FabSwingers.com forum: New to swinging

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So everyone I’m completely new to this I’ve always had fantasies of threesomes and now am loving the idea of another man too. My partners had some experience and we’re going out about a year. Can I hear from the ladies about how to start off and if it’s affected your relationship in anyway. I’d love some advice from experienced swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bumping this as I'm interested too. My better half has mentioned it would be hot to see me with another man, a bit early for us though. If you don't get answers here, you can look on the boards, theres a section with the label "swingers chat", there's a few interesting threads about this. Good luck in your adventure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are not experienced as a couple by any means, but id suggest starting slow, talking a lot and making sure you know your rules.

This is just fun (or should be), you and your relationship are the most important thing

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By *irdyxWoman
over a year ago

dublin/ Birmingham

We love it it adds a lot of excitement ,but take it slow and and find the right balance for you both . A party is always a good place to start as there is no pressure to do anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where's the boards?

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

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"Where's the boards?"

The different forums as in

Ireland

Swingers chat

The lounge

To mention a few

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

We completely agree with TheSmyths, take things slowly and only try things that your comfortable with. We find talking about what each other is comfortable with before a meet and always talk about the experience afterwards being truthful about what you enjoyed and didn't with each other.

Mrs Gs

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

Find people you genuinely click with on a social level. Build the trust between yourselves and them, make sure you're comfortable with everything that's happening.

Never rush into anything you haven't done before.

Meet and greets are a great place to find new connections.

I would wholeheartedly suggest avoiding sex parties at the very start. Especially with people you dont know.

While there's no pressure to have sex with anyone - There's lingering expectation which can lead to many disappointments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Find people you genuinely click with on a social level. Build the trust between yourselves and them, make sure you're comfortable with everything that's happening.

Never rush into anything you haven't done before.

Meet and greets are a great place to find new connections.

I would wholeheartedly suggest avoiding sex parties at the very start. Especially with people you dont know.

While there's no pressure to have sex with anyone - There's lingering expectation which can lead to many disappointments.

As good advice as you'll get.. Then again two Rights can't be wrong lol

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"Find people you genuinely click with on a social level. Build the trust between yourselves and them, make sure you're comfortable with everything that's happening.

Never rush into anything you haven't done before.

Meet and greets are a great place to find new connections.

I would wholeheartedly suggest avoiding sex parties at the very start. Especially with people you dont know.

While there's no pressure to have sex with anyone - There's lingering expectation which can lead to many disappointments.

As good advice as you'll get.. Then again two Rights can't be wrong lol"

Dirk is more relaxed and easy going. He's been everywhere and done it all.

Me on other hand - I've been in so many awkward, shitty situations (most of them happened before we met) - I've built high barriers.

Do we have a lot less sex with other people- yes (pre covid applies). Do we have a good time and not feel bad or awkward about it between us and people involved - also yes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We are not experienced as a couple by any means, but id suggest starting slow, talking a lot and making sure you know your rules.

This is just fun (or should be), you and your relationship are the most important thing "

Absolutely. Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are not experienced as a couple by any means, but id suggest starting slow, talking a lot and making sure you know your rules.

This is just fun (or should be), you and your relationship are the most important thing

Absolutely. Thank you"

Amen to that, so many couples seem to either lose sight of that, or were never on the same page in the first place. Total honesty with each other and always remember where your priorities are.

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