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"Very sweeping generalisation OP... Less than 1% of either sexes hold that fear. Most men are just ordinary people who abhor actsof any kind of violence against anyone let alone women. If there wasn't men in the morning the human population would die out.. Simple as.. " Men are generally physically stronger than women and can overpower us by force if so inclined. Fact. Its a damn sight more than 1% of women fear that for sure. I would hate a world without men so boring! but yes I would love to feel safe walking streets alone at night. I can only imagine how freeing that would feel | |||
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"Be very depressed is what I'd be . On a serious note tho I also don't agree with women are always the victims guys can and are victims of abuse both physical and mental abuse from women. A lot of men also suffer in silence for fear of not being believed if they do say it or being ridiculed . Abuse and fear is horrible and no one should live that way it doesn't matter if you're male or female . " Well said I for one would be devastated at the loss of the men I love and respect. | |||
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"Very sweeping generalisation OP... Less than 1% of either sexes hold that fear. Most men are just ordinary people who abhor actsof any kind of violence against anyone let alone women. If there wasn't men in the morning the human population would die out.. Simple as.. " Ok can i ask you to speak to the women in your life, and ask them if they have ever been afraid walking in a car park, or if they keep their keys in their hand in case they get attacked. Its absolutely more than 1%. And this is the real reason that i started the thread, because i dont think men truly understand the effect they have on women. | |||
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"This is a tough one with varying opinions, as there should be. I've travelled for some time by myself. During that time I was mostly safe but there was some dodgy instances. Now, I can see without doubt this would of been far more dangerous for a woman, in some countries more than others. Some of the women I met on the way had some horror stories. Sure even in Dublin you had predators chasing young girls in a park just a few weeks back. I think in general it is safer for men, but that doesn't mean it's unsafe for women. The vast majority of men are decent, but at the same time the majority of sexual abuse is done by men. It's a thought topic and honestly there's no right answer. " Exactly! Thank you | |||
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"Ive been following the case of the poor girl missing in london, and it got me thinking back to a post i saw on social media once that asked "what would you do if you woke up tomorrow and there were no men.." Most of the answers were "go for a walk at night on my own without fear" As they say "Men fear being laughed at by women, but women fear being killed by men". So ladies, what would you do if you woke up tomorrow and there were no men? " If all men were gone, I'd be sad about it. That doesn't diminish the fact that throughout my life I have had several instances of consent violations and moments of feeling unsafe around men. These aren't isolated instances or only felt by 1%. That number is absolute crap, I dont know a woman that couldn't tell you a story about the things that have happened them. And men continue to minimise it with this "most men are good", yeah most men are good but it doesn't make up for the bad ones, your mate that bates his missus, the handsy d*unk one, the one who thinks no is a tease, the creepy one you cross the road to avoid, the one with all the positive verifications that locks you in his car. This things continue to happen and people continue to ignore it because everyone knows that person and really theyre sound.... Yeah ok Men need to stop minimising women's experience because that also makes you a bad guy, not a good one. | |||
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"Ive been following the case of the poor girl missing in london, and it got me thinking back to a post i saw on social media once that asked "what would you do if you woke up tomorrow and there were no men.." Most of the answers were "go for a walk at night on my own without fear" As they say "Men fear being laughed at by women, but women fear being killed by men". So ladies, what would you do if you woke up tomorrow and there were no men? If all men were gone, I'd be sad about it. That doesn't diminish the fact that throughout my life I have had several instances of consent violations and moments of feeling unsafe around men. These aren't isolated instances or only felt by 1%. That number is absolute crap, I dont know a woman that couldn't tell you a story about the things that have happened them. And men continue to minimise it with this "most men are good", yeah most men are good but it doesn't make up for the bad ones, your mate that bates his missus, the handsy d*unk one, the one who thinks no is a tease, the creepy one you cross the road to avoid, the one with all the positive verifications that locks you in his car. This things continue to happen and people continue to ignore it because everyone knows that person and really theyre sound.... Yeah ok Men need to stop minimising women's experience because that also makes you a bad guy, not a good one." Absolutely 100% this. | |||
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"Ive been following the case of the poor girl missing in london, and it got me thinking back to a post i saw on social media once that asked "what would you do if you woke up tomorrow and there were no men.." Most of the answers were "go for a walk at night on my own without fear" As they say "Men fear being laughed at by women, but women fear being killed by men". So ladies, what would you do if you woke up tomorrow and there were no men? If all men were gone, I'd be sad about it. That doesn't diminish the fact that throughout my life I have had several instances of consent violations and moments of feeling unsafe around men. These aren't isolated instances or only felt by 1%. That number is absolute crap, I dont know a woman that couldn't tell you a story about the things that have happened them. And men continue to minimise it with this "most men are good", yeah most men are good but it doesn't make up for the bad ones, your mate that bates his missus, the handsy d*unk one, the one who thinks no is a tease, the creepy one you cross the road to avoid, the one with all the positive verifications that locks you in his car. This things continue to happen and people continue to ignore it because everyone knows that person and really theyre sound.... Yeah ok Men need to stop minimising women's experience because that also makes you a bad guy, not a good one." Very true words. In this country the percentage may be lower. OP's scenario though is about no men in the whole world. That would mean: 1. No child brides. 2. No need for genital mutilation. 3. No need to wear burquas. 4. No need for feminists! (Yay) 5. No glass ceilings 6. No mansplaining 7. No one to help us shift a wardrobe. 8. No more balls to drain into anything that breathes willing or not. 9. Most likely no religion either 10. Women would be able to put their drinks down unattended in bars and clubs. 11. Sex trafficking would most likely disappear overnight. 12. Whole world would become a lot safer and so much more boring. 13. Women wouldn't have any men to bitch about so they would bitch about each other and then not talk to each other. 14. World peace would be achieved by a bunch of countries just not talking to each other. 15. Periods would become a legitimate reason for taking extra days off work. 16. Women would become sloppy - "why should I make the effort, you make the effort!" 17. Women would have to pick up actual manual labour instead of being make up gurus and lashmeisters. 18. Nobody would get their cars/fridges/dishwashers/phones fixed ever as the queue to the mechanic would be pre booked for decades ahead (how many women do you know who are into electronics?) 19. Property prices would plummet due to spiders. There would be nobody to kill/remove the spiders out of them. 20. Staff turnover in businesses would increase to the max. What would I do personally? I would curl up in a ball and cry my eyes out if Dirk would disappear out of my life overnight without notice nor a trace. As much as women bitch about men - good ones will always be loved and cherished because most women I know including myself know first hand how bad can bad be. Missus | |||
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" So ladies, what would you do if you woke up tomorrow and there were no men? " Roll over and go back to sleep probably | |||
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"Personally, I know more men who've been attacked whilst walking alone at night. Granted, it's by another male and not sexually motivated but... Whether it's robbery or racially motivated, I personally know of it happening to men more. " I tend to agree. I feel boys/young men are far more vulnerable than their female counterparts, mentally, emotionally and physically. I have two tough daughters for whom i'm not worried about, but if they were sons, I would feel differently | |||
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"I was attacked 6 years ago and same as poster above I fought back but he was bigger and stronger and I knew I wouldn't come out of it well so I gave up. I don't live in fear but I'm a lot more Conscious of my surroundings now. Did I check myself six times the other night taking money from the bank machine yes, do I get nervous getting into a taxi on my own yes. But I was unfortunately in the wrong place at the wrong time. It's not all men but it has made me put my guard up and be a lot more aware. " I'm sorry this happened you, but isn't it sad that the expression is wrong place ,wrong time. There should never be a wrong place. | |||
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"I was attacked 6 years ago and same as poster above I fought back but he was bigger and stronger and I knew I wouldn't come out of it well so I gave up. I don't live in fear but I'm a lot more Conscious of my surroundings now. Did I check myself six times the other night taking money from the bank machine yes, do I get nervous getting into a taxi on my own yes. But I was unfortunately in the wrong place at the wrong time. It's not all men but it has made me put my guard up and be a lot more aware. " That's shocking stuff P² | |||
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"I was attacked 6 years ago and same as poster above I fought back but he was bigger and stronger and I knew I wouldn't come out of it well so I gave up. I don't live in fear but I'm a lot more Conscious of my surroundings now. Did I check myself six times the other night taking money from the bank machine yes, do I get nervous getting into a taxi on my own yes. But I was unfortunately in the wrong place at the wrong time. It's not all men but it has made me put my guard up and be a lot more aware. I'm sorry this happened you, but isn't it sad that the expression is wrong place ,wrong time. There should never be a wrong place. " I agree but unfortunately that expression is an almost flippant way of dealing with such a despicable and life changing or life affecting event. There are no excuses for what happened to either of you. In another thread today a woman said she had been brutally attacked and r*ped as a young girl and numerous times by multiple men since. Once again there is no defence for the men involved but surely a valid question is how does someone be in the wrong place at the wrong time so many times? | |||
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"I was attacked 6 years ago and same as poster above I fought back but he was bigger and stronger and I knew I wouldn't come out of it well so I gave up. I don't live in fear but I'm a lot more Conscious of my surroundings now. Did I check myself six times the other night taking money from the bank machine yes, do I get nervous getting into a taxi on my own yes. But I was unfortunately in the wrong place at the wrong time. It's not all men but it has made me put my guard up and be a lot more aware. I'm sorry this happened you, but isn't it sad that the expression is wrong place ,wrong time. There should never be a wrong place. I agree but unfortunately that expression is an almost flippant way of dealing with such a despicable and life changing or life affecting event. There are no excuses for what happened to either of you. In another thread today a woman said she had been brutally attacked and r*ped as a young girl and numerous times by multiple men since. Once again there is no defence for the men involved but surely a valid question is how does someone be in the wrong place at the wrong time so many times? " Unfortunately it does sound like a flippant remark but it's my way of coping with my life changing event where I attacked but I was also r*ped. I have to compartmentalise it somehow because if I don't I'll end up spiralling. | |||
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"I was attacked 6 years ago and same as poster above I fought back but he was bigger and stronger and I knew I wouldn't come out of it well so I gave up. I don't live in fear but I'm a lot more Conscious of my surroundings now. Did I check myself six times the other night taking money from the bank machine yes, do I get nervous getting into a taxi on my own yes. But I was unfortunately in the wrong place at the wrong time. It's not all men but it has made me put my guard up and be a lot more aware. I'm sorry this happened you, but isn't it sad that the expression is wrong place ,wrong time. There should never be a wrong place. I agree but unfortunately that expression is an almost flippant way of dealing with such a despicable and life changing or life affecting event. There are no excuses for what happened to either of you. In another thread today a woman said she had been brutally attacked and r*ped as a young girl and numerous times by multiple men since. Once again there is no defence for the men involved but surely a valid question is how does someone be in the wrong place at the wrong time so many times? Unfortunately it does sound like a flippant remark but it's my way of coping with my life changing event where I attacked but I was also r*ped. I have to compartmentalise it somehow because if I don't I'll end up spiralling. " That's what I meant though. Not others making a flippant remark about something that happened to you but how you process that event in your own head almost as if you are trying to convince yourself that if it hadn't been you it would have been someone else. Just an unfortunate series of events, wrong time, wrong place. | |||
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"I was attacked 6 years ago and same as poster above I fought back but he was bigger and stronger and I knew I wouldn't come out of it well so I gave up. I don't live in fear but I'm a lot more Conscious of my surroundings now. Did I check myself six times the other night taking money from the bank machine yes, do I get nervous getting into a taxi on my own yes. But I was unfortunately in the wrong place at the wrong time. It's not all men but it has made me put my guard up and be a lot more aware. I'm sorry this happened you, but isn't it sad that the expression is wrong place ,wrong time. There should never be a wrong place. I agree but unfortunately that expression is an almost flippant way of dealing with such a despicable and life changing or life affecting event. There are no excuses for what happened to either of you. In another thread today a woman said she had been brutally attacked and r*ped as a young girl and numerous times by multiple men since. Once again there is no defence for the men involved but surely a valid question is how does someone be in the wrong place at the wrong time so many times? Unfortunately it does sound like a flippant remark but it's my way of coping with my life changing event where I attacked but I was also r*ped. I have to compartmentalise it somehow because if I don't I'll end up spiralling. " I think tho that compartmentalising is the only way to cope with some traumatic incidents in our lives .I know it's what I have done with some of what has happened to me in the past .I'm not going into details but I remember thinking a week or so after a particular incident that I could either live as a victim or put it behind me and live my life . I choose to live my life and I'm glad I did. No it wasn't easy but the past is behind me and I learned from what happened . On another note I walked home alone a good few times when I lived in a city many years ago the one and only time I got attacked was by a group of women near where I lived and it was 2 guys who ran over and stopped them that I am forever grateful to even tho I never got their names .They made sure I got home safe also .So it's not just men we need to watch out for either. | |||
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"I was attacked 6 years ago and same as poster above I fought back but he was bigger and stronger and I knew I wouldn't come out of it well so I gave up. I don't live in fear but I'm a lot more Conscious of my surroundings now. Did I check myself six times the other night taking money from the bank machine yes, do I get nervous getting into a taxi on my own yes. But I was unfortunately in the wrong place at the wrong time. It's not all men but it has made me put my guard up and be a lot more aware. I'm sorry this happened you, but isn't it sad that the expression is wrong place ,wrong time. There should never be a wrong place. I agree but unfortunately that expression is an almost flippant way of dealing with such a despicable and life changing or life affecting event. There are no excuses for what happened to either of you. In another thread today a woman said she had been brutally attacked and r*ped as a young girl and numerous times by multiple men since. Once again there is no defence for the men involved but surely a valid question is how does someone be in the wrong place at the wrong time so many times? Unfortunately it does sound like a flippant remark but it's my way of coping with my life changing event where I attacked but I was also r*ped. I have to compartmentalise it somehow because if I don't I'll end up spiralling. That's what I meant though. Not others making a flippant remark about something that happened to you but how you process that event in your own head almost as if you are trying to convince yourself that if it hadn't been you it would have been someone else. Just an unfortunate series of events, wrong time, wrong place. " Sorry I apologise I understand where you're coming from now! you are right though it is a flippant remark. it's fine for me to convince myself wrong time wrong place but Christ if someone made that remark to me about what happened id probably go nuts! | |||
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"Ive been following the case of the poor girl missing in london, and it got me thinking back to a post i saw on social media once that asked "what would you do if you woke up tomorrow and there were no men.." Most of the answers were "go for a walk at night on my own without fear" As they say "Men fear being laughed at by women, but women fear being killed by men". So ladies, what would you do if you woke up tomorrow and there were no men? " It's an interesting concept. Surmising what a world without men would be like ? Which crimes would reduce ...and which crimes could take their place ? Would physical, sexual and emotional abuse and victimisation cease or reduce in all girls schools and women's prisons ...if staffed by only female teachers and warders ? Is disorder and evil confined to one gender ? Is r*pe mostly about sex or is it about power ? Is there a higher incidence of emotional sadism in men than women ? Is there a higher incidence of men who garner a narcissistic feed from controlling, gas-lighting, bullying and torturing others they choose to target ? Personally I think that destructive badness manifests in a minority of people, and equally in both genders. If you removed all the males from a wolf pack then probably less wolves would die from savage beatings ..but the pack would still organise a hierarchy. Maybe many more wolves would be hunted from the pack and starve ? As a species we should all take responsiblity for reducing fear and suffering in society, regardless of which minority in either gender perpetrates the many ills that persist in our ' communities '. | |||
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"I was attacked 6 years ago and same as poster above I fought back but he was bigger and stronger and I knew I wouldn't come out of it well so I gave up. I don't live in fear but I'm a lot more Conscious of my surroundings now. Did I check myself six times the other night taking money from the bank machine yes, do I get nervous getting into a taxi on my own yes. But I was unfortunately in the wrong place at the wrong time. It's not all men but it has made me put my guard up and be a lot more aware. I'm sorry this happened you, but isn't it sad that the expression is wrong place ,wrong time. There should never be a wrong place. I agree but unfortunately that expression is an almost flippant way of dealing with such a despicable and life changing or life affecting event. There are no excuses for what happened to either of you. In another thread today a woman said she had been brutally attacked and r*ped as a young girl and numerous times by multiple men since. Once again there is no defence for the men involved but surely a valid question is how does someone be in the wrong place at the wrong time so many times? Unfortunately it does sound like a flippant remark but it's my way of coping with my life changing event where I attacked but I was also r*ped. I have to compartmentalise it somehow because if I don't I'll end up spiralling. That's what I meant though. Not others making a flippant remark about something that happened to you but how you process that event in your own head almost as if you are trying to convince yourself that if it hadn't been you it would have been someone else. Just an unfortunate series of events, wrong time, wrong place. Sorry I apologise I understand where you're coming from now! you are right though it is a flippant remark. it's fine for me to convince myself wrong time wrong place but Christ if someone made that remark to me about what happened id probably go nuts!" | |||
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"I was attacked 6 years ago and same as poster above I fought back but he was bigger and stronger and I knew I wouldn't come out of it well so I gave up. I don't live in fear but I'm a lot more Conscious of my surroundings now. Did I check myself six times the other night taking money from the bank machine yes, do I get nervous getting into a taxi on my own yes. But I was unfortunately in the wrong place at the wrong time. It's not all men but it has made me put my guard up and be a lot more aware. " Sorry to hear that... | |||
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"For anyone wanting to feel a bit safer you can share your location with friend/friends. Whatsapp has a feature you can share your location for 15mibs/1 hour or 8hours. Go to message. Tap the paper clip and then location. The person or persons you messages can see where you are. " I have seen that, live location, very good idea. | |||
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