FabSwingers.com forum: What makes you not reply.....

By *ittlekinks38 OP Woman
over a year ago

outside belfast x

Theres always posts of men complaining about their messages not being answered and being blocked....am just curious what is it that makes ppl not reply to messages?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually reply to any message I get unless it's a "I'm in your area" message or one with a d8ck pic..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any male who sends a first message but clearly hasn't noticed that there are two people behind the profile gets ignored, as do the ones making sexual suggestions, obvious copy and pastes, or incoherent waffle.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I don't send first contact messages and haven't done in over a year.

I can go for a couple of weeks without receiving any messages and a bust week would only get a couple so replying isn't really a chore.

I reply to any I get but some people have difficulty maintaining a conversation while others assume that because I've got a penis that I'm led by that and will therefore jump at whatever is offered.

They obviously haven't read my profile so my reply is usually short and sweet.

I don't respond to demands, instructions or smoke being blown up my arse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any male who sends a first message but clearly hasn't noticed that there are two people behind the profile gets ignored, as do the ones making sexual suggestions, obvious copy and pastes, or incoherent waffle."

The last copy and paste message I got , I sent him back the one he sent me 4 wks previous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The last copy and paste message I got , I sent him back the one he sent me 4 wks previous "

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

The last copy and paste message I got , I sent him back the one he sent me 4 wks previous "

Sorry about that

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By *Sparkie.Man
over a year ago

Ratoath

I wont reply to a one liner, takes a little more to get my attention, the lazy winks are a bad idea too I think

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Actually and I could be very guilty of this as Im not great with communication

It's easy to answer a message but it can be hard to continue a conversation when the other person answers in one or two words only.

A couple of lines at a time is a big help especially when they have started the conversation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Often I wanna think of a decent response, or dont have time to respond, so i might read it, then mark as unread untill I get a chance to answer it properly.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I reply to my most messages I get tho even if it's a no thank you.I keep filters tight so I don't actually get that many .

But in saying that I'll not reply if people have cheated past my filters or if it's a profile that has made no effort .Or the ones where you get faf,or telling me what they want me to do them or visa versa .Also the fake crude compliments get deleted as well. And if I've already told someone no thanks and they keep messaging they get deleted also .Luckily they don't happen that often tho .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I message people that interest me.. if i don't get a reply no worries.. people tend to message me more now, usually by seeing one of my forum comments..

I've found a few good friends on fab.. you know who you are x

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By *iss3BWoman
over a year ago

north down

The last copy and paste message I got , I sent him back the one he sent me 4 wks previous "

I'd one telling me how they really wanted to meet like minded couples and would we be interested

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By *eepixieWoman
over a year ago

belfast

I reply to every message I get, even to say no thank you. Sometimes I get a reply saying why not, to which I reply, “I don’t have to explain myself to you. Thanks.” That works usually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People saying they want to meet you but yet you don't match there preferences at all. Men mailing from couple profiles and pretenting it's the female. people looking for pic s adding you as a friend and not talking. people not even bothering to check your preferences and reading your profile. Have never mailed anyone that has not met my preferences.oneliners no thought put into it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oooooh where to start

Vulgarity

Poor grammar

Bad spelling

Unsolicited vag pics

"Fancy a fuck"

"In your area now"

No pics

Underwhelming profile content

Use of over familiarity

Current mood

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have introduced a new 2 hour SLA to respond to all new messages

My partial OCD wouldn't allow me not to open and respond promptly anyway

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By *ineapple_PrincessWoman
over a year ago

in the waves

Lack of profile pic/content

Dick pics in mail

References to drugs on profile

Obviously hasn't read my profile

One liners such as hi or meet today?

I rarely even reply to mails now unless I reply to say thanks but I'm not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oooooh where to start

Vulgarity

Poor grammar

Bad spelling

Unsolicited vag pics

"Fancy a fuck"

"In your area now"

No pics

Underwhelming profile content

Use of over familiarity

Current mood

Heah hun we are passing through U fancy a fuk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oooooh where to start

Vulgarity

Poor grammar

Bad spelling

Unsolicited vag pics

"Fancy a fuck"

"In your area now"

No pics

Underwhelming profile content

Use of over familiarity

Current mood

Heah hun we are passing through U fancy a fuk "

But WHY!? It's so well thought out....!? Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got a message yesterday with 12 pics attached... 12!

Dick from many angles. Selfies. Few action shots.

Leave something to the imagination.. Half a gallery with intro certainly not required and wouldn't be reciprocated!

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By *ittlePinkUnicornWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

Blank or a one line profile.

Clearly hasn't read mine and thought if we could be compatible or not.

Message full of text speak or with grammar so bad I have to re-read the message to understand.

Profile photo being a face picture won't rule out a reply, but does make me think twice. I'm single, but still require a certain amount of discretion and common sense. We all have lives outside Fab. If they're not being discreet/protecting themselves, would they be discreet with me?

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

I don't get many messages so im not going to use the "way to many to read" if I see hi, hey, hello or any how's lockdown or how's Fab treating ye which ive no idea what that's about to mean I don't answer and don't get me started on the lazy ass cut n paste one's...

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By *eecee2727Man
over a year ago

seaside

"I don't get many messages so im not going to use the "way to many to read" if I see hi, hey, hello or any how's lockdown or how's Fab treating ye which ive no idea what that's about to mean I don't answer and don't get me started on the lazy ass cut n paste one's..."

Out of interest, how is fab treating you??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone that sends a Hi only message and ones asking for meets at the moment.Usually look at the profile first. If not interested will usually say thanks for the message but not meeting..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I usually reply to any message I get unless it's a "I'm in your area" message or one with a d8ck pic.."

What about a dick pic in your area?

Some nice local scenic backdrops next to the election?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The I’m passing through is my favourite. Let’s meet up as I’m in your area? Even though they are from Dundalk....that’s a big passing through distance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Himself tends to delete rather than reply to messages that are not of interest, I on the other hand tend to be a soft touch and feel compelled to reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blank profile. When the say will fill In later but have been here over 1yr.

If their from England. Let's face it...chances of meeting very slim.

Vulgar message ur HI....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Blank profile. When the say will fill In later but have been here over 1yr.

If their from England. Let's face it...chances of meeting very slim.

Vulgar message ur HI....

Yes the fill in later is an annoying one, or even when it's filled it talking about "just signed up etc etc." and are on over a year, well verified and all the trimmings, come on a little update there, ha

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By *unnitoesWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

Any message with mmmm, or mmmmmm or mmmmmmmmmm.....yukk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any message with mmmm, or mmmmmm or mmmmmmmmmm.....yukk

What about a message with M&Ms...?

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Any message with mmmm, or mmmmmm or mmmmmmmmmm.....yukk

Or an endless supply of haha's and lol's or in a couple of cases the use of my profile name at least six times in the message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oooooh where to start

Vulgarity

Poor grammar

Bad spelling

Unsolicited vag pics

"Fancy a fuck"

"In your area now"

No pics

Underwhelming profile content

Use of over familiarity

Current mood

Heah hun we are passing through U fancy a fuk "

QUICK! STOP WHAT YOU'RE DOING!

BJ alert

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By *unnitoesWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

"Any message with mmmm, or mmmmmm or mmmmmmmmmm.....yukk

What about a message with M&Ms...? "

Peanut butter ones

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By *unnitoesWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

"Any message with mmmm, or mmmmmm or mmmmmmmmmm.....yukk

Or an endless supply of haha's and lol's or in a couple of cases the use of my profile name at least six times in the message. "

That haha thing puzzles me greatly, it's like a choking noise at the end of a sentence. Reminds me of 'BOOM BOOM' by Basil Brush

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Any message with mmmm, or mmmmmm or mmmmmmmmmm.....yukk

Or an endless supply of haha's and lol's or in a couple of cases the use of my profile name at least six times in the message.

That haha thing puzzles me greatly, it's like a choking noise at the end of a sentence. Reminds me of 'BOOM BOOM' by Basil Brush

It's like a nervous tic

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By *upermanslovechildMan
over a year ago

Glasnevin

I'm getting weak at the knees listening to all these

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By *Belfast_FellaMan
over a year ago

belfast

I have a pretty good radar for messages from fakes or trolls.

Beyond that, I will generally reply, even if it's just to politely say that I'm not interested.

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By *upiter2000Woman
over a year ago

Tallaght

"Any message with mmmm, or mmmmmm or mmmmmmmmmm.....yukk

Aw same ... total ick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any message with mmmm, or mmmmmm or mmmmmmmmmm.....yukk

What about a message with M&Ms...?

Peanut butter ones

Tickety boo, grab some nuts!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am learning so much about Communications.

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By *ecentguy321Man
over a year ago

nearby

I generally chat to most. Never an issue replying.

If it was a dry message that perhaps came across as rude, id assume no interest and not pursue any further

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

I don't respond to:

Requests for immediate meets - you don't even know what I look like, so clearly you have zero standards and are looking for a hole and not much more

Attached guys - too much hassle, expect you to organise yourself around their wife's schedule, hard pass

Couples - everything needs to be about me, I don't like sharing

Messages with no profile pics - don't even open these, just delete. If you can't expend the effort to upload a pic I don't have high hopes for your ability to make me cum

Profiles with no written bio - see above

Bland shite - basically if a message + profile doesn't spark my interest in some way, I just delete

Long distance - I get a ton of messages from guys in London, which is just a waste of time imo. Even men in other counties now, I'm not gonna have you drive cross country to get a coffee, it creates an expectation

Overall, I don't feel the need to respond to anything that doesn't interest me in some way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Theres always posts of men complaining about their messages not being answered and being blocked....am just curious what is it that makes ppl not reply to messages?"

Well...if they say hi...I don't see the point in answering, no effort made.

or every pic on profile is with his dick on his hands

Or i. In your area, we should meet up...numerous things really.

I'm just a fussy bitch

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By *uperchampMan
over a year ago

dublin

Return to sender... undress unknown...

See what I did there

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By *ittlekinks38 OP Woman
over a year ago

outside belfast x

"I don't respond to:

Requests for immediate meets - you don't even know what I look like, so clearly you have zero standards and are looking for a hole and not much more

Attached guys - too much hassle, expect you to organise yourself around their wife's schedule, hard pass

Couples - everything needs to be about me, I don't like sharing

Messages with no profile pics - don't even open these, just delete. If you can't expend the effort to upload a pic I don't have high hopes for your ability to make me cum

Profiles with no written bio - see above

Bland shite - basically if a message + profile doesn't spark my interest in some way, I just delete

Overall, I don't feel the need to respond to anything that doesn't interest me in some way.

I hear ya hun I have a list myself pretty much like just what you've said I could of written this myself! I've came across so many folks even with a pic and full on bio turn out very hard to get a convo out off! I've seen more make an effort when I pop a wee thread up on forums...hard to find someone who floats my boat! Lol and am no oil painting or fulla myself but there has to be something amazing to grab my attention x

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By *ittlekinks38 OP Woman
over a year ago

outside belfast x

"Theres always posts of men complaining about their messages not being answered and being blocked....am just curious what is it that makes ppl not reply to messages?

Well...if they say hi...I don't see the point in answering, no effort made.

or every pic on profile is with his dick on his hands

Or i. In your area, we should meet up...numerous things really.

I'm just a fussy bitch

Ohhhh I hear wouldn't say am overly fussy but yeah definitely fussy to some degree...making an effort is all I ask of ppl..Nice pics not 101 of their dicks in their hands and great conversation...too much too ask sometimes I wonder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys profiles who say straight...but have an interest in meeting TV/TS.. and if I mention it to them they reply 'oh made profile while I was d*unk r made profile in a hurry'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not being logged on is about the only I won't reply.. Rare enough I get mail so each one is like a scratch card.. Opened with great anticipation lol

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"I don't respond to:

Requests for immediate meets - you don't even know what I look like, so clearly you have zero standards and are looking for a hole and not much more

Attached guys - too much hassle, expect you to organise yourself around their wife's schedule, hard pass

Couples - everything needs to be about me, I don't like sharing

Messages with no profile pics - don't even open these, just delete. If you can't expend the effort to upload a pic I don't have high hopes for your ability to make me cum

Profiles with no written bio - see above

Bland shite - basically if a message + profile doesn't spark my interest in some way, I just delete

Overall, I don't feel the need to respond to anything that doesn't interest me in some way.

Exactly! We're allowed to have standards and decide who we want to engage with! Just being here doesn't mean anyone owes anyone a chance.

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