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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

OK so the thread discussing other apps has been deleted.

But after a year of a pandemic as a single I'm kinda done been single.

Now I don't want marriage or moving in with someone buy I'm thinking a beneficial friendship is what I want.

Good company with lots of hot sex and a bit of a laugh in between.

When or why did it get so hard to find

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ha ha, i hear you DD, this recent solitary confinement has dulled the shine of singlehood for me too!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say alot of singles are feeling the same way both male and female.. If you wanted to stay in this lifestyle you could always do that with someone here if that's what you decided. Stranger things have happened.. Definitely miss the company some nights..

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Ive absolutely no interest in a relationship or dating but being single during the past yr was hard.I get what I want and need from Fab pre covid obviously so i do miss that terrible...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive absolutely no interest in a relationship or dating but being single during the past yr was hard.I get what I want and need from Fab pre covid obviously so i do miss that terrible... "

Oh i was married long enough, im not planning any more shacking up but i wasnt on here pre-covid so im just being teased and tempted by what i did want!!! grrr

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ive absolutely no interest in a relationship or dating but being single during the past yr was hard.I get what I want and need from Fab pre covid obviously so i do miss that terrible... "

Oh I definitely couldn't live with anyone lol I need to be having more fun on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do yous feel about a time share......?

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By *adylaceWoman
over a year ago

Waterford City


"Ive absolutely no interest in a relationship or dating but being single during the past yr was hard.I get what I want and need from Fab pre covid obviously so i do miss that terrible... "

Same.

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By *ub23Man
over a year ago

wandering

There’s moments that you say I wouldn’t mind having a girlfriend but then there’s other times you say it’s great

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How do yous feel about a time share......? "

Yep that would suit me lol

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford

I've never been married and never want to be. I've been there with a long relationship never again and that's why I'm only on fab and no other app. This past yr I've missed sex and socialising but not once have I ever considered a relationship the only thing that Interests me is a fuck buddy. I answer to me and me alone..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do yous feel about a time share......?

Yep that would suit me lol"

That's one so......

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By *he rover returnedWoman
over a year ago

xxx

Its bloody impossible atm. When all you want is a good friend, covid free and available. Who would of thought it'd be so hard to find !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Its bloody impossible atm. When all you want is a good friend, covid free and available. Who would of thought it'd be so hard to find !!"

This is it.

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By *he rover returnedWoman
over a year ago

xxx


"Its bloody impossible atm. When all you want is a good friend, covid free and available. Who would of thought it'd be so hard to find !!

This is it. "

My dear lady the search continues. As the gents always say drama free folks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its bloody impossible atm. When all you want is a good friend, covid free and available. Who would of thought it'd be so hard to find !!

This is it.

My dear lady the search continues. As the gents always say drama free folks "

Drama is only for tv......and film but that's it......and theatre, forgot theatre

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By *he rover returnedWoman
over a year ago

xxx


"Its bloody impossible atm. When all you want is a good friend, covid free and available. Who would of thought it'd be so hard to find !!

This is it.

My dear lady the search continues. As the gents always say drama free folks

Drama is only for tv......and film but that's it......and theatre, forgot theatre"

Mmm what about a watching a good barny on the street ??

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By *ub23Man
over a year ago

wandering

I think excercise is the best way of meeting someone at the min!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its bloody impossible atm. When all you want is a good friend, covid free and available. Who would of thought it'd be so hard to find !!

This is it.

My dear lady the search continues. As the gents always say drama free folks

Drama is only for tv......and film but that's it......and theatre, forgot theatre

Mmm what about a watching a good barny on the street ??"

Oh of course! Like a fly on the wall, that's a great watch. You just can't turn away from it! Haha.....but then THAT'S it....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm beginning to wonder if this place is worth the effort at all . Today's pick of the crop

1) Doesn't use condoms hopes thats not a deal breaker

2) wants me to call over day time tomorrow while his wife is at work

3) I'm not in limerick but sure the restrictions don't matter I'll travel over 40k

Just a few of the stellar offers I've had this weekend

I just want a ride like I don't know why it's so hard here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm beginning to wonder if this place is worth the effort at all . Today's pick of the crop

1) Doesn't use condoms hopes thats not a deal breaker

2) wants me to call over day time tomorrow while his wife is at work

3) I'm not in limerick but sure the restrictions don't matter I'll travel over 40k

Just a few of the stellar offers I've had this weekend

I just want a ride like I don't know why it's so hard here "

Sure you just turned down three GLORIOUS offers!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm beginning to wonder if this place is worth the effort at all . Today's pick of the crop

1) Doesn't use condoms hopes thats not a deal breaker

2) wants me to call over day time tomorrow while his wife is at work

3) I'm not in limerick but sure the restrictions don't matter I'll travel over 40k

Just a few of the stellar offers I've had this weekend

I just want a ride like I don't know why it's so hard here "

Cant even say 2 out of 3 ain't bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm beginning to wonder if this place is worth the effort at all . Today's pick of the crop

1) Doesn't use condoms hopes thats not a deal breaker

2) wants me to call over day time tomorrow while his wife is at work

3) I'm not in limerick but sure the restrictions don't matter I'll travel over 40k

Just a few of the stellar offers I've had this weekend

I just want a ride like I don't know why it's so hard here

Sure you just turned down three GLORIOUS offers!!! "

I know what was I thinking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm beginning to wonder if this place is worth the effort at all . Today's pick of the crop

1) Doesn't use condoms hopes thats not a deal breaker

2) wants me to call over day time tomorrow while his wife is at work

3) I'm not in limerick but sure the restrictions don't matter I'll travel over 40k

Just a few of the stellar offers I've had this weekend

I just want a ride like I don't know why it's so hard here

Cant even say 2 out of 3 ain't bad "

no I can't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm beginning to wonder if this place is worth the effort at all . Today's pick of the crop

1) Doesn't use condoms hopes thats not a deal breaker

2) wants me to call over day time tomorrow while his wife is at work

3) I'm not in limerick but sure the restrictions don't matter I'll travel over 40k

Just a few of the stellar offers I've had this weekend

I just want a ride like I don't know why it's so hard here

Sure you just turned down three GLORIOUS offers!!!

I know what was I thinking "

I dunno, maybe you should get back to those STELLAR chaps!!!!? Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm beginning to wonder if this place is worth the effort at all . Today's pick of the crop

1) Doesn't use condoms hopes thats not a deal breaker

2) wants me to call over day time tomorrow while his wife is at work

3) I'm not in limerick but sure the restrictions don't matter I'll travel over 40k

Just a few of the stellar offers I've had this weekend

I just want a ride like I don't know why it's so hard here

Sure you just turned down three GLORIOUS offers!!!

I know what was I thinking "

Why don't the ladies start making the offers ????¿??¿???????¿???????????¿¿?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm beginning to wonder if this place is worth the effort at all . Today's pick of the crop

1) Doesn't use condoms hopes thats not a deal breaker

2) wants me to call over day time tomorrow while his wife is at work

3) I'm not in limerick but sure the restrictions don't matter I'll travel over 40k

Just a few of the stellar offers I've had this weekend

I just want a ride like I don't know why it's so hard here "

It's your fault for being too damn picky

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By *he rover returnedWoman
over a year ago

xxx


"Its bloody impossible atm. When all you want is a good friend, covid free and available. Who would of thought it'd be so hard to find !!

This is it.

My dear lady the search continues. As the gents always say drama free folks

Drama is only for tv......and film but that's it......and theatre, forgot theatre

Mmm what about a watching a good barny on the street ??

Oh of course! Like a fly on the wall, that's a great watch. You just can't turn away from it! Haha.....but then THAT'S it.... "

Omgosh I said no drama

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By *rcher42Man
over a year ago

Ennis


"I'm beginning to wonder if this place is worth the effort at all . Today's pick of the crop

1) Doesn't use condoms hopes thats not a deal breaker

2) wants me to call over day time tomorrow while his wife is at work

3) I'm not in limerick but sure the restrictions don't matter I'll travel over 40k

Just a few of the stellar offers I've had this weekend

I just want a ride like I don't know why it's so hard here "

I'm interested to know were these introductory messages or from people you were chatting with for a while?

Don't give in yet, I'm new here but I'm getting the impression that it's particularly weird here at the mo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its bloody impossible atm. When all you want is a good friend, covid free and available. Who would of thought it'd be so hard to find !!

This is it.

My dear lady the search continues. As the gents always say drama free folks

Drama is only for tv......and film but that's it......and theatre, forgot theatre

Mmm what about a watching a good barny on the street ??

Oh of course! Like a fly on the wall, that's a great watch. You just can't turn away from it! Haha.....but then THAT'S it....

Omgosh I said no drama "

It doesn't count when it's other peoples it's just like watching improv!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm beginning to wonder if this place is worth the effort at all . Today's pick of the crop

1) Doesn't use condoms hopes thats not a deal breaker

2) wants me to call over day time tomorrow while his wife is at work

3) I'm not in limerick but sure the restrictions don't matter I'll travel over 40k

Just a few of the stellar offers I've had this weekend

I just want a ride like I don't know why it's so hard here

I'm interested to know were these introductory messages or from people you were chatting with for a while?

Don't give in yet, I'm new here but I'm getting the impression that it's particularly weird here at the mo."

Actually chatting for a bit for a few days

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By *rcher42Man
over a year ago

Ennis


"I'm beginning to wonder if this place is worth the effort at all . Today's pick of the crop

1) Doesn't use condoms hopes thats not a deal breaker

2) wants me to call over day time tomorrow while his wife is at work

3) I'm not in limerick but sure the restrictions don't matter I'll travel over 40k

Just a few of the stellar offers I've had this weekend

I just want a ride like I don't know why it's so hard here

I'm interested to know were these introductory messages or from people you were chatting with for a while?

Don't give in yet, I'm new here but I'm getting the impression that it's particularly weird here at the mo.

Actually chatting for a bit for a few days "

Well at least it wasn't straight off the bat I suppose. I've had some interesting conversations about this lately, face to face conversations. I'm quite fascinated with these kinds of interactions actually. For me this is where the chats are happening. I send out the odd message but people are not meeting so what's the point. We're not just here for chats.

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By *lay2018Couple
over a year ago

westmeath & roscommon.


"OK so the thread discussing other apps has been deleted.

But after a year of a pandemic as a single I'm kinda done been single.

Now I don't want marriage or moving in with someone buy I'm thinking a beneficial friendship is what I want.

Good company with lots of hot sex and a bit of a laugh in between.

When or why did it get so hard to find "

Some woman can be very picky though. That's why it's so difficult for some.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OK so the thread discussing other apps has been deleted.

But after a year of a pandemic as a single I'm kinda done been single.

Now I don't want marriage or moving in with someone buy I'm thinking a beneficial friendship is what I want.

Good company with lots of hot sex and a bit of a laugh in between.

When or why did it get so hard to find

Some woman can be very picky though. That's why it's so difficult for some. "

I really don't think that's it to be honest, I'm just looking for someone single and sane

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OK so the thread discussing other apps has been deleted.

But after a year of a pandemic as a single I'm kinda done been single.

Now I don't want marriage or moving in with someone buy I'm thinking a beneficial friendship is what I want.

Good company with lots of hot sex and a bit of a laugh in between.

When or why did it get so hard to find

Some woman can be very picky though. That's why it's so difficult for some.

I really don't think that's it to be honest, I'm just looking for someone single and sane "

Hope you find em LL

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By *rcher42Man
over a year ago

Ennis


"OK so the thread discussing other apps has been deleted.

But after a year of a pandemic as a single I'm kinda done been single.

Now I don't want marriage or moving in with someone buy I'm thinking a beneficial friendship is what I want.

Good company with lots of hot sex and a bit of a laugh in between.

When or why did it get so hard to find

Some woman can be very picky though. That's why it's so difficult for some.

I really don't think that's it to be honest, I'm just looking for someone single and sane "

I guess sane lads are not looking to meet people at the moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm New in this School.

Talk about poor timing!

There's a Song out, at the moment:

Rumer - Hard Time For Lovers.

Mind yourselves, everyone, whatever you seek - Love yourself.

Pamela x

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"OK so the thread discussing other apps has been deleted.

But after a year of a pandemic as a single I'm kinda done been single.

Now I don't want marriage or moving in with someone buy I'm thinking a beneficial friendship is what I want.

Good company with lots of hot sex and a bit of a laugh in between.

When or why did it get so hard to find "

A long time before 2021, I'll tell you that for nothing! It's been a struggle to meet someone you fancy, are compatible with, and wants the same thing for very many years now. Personally I think it's to do with app culture, people thinking something better is available. That and we don't have the NEED to settle down anymore so there's less urgency - so many people in previous generations (and ours too tbh) just settled.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OK so the thread discussing other apps has been deleted.

But after a year of a pandemic as a single I'm kinda done been single.

Now I don't want marriage or moving in with someone buy I'm thinking a beneficial friendship is what I want.

Good company with lots of hot sex and a bit of a laugh in between.

When or why did it get so hard to find

A long time before 2021, I'll tell you that for nothing! It's been a struggle to meet someone you fancy, are compatible with, and wants the same thing for very many years now. Personally I think it's to do with app culture, people thinking something better is available. That and we don't have the NEED to settle down anymore so there's less urgency - so many people in previous generations (and ours too tbh) just settled. "

Very true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OK so the thread discussing other apps has been deleted.

But after a year of a pandemic as a single I'm kinda done been single.

Now I don't want marriage or moving in with someone buy I'm thinking a beneficial friendship is what I want.

Good company with lots of hot sex and a bit of a laugh in between.

When or why did it get so hard to find "

What you're looking for OP suits me down to the ground.

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By *B 4099Man
over a year ago

North West, Outer Letterkenny area


"OK so the thread discussing other apps has been deleted.

But after a year of a pandemic as a single I'm kinda done been single.

Now I don't want marriage or moving in with someone buy I'm thinking a beneficial friendship is what I want.

Good company with lots of hot sex and a bit of a laugh in between.

When or why did it get so hard to find

A long time before 2021, I'll tell you that for nothing! It's been a struggle to meet someone you fancy, are compatible with, and wants the same thing for very many years now. Personally I think it's to do with app culture, people thinking something better is available. That and we don't have the NEED to settle down anymore so there's less urgency - so many people in previous generations (and ours too tbh) just settled.

Very true. "

very true. People don't know how to have an argument now. They just jump to the app again to line something up. Arguments aren't rows, you disagree you make up and that's a lot of fun. If you put two adults in any situation people will disagree. The grass is always greener on apps and gives a false sense of missing out on perfection.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OK so the thread discussing other apps has been deleted.

But after a year of a pandemic as a single I'm kinda done been single.

Now I don't want marriage or moving in with someone buy I'm thinking a beneficial friendship is what I want.

Good company with lots of hot sex and a bit of a laugh in between.

When or why did it get so hard to find

A long time before 2021, I'll tell you that for nothing! It's been a struggle to meet someone you fancy, are compatible with, and wants the same thing for very many years now. Personally I think it's to do with app culture, people thinking something better is available. That and we don't have the NEED to settle down anymore so there's less urgency - so many people in previous generations (and ours too tbh) just settled.

Very true. very true. People don't know how to have an argument now. They just jump to the app again to line something up. Arguments aren't rows, you disagree you make up and that's a lot of fun. If you put two adults in any situation people will disagree. The grass is always greener on apps and gives a false sense of missing out on perfection. "

Its a disposable society. People are always looking for the next best thing or the shinier thing.

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By *B 4099Man
over a year ago

North West, Outer Letterkenny area


"OK so the thread discussing other apps has been deleted.

But after a year of a pandemic as a single I'm kinda done been single.

Now I don't want marriage or moving in with someone buy I'm thinking a beneficial friendship is what I want.

Good company with lots of hot sex and a bit of a laugh in between.

When or why did it get so hard to find

A long time before 2021, I'll tell you that for nothing! It's been a struggle to meet someone you fancy, are compatible with, and wants the same thing for very many years now. Personally I think it's to do with app culture, people thinking something better is available. That and we don't have the NEED to settle down anymore so there's less urgency - so many people in previous generations (and ours too tbh) just settled.

Very true. very true. People don't know how to have an argument now. They just jump to the app again to line something up. Arguments aren't rows, you disagree you make up and that's a lot of fun. If you put two adults in any situation people will disagree. The grass is always greener on apps and gives a false sense of missing out on perfection.

Its a disposable society. People are always looking for the next best thing or the shinier thing. "

I totally agree. It's very much the ..oh look shiny syndrome

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By *inxnmasterCouple
over a year ago

naughty valley


"Its bloody impossible atm. When all you want is a good friend, covid free and available. Who would of thought it'd be so hard to find !!

This is it.

My dear lady the search continues. As the gents always say drama free folks

Drama is only for tv......and film but that's it......and theatre, forgot theatre"

Does home theatre count as well?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its bloody impossible atm. When all you want is a good friend, covid free and available. Who would of thought it'd be so hard to find !!

This is it.

My dear lady the search continues. As the gents always say drama free folks

Drama is only for tv......and film but that's it......and theatre, forgot theatre Does home theatre count as well? "

Ah sure that's covered in all the above!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No interest at all yet!! YET!! Form an orderly que ladies!! I should be ready around 2030.

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By *ukeM8519Man
over a year ago

Sandymount

I like the idea of people going towards an independent type life, a relationship as the op describes of sex and friendship, but live in their own houses, no kids, their own money, nothing really shared. That can be hard to find and classed as odd or weird here in Ireland.

I feel Ireland in the last few years has evolved greatly and is more open minded, people are starting to live they way they want, however I’m still surprised to see the majority of young people still going down the road of big wedding, 3 kids and a mortgage like something out of the 70’s and following the rules of the Catholic Church. Maybe it’s an Irish thing they can’t escape? What’s your thoughts?

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick


"I like the idea of people going towards an independent type life, a relationship as the op describes of sex and friendship, but live in their own houses, no kids, their own money, nothing really shared. That can be hard to find and classed as odd or weird here in Ireland.

I feel Ireland in the last few years has evolved greatly and is more open minded, people are starting to live they way they want, however I’m still surprised to see the majority of young people still going down the road of big wedding, 3 kids and a mortgage like something out of the 70’s and following the rules of the Catholic Church. Maybe it’s an Irish thing they can’t escape? What’s your thoughts?"

I find it strange that you would link marriage, 3 kids and a mortgage to 'rules of the Catholic Church'. Some people want it and are not religious at all

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By *ukeM8519Man
over a year ago

Sandymount


"I like the idea of people going towards an independent type life, a relationship as the op describes of sex and friendship, but live in their own houses, no kids, their own money, nothing really shared. That can be hard to find and classed as odd or weird here in Ireland.

I feel Ireland in the last few years has evolved greatly and is more open minded, people are starting to live they way they want, however I’m still surprised to see the majority of young people still going down the road of big wedding, 3 kids and a mortgage like something out of the 70’s and following the rules of the Catholic Church. Maybe it’s an Irish thing they can’t escape? What’s your thoughts?

I find it strange that you would link marriage, 3 kids and a mortgage to 'rules of the Catholic Church'. Some people want it and are not religious at all "

Totally, I can see what you mean, I guess my statement would not apply to everyone, but I’m speaking from what I’ve seen, people non religious who never go to mass, having big weddings in the local church, having their baby’s baptized in the local church, never to step foot in it again. Big communions and confirmations. Has a very 70s and 80s feel to it for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OK so the thread discussing other apps has been deleted.

But after a year of a pandemic as a single I'm kinda done been single.

Now I don't want marriage or moving in with someone buy I'm thinking a beneficial friendship is what I want.

Good company with lots of hot sex and a bit of a laugh in between.

When or why did it get so hard to find "

I think it might be difficult to find a fwb these days, especially on Fab.

I have better luck outside the Fabworld but maybe the reason is that my preferences are ladies not gents

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I like the idea of people going towards an independent type life, a relationship as the op describes of sex and friendship, but live in their own houses, no kids, their own money, nothing really shared. That can be hard to find and classed as odd or weird here in Ireland.

I feel Ireland in the last few years has evolved greatly and is more open minded, people are starting to live they way they want, however I’m still surprised to see the majority of young people still going down the road of big wedding, 3 kids and a mortgage like something out of the 70’s and following the rules of the Catholic Church. Maybe it’s an Irish thing they can’t escape? What’s your thoughts?

I find it strange that you would link marriage, 3 kids and a mortgage to 'rules of the Catholic Church'. Some people want it and are not religious at all

Totally, I can see what you mean, I guess my statement would not apply to everyone, but I’m speaking from what I’ve seen, people non religious who never go to mass, having big weddings in the local church, having their baby’s baptized in the local church, never to step foot in it again. Big communions and confirmations. Has a very 70s and 80s feel to it for me. "

I think Irish society has moved away from the tradition of dating than get engaged get married buy house have kids but some people still value them traditions and if they do what harm.

I'm at stage in my life where I just want to enjoy it and be happy with my friends and family and if some guy came along and made it better well thats a bonus.

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick


"I like the idea of people going towards an independent type life, a relationship as the op describes of sex and friendship, but live in their own houses, no kids, their own money, nothing really shared. That can be hard to find and classed as odd or weird here in Ireland.

I feel Ireland in the last few years has evolved greatly and is more open minded, people are starting to live they way they want, however I’m still surprised to see the majority of young people still going down the road of big wedding, 3 kids and a mortgage like something out of the 70’s and following the rules of the Catholic Church. Maybe it’s an Irish thing they can’t escape? What’s your thoughts?

I find it strange that you would link marriage, 3 kids and a mortgage to 'rules of the Catholic Church'. Some people want it and are not religious at all

Totally, I can see what you mean, I guess my statement would not apply to everyone, but I’m speaking from what I’ve seen, people non religious who never go to mass, having big weddings in the local church, having their baby’s baptized in the local church, never to step foot in it again. Big communions and confirmations. Has a very 70s and 80s feel to it for me. "

Ok so it's more the church weddings and baptisms than actual marriage and kids that you question? I would say it has to do with keeping the families happy than anything else. Also many city and large town schools will still prioritise christened children over non-christened kids unfortunately. Some might view marriage (and even kids) negatively as a church tradition, but there are many, many benefits to both

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By *eebawMan
over a year ago

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The last year has been tough being single and I’ve found many of these places and dating sites are gone super quiet people don’t come on cause they can’t meet. I had bad social anxiety and have been doing therapy the past year and am in a much better place with new skills but no where to go socialise to use them . Hopefully this will pass and we will be able to get out again.

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By *denmab2Man
over a year ago

carlow

Yes it has been a terrible year for single people male an female no where to meet up for a chat an craic

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By *ittlekinks38Woman
over a year ago

outside belfast x

I hear ya hun am basically looking for either a friends with benefits who would like to go swinging with other couples with me or parties as my plus one! Not looking a relationship because don't like complicated stuff haha I like my stress free life too much! But I regular friend would be lovely just solely for me .... no strings attached swinging fun!

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By *arlot_CharlotteWoman
over a year ago

Salford


"OK so the thread discussing other apps has been deleted.

But after a year of a pandemic as a single I'm kinda done been single.

Now I don't want marriage or moving in with someone buy I'm thinking a beneficial friendship is what I want.

Good company with lots of hot sex and a bit of a laugh in between.

When or why did it get so hard to find

A long time before 2021, I'll tell you that for nothing! It's been a struggle to meet someone you fancy, are compatible with, and wants the same thing for very many years now. Personally I think it's to do with app culture, people thinking something better is available. That and we don't have the NEED to settle down anymore so there's less urgency - so many people in previous generations (and ours too tbh) just settled.

Very true. very true. People don't know how to have an argument now. They just jump to the app again to line something up. Arguments aren't rows, you disagree you make up and that's a lot of fun. If you put two adults in any situation people will disagree. The grass is always greener on apps and gives a false sense of missing out on perfection.

Its a disposable society. People are always looking for the next best thing or the shinier thing. "

This is my absolute fear. That people don’t stick it out anymore.

My relationship with a guy I met on Fab has just come to an end after 3+ years and I’m really dreading the thought of dating apps. Yet I don’t want to be single forever - it’s so hard to meet someone I fancy the arse off but also have a great friendship with. I don’t want to settle like some friends have and that’s before I’ve even brought up the idea of this lifestyle to them.

I know I met my ex on here but it seems to be rare and pure luck

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"I like the idea of people going towards an independent type life, a relationship as the op describes of sex and friendship, but live in their own houses, no kids, their own money, nothing really shared. That can be hard to find and classed as odd or weird here in Ireland.

I feel Ireland in the last few years has evolved greatly and is more open minded, people are starting to live they way they want, however I’m still surprised to see the majority of young people still going down the road of big wedding, 3 kids and a mortgage like something out of the 70’s and following the rules of the Catholic Church. Maybe it’s an Irish thing they can’t escape? What’s your thoughts?"

I want to share my life with someone. I'm very independent, enjoy living alone, no fear of being single, but I'd definitely prefer to have a partner to enjoy things with. I'd also like to get married, and I'd like to have a kid, too. But I will be a very long way from following the rules of the Catholic Church if and when any of those things happen!! My desire for companionship and family has nothing to do with religion.

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