approached first a lot more than I have which is a credit to some really nice women here. But you are right that there is nothing wrong with a nice simple message...a person should not be judged just because they said hello.. how are you... If we were all in a bar then it would be totally acceptable so don't see why here should be any different

Imagine a woman sitting at a bar with a queue of guys going up to her and saying hi how are you after multiple announcements at the bar for people to be original. The ratio is always going to make things harder for the lads so they have to up their game a bit. I respond to decent messages even if I have no interest in taking things further but to acknowledge that the message was lovely or made me laugh.

I am not saying women are being picky, I am saying that they are inundated with hey how are you messages that get bulk deleted usually.

I look at profile, message, photos, verifications...it's a combination of thing's.

Telling someone new that he will get anywhere with a hey how are you message puts him at a disadvantage. The reality of fab is most won't even open the message. "

I disagree but than I don't get many messages and any polite message I get I reply too. I'd sooner someone say hi how are you than faf!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously... who has the cake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seriously... who has the cake"

Someone has a sweet tooth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seriously... who has the cake"

I have some

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes lolly was supposed to get cake

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By *ka ..Agent k ..Man
over a year ago

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

its as simple as this. forget covid times and think normal times. women nit pick all the time. they could find fault with a spelling mistake. I'll do a role reversal, you're a man on here. you're sending detailed opening mails picking out profile enducing stuff but still getting nowhere (it happens, I have seen it with men in the past).whats going to happen? you're obviously not going to keep doing it. its time consuming and you're getting nowhere.

also as most men are trying for sex on here as the aim like most, you will mail a nice few women who catch your attention. you're not going to put all your eggs into one basket. I'll finish by saying also,sex comes easy to most men, its the complete opposite with most women. you'll never beat the face to face approach. you see is there instant attraction etc. from the get go. jesus ud miss the aul bars and clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want it . I want cream between two flans , and creamy milk chocolate with ground nuts sprinkled on top and some crunchy chocolate chips more cream on top of that and finished off with a party pack of tayto cheese and onion to finish it off .

Oh god yes

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By *ublinGirl92Woman
over a year ago

Hell

I don't like to be sent "hey, how are you messages" I think they are so boring and they lead nowhere. I get so many of them every day and I'm sick of answering.

I think it's polite if you're hitting on me in a bar but this isn't a bar and you have a lot of competition.

I put it in my bio to send me something else if you want a reply so if I see it in a message I just delete because I know they didn't read it.

I don't really care if men don't like it because I'm here to please myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I want it . I want cream between two flans , and creamy milk chocolate with ground nuts sprinkled on top and some crunchy chocolate chips more cream on top of that and finished off with a party pack of tayto cheese and onion to finish it off .

Oh god yes"

Oh mmmmm

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"its as simple as this. forget covid times and think normal times. women nit pick all the time. they could find fault with a spelling mistake. I'll do a role reversal, you're a man on here. you're sending detailed opening mails picking out profile enducing stuff but still getting nowhere (it happens, I have seen it with men in the past).whats going to happen? you're obviously not going to keep doing it. its time consuming and you're getting nowhere.

also as most men are trying for sex on here as the aim like most, you will mail a nice few women who catch your attention. you're not going to put all your eggs into one basket. I'll finish by saying also,sex comes easy to most men, its the complete opposite with most women. you'll never beat the face to face approach. you see is there instant attraction etc. from the get go. jesus ud miss the aul bars and clubs. "
lad I'm not struggling in chatting to women or meeting them I'm good when it comes to that, I was just interested in the psychology side of what I was asking. Haha

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary


"its as simple as this. forget covid times and think normal times. women nit pick all the time. they could find fault with a spelling mistake. I'll do a role reversal, you're a man on here. you're sending detailed opening mails picking out profile enducing stuff but still getting nowhere (it happens, I have seen it with men in the past).whats going to happen? you're obviously not going to keep doing it. its time consuming and you're getting nowhere.

also as most men are trying for sex on here as the aim like most, you will mail a nice few women who catch your attention. you're not going to put all your eggs into one basket. I'll finish by saying also,sex comes easy to most men, its the complete opposite with most women. you'll never beat the face to face approach. you see is there instant attraction etc. from the get go. jesus ud miss the aul bars and clubs. lad I'm not struggling in chatting to women or meeting them I'm good when it comes to that, I was just interested in the psychology side of what I was asking. Haha"
I'm just making a point in general. We're also in surreal times for the last year so hard to make a judgement. I'm talking in my post pre march 2020.

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"

I am not saying women are being picky, I am saying that they are inundated with hey how are you messages that get bulk deleted usually."

I have no problem admitting I'm picky and I don't apologise for it tbh. Everyone gets to set their own standards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have replied to Hey how are you messages. Some have been good conversations afterwards and some have not. Conversation has to flow both ways in order to succeed.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary


"

I am not saying women are being picky, I am saying that they are inundated with hey how are you messages that get bulk deleted usually.

I have no problem admitting I'm picky and I don't apologise for it tbh. Everyone gets to set their own standards. "
men should be picky also but then again alot of men would climb aboard a gust of wind to get their willy's wet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did someone mention cake ?

Wrong thread your looking for the Fabs Biggest Bake Off "
there's cake??

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"

I am not saying women are being picky, I am saying that they are inundated with hey how are you messages that get bulk deleted usually.

I have no problem admitting I'm picky and I don't apologise for it tbh. Everyone gets to set their own standards. men should be picky also but then again alot of men would climb aboard a gust of wind to get their willy's wet. "

I'd love it if men were more picky tbh, would result in more conversation and better connections

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

I found it hard to have conversations with people I dont really know so that's why I started the puzzles...in the year that we've had i found the conversations they started a great way to get by and good fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I am not saying women are being picky, I am saying that they are inundated with hey how are you messages that get bulk deleted usually.

I have no problem admitting I'm picky and I don't apologise for it tbh. Everyone gets to set their own standards. men should be picky also but then again alot of men would climb aboard a gust of wind to get their willy's wet.

I'd love it if men were more picky tbh, would result in more conversation and better connections "
... Men can be picky too... I might be in the minority but if someone doesn't tick the boxes for me then I will politely decline... Not all of us get up on gust of wind

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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago

C'est moi Boudoir


"Women absolutely do send first message. In fairness they have approached first a lot more than I have which is a credit to some really nice women here. But you are right that there is nothing wrong with a nice simple message...a person should not be judged just because they said hello.. how are you... If we were all in a bar then it would be totally acceptable so don't see why here should be any different

Imagine a woman sitting at a bar with a queue of guys going up to her and saying hi how are you after multiple announcements at the bar for people to be original. The ratio is always going to make things harder for the lads so they have to up their game a bit. I respond to decent messages even if I have no interest in taking things further but to acknowledge that the message was lovely or made me laugh.

I am not saying women are being picky, I am saying that they are inundated with hey how are you messages that get bulk deleted usually.

I look at profile, message, photos, verifications...it's a combination of thing's.

Telling someone new that he will get anywhere with a hey how are you message puts him at a disadvantage. The reality of fab is most won't even open the message.

I disagree but than I don't get many messages and any polite message I get I reply too. I'd sooner someone say hi how are you than faf!"

I reply to a fair few not all. If they have blatantly not read/ignored my profile I won't respond and make no apology for that. I think there are a lot of people who don't respond and that is their choice, that was the point I was making there. No one is guaranteed anything by signing up to fab but effort goes a long way here and that has been proven.

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

Bunch of fucking snowflakes

Ok, here's the facts.

Hey how's your bod?

Cop the fuck on!

If you are going to take time to tell someone you like them, read their profile.

If it's one of the Fill in Laters, why are you writing to them ya feckin gobshite! They obviously have F all to talk about.

If it's a proper profile, talk about something you find that clicks with you.

I mean come on!

WTF point is there in a Hey how's you?

That's what the wink is for.

Any further discussion requires the wearing of the Big Boy boxers and will be ignored otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women absolutely do send first message. In fairness they have approached first a lot more than I have which is a credit to some really nice women here. But you are right that there is nothing wrong with a nice simple message...a person should not be judged just because they said hello.. how are you... If we were all in a bar then it would be totally acceptable so don't see why here should be any different

Imagine a woman sitting at a bar with a queue of guys going up to her and saying hi how are you after multiple announcements at the bar for people to be original. The ratio is always going to make things harder for the lads so they have to up their game a bit. I respond to decent messages even if I have no interest in taking things further but to acknowledge that the message was lovely or made me laugh.

I am not saying women are being picky, I am saying that they are inundated with hey how are you messages that get bulk deleted usually.

I look at profile, message, photos, verifications...it's a combination of thing's.

Telling someone new that he will get anywhere with a hey how are you message puts him at a disadvantage. The reality of fab is most won't even open the message.

I disagree but than I don't get many messages and any polite message I get I reply too. I'd sooner someone say hi how are you than faf!

I reply to a fair few not all. If they have blatantly not read/ignored my profile I won't respond and make no apology for that. I think there are a lot of people who don't respond and that is their choice, that was the point I was making there. No one is guaranteed anything by signing up to fab but effort goes a long way here and that has been proven. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is interesting how some ladies give out about that first msg but then, it's like the same rules don't apply as loads of msgs I get are the very same as the ones in question in this thread. It's not that I have any issue with it as I will always reply to a msg but I'll go and read the profile first

sometimes a convo starts and sometimes they just don't and I'm OK with it as that's just the nature of it. We're not all compatible even if you do have a convo and get along.

Why ppl take it so seriously is beyond me. There seems to always be someone disappointed with the lack of responses they get from ladies they msg and feel the need to create a thread to tell everyone of their misfortune. Lads I've got news for you. This is not a place to come if your looking for a quick "wam bam thank you ma'am" and you'd be far better off looking elsewhere but if your up for the Craic and like getting to know ppl in the forum's then you never know when someone might come knocking on your inbox.

So less of the crying and throwing the toys out of the pram please and just get on with it .

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