FabSwingers.com forum: Copy and Paste message

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey guys, just looking for advice I suppose. Im a single guy looking for couples and gals right, i only get onto fab between the daily tasks of living. Im verified etc. I copy and paste when trying to meet new people as sometimes you could send out 10/15 messages and get nothing back, some people get annoyed over copy and paste though. I never want to offend anyone but it just seems handier no?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've copied and pasted a reply to problem someone else was having. Hope it helps?

"Yeah I don't think you should use the Dyson for that and probably the reason why it's gone that colour"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey guys, just looking for advice I suppose. Im a single guy looking for couples and gals right, i only get onto fab between the daily tasks of living. Im verified etc. I copy and paste when trying to meet new people as sometimes you could send out 10/15 messages and get nothing back, some people get annoyed over copy and paste though. I never want to offend anyone but it just seems handier no? "

Depends whats in the message. I've had copy and paste messages that were obviously sent to a couple. As in " hi guys, " or a long message saying what the guy would like to do.

Copy and paste messages give an impression of been lazy and just chancing your arm that out of 15 messages one might reply and it that you haven't looked at the profile.

I prefer a message that might comment on a pic or something I've posted on the forums

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Depends whats in the message. I've had copy and paste messages that were obviously sent to a couple. As in " hi guys, " or a long message saying what the guy would like to do.

Copy and paste messages give an impression of been lazy and just chancing your arm that out of 15 messages one might reply and it that you haven't looked at the profile.

I prefer a message that might comment on a pic or something I've posted on the forums "

I totally get that, thanks for sharing xx

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Copy and paste is the lazy ass way and they stand out a mile.If you can't take a few minutes to send an original message to that person it's no wonder they don't reply.. Just this morning:

Good evening ive always had a thing for blonds especially from Dublin...

It's morning ive short black hair and from Carlow...

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"Copy and paste is the lazy ass way and they stand out a mile.If you can't take a few minutes to send an original message to that person it's no wonder they don't reply.. Just this morning:

Good evening ive always had a thing for blonds especially from Dublin...

It's morning ive short black hair and from Carlow...

ah god what a plonker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Copy and paste is the lazy ass way and they stand out a mile.If you can't take a few minutes to send an original message to that person it's no wonder they don't reply.. Just this morning:

Good evening ive always had a thing for blonds especially from Dublin...

It's morning ive short black hair and from Carlow...

That's hilarious

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Copy and paste is the lazy ass way and they stand out a mile.If you can't take a few minutes to send an original message to that person it's no wonder they don't reply.. Just this morning:

Good evening ive always had a thing for blonds especially from Dublin...

It's morning ive short black hair and from Carlow...

I will not defend that guy, i totally get what you mean. Thanks for the advice xx

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

"Copy and paste is the lazy ass way and they stand out a mile.If you can't take a few minutes to send an original message to that person it's no wonder they don't reply.. Just this morning:

Good evening ive always had a thing for blonds especially from Dublin...

It's morning ive short black hair and from Carlow...

ah god what a plonker

That was only a snipbit from a long ass message there's 5mins outa my life ill never get back

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I've had a few copy and paste messages even some who send the same message several times .

Does me bother me? not particularly as in one way I can see why guys do it .But it also doesn't make me feel the need to reply to them.Id it's a well thought out message to start then I usually reply even if it's a thanks but no thanks.

I've had one guy who actually forgot to change the name of another woman in his greeting .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kaizer a number of copy and paste messages throughout time!

Its quite easy to tell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't even bother to respond to obvious copy and paste messages.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Loving the feed back guys xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When it's very obviously copied and pasted I think a lot of women would ignore it. You may also have shot yourself in the foot by letting everyone know you do it too.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"When it's very obviously copied and pasted I think a lot of women would ignore it. You may also have shot yourself in the foot by letting everyone know you do it too. "

Good point

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When it's very obviously copied and pasted I think a lot of women would ignore it. You may also have shot yourself in the foot by letting everyone know you do it too. "

I think honesty is the only way to understand where you are going wrong. Its all learning

I think it shows more that I’m a genuine person looking for advice really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When it's very obviously copied and pasted I think a lot of women would ignore it. You may also have shot yourself in the foot by letting everyone know you do it too.

Good point

Though at least he's honest about it

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

Question for the ladies... how can you tell it's a copy 'n paste message? Is it as simple as the message being general and not commenting on anything specific about your profile? We find it hard sometimes to distinguish

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

There's a next level to copy pasted messages too:

They message, you reply, conversation going nowhere and naturally dies off, a week later they send you the original copy pasted message again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you should approach it the same way you would when applying for a job. You could take the scatter gun approach of blindly sending a generic CV everywhere. This is not very effective and most end up in the bin, but if you send out enough CVs, you may eventually get a hit.

Or you could spend time researching and focusing on specific jobs you are interested in. You can start with the same copy paste template CV which includes details that dont change like your name, location, interests etc, but spend time on your cover letter. Why this particular job interests you and why you should be a suitable candidate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a next level to copy pasted messages too:

They message, you reply, conversation going nowhere and naturally dies off, a week later they send you the original copy pasted message again

Oh love them ones , I screenshot and send it back

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think you should approach it the same way you would when applying for a job. You could take the scatter gun approach of blindly sending a generic CV everywhere. This is not very effective and most end up in the bin, but if you send out enough CVs, you may eventually get a hit.

Nice one lad, love the analogy

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

To OP- I understand where you're coming from with copy pasting (supposed to be efficiency), but in reality- there's an actual human being behind every profile.

Treat them like individual human beings, put in the effort and you'll not be stuck.

P.s. "Can accommodate" statuses don't really work that well on people who are sane

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Copy and paste is the lazy ass way and they stand out a mile.If you can't take a few minutes to send an original message to that person it's no wonder they don't reply.. Just this morning:

Good evening ive always had a thing for blonds especially from Dublin...

It's morning ive short black hair and from Carlow...

That's brill lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To OP- I understand where you're coming from with copy pasting (supposed to be efficiency), but in reality- there's an actual human being behind every profile.

Treat them like individual human beings, put in the effort and you'll not be stuck.

P.s. "Can accommodate" statuses don't really work that well on people who are sane

“Can accomm” doesnt work? Ohh thats literally the next thing i get asked. il keep that in mind though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kaizer received a number of copy and paste messages throughout time!

Its quite easy to tell

Oops

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You cant really go wrong with personalising a message.

I know for a fact I love when I get a message about a particular photo, or something on my profile.

Messages dont have to be long, a paragraph, interesting and unique.

Follow the 3 U's Rule of thumb!

#1 Unique

#2 Ultra Specific

#3 Useful

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Kaizer received a number of copy and paste messages throughout time!

Its quite easy to tell

Oops

Very witty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Might be seen as lazy though, not exactly desirable in a potential sexual encounter.

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"To OP- I understand where you're coming from with copy pasting (supposed to be efficiency), but in reality- there's an actual human being behind every profile.

Treat them like individual human beings, put in the effort and you'll not be stuck.

P.s. "Can accommodate" statuses don't really work that well on people who are sane

“Can accomm” doesnt work? Ohh thats literally the next thing i get asked. il keep that in mind though."

People you're already talking to- yes, they will want to know that.

Status updates with scheduled accommodation availability is telling me that you're very highly likely attached.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Kaizer received a number of copy and paste messages throughout time!

Its quite easy to tell

Oops

Very witty "

It's fact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Copy and paste in our opinion is a bit like throwing shit at a wall and seeing what sticks....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Kaizer received a number of copy and paste messages throughout time!

Its quite easy to tell

Oops

Very witty

It's fact

So glad your here to tell me that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Kaizer received a number of copy and paste messages throughout time!

Its quite easy to tell

Oops

Very witty

It's fact

So glad your here to tell me that

You did requote earlier, just clarifying

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By *aidbare5Couple
over a year ago

down the road

"Question for the ladies... how can you tell it's a copy 'n paste message? Is it as simple as the message being general and not commenting on anything specific about your profile? We find it hard sometimes to distinguish

It can be very easy to spot when you are sent the exact same message 3 times!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be very easy to spot when you are sent the exact same message 3 times!"

That’s a give away alright...dopey guy obviously.. I wouldn’t like to receive a copy and paste to be honest.. your shouting to a room and nobody in particular by doing that and it’s saying more about you negatively that you couldn’t be bothered with making the effort.. OP my advice would be don’t send so much mails and personalize the ones you do... I’m not that successful but most appreciate that your trying to get to know them and your respectful

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

It can be very easy to spot when you are sent the exact same message 3 times!"

The definition of lazy: receiving a copy and paste, 1-word 'hi' message 3 times

Yes, we have gotten those

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By *unfunfun222Man
over a year ago

Galway/Mayo

"Copy and paste is the lazy ass way and they stand out a mile.If you can't take a few minutes to send an original message to that person it's no wonder they don't reply.. Just this morning:

Good evening ive always had a thing for blonds especially from Dublin...

It's morning ive short black hair and from Carlow...

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