FabSwingers.com forum: Oral or Cock?

By *ettaMan OP Man
over a year ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

Just realised that there is an Ireland specific forum

I'm interested in the women's perspective on this. From which do you orgasm more regularly, oral or cock?

For those that say oral, would you say that it's been your partners size that doesn't get you off, or technique? Or is it just that cock doesn't hit the right spots with the same subtlety/precision?

Similar question for those that say cock, do you think it's a partners (lack of) technique that doesn't get you off, or is it just that tongue and fingers don't do it for you?

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By *he rover returnedWoman
over a year ago

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Thats a very complicated, slightly long winded question. Sex isn't an exact science and neither is the female body.

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By *ettaMan OP Man
over a year ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Different strokes for different folks, quite literally. There's so many variables. Best to always do both to make sure all bases are covered

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By *ettaMan OP Man
over a year ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

"Thats a very complicated, slightly long winded question. Sex isn't an exact science and neither is the female body.

I should probably have broken it into two separate questions.

It's not an exact science no, but some women do find that they tend to orgasm more from one or the other, or never from one or the other.

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By *he rover returnedWoman
over a year ago

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"Thats a very complicated, slightly long winded question. Sex isn't an exact science and neither is the female body.

I should probably have broken it into two separate questions.

It's not an exact science no, but some women do find that they tend to orgasm more from one or the other, or never from one or the other."

I'd veer towards life is full of possibilities. Rule nothing out

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By *ettaMan OP Man
over a year ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

"Different strokes for different folks, quite literally.

There's so many variables. Best to always do both to make sure all bases are covered

I always do

I'm just interested to hear people's thoughts/experiences.

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By *itlbeeCouple
over a year ago

I find this question sort of complex because it presupposes that the woman is completely passive in the experience, and that's usually not the case.

I don't think of orgasms as something a male partner 'gives' to me, it's something we make together.

A guy can't feel what I'm feeling, I have to participate, I move my body to help us reach rhythms and positions that work.

If he's doing something that's not getting me closer to coming, I'm not just going to lie there.

So this questions is phrased in a way that's totally focused on the guys size or technique. But those are really not the main factors, I will do what I need to to make the size work for me, and I will make sure we're using a technique that works for me.

The factors that ACTUALLY matter the most are just the quirks of different women having different bodies that work on different ways.

For example, I have a really sensitive clit that doesn't appreciate the main techniques used for oral. So I rarely can come from it. That has nothing to do with the guy or his technique.

Similarly, a lot of women can't cum from penetration alone, but some come easily from it. The same guy might have the same size and technique and have wildly different results with different women.

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

I think its down to the person you're with. I found it hard to cum from penetrative sex but met someone a few years ago and bingo.

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By *he rover returnedWoman
over a year ago

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"I find this question sort of complex because it presupposes that the woman is completely passive in the experience, and that's usually not the case.

I don't think of orgasms as something a male partner 'gives' to me, it's something we make together.

A guy can't feel what I'm feeling, I have to participate, I move my body to help us reach rhythms and positions that work.

If he's doing something that's not getting me closer to coming, I'm not just going to lie there.

The factors that ACTUALLY matter the most are just the quirks of different women having different bodies that work on different ways.

For example, I have a really sensitive clit that doesn't appreciate the main techniques used for oral. So I rarely can come from it. That has nothing to do with the guy or his technique.

Similarly, a lot of women can't cum from penetration alone, but some come easily from it. The same guy might have the same size and technique and have wildly different results with different women.

I think you've just closed the thread. Wonderful reply

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By *iktikiCouple
over a year ago

city centre

"I find this question sort of complex because it presupposes that the woman is completely passive in the experience, and that's usually not the case.

I don't think of orgasms as something a male partner 'gives' to me, it's something we make together.

A guy can't feel what I'm feeling, I have to participate, I move my body to help us reach rhythms and positions that work.

If he's doing something that's not getting me closer to coming, I'm not just going to lie there.

The factors that ACTUALLY matter the most are just the quirks of different women having different bodies that work on different ways.

For example, I have a really sensitive clit that doesn't appreciate the main techniques used for oral. So I rarely can come from it. That has nothing to do with the guy or his technique.

Similarly, a lot of women can't cum from penetration alone, but some come easily from it. The same guy might have the same size and technique and have wildly different results with different women.

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By *iscuits8Man
over a year ago

Meath / Dublin / Birmingham

"I think its down to the person you're with. I found it hard to cum from penetrative sex but met someone a few years ago and bingo. "

I read that as "met someone a few years at bingo" and I was sat here going eh.. and what happened - oh right, AND bingo

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

"I think its down to the person you're with. I found it hard to cum from penetrative sex but met someone a few years ago and bingo.

I read that as "met someone a few years at bingo" and I was sat here going eh.. and what happened - oh right, AND bingo

We actually met at Mass and then went to the bingo. Awww the good old days. Two little ducks and legs eleven. Memories

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By *arajeanCouple
over a year ago

mayo

Depends on who you are with

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"Depends on who you are with "

I agree with this

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

" From which do you orgasm more regularly, oral or cock?"

Oral for me, much to my disappointment

"For those that say oral, would you say that it's been your partners size that doesn't get you off, or technique? "

Technique for sure. Too many lads hammering away like they're on Brazzers, not listening to what their partners actually want or enjoy.

" Or is it just that cock doesn't hit the right spots with the same subtlety/precision? "

Yes... this is part of technique in my opinion, as someone who can cum from penetration. Lots of women can't though, so unless there's clit stimulation along with penetration it's not gonna happen.

" Similar question for those that say cock, do you think it's a partners (lack of) technique that doesn't get you off, or is it just that tongue and fingers don't do it for you?"

When I don't cum from oral or fingering it's 100% technique. Again, guys attacking the clit or hammering their fingers in like they're playing Fifa instead of doing what feels good!

I'm also finding as well that no matter how much you say slow down or do it like this, the moment you start to get close they start hammering again. It's really fucking frustrating!!!!

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"The factors that ACTUALLY matter the most are just the quirks of different women having different bodies that work on different ways.

This this this! So many guys now ask "do you squirt", "do you like X" and just go in doing what they think will work instead of taking the time to explore their partner and LEARN what they respond to. I find it extremely off-putting!

Everyone is unique and to skip getting to know how someone likes to be fucked is skipping the best part, in my opinion!

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By *unsigntwoCouple
over a year ago

athlone

Yes depends upon who you are with and where your head is in that moment and how . sensitive your body is to touch ..

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

"Just realised that there is an Ireland specific forum

I'm interested in the women's perspective on this. From which do you orgasm more regularly, oral or cock?

Oral when done right makes me see god! Cock is a different type of orgasm for me anyway

For those that say oral, would you say that it's been your partners size that doesn't get you off, or technique? Or is it just that cock doesn't hit the right spots with the same subtlety/precision?

Technique is definitely a big factor but also sometimes it's just not hitting the spot!

Similar question for those that say cock, do you think it's a partners (lack of) technique that doesn't get you off, or is it just that tongue and fingers don't do it for you?"

Lack of technique and not listening to ques! Start soft and if I want you to go harder I'll tell you. Don't go in all guns blazing hammering away

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over a year ago

Such an important question. I honestly had to learn how to enjoy oral. Before I could knit while receiving it. But now it does have a good effect on the whole thing.

But generally its the foreplay plus loads of penetration. I'm very fond of a man's genitalia. I just adore a gorgeous cock. Without that it wouldn't be complete for me.

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By *lderandbolderMan
over a year ago

clonakilty

To taste a woman is good you know she want cock soon

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

city

I think, with men it matters what's being done. With a woman, it matters who's doing it. Many men, perhaps most, have sex for their own immediate pleasure, whereas it's much more pleasurable to have sex for the womans pleasure. I love to give pleasure, and in doing so receive pleasure. Personally,I love to give oral, more so than penetrative sex.. It can last longer, i can adapt what I'm doing to my lovers responses, listen to her cues, discover what parts of her are sensitive to my tongue and fingers and take our time. Oral is more leisurely, slow build up, i can explore more.

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over a year ago

"Just realised that there is an Ireland specific forum

I'm interested in the women's perspective on this. From which do you orgasm more regularly, oral or cock?

For those that say oral, would you say that it's been your partners size that doesn't get you off, or technique? Or is it just that cock doesn't hit the right spots with the same subtlety/precision?

Similar question for those that say cock, do you think it's a partners (lack of) technique that doesn't get you off, or is it just that tongue and fingers don't do it for you?"

literally depends on the individual, the environment at that time but happy with either x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Different frogs, different times.

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By *ouple 0073Couple
over a year ago

donegal

Both please and thank you x

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By *arlyFunCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

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By *arlyFunCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"I find this question sort of complex because it presupposes that the woman is completely passive in the experience, and that's usually not the case.

I don't think of orgasms as something a male partner 'gives' to me, it's something we make together.

A guy can't feel what I'm feeling, I have to participate, I move my body to help us reach rhythms and positions that work.

If he's doing something that's not getting me closer to coming, I'm not just going to lie there.

The factors that ACTUALLY matter the most are just the quirks of different women having different bodies that work on different ways.

For example, I have a really sensitive clit that doesn't appreciate the main techniques used for oral. So I rarely can come from it. That has nothing to do with the guy or his technique.

Similarly, a lot of women can't cum from penetration alone, but some come easily from it. The same guy might have the same size and technique and have wildly different results with different women.

What a brilliant answer!

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By *ouple4funx2000Couple
over a year ago

town

depends what mood I'm in that day

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Cock of course. Sword of joy. Given the roide lasts longer than just a few minutes.

Oral is ok for foreplay but it gets pretty quickly boring.

Skills, tools and technique always play a role no matter what sexual activity you're performing. However it needs attentiveness inquisitiveness and flexibility to make those skills working and it's the mutual connection and the sincere interest to have a shared experience that makes the difference.

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By *ettaMan OP Man
over a year ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

"I find this question sort of complex because it presupposes that the woman is completely passive in the experience, and that's usually not the case.

I don't think of orgasms as something a male partner 'gives' to me, it's something we make together."

I should have taken a bit more time over the wording but it wasn't meant to be an exhaustive list of possibilities, more an opener to illicit other reasons also.

It did somewhat presuppose that a guys technique is pretty key, probably because, in my experience it has been. That's speaking as someone who has gone from none to some.

"A guy can't feel what I'm feeling, I have to participate, I move my body to help us reach rhythms and positions that work.

If he's doing something that's not getting me closer to coming, I'm not just going to lie there."

No, we can't unfortunately (bcos it looks like a lot of fun), but physical cues definitely give a good indication of what's working and what isn't.

The factors that ACTUALLY matter the most are just the quirks of different women having different bodies that work on different ways.

For example, I have a really sensitive clit that doesn't appreciate the main techniques used for oral. So I rarely can come from it. That has nothing to do with the guy or his technique.

Similarly, a lot of women can't cum from penetration alone, but some come easily from it. The same guy might have the same size and technique and have wildly different results with different women.

There certainly is a lot of variation but there are certain, fundamental similarities as well. I would consider communicating about those quirks and adapting to them all part of technique.

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By *ettaMan OP Man
over a year ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

"I think its down to the person you're with. I found it hard to cum from penetrative sex but met someone a few years ago and bingo. "

Nice to hear

Chemistry is pretty key alright. Sometimes you can just click with someone in the bedroom and it feels like everything just falls into place.

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By *ettaMan OP Man
over a year ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

"Oral for me, much to my disappointment"

Interesting to hear you say, "to [your] disappointment". Do you mind me asking why that is?

"Technique for sure. Too many lads hammering away like they're on Brazzers, not listening to what their partners actually want or enjoy."

I would've been guilty of this myself, once upon a time. That and not giving it the time it takes.

"Yes... this is part of technique in my opinion, as someone who can cum from penetration. Lots of women can't though, so unless there's clit stimulation along with penetration it's not gonna happen."

I'd agree with you there. Finding positions and ways to stimulate the clit is part of technique.

"When I don't cum from oral or fingering it's 100% technique. Again, guys attacking the clit or hammering their fingers in like they're playing Fifa instead of doing what feels good!"

"I'm also finding as well that no matter how much you say slow down or do it like this, the moment you start to get close they start hammering again. It's really fucking frustrating!!!!"

I can imagine.

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By *ettaMan OP Man
over a year ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

"This this this! So many guys now ask "do you squirt", "do you like X" and just go in doing what they think will work instead of taking the time to explore their partner and LEARN what they respond to. I find it extremely off-putting!

Everyone is unique and to skip getting to know how someone likes to be fucked is skipping the best part, in my opinion!"

That's where communication is key and playing with someone more often.

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By *ettaMan OP Man
over a year ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

"Lack of technique and not listening to ques! Start soft and if I want you to go harder I'll tell you. Don't go in all guns blazing hammering away "

It's a marathon, not a sprint!

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By *ettaMan OP Man
over a year ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

"Such an important question. I honestly had to learn how to enjoy oral. Before I could knit while receiving it. But now it does have a good effect on the whole thing."

That's interesting. I'd be interested to hear how you learned this. I know some women can have a hang up about receiving oral, or have just had bad experiences with it. Was that the case for you?

"But generally its the foreplay plus loads of penetration. I'm very fond of a man's genitalia. I just adore a gorgeous cock. Without that it wouldn't be complete for me.

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over a year ago

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By *ettaMan OP Man
over a year ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

"You really need to get the hang of the Reply + Quote button

Ya, it's a bit different to other forums I use.

I usually break posts up and reply to each comment, within a post, but it doesn't come out too clearly on here.

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By *lderandbolderMan
over a year ago

clonakilty

Oral for me

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"Oral for me, much to my disappointment

Interesting to hear you say, "to [your] disappointment". Do you mind me asking why that is? "

Because I way prefer being fucked than getting oral!

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