FabSwingers.com forum: Transphobic Messages

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This is on the rise on this site in recent weeks and is completely unacceptable! If you sign up to an adult dating site, be prepared to play by certain rules like us all! Don’t like trans women? No problem! Simple solution: jog on!! There are filters to help you out in that regard.

I really thought as a country we had moved on in this regard but I’m being shown lately that we clearly haven’t!!

Anyone else feeling this way on this site atm???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is on the rise on this site in recent weeks and is completely unacceptable! If you sign up to an adult dating site, be prepared to play by certain rules like us all! Don’t like trans women? No problem! Simple solution: jog on!! There are filters to help you out in that regard.

I really thought as a country we had moved on in this regard but I’m being shown lately that we clearly haven’t!!

Anyone else feeling this way on this site atm???"

Sorry you getting crap here, as you said no need for it. Block and report and don't let the small minded twats get to you.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Are you getting random abusive messages from gobshites

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By *hett and scarlettCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

I really thought as a country we had moved on in this regard but I’m being shown lately that we clearly haven’t!!

Anyone else feeling this way on this site atm???"

Sorry that you are having a negative experience and absolutely no justification in anyone getting any abusive messages.

As BM said, block the fucktard and forget ‘em

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By *hett and scarlettCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

I really thought as a country we had moved on in this regard but I’m being shown lately that we clearly haven’t!!

Anyone else feeling this way on this site atm???

Sorry that you are having a negative experience and absolutely no justification in anyone getting any abusive messages.

As BM said, block the fucktard and forget ‘em

Actually, it was the wonderful DD that said block so you should always heed her awesome advice

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the support guys! They’ve been blocked and reported. Thankfully 99% of people on here aren’t as narrow minded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear OP. No need for nastiness at all.

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By *andomCaptainMan
over a year ago

Roscommon

It's not acceptable behavior here or anywhere. Sorry you have to endure such narrow minded twats. Bear in mind there has been a huge increase of fake profiles of late and there may be people hiding behind those. They are not worth your time just accept there are vile people out there who love nothing more than to berate and insult. They are not welcome on here. So head up and keep being you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you so much, restoring my faith!

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

You'll get bullies everywhere, especially online and I don't think it has anything to do with being open-minded or not. Unfortunately they see you as an easy target, sorry to hear it op

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By *amien88Man
over a year ago

wicklow

Why bother...just leave your nose out of it if it doesn't concern you!!! Just bullies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot say they are open minded and non judgemental but thats just what they say.. as for nasty messages, thats uncalled for.

Very easy to do, no real repercussions on here for them unfortunately.

i wouldn't waste time on them, block and move on like the other posters recommend

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By *iscuits8Man
over a year ago

Meath / Dublin / Birmingham

Chin up OP, lot of nastiness on Fab and it'll unfortunately never change... don't let the bastards grind you down

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By *eanbelfastMan
over a year ago

Belfast

As others have said block and report. Sorry to hear you are getting this, we all have our own tastes and if someone isn't for us sure thats just individual taste but no need to abuse people for who they are, life is hard enough as it is without building yourself up by putting others down.

Funny at my very first M&G that i attended with with a female frined we were at a table talking with a few others and one guy was there enjoying the craic though after about an hour it suddenly clicked with me when asked his fab name who he was. he said he couldnt go to the M&G as he was afraid of the abuse he would get in a smallish town (monaghan lol) anyway he gave me a veri which was quite complimentary but all about the M&G sense of humour and personality.A few days after that a guy sent me an email offering services and I always reply to say thanks but Im straight and good luck. He wouldnt take no and then kept abusing me about the veri from a tv. I did block him but he came back a few times with new profiles.

OP its a reflection on the small minded people not you, just be yourself and enjoy life

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks guys (wish there was a like button option)

Sorry to hear about some of the other abuse. I’m sure it’s just as bad all round regardless of gender and sexuality. After all it is the internet and what should we expect?

I think boredom from lockdown is possible to blame. We’re all frustrated at this point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's shite...people who do that have nothing going on in their own lives if they have the time/interest to behave like that...block and move on

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"I think boredom from lockdown is possible to blame. We’re all frustrated at this point "

There’s no excuse for this sort of behaviour, either here, on any other sites, or anywhere beyond and those responsible should be reported and immediately banned.

I know on other sites the moderators had the ability to link profiles through ip addresses and any associated profile were also banned.

Norway passes laws regarding this sort of thing last year, sadly we still really are living in the dark ages at times with regards to others.

Sorry to hear this has and is happening and hopefully reporting such remarks or massages will see the profiles responsible banned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People still think they are anonymous and can hide behind the keyboard.

You are right OP this should not have happened but it did.

Chin up, put your filters up, block and report the creatures.

I think no matter our sex, there are always people who behave worse than a caveman, no manners, no respect

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By *Belfast_FellaMan
over a year ago

belfast

I'm sorry to hear you're having to put up with this. I hope the support you've gotten in this thread helps a bit.

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By *heelofTimeCouple
over a year ago

Two Rivers

Xxxx This site has some of the most small minded people on it..... But for everyone of them there are the lovely people who make the site great. We’re on this site with a few different profiles about 13 years now. It was better back in the day what I mean is there were less people on it and the ones who were on it had no issues as to what people’s likes/ dislikes are... progressively got worse over the years. Don’t get me wrong it’s a great site and the majority are lovely but in recent years we’re seeing more and more people hidden what they actually desire for fear of offending others.... xxx

You do you and if your not for them then they most definitely do not deserve your energy thinking about their pettiness xxx

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By *obshortMan
over a year ago

Cork

Block and forget about such a,, holes..

Sad little people. More to be pitied then anything else. If only they had life's of their own. Stand tall you have nothing to be ashamed of. Live and let life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people just get off on giving abuse and put downs . Its how they thrive. Try not to take them to heart.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Feeling a lot better today after reading these replies. Thanks so much xx

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By *acko10Man
over a year ago

Limerick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is everyone’s responsibility to challenge transphobic comments.

By allowing comments to exist and say nothing is a large part of the problem.

If you are neutral in situations of injustice you are on the side of the oppressor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is everyone’s responsibility to challenge transphobic comments.

By allowing comments to exist and say nothing is a large part of the problem.

If you are neutral in situations of injustice you are on the side of the oppressor "

I fully agree with you.

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south

"It is everyone’s responsibility to challenge transphobic comments.

By allowing comments to exist and say nothing is a large part of the problem.

If you are neutral in situations of injustice you are on the side of the oppressor

I fully agree with you. "
I fully agree too !!!

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By *leasureGuy17Man
over a year ago

City Center

"Thanks for the support guys! They’ve been blocked and reported. Thankfully 99% of people on here aren’t as narrow minded "

Unfortunately this country has a long way to go in that respect. Let them off, they’re small minded idiots

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